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AIBU to expect a motorist to stop after he has taken my wing mirror off

(38 Posts)
CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 01:32:28

...when my car is parked outside my house?

Well they didn't stop and i'm feeling a bit cheesed off tbh.i was just wondering what over people would have done and whether they would have knocked on a few houses to find out who the car belonged to and own up.

JackThePumpkinKing Sat 24-Nov-12 01:33:03

They might not have realised.

McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 01:33:34

i would leave a note on the car.

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 01:36:54

Jack i'm sure they realized because i heard the massive bang from my front room and it would not have gone unnoticed by the driver.

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 01:37:24

Mc Christ i wish it was you who did it.

PanicMode Sat 24-Nov-12 07:12:33

I would have hoped they would but in my experience (living on a rat run), people don't bother. almost all if us have suffered damage to our cars.

We have had a quote for £2k for a dent that someone made in our car - before driving off. There is NO WAY they wouldn't have known about the damage angry as it is an enormous dent in a rear panel. Annoyingly one of my neighbours heard the impact but the car drove off too fast for her to get any details.

AitchDee Sat 24-Nov-12 07:16:15

I probably wouldnt have stopped, sorry.

VivaLeBeaver Sat 24-Nov-12 07:16:25

Nobody stops any more.

While parked I've had my front corner stoves in, smashed lights the lot and no one stopped.

In supermarket car park a massive dent down the side and they didn't stop.

Last week someone I know saw a near head on collision. The car at fault managed to swerve to the side to avoid a full head on but still took the side of the other car off and they kept going!!!!

VivaLeBeaver Sat 24-Nov-12 07:17:20

People should stop, it's bad that they don't. They've done something, they should put their hands up and admit it.

Sirzy Sat 24-Nov-12 07:17:32

If they didn't realise then they shouldn't be driving!

Yes they should have stopped but people are often to selfish to do that.

AThingInYourLife Sat 24-Nov-12 07:20:07

A loud bang might not have been heard inside the car if music was loud.

I would have stopped if I had realised.

I've had that done to me. I was so pissed off as I was trying to sell the car.

Also, DP's car got rammed on the tailgate by shopping trolleys in an Asda car park. On neither occasion was it reported. We want to sell this car too :-(

Oh, and I WOULD have stopped and left a note.

OneHandFlapping Sat 24-Nov-12 07:25:01

I did this some years back. It was near a bus stop, and I puled up and asked if anyone knew whose car it was, and was pointed to a house. I gave the man £100, and he was quite happy, and my guilt was assuaged.

BlueberryHill Sat 24-Nov-12 08:19:35

Happened to me last week, we were in the car and a small truck drove past far to fast and hit us. Huge noise, mirror and casing smashed, £450 damage. The truck had the name of the builders down it, he kept on driving, couldn't have missed the noise.

Bastard.

BlueberryHill Sat 24-Nov-12 08:20:31

It is only just above the excess so no point getting it fixed on insurance. I;m assuming that a man who drives off when you are in the car isn't going to pay up without going to court.

UsedToBeAContender Sat 24-Nov-12 08:23:42

I scraped a car coming out of my DD's nursery many years ago, tiny passageway, pitch black, total accident.

I went into the nursery and asked if they knew who the car belonged to and gave them my phone number to give to her.

She was very nice and we paid to have it repaired. It's the right thing to do, definitely should have stopped! YANBU!

Fenton Sat 24-Nov-12 08:30:40

I did this in the summer, clipped another car's wing-mirror - mine flipped up into the fold-in position but the outer plastic shell had pinged off. I couldn't stop right there and then because of traffic so pulled in to the next possible place I could. By this time the owner was thundering towards me with my bit of car and held it hostage until I handed over the cash - which of course I was willing to do anyway - scared the shit out of me though.

I guess he'd had it happen to his car a few times judging by his demeanour.

JackThePumpkinKing Sat 24-Nov-12 08:32:34

Maybe they were scared that there might be a confrontation. They should have left a note though.

 

Lilithmoon Sat 24-Nov-12 09:00:44

AitchDee why wouldn't you stop?

TraineeBabyCatcher Sat 24-Nov-12 10:23:03

I caught a car in Tesco car park a could of months back, I was mortified. I left a note but was tempted not to just because I was scared- it could have been anyones car.
I waited about 2 hours and got the call and the guy was lovely, said he was phoning to say thank you for leaving the note and not to worry about the mark in his car.

Everlong Sat 24-Nov-12 10:27:29

Those of you saying you wouldn't stop can I ask why not?

You damage someone else's car, know about but won't stop!

