to wonder what the fuck i am supposed to do

(148 Posts)
orangeflute Sat 24-Nov-12 11:46:53

Oh just rang me from work to say he has to work next weekend, which would be fine IF we weren't moving house. I have absolutely no idea what I am going to do.AIBU?

LadyMaryChristmas Sat 24-Nov-12 11:50:46

I moved house by myself (single parent). You can do it! Have you packed? Are you using a removal company? Have you notified the utilities etc? Call some friends and see if they can lend a hand.

Don't panic! wine

McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 11:51:33

It will be fine, have you got any help at all

rope in friends, family, acquaintances and get packing. It can be done.

fedupofnamechanging Sat 24-Nov-12 11:53:01

Do you have a removal firm booked?

Tbh, I would be mad at dh for not booking the time off and if he has booked the time off, then he should refuse to work (unless it is one of those jobs like police, where leave can be cancelled).

Can he get someone to swop with him/appeal to boss's better nature?

orangeflute Sat 24-Nov-12 11:55:16

I have no help and can't afford a removal company not everything is packed. 5 children as well to sort out. The only friend I could ask is working overtime to get extra cash for Christmas. I have a serious panic on.

LadyMaryChristmas Sat 24-Nov-12 11:57:38

How were you going to move everything? Get your children to help with the packing, 6 pairs of hands are better than 1.

valiumredhead Sat 24-Nov-12 11:58:08

So is he seriously expecting you to shift boxes and furniture onto a van while looking after 5 kids AND unpack the other end?!

MainlyMaynie Sat 24-Nov-12 11:58:10

If you can afford it, get the removal company to pack and unpack. We found that by shopping around we could get a removal company to do all of it for the same price as others were quoting for just a move. Send children elsewhere for the day. Put wine in fridge. Be living in other house when DH returns from work. He won't have keys, so depending on how it goes you can choose whether to let him in or not.

McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 11:59:56

move what you can and get the DC to help, wait for DP to come home to do the big heavy lifting.

Start packing today, what i did was moved DD into my bedroom and used her room to store all the boxes.

MainlyMaynie Sat 24-Nov-12 12:00:21

Oops, cross post. Your only choice is physical violence against him or his boss.

McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 12:01:02

Does he really have to work.

MrsGhastlyCrumb Sat 24-Nov-12 12:01:29

Man with a van is often the best/cheapest option. Try to get one with a large capacity van, as they tend to charge by the hour (I'm assuming you're not going far, though...).

If that isn't an option, I think I would refuse to move on that date unless your partner sorts out some help for you.

MrsRogerSterling Sat 24-Nov-12 12:02:19

What does your OH suggest you do?

pictish Sat 24-Nov-12 12:03:36

Does he HAVE to work? Moving house is huge. That's a not-going-to-work day.

orangeflute Sat 24-Nov-12 12:07:01

I can't really get all the children to help as one is a toddler and one 5 months. The other there could maybe do something. I have sickness and diarrhea at moment so am struggling a bit.
OH didn't address the issue and just said he didn't have a choice.

Whoknowswhocares Sat 24-Nov-12 12:07:40

If he cannot be at home for a pre-arranged specific job ie.moving then it is his responsibility to provide an alternative! Agree with the poster who said ask HIM for the solution. Is he getting overtime? Does he contractually have to do the work or is he taking the path of least resistance? Could he negotiate with boss for them to advance him the overtime to pay for the van or suchlike. Could you defer moving (unlikely but worth considering)

LadyMaryChristmas Sat 24-Nov-12 12:08:47

Be careful with a man with a van. I moved in June, for some reason the idiots decided to take my 'flat pack' coffee table and TV cabinet to pieces as they 'fell to bits because they was cheap' in the transit. Problem was, that the coffee table wasn't flat pack. They had unscrewed the top and snapped one of the ends off it (it was screwed in, and secured with industrial strength glue). I did manage to repair it, the top's still loose though. I don't consider £100 to be cheap for a coffee table. hmm I also had to pay a proper removal company to bring the rest of our things to our new house as they left a fair amount of stuff. It would have been cheaper to use the removal company without the van man.

Where about in the UK are you? Someone may be able to recommend someone.

LadyMaryChristmas Sat 24-Nov-12 12:10:00

Oh, if that's the case then tell him you're not moving unless he takes the day off and helps you.

ScrambledSmegs Sat 24-Nov-12 12:11:48

Well since this is a problem of his making he should fix it. Not you.

CrazyChristmasLady Sat 24-Nov-12 12:13:22

Tell him he either tells work he cannot work on that day as he forgot he was moving, or he pays for removal van.

You cannot do it yourself while he buggers off to work.

ENormaSnob Sat 24-Nov-12 12:15:08

5 kids inc baby and toddler shock

Not a prayer I'd be moving with no help.

What does your dh do?

PuppyMonkey Sat 24-Nov-12 12:16:11

OH didn't address the issue...?grinhmm

orangeflute Sat 24-Nov-12 12:17:18

We are in south yorkshire and this is our second moving date. The first had to be cancelled because he couldn't get time off work

PuppyMonkey Sat 24-Nov-12 12:18:11

I assume he is a brain surgeon or something equally vital.

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