To hate 'fluffy' speak?

(94 Posts)
ItsNovemberFFS Fri 23-Nov-12 09:07:33

Stop referring to my DH as 'hubby'.
Stop referring to my DD as 'bubs'.

Side note: Learn to put apostrophes and commas in the right place.

WheresMyCow Fri 23-Nov-12 09:52:43


echt Fri 23-Nov-12 10:52:46

I live in the land of "bubs" - Australia.

Where people "pass", instead of "die".

They "battle" against cancer instead of "dying of".

Hate the mealy-mouthed, sentimental shite of it all.

cheekybaubles Fri 23-Nov-12 10:57:39

Adults saying "tummy" yuk.

CardiffUniversityNetballTeam Fri 23-Nov-12 10:58:57

I work with a woman who says "pwease."

One day I am going to punch here in the face.

tryingtoleave Fri 23-Nov-12 11:03:29

I hate 'battle' against cancer. It's like you've done something wrong when you lose. I didn't realise that was an australianism. Having lost two members of my family to cancer, I know that you suffer from cancer, you don't battle it.

ClippedPhoenix Fri 23-Nov-12 11:04:03

I know someone who says "likkle" and I'm going to punch her face in soon too grin

olddogs Fri 23-Nov-12 11:05:47

but it just so funny... when you see a rational adult, disolve into fluffy speak!

We should set up a new MN reponse 'Did you mean to be so funny?'

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 23-Nov-12 11:10:50

I like the character in 'Miranda' that can't open her gob without fluff issuing forth.. 'tremendulendo!..... but at least she's meant to be funny smile Anyone going on about 'Chrimbo' can be ritually disembowelled as far as I'm concerned.

TickleFlower Fri 23-Nov-12 11:13:38

Bubs and bubba really pisses me off!

Jingleflobba Fri 23-Nov-12 11:18:00

I have one friend (who I love dearly) who uses the full shebang. Her new daughter is her 'ickle bubs', her son who is the same age as my DD is her "ickle prince/man" and once put a request to some friends on her fb page ending in "pwetty pwease". Seriously, she's a lovely woman but I had to hide her updates on fb in the end as I am far too fond of her to read the shite she puts there!

Hubby doesn't bother me but bubs is slightly annoying, don't know why. And yes, euphemisms for dying irritate me too - it's a fact of life, why not just bloody say it?

And not fluffy but 'paying tribute' makes me unreasonably annoyed too - as in 'So and so has paid tribute to person X who has died'. Gah.

echt Fri 23-Nov-12 11:18:38

sad for you tryingtoleave; it's not peculiar to Australia, but endemic down under. The boldness of UK obituaries, particularly those in the Guardian is a tonic.

MrsBungleBear Fri 23-Nov-12 11:25:39

I hate 'battle' against cancer. It's like you've done something wrong when you lose. I didn't realise that was an australianism. Having lost two members of my family to cancer, I know that you suffer from cancer, you don't battle it.

YES YES! My DM died of cancer aged 52. The word 'battle' or 'won the fight against cancer' annoys me. Mum died because they discovered the cancer too late. She didn't just give up and not bother to 'fight'. I nursed my mum at home while she died a painful horrible death from cancer.

Anyway, sorry!

OP, you are not being unreasonable. Can't stand bubs and bubba and ickle etc. Yuk!

Softlysoftly Fri 23-Nov-12 11:30:18

See now I'm worried, DDs get called "Baba" by DH, but it's a Bengali thing (meaning Dads girl), but what if he meets a MNer that thinks he's being all:

"awww Ickle baba"

He'll get punched in the face shock

YANBU btw cultural differences taken into account smile

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 23-Nov-12 11:30:56

Could we also put a blanket ban on 'issues'? They're just fluffy problems trying to sound more important than they are. No, you're not 'addressing your issues', you're dealing with a problem...

FivesAndNorks Fri 23-Nov-12 11:37:08

Football managers always "hit back" at any criticism (usually with a bland, non-violent sentence)

Dogsmom Fri 23-Nov-12 11:43:55

I use fluffy speak when I talk to my dogs and then reply to myself from them in same fluffiness.

