to think if i want to lose more weight it doesn't mean i have an eating disorder?

(94 Posts)
legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:37:55

I have lost 3 stone.

I did this over a year and 2 months so not too quickly imo.

I would now like to lose another 10 lbs but have been told by my son that i am anorexic,i am not,i just need to get some more weight off then i think i will be happy.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Thu 22-Nov-12 18:39:39

Anorexia is a bit more complicated than just being on the skinny side, and we can't even judge that unless we know your height, weight and general eating habits.

vodkaanddietirnbru Thu 22-Nov-12 18:39:57

are you still in the overweight category still? Will you really be happy, or will you keep wanting to get a little bit extra off?

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 18:40:00

I suppose it depends on what weight you are now, your height, frame and BMI etc.

Why does your son think this?

Congrats on the loss so far.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:41:53

thanks Worra, i am 5 foot 2 and 8 stone 6

sausagesandwich34 Thu 22-Nov-12 18:43:55

I lost loads of weight (slowly and sensibly) but still had 2 stone to lose and people were telling me I was going to far, was going to make myself ill etc but clinically I still had weight to lose

I think people get so used to seeing you a certain size that when you lose weight they think you have gone too far

as long as you are not below the right weight for your height, carry on as you are and well done on your weight loss smile

charlmarascoxo Thu 22-Nov-12 18:45:39

One woman I used to work with tried to make out I had an eating disorder. It really started to get on my nerves.

In our group of friends, one did lose weight quite quickly, she got down to just under 9 stone and she's around 5 ft 5. But its all the group of friends would talk about ... and omg it got to be so boring.

You are not losing weight too fast, but I would maybe make time for a nurses appointment first to see if you are underweight.

But seriously congrats on the weightless.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 18:46:02

Are you sure you want to lose another 10lbs then?

Perhaps you need to tone up rather than lose any more?

I'm 5ft 3" and tend to hover around the 8st 3lb mark

But why does he think anorexia?

Teabagtights Thu 22-Nov-12 18:46:46

Im 5ft 2 and if I weighed 8stone 6lb Id look really rough.

My ideal weight is 9stone making me a size 8 to 10.

Im sorry but I dont believe it would be healthy for you to lose another 10lb you would be able to see your ribs and look anorexic.

Be proud of what you have achieved, you have done brilliantly.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:46:57

thanks,my son is lovely,he came round today between jobs (gas man) and saw what i had in my fridge,i did tell him i wanted to crack on and lose another 10 pounds,that's when he said i am anorexic (in a half jokey way)

I do like the challenge of losing weight i must admit but i do not feel that i have a problem.

Anskabel Thu 22-Nov-12 18:46:58

Ten years ago I weighed around 8 stone at 5ft 5, looked healthy and was healthy. Now I'm in my 30s and my metabolism's changed I'm lucky if I can stay below 11st without feeling like I'm starving myself. How old are you? In my case that's made a huge difference to my definition of a realistic weight goal.

vodkaanddietirnbru Thu 22-Nov-12 18:47:20

The height and weight you gave gives a BMI of 21.57 which is right in the middle of the healthy weight area.

tzella Thu 22-Nov-12 18:49:19

How old is your son? Does he know what the hell he is talking about?

I'm (slightly) guilty of thinking my friend had lost too much weight. His collarbones were sticking out and it was such a massive change that I was starting to worry. But he compared height/weight with a few other people and he was fine smile

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:49:19

i am 40 in January

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:50:47

my son is nearly 20.he is protective of me and is probably just looking out for me i guess?

tzella Thu 22-Nov-12 18:50:53

Sorry, took me so long to type you've said he's not a over-dramatic teen :D And also that he was clearly joking hmm

A stealthboast!

Teabagtights Thu 22-Nov-12 18:50:58

I could have been 7stone when I was 18, but at 38 when I got down to 8st 7lb I looked really old and haggard around my neck.

Tone up, go to the gym, remember too that muscle weighs more than fat.

It would really depend on your bone size, what size frame are you? Im a medium frame.

FredFredGeorge Thu 22-Nov-12 18:51:21

It depends on your frame, but another 10lbs off at your height would be quite on the low side - but if you're a small ectomorph without much muscle mass then it's perfectly possible to be a good weight.

So we can't know how healthy the weight is really, do others feel the same as your son?

Teabagtights Thu 22-Nov-12 18:52:15

More to the point what is your dress size? Smaller than an 8 to 10 looks ridiculous on any frame.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:52:28

I would like to be at the bottom end of my bmi,this is just my personal preference.

