to call my DH baby?

(59 Posts)
charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 12:55:12

I've always called him baby, from about the third week of knowing him.

My friend told me that whenever I call him that it makes her absolutely cringe. She's really not the type to use pet names very often, so I don't mind her saying this but -

AIBU to not think I'm the only one to love calling my OH baby or is it rather cringe?

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 23-Nov-12 12:57:56

I would also cringe, sorry. However, call him whatever you like. Who cares what others think?

diddl Fri 23-Nov-12 13:00:43

Well it´s cringe for me also tbh.

But I doubt that you´re the only one who does it.

Doshusallie Fri 23-Nov-12 13:03:25

I quite often call my DH babes.....I call my DSes Baby though so it would be a bit confusing...

CajaDeLaMemoria Fri 23-Nov-12 13:04:28

Yeah, it's one of those instantly cringe-y, only-really-used-on-TV nicknames.

But it's your choice what you call your DH, as long as he's happy with it.

As an aside, did he not worry that you'd forgotten his name when you first called him it? Or that you were trying to avoid getting names confused? that's what they taught us at school. Good old all-girls school

WorraLiberty Fri 23-Nov-12 13:04:48

Call him what you like

But surely you're not surprised to learn that some people's pet names for their partners make other people cringe?

weeblueberry Fri 23-Nov-12 13:05:02

To be honest the only person for whom I'd stop doing it if it made them cringe is your partner. For anyone else, who cares? If you're both happy then call him what you like.

bryonywhisker Fri 23-Nov-12 13:05:15

Cringe
I can imagine a lot of people do this hmm when they hear you do it.
He's a man. Not a baby. Give him a man's name. Like Pedro. Or Spartacus.

AdoraJingleBells Fri 23-Nov-12 13:05:27

I would cringe if my OH called me baby, but if your DH is okay with it then carry on.

MsVestibule Fri 23-Nov-12 13:06:53

My lovely (now ex) boyfriend and I used to call each other baby blush. When I moved in with my DH, he used to try to attract my attention by going "pssst". I know which I prefer.

Gettheetoanunnery Fri 23-Nov-12 13:07:00

Call him whatever you like!
Me and DP have a bit of a strange nickname for each other, we try to remember not to use it in public though.

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:07:03

CajaDeLaMemoria I do rarely use his first name strangely.

I did ask him early on if he minded me calling him baby and he said no he thought it was cute. So hopefully he didn't think I'd just forgotten his name haha.

Pancakeflipper Fri 23-Nov-12 13:09:30

Aren't all pet names a bit cringey?

I still cannot look my mate's husband in face after finding out she calls him Mr Woggles. Woggles is not his surname

Viviennemary Fri 23-Nov-12 13:11:08

It's cringey. Keep it for when the two of you are alone.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Fri 23-Nov-12 13:13:09

It doesn't matter what your friend thinks. Until you start calling her baby, her opinion is completely irrelevant. What you call your DH is between you and him and is fuck all to do with anyone else.

sooperdooper Fri 23-Nov-12 13:13:17

Cringe, but then my DH calls me chicken, and I imagine that would make most of you cringe too, so who cares, it's not really hurting anyone

My friend calls her DP baba - that makes me cringe too, so nobody can win, lol

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:13:18

"He's a man. Not a baby. Give him a man's name. Like Pedro. Or Spartacus."

grin that reminds me of a scene from 'How to Lose a Guy in 10 days' -

"If you are gonna name my... member, you have to name it something hyper masculine. Something like Spike, or Butch, or Krull the Warrior King."

Pancakeflipper did you ask how they came up with Mr Woggles?

Me and dp often say babe, which is a bit cringey, but people saying baby makes me want to vom, sorry.

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:17:21

Viviennemary I do try to, but sometimes it just slips out. Like when I'm on the phone the phone to him and I generally always say I love you baby.

Also I don't mind what my friend says. I think at the beginning of her relationship there was abit of an argument with her DP because she never called him a nickname. So she's really not the type of person to want to use pet names. She didn't say it in a nasty way, more a jokey way.