Me: Ooh you are such a chunky wunky, fluffy bear and Mommy loves you so much
Me to me in 'dog voice' : Yes I am a lovely chunky wunky and I love you too mummy.

No wonder I don't have many friends......

FreudiansSlipper Fri 23-Nov-12 11:56:33

yes i do dislike it.

even more so after catching myself saying Hello Mr Wolf in a fluffy voice at the zoo recently. What a prat poor ds the shame and poor wolf

i use that stupid fluffy voice when talking to my cat too not sure if he likes it or is humoring me but he purrs when i call him mummys handsome little pusscat soldier grin

MrsBungleBear Fri 23-Nov-12 12:13:23

Ha ha , I do speak in a fluffy manner to my dog and my baby. But not in public so actual people can actually hear me wink

mojitomo Fri 23-Nov-12 12:27:50

Pmsl at mummys little pusscat soldier! grin

mollister Fri 23-Nov-12 13:25:18

I use baba to my daughter (teenager) it's Irish for baby - sorry if spelled wrong to anyone who knows. I think it's one of those words that have travelled the world and show we all started off speaking the same language (half heard programme on R4). But agree it's for home use only and said with irony to anyone over six

StuntGirl Fri 23-Nov-12 13:30:23

PMSL at Mr Wolf and pusscat soldier grin

Creamtea1 Fri 23-Nov-12 13:33:47

All these words need to be banned and users banished somewhere

Tinuviel Fri 23-Nov-12 15:20:57

I use fluffy talk to DS (15) but only to annoy him!!

CatsRule Fri 23-Nov-12 15:29:43

Lil and ikkle angry

Ya so nbu!

ClippedPhoenix Fri 23-Nov-12 15:42:30

I do that to mine too Tinuviel, great isn't it grin

LalyRawr Fri 23-Nov-12 15:51:12

I use bubs! For both my critter and OH.

Do dislike Hubby though. And baby talk. All the ickle wickle baby waby goo goo crap.

I guess it's the way it's said? I use bubs all the time and it sounds natural, but sounds weird when OH says it!

RabbitsMakeGOLDBaubles Fri 23-Nov-12 16:00:04

LOL. Don't ever listen to me, these things slip in and I am not a fluffy person at all, but both my children still get referred to as Baba, I use some of "their" words instead of the real words because I think they were cute, plus it means we all know what I am talking about (although me and DS frequently fall out over his pronunciation of butter), and I call my partners honey (fall back from my own mum), the children are honey pies (as is on of the guinea pigs) or sweet peas.

It's strange that people think it's so twee, my humour tends to be very dry, and I am not overly emotional in person, so I am really not what you would consider a Hun who loves her Hubby or anything. I do LOL though. People seem to hate that too. So I keep doing it. I think I like to be difficult on purpose sometimes.

specialsubject Fri 23-Nov-12 16:23:47

they used to say that baby talk belongs in the nursery - I think even babies don't do it now.

right with you, up there with females that scream at small rodents or insects. No wonder it was so hard to get the vote.

HecatePropylaea Fri 23-Nov-12 16:29:39

baby voices. God save me from baby voices.

Actually, God save them from me cos I'm about one fake five year old cutsie/whiney voice away from snapping grin

I mean who thinks the little baby voice is cute?

I want to slap them till their face falls off.

LaQueen Fri 23-Nov-12 16:31:19

Both DH and I revel in glorious abandon in fluffy-talk to our DDs smile

They habitually answer to:


They are only called by their actual christian names when they're in trouble.

The DDs are 8 & 9, but still demand a snug-bug from us first thing in the morning, and bedtime is usually known as bee-byes ...

I couldn't give a shit if other people think it's just what we do, and isn't generally used outside the home.

[folds arms..raises eyebrow in a mildly provocative manner....]

LaQueen Fri 23-Nov-12 16:33:35

Both DH and I refer to each other by pet-names, Babe, Darlin', Toots, Beautiful...whatever. But, again it's kept inside the home.