Teabagtights Thu 22-Nov-12 18:53:24

Its not about weight, its about what you LOOK like.

AdoraJingleBells Thu 22-Nov-12 18:54:01

Congrats on your weight loss so far.

If it's any help I am 5 3 and 8.5 stone is still a bit heavy for me. I would advise seeing your GP or nurse to make sure of what you could weigh while still being healthy.

Also, because I am so cynical - when did your DS qualify in psychology and how long has he been working with eating disorders?wink

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 18:57:39

ha ha,my son means well,i have no doubts about that.

i am a size 8,i am not boasting,just wanted re-assurance really i guess

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 19:01:51

teabag..that is just how i see it,i know i will feel better with some more weight off.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Thu 22-Nov-12 19:04:37

If you're already a size 8 at 5'2, and your BMI is healthy, I think losing a further 10lb might be too much. Maybe 5lb?

Ultimately it's your choice but at 40 I would imagine that losing this extra chunk of weight could carry the risk of making you look gaunt/unhealthy.

AdoraJingleBells Thu 22-Nov-12 19:08:59

I'm sure he does Lego, some people bandy words about without the slightest idea of what they are actually saying, just try not to worry about it.

Take caresmile

LeonieDeSainteVire Thu 22-Nov-12 19:22:10

I would definitely agree its about your frame and you as an individual. And obviously we can't judge that. So you need to speak honestly to a GP or similar and find out what the truth is. I'm also 5ft 2 and if I weighed 8st 6 I would be carrying about half a stone too much but I have a very small frame.

Rudolphstolemycarrots Thu 22-Nov-12 19:29:41

I've just checked on line and for 8 and a half stone - 5 foot 2, your BMI is 21.8. Your BMI is within the healthy range at the moment. If you lost 10lbs, your BMI would be 19.9 which is still in the healthy range. To be under weight you would need to be under 18.5 BMI - so less than 7 stones and 2 pounds.

carabos Thu 22-Nov-12 19:33:25

You are a healthy weight now. If you want to lose more, give it a go and see what happens. You might find it difficult to get off and keep off. You may get more of the "look" that you want by toning and sculpting your body.

If you don't tone, you might just end up scrawny. I walk a fine line between smokin' and scrawny myself, entirely depending on how much exercise I'm doing, and what that exercise is. I'm 49, 5ft 4 and 8 +half stone.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 19:34:25

I have a small frame and feel this is ok,i do not feel i will look gaunt but will get maybe 5 more pounds off then re-assess.

Teabagtights Thu 22-Nov-12 19:39:56

I find it unbelievable that people are saying she should lose more weight if she wants to.

Under 8 stone and she will look scraggy round the neck, she would probably be a size 4. Thats skinny. Slim is the way to go not skinny with bones sticking out, so unattractive.

Anybody who thinks having visible ribs is attractive has some kind of eating disorder.

JessePinkman Thu 22-Nov-12 19:45:46

I have visible ribs. I eat like a horse and exercise a lot. The weight doesn't ever go on my ribs, always my wibbly wobbly bottom.

I think a lot of healthy animals have visible ribs.

I feel a bit sad now.

FredFredGeorge Thu 22-Nov-12 19:51:23

There's nothing wrong with visible ribs on a human - you can see mine too and I'm carrying more fat than necessary...

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 19:55:59

my ribs are visible,my partner comments on them but i have weight i don't want in other areas

I think you should go to the doc and get a bone density check before losing any more weight.

I think having a 19 bmi is different looking at 18 than it is at 40. I'm the same height and I look like a bag of bones approaching death at under 9 stone.

blameitonthecaffeine Thu 22-Nov-12 19:56:39

I'm 5ft 3 and hover around 8st plus or minus a couple of pounds either way - that doesn't put me in the underweight category. So yes, you could afford to lose 10 pounds if you wanted to.

But you don't need to and your motivations for doing so would affect whether or not I thought you were in danger of developing an eating disorder.

So you could easily be perfectly healthy and just wanting to look and feel your best. Or you could be becoming obessive. There's no way for us to know.

PetFox Thu 22-Nov-12 19:59:46

"Smaller than an 8 to 10 looks ridiculous on any frame" <<< what? That's pretty rude. I have a tiny frame and am a 6-8. You can see my ribs a bit too. I don't look ridiculous, or rough.

OP you've done really well. You don't need to lose the 10lbs (at all!) and you might really struggle to if it's not your natural weight. Don't let that make you unhappy though.