I just wondered if anyone else felt it was cringe too.

I'm still waiting for someone to come on and say they call their DH baby too! I can't be the only one on MN haha.

Pancakeflipper Fri 23-Nov-12 13:18:29

Charl - I did. My friend refused to tell me. Even after nearly 3 glasses of wine we are wine lightweights
That just made it even worse in my very active imagination.

maddening Fri 23-Nov-12 13:20:43

I occasionally call Df babe - I also call him by his surname never his actual name ( as he was referred to by his surname when I met him so it stuck)

omri Fri 23-Nov-12 13:20:55

I call my dp baby. He calls me booby.
Or else i call him babes. Then he calls me boobs.
only round the house though!!

StuntGirl Fri 23-Nov-12 13:22:15

I call mine baby. We have even more cringeworthy pet names for each other that I won't say as it'll mega out me!

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:23:30

Haha oh no! I'd love to know the background story to that one.

I'm a fellow wine lightweight, after 3 glasses I'll most likely tell you anything (whether you want to hear it or not haha).

In her Christmas card this year you should write to X and Mr Woggles

TaggieCampbellBlackFriday Fri 23-Nov-12 13:25:42

I call DH hun blush

Sorry

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:27:54

TaggieCampbellBlackFriday my DH calls me honey sometimes.

I asked him to call me princess but he refused! haha.

SarahBumBarer Fri 23-Nov-12 13:31:26

I call DH babes. It is quite cringeworthy. That's part of the point grin I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks.

My DH calls me "Gorgeous". That is truly cringeworthy blush he calls it out quite loudly smetimes and people turn to look and you can see the look of disappointment on their faces grin Also he called me that from day 1 and is terrible with names so it was quite clearly a means of not getting my name wrong. Remind me why I put up with him?

2rebecca Fri 23-Nov-12 13:34:49

Most pet names are cringy if overheard, I tend to choose blokes who don't give me silly names. I don't like spouses calling each other "mum" and "dad" either, seems a bit creepily incestuous but it's mainly the very old (70+) who do that. Could understand it if they are talking to their children but when it's a friend or colleague saying "I'll ask dad" is wrong.

MamaGeekChic Fri 23-Nov-12 13:36:27

Call him what you like in private, but pet names in public are cringe-y.

I call DH lovely, sweetie, baby,sexy, gorgeous and even <whispers it quietly> hubby.

I'm going to get myself chucked off MN for being so blatantly uncool aren't I?! grin

Ooh ooh I call him daddy too!! Do I win??!

I do the same, but don't usually call him anything other than Dave when we're out with others.

Turniphead1 Fri 23-Nov-12 13:40:05

Henriettachicken! daddy??? No no no no no.

LST Fri 23-Nov-12 13:40:20

I call DP daddy, bab and babe everywhere and anywhere. I don't give a hoot if anybody cringes. That's their problem.

Chopsypie Fri 23-Nov-12 13:43:33

I call mine gorgeous, and because Im -common- northern also call him gorge

He has a variety of names for me which range from chops to mint tits

Pet names are supposed to be cringey. Thats the point

upanddown83 Fri 23-Nov-12 13:44:37

Me and my DP always call each other baby, babe, darling, Hun and a variety of other probably cringeworthy (to other people) names and we don't care we love each other and really don't use our proper names unless we're arguing or writing cards!

SarahBumBarer Fri 23-Nov-12 13:44:55

I have to call him daddy in front of the children - DS shouting "babes" up the stairs to get his father's attention sounds all kinds of wrong!

LaCiccolina Fri 23-Nov-12 13:57:26

It's really naff all to do with ur mate. Babes or baby is perfectly normal pet name. Particularly around where I live. (U watched towie?!)

Catch ya laters babes!

charlmarascoxo Fri 23-Nov-12 14:04:17

Is it more cringe to display it on FB? Such as writing on his wall -

Baby you are my everything, I love you so much.

upanddown83 we are the same re arguing. If for example if his name was Ben, it soon changed to Benjamin when I'm really angry.