I'm not remotely fluffy by nature, but I like that we have our virtual own private language that only we know what we're talking about smile

HeffalumpsAndWoozles Fri 23-Nov-12 16:45:44

I'm guilty of a few of these, even the much hated 'Hun' passes my lips fairly regularly. Tbh I didn't ever really notice it until joining MN and discovering the tide of hatred I'd been oblivious too for years blush Still say it though <rebel>

Hate bubba/bubs and hubby though. Oh and 'bockle', 'ickle', and most nicknames people use for dummies 'dumdum'/'mimi' etc

cogito I love her too, "I could absolutely scoffulate a puddington" has become a regular saying in our house, sometimes forget people probably have no idea we are being 'ironic' smile

noddyholder Fri 23-Nov-12 16:47:43

It makes me ill to hear this sort of thing although I do call my cat tickly bear

madas Fri 23-Nov-12 17:01:09

Buppy instead of butter grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

FunnysInLaJardin Fri 23-Nov-12 17:04:12

god yes echt I have a friend in Australia and her FB page is peppered with all that shite. She joins in too but is not like that at all in RL.

FunnysInLaJardin Fri 23-Nov-12 17:08:46

and I hate 'only 18 more sleeps til Blackpool' type os shite. You are not 3, in fact I wouldn't even expect my 3 yo to put up with such nonsense

purrpurr Fri 23-Nov-12 17:09:11

I'm not a remotely fluffy person, but I am at home with my husband. Bizarre. Mostly I'm just sensible and straightforward.

I do talk proper professional baby talk at my cat though - I can make her purr with just a couple of nonsensical, sweetly-pronounced words - she blinks at me, purrs and flops. I'm pregnant and desperately hope I won't do this with our baby, as it can't be good to talk in gibberish long term if they're trying to figure out how to talk, so must try to be a bit more restrained...

Lexagon Fri 23-Nov-12 17:16:25


ItsNotUnusualToBe Fri 23-Nov-12 17:22:07

Self proclaimed 'yummy mummys' who write(on Facebook) things like "omg lolz hun!!!!!!! Thats totes amazeballs Mummy P"

I like these people a little bit less every time I read something like the above sad

noddyholder Fri 23-Nov-12 17:34:28

Yes I give the cats the full baby boo chat but am not the type to ever talk like that to another human

PurplePidjin Fri 23-Nov-12 17:46:44

I use a wrap sling, i don't babywear - he's a person not a handbag.

Just because i prefer reusable nappies, i am not a Fluffy Mama or, worse, Sexy Mama. My pg French friend will be a Mama, i am a Mummy.

These are my breasts. They are the main source of nourishment for my son for the foreseeable future. This is what they were designed for, please don't wince when i refer to them - sexual gratification is their secondary, not primary, function - or use twee euphemistic terms of endearment.

ItsNovemberFFS Fri 23-Nov-12 17:56:01

I totally agree with 'battle against cancer' and 'lost the fight to cancer'. I hate it. My mum has terminal cancer and when she dies I will hit anyone who says that she 'lost the fight'!! Maybe I should pre-warn people hmm

Pidj only a few days in and you're getting irate with people already? grin

I agree with you about 'babywearing' - he's not a bloody jumper! I have several friends who insist on labelling themselves as 'AP' (attachment parents, apparently) because they 'babywear' and have washable nappies and use 'gentle discipline'. hmm Although I do also have one friend who insists on calling me an 'Earth Mother' (she always capitalises it) because I breastfed both children longer-term and use a sling with DS. Every time she says it I cringe.

Another one that annoys me - 'playdate'. And oh my, don't get me started on 'yummy mummy'! [boak]

LessMissAbs Fri 23-Nov-12 19:29:44

YANBU. If I might contribute "Fankoo" from a grown woman...

Turniphead1 Fri 23-Nov-12 19:32:31

I was FB friends with someone who referred to her partner as " My Maffoooo" all the time. His given name was Matthew. I had to hide her posts it was so nauseating.