StuntGirl Thu 22-Nov-12 20:01:35

I think it is a little on the thin side - its definitely at the lower end of the bmi scale. But equally it could be an ok weight for you too, its hard to judge.

What was your original goal?
Why do you think you need to lose more?
Is it the number on the scales, your appearance, your dress size you're not happy with?
What are your eating habits like?
What kind of exercise do you do?

blackcoffee Thu 22-Nov-12 20:03:30

'i just need to get some more weight off then i think i will be happy.'
this is certainly the way anorexics think - only there is never an end point to it.
Can't you be happy with what you've achieved so far, op? maybe the exercise thing will help you feel comfortable with your body?

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:16:53

I do feel happy with what i have acheived,i was 11 stone 8 lbs,i was finding it hard work to walk etc...i looked big,uncomfortable and just unhealthy,i worked hard and also enjoyed getting the weight off,i have been at my new weight for a few months now and feel ready to get some more off,a new challenge if you like

helenovhull Thu 22-Nov-12 20:17:07

What do you intend to eat to reach this goal weight? If you would be cutting calories below 1200 or cutting out whole food groups don't do it. Tbh I think the fact you're posting indicates you are perhaps not motivated to lose more weight for health reasons. If you KNEW your son's concerns weren't valid you wouldn't be asking...

If I am wrong and you are eating well and have boundless energy then keep on doing what you're doing but don't get hung up on the number on the scales.

helenovhull Thu 22-Nov-12 20:18:53

You want a challenge? A fitness one then - run a 10k, swim 100 lengths, take up a new sport. Fixating on numbers when you are in the middle of the bmi range is not good for your mental health.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:21:11

stuntgirl my original goal was to get into a healthy bmi,

i think i need to lose more because i'm not quite there yet

it is the number on the scales mostly if i'm honest

eating habits are limited,some would say i am boring!!

i do no structured excercise but walk! (if that counts) i do not like excersise classes etc..but love walking alone or with my partner and school run etc...

IfNotNowThenWhen Thu 22-Nov-12 20:23:22

It doesn't matter what you weigh. What matters is how healthy you are. I am 5 6 and weigh 10 stone. I wear a size 10, sometimes 12, and look slim. I weigh more than people would ever think because I am quite muscly and solid, due to exercise. Fixating on weight is the wrong way to go imo.
Eat plenty of lean protein and veggies, and exercise, and you will FEEL good, which is much more important than how you look.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:28:49

i do eat lean protein and veggies and although i don't do the gym i am pretty fit imo.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:29:41

i don't look gaunt or older than my years either

choceyes Thu 22-Nov-12 20:30:33

Depends on your frame entirely. I am 5 '2 and 7st 7lbs and look just slim not at all skinny no visible ribs at all. I look much healthier than I was at 8st 5lbs which I was last year. The 10lbs I lost was the last of my baby weight. Have maintained th is weight for nearly 6 months without cutting down on eating so this is s healthy weight for me. A modern size 8 now. Used to be an 8 years ago too but an 8 was smaller 15 years ago when I weighed 7st nothing.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 20:37:51

OP you don't sound as though you need to lose more weight, you sound as though you need to exercise and tone up.

Could you not make that your 'challenge'?

As for Anybody who thinks having visible ribs is attractive has some kind of eating disorder. .... I've never heard such rubbish in my life.

Ribs are ribs - a normal part of the body and can quite easily be visible on a perfectly healthy body.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:42:12

exactly worra,they say on dogs you should see their ribs,if you can't they are carrying too much weight

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 20:43:44

Yes well dogs are quite different to humans grin

Seeing someone's ribs, hips, collarbone etc is certainly not an indication that there is something wrong with them.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:43:51

I think that as my oldest son and i have a very close bond he probably worries more than he should,he has moved out and doesn't see me every day so maybe finds it strange when he see the " new me"

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 20:44:16

I mean not necessarily

Chubfuddler Thu 22-Nov-12 20:49:37

If you're obsessing about the number on the scales that's not good. I think you've got hooked on the buzz of losing weight. You need a different buzz.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:55:09

i don't think i am obsessing...just ready for the next phase,i have stayed at this weight for a while and am now ready to try to lose some more,i don't think that is obsessing?

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 20:55:50

thankyou for your opinions,i am grateful for the input

Teabagtights Thu 22-Nov-12 20:57:46

Me thinks the lady does protest too much. A size 4 on a 40 year old does not look good.

StuntGirl Thu 22-Nov-12 20:58:23

But you are within a healthy bmi now, so goal achieved, no?