GreenyEyes Fri 23-Nov-12 14:05:37

Karen MacDonald always used to call Steve 'baby'. I always thought it sounded strange in a northern (my own) accent.

I can't talk, my husband calls me wifey and instead of being all cross, I go all soppy.

SantaisBarredfromhavingStella Fri 23-Nov-12 14:27:31

I used to call DH baby, still do occasionally. Who cares what your mate thinks as it has fuck all to do with her.

blueshoes Fri 23-Nov-12 14:31:37

Sorry it makes me cringe.

One of the reasons why I could not get into the Christian Grey character in Fifty Shades was because he used 'baby'. Urgh, instant passion killer.

GanglyGiraffe Fri 23-Nov-12 14:32:29

MIL calls her DP 'Baby-Cakes'. Makes me cringe every time!

MumsGoToReykjavik Fri 23-Nov-12 15:04:44

grin at Pedro and Spartacus!

BartimaeusNeedsMoreSleep Fri 23-Nov-12 15:21:46

"I don't like spouses calling each other "mum" and "dad" either"

I agree, although I do admit to speaking for DS (he's only 14 months) and saying things like "hey papa, can you change my nappy please" wink and also nicer things like sending a photo of DS by phone and texting "I love oyu papa"

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Fri 23-Nov-12 15:28:00

We call each other baby sometimes, in over the top Welsh accents (little in-joke)

But never in public! smile

MrsWolowitz Fri 23-Nov-12 15:28:57

It's cringey to use pet names in front of people but I guess really its none of their business.

DH and I do use pet names for each other but not in public.

Arf @ Spartacus grin

LalyRawr Fri 23-Nov-12 15:32:34

Oh gosh, me and my OH have ridiculous names for each other.

Ranging from babe/baby, Hun, sweetheart right to Pringle Head, Poodle Butt, Pea Brain and whatever else random names come into our heads at that precise moment.

The only time I call my OH By his name is when I'm annoyed at him.

LalyRawr Fri 23-Nov-12 15:33:18

Oh and not in public! In public it's normally 'oi, you with the face' or some other such romantic endearment.

BrainSurgeon Fri 23-Nov-12 15:35:33

<whispers> I call DP baby sometimes.... trying not to do it in public but yes it does slip. And we call each other Mummy and Daddy when DS is in the room.

However our proper pet name (we call each other the same thing) is really really cringeworthy.

It's Sausage.

blush

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PetFox Fri 23-Nov-12 15:39:47

You think baby is cringe-worthy? My DH calls me "pretty princess pants" on a regular basis... I like it, but I imagine if someone overheard it they would want to cut their own ears off.

Sallster Fri 23-Nov-12 15:42:41

Babe, baby, babes, bubba, bubs, bubsy, doll, darl, hun, all of the above! Sometime I forget his real name!

TruthSweet Fri 23-Nov-12 15:46:08

I call DH 'Boo' and he calls me 'Lass' but I don't call him Boo out blush

TruthSweet Fri 23-Nov-12 15:46:35

Oh and he also call me 'Bug' due to my initials.

charlieandthechocolatecake Fri 23-Nov-12 16:19:36

I call my OH baby!

He calls me tits...

HecatePropylaea Fri 23-Nov-12 16:26:25

call each other whatever you want, but cutsie nicknames are for in private only grin

Apart from anything else, your mates will take the piss forever if they overhear that he is Snugglywugglybum and you are Honeybunny.

Keep it private, folks grin and we'll all keep our lunches wink

SackGirl Fri 23-Nov-12 17:15:21

CRINGE I don't know why but baby makes me cringe, yet 'babe' is totally fine - who knows what wires up my brain to those default settings!

Pochemuchka Fri 23-Nov-12 17:21:24

YABU

It is cringey.
My DBrother's ex GF used to call him 'babes' practically at the end of every sentence and that was excruciating. It doesn't suit him at all and made her sound like an extra from TOWIE.
Thankfully she's now ex GF.

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