Nice.

redandwhitesprinkles Sat 24-Nov-12 10:35:09

My car was parked at the end of my street. It was pulled by the bumper into the road forming a t junction with my street. Fortunately for me the house opposite was an electronics company with CCTV. They looked and it was their milkman. They gave me the details and dairy crest did sort it out. There was no way he couldn't have known as he dragged the car about 5 metres and left it partly blocking the road. I did explain that I was concerned that he had illegally left the scene of an accident but no one seemed bothered.

lljkk Sat 24-Nov-12 11:08:39

I've done it (bash & forgot to confess, or couldn't find the car again to put a note on it). Typically because I was in a rush to get to school & didn't have paper & pen on me, anyway. After that I either forgot or couldn't find the car that was hit. Both times I was a pedestrian, by the way. Buggy & child on bike did the bashing. I'm still looking for the car that the bike scratched a month or more ago.

BoneyBackJefferson Sat 24-Nov-12 11:11:55

Why do you think that is was a "he"?

YouCanBe Sat 24-Nov-12 11:12:43

Oh. I did this. Parked down the road to calm down for five minutes as it was a shock, got out to find the car and it had gone! I felt awful!

MrsjREwing Sat 24-Nov-12 11:16:56

I was sat in my car when a lorry did the same, his licence was filthy so I couldn't do anything, bastard.

I've had this done to my car - on the street side not the road side.
Loads of cars got done. Thinking kids smashing with bats or similar.

I ordered a new mirror off eBay & dh fitted it. Miles cheaper than garage if you can do similar?

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 12:10:56

Thanks for the replies everybody;It is very kind of you.I am very pleased that there are so many good people on this thread who would stop and report an incident like this.

Blueberry Hill why did you not pursue the claim as you had the name and number of the lorry and company.I would have called the police and forensics would have found where the impact was on the lorry most probably.I think you had a very good case to report it either way.hard luck by the way it really is very annoying when people do that.

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 12:13:49

I had an incident where it was definetly 50/50 case small narrow road and we were both most probably going a little bit too fast.The other motorist got out and went ballistic at me saying it was all my fault(red head btw) ,i thought she was going to shoot me in the fcae but fortunately didn't and they didn't pursue any claims either

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 12:14:13

*face

TigerFeet Sat 24-Nov-12 12:21:16

I've had this happen to me at least three times that I can think of - more and more expensive each time as wing mirrors have got more complicated with electrics etc.

DH is currently having an insurance claim placed against him by a woman who overtook a line of parked cars and hit him coming the other way damaging wing mirrors on both cars. He saw her speed off up the road so didn't stop. Next thing he knew was she'd turned round, overtaken a couple of cars to catch him up and flashed him. He stopped and she had a go at him for not getting out of her way hmm. I hope the insurance tells the stupid cow to bog off, dh wasn't at fault, he was driving on the right side of the road under the speed limit. Her boyfriend turned up as well getting all agressive.

There are some arseholes out there that won't take responsibility, sadly.

When I backed into someone's car a couple of years ago I owned up, went through insurance and both cars were repaired. I felt shitty about it but would have felt worse had I not owned up.

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 12:32:30

Good on you Tigerfeet much respect going out to you.I think a good tip for you if somebody starts causing a breach of the peace(swearing etc) at a roadside incident is to call the police on 999.That is what i was told to do by a police officer

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 12:33:31

Nothing worse than giving an unreasonable aggresive person your home address etc .It can be very unnerving(If thats a word)

Plomino Sat 24-Nov-12 12:39:30

It's also a road traffic offence , and one for which you can be arrested these days . Carrot cruncher , If you get a minute , go to the police station and report it . Depending on where you are , they'll either do a report then , or give you a self reporting form to take away and do at your leisure . You never know , you might get a result .

BlueberryHill Sat 24-Nov-12 13:07:27

Carrot, we considered approaching him directly and asking him to pay and going to small claims with 2 witness statements and trying to get a photo of the lorry. In the end, he will refer it to his insurers and in all likelihood they will assign 50/50 liability. I've been there before, paid the excess and then taken the hit on insurance premiums when it hasn't been my fault. In the end there is nothing to prove that any damage done to his wing mirror was caused when he hit our wing mirror. It is cheaper to just repair the mirror in the end. Bastard, bastard, bastard.

Worse thing is, I can see the sodding lorry parked at a house in the village we live in.

MrsWhoGivesaShit Sat 24-Nov-12 16:30:17

I wouldn't and haven't.

catsmother Sat 24-Nov-12 17:31:16

This happened to me when I was sat - stationary - in a one way system that had 2 lanes IYSWIM. The left hand lane was moving and a great big lorry took my wing mirror off on the passenger side because he insisted on squeezing through a gap that was too small. And then drove on. I pulled across and chased him, flashing him, for ten miles, until he finally stopped and "claimed" he didn't know and hadn't seen me flashing. Yeah right.

Those of you who wouldn't stop - you should be ashamed of yourselves. How bloody selfish you are. Why the hell should someone have to pay for your mistake ? I'm absolutely broke and if I did this, I'd still stop because I couldn't have it on my conscience that I'd caused expense for someone else (whose circumstances could be even worse than mine) because I drove carelessly.

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