PurplePidjin Fri 23-Nov-12 19:33:53

Nah, I've been hanging round the wrong places while pg trying to prepare hmm <snuggles cosily back into vipers' nest>

Attachment parents, fundamentalist religious types, ex-smokers... All full of vitriol for those who make choices wink

Is a Yummy Mummy an Anti-Earth Mother, and are they also known as Sexy Mamas? envy <- this is not the face of jealousy

Welcome back Pidj. grin How's R?

I think a yummy mummy is the polite equivalent of a MILF. It seems to be media-speak for 'a mother who is desperate for approval' and I get irrationally irate every time I see yet another piece of tat merchandise with 'yummy mummy' written on it. (I saw a woman the other day wearing a t-shirt that said 'yummy mummy' and carrying a baby wearing one that said 'future porn star' but that's a whole other thread... hmm).

Everlong Fri 23-Nov-12 19:47:52

Fankoo! Christ please tell me they were taking the piss.

noddyholder Sat 24-Nov-12 08:40:08

I ran a restaurant in my 20s one night a couple were giving their order and when I did drinks he turned to her ad said reddy or whitey shock

EugenesAxe Sat 24-Nov-12 09:08:58

I'm with you on 'sleeps'. My mate has surprised me with a 'Three more sleeps!' outburst before and I remember looking at her in disdainful puzzlement as I said something like 'What? Oh, yes it's nearly the day you go to Australia.'

What's wrong with days? I suppose your child might not know if it was inclusive of the day you were saying it... but they'd learn, surely?!

My DH said as a joke the other day that DD was his 'little princess' - I think he was a bit scared by my deadly serious tone when I said 'Don't ever say that again. Not even as a joke.'

ilovesooty Sat 24-Nov-12 12:33:25

Lil man

all horrible

I'd like to add Nom Nom

TakingBackMonday Tue 27-Nov-12 11:15:51

I second nom nom

LadyBeagle Tue 27-Nov-12 11:46:41

When ds was little I called him my wee sausage man, or sausage for short.
As for my dog, you don't want to hear me.
'Whos's a snuggle wuggle boogle boy' is my favourite.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 11:51:13

Gawjuss is the worst. I can't tell you what it does to me!

Yes and nom nom is hideous too.

I speak to my Dog in a French accent confused

My DH says tummy, and I have to sit on my hands to keep them away from the kife drawer.

knife ffs

HoneyMurcott Tue 27-Nov-12 11:52:25

What echt said. "bubs" is my pet hate.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 11:55:11

Tummy is better than belly exit

Belly makes me want nip the person saying it <loon>

LDNmummy Tue 27-Nov-12 11:55:22

I say passed away because I hate the word death and the word died. They sound aggressive to me. Plus they sound so final, passed seems to reflect my personal beliefs on death a little more. I believe people pass from one plane of existence onto another, IYSWIM...

takataka Tue 27-Nov-12 11:57:56

cardiff grin

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 11:58:01

I get that ldn I couldn't say that ds had died for about 3 years. In fact I wouldn't choose to say now. I say we lost him or he passed away. Grim.

GilmoursPillow Tue 27-Nov-12 11:58:27

Yep, hate most of the above with nom nom being particularly horrible.

I fluffy talk to my dogs yet I've never used it on my children.

takataka Tue 27-Nov-12 11:58:48

what do you all say instead of tummy or belly? abdomen? confused


GilmoursPillow Tue 27-Nov-12 11:59:56

what do you all say instead of tummy or belly? abdomen?

Guts grin

(just kidding)

takataka Tue 27-Nov-12 12:03:55

oh ok....

<it aint your stomach though...thats way more irritating than calling it belly. I command you refer to it as abdomen, so as to be at least anatomically correct>

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 12:04:56

I don't even do fluffy talk to the pets.

Dh laughed at me this morning because I said excuse me to the dog because she was in my way.

takataka Tue 27-Nov-12 12:05:06

unless of course you are refering to your stomach blush

mignonette Tue 27-Nov-12 12:06:01

Don't like any death euphemisms. My Father died. he did not 'pass', or 'go to sleep'. He died.

MaMaPo Tue 27-Nov-12 12:06:23

Am I allowed to hate DD, DS, DH, DM etc ad nauseam, or is that going to get me kicked off MN?

I use awful fluffy talk with my husband, but we keep it to ourselves. Not for public consumption.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 12:09:47

mignonette I get you. I am not one normally for pussy footing around.

But those words ' he died ' were so alien to me that I just couldn't speak them.


mignonette Tue 27-Nov-12 12:16:25

I hope I didn't offend or upset you Everlong. That wasn't my intention and I haven't read the whole thread which I should have. Yes, it is hard to speak those words oneself, but I don't like to hear others using euphemisms to me as I kind of need that harshness of meaning to ram the truth home IYKWIM? Makes me sound a bit contrary, I know.... smile

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 12:19:24

Noooo you didn't offend me smile tbh I agree with you. If you are brave enough to say the words then that's a good thing. I am a lot braver now, I can say them if I want too. I just hate them.

Nivet Tue 27-Nov-12 12:21:05

My sister says "lully" instead of lovely and her and her DH call each other Mummy Pig and Daddy Pig.

I am desperately searching for evidence that she was adopted. grin

MoetEtPantsOn Tue 27-Nov-12 12:24:37

My little man

<itches eyeballs>

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 12:25:50

Ickle man is worse. Jesus that makes feel violent.

mignonette Tue 27-Nov-12 12:28:54

It is so hard Everlong isn't it? Not looking forward to Christmas this year.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 27-Nov-12 12:44:40

It is.
As a very good mumsnetter friend says ' Christmas is another day ' try and keep that in mind. We always put a candle next to his photo on Christmas day. The first Christmas after he died we even had a bloody place for him at the table! We laugh about it now smile
Just do what you can to help you through xx

mignonette Tue 27-Nov-12 12:47:37

Thank you and love to you Ever

MuckingFunter Tue 27-Nov-12 16:33:29

I find the endless anachronisms pretty bloody loathsome to be honest - horses for courses and all that.

Busybusybust Tue 27-Nov-12 16:40:17

I have a colleague wo is about as fluffy as it is humanly possible to get.

She calls me 'hunnybunny' - which makes me feel stabby.

She also insists in writing with pink gel pens.

rubberglove Tue 27-Nov-12 16:51:29

However, fluffy talk to babies originated from music, when language was music. They learn pitch, tone and harmony first.

Those that want language to be literal are left-hemisphere dominant. Illusion, metaphor are vital for human expression.

rubberglove Tue 27-Nov-12 16:55:51

And yes, alternative phrases for death, can be rich in meaning. Of our hopes and beliefs for something other, something beyond.

Theicingontop Tue 27-Nov-12 16:57:20

My SIL is so, so unbearably guilty of this. It makes me dry heave.

Also; preg, preggo, pregs. Aggghhh.

rubberglove Tue 27-Nov-12 16:57:31

I talk fluffy to babies, because they are programmed to respond to that type of communication.

Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 16:59:40

ach i dont mind it I dont use a lot of it I will punch you if you call me Babes or hun though grin

Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 17:00:45

She also insists in writing with pink gel pens.

with little hearts on the i grin

LDNmummy Tue 27-Nov-12 17:13:14

Ever your post is the most touching thing I have ever read on MN.

It also reflects exactly what I was trying to say. For me, when someone 'passes on' they are still with us but in another way that may not be tangible, but still very real. To me, your family setting a place for your son that first Christmas makes sense in its own personal way.

I think all the people who love me, and that I love, are with me always and never 'die'.

MumsGoToReykjavik Tue 27-Nov-12 17:18:27

I use this kind of talk to my 15yo neice but I only do it to make her cringe and say "really" while doing this face -> hmm

MumsGoToReykjavik Tue 27-Nov-12 17:20:43

Agree with MaMaPo about the DC/D-everything thing. Dry heave inducing.

MumsGoToReykjavik Tue 27-Nov-12 17:28:28

Feel very insensitive now, had only read first page.

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