It does sound like you're developing unhealthy habits and to be honest if you were my friend/family I'd be worried enough to keep an eye on you.

StuntGirl Thu 22-Nov-12 21:00:29

Weght loss is NOT something you 'stick at for a while before moving onto the next size'. What happens after you've been at 7 stone for a while, move onto 6 stone, 5 stone?

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:00:31

teabagtights i am not a size 4,as i said i am a size 8

PetFox Thu 22-Nov-12 21:01:32

Whats with the size 4 talk teabags? From what she's said the OP is not going to end up a size 4 (assuming she has a skeleton) or be underweight.

PetFox Thu 22-Nov-12 21:02:03

X post OP smile

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:02:33

i go to a slimming club,we are encouraged to lose weight slowly and to break it down into chunks so to speak,so as not to be overwhelmed

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:03:22

actually in some shops,a size 10

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:05:24

stuntgirl i guess it is goal acheived on paper, but surely it is the individual's preference? Only i know how i look/feel without my clothes on!

dontcallmehon Thu 22-Nov-12 21:12:41

I am 5 foot 7 and weigh 9 stone 3, which gives me a Bmi of about 20 or so. I'm hoping to lose another half stone, so I don't think wanting to be on the slim side of healthy makes you anorexic! I have had eating disorders, btw. When I did have a real, full blown eating disorder, no one commented as I weighed 10 stone and looked normal! I don't have an eating disorder now.

Chandon Thu 22-Nov-12 21:12:53

I would question exactly why you want to be at the very bottom range of a healthy bmi, as you say upthread.

To me that seems a strange goal that points towards some issue with numbers ( weight, bmi) rather than concern about health or wellbeing.

Narked Thu 22-Nov-12 21:12:56

If you have weight in specific areas that you want to shift, you might find targeted exercise more effective than just diet eg for your bottom or arms.

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:16:07

Chandon,i would say that i am aiming for the lower end of my bmi as i am not very muscular and am of a small frame

apostropheuse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:18:50

legohouse you may not actually realise what you look like.

I lost a lot of weight a few years back. I'm talking six/seven stones. My mind hadn't quite caught up with my physical appearance though.

I walked past a shop window one day and saw a reflection. I was looking through a dark glass window one day and thought there was a woman on the other side of the window wearing an identical suit to the one I was wearing. I thought I wish I looked like that in mine. I then suddenly realised that it was my own reflection I was looking at. I was shocked. I still thought of myself as fat, even though I wasn't.

It explained why my friends and family were telling me I'd lost enough weight and that I was beginning to look gaunt.

Incidentally, I was only barely reaching the normal BMI at that point, but my body suited that weight.

musttidyupBeforeSantaComes Thu 22-Nov-12 21:21:56

I'm 5ft 2,8st10 and a 12 - I could definitely do with losing another 10lb if I wanted to actually be slim which I do but not quite as much as I like chocolate and wine.

StuntGirl Thu 22-Nov-12 21:28:21

You've been losing at an average of 3lbs per week which is a little over healthy weight loss targets, you're aiming for the bottom end of the bmi targets and you admit you eat a limited diet. To be honest I think your son is right to be concerned, but I wouldn't go as far as to say you are anorexic. I think you are showing possible anorexic tendencies though iyswim?

legohouse Thu 22-Nov-12 21:42:18

I admit i do like the buzz i get from losing weight,my mother is very tiny and is always telling me i am not slim enough yet,i still am carrying weight on my upper arms for example...

Yes, there is a problem with getting a buzz from losing weight.

That 'high' you feel is your brain being starved of vital nutrients. It sounds as if you're too weight focused and not life or health focused.

Getting a high is not good, sorry but I think you should consider seeing a doc as you might have tipped over slightly into disordered eating.

dontcallmehon Thu 22-Nov-12 21:51:45

I thought everyone got a slight buzz from losing weight. It's not necessarily a sign of disordered eating is it?

PetFox Thu 22-Nov-12 21:59:39

OP I think you need to find some exercise you enjoy so that you can build muscle - which will make you appear slimmer, especially as you age - rather than trying to achieve what you want through restrictive eating alone. That will give you a buzz too, and a much healthier one, physically and mentally.

PetFox Thu 22-Nov-12 22:02:29

Running, dancing, climbing, swimming, Pilates...they are all fun once you get into them.

StuntGirl Thu 22-Nov-12 22:06:09

Anyone who tells you things like "You're not slim enough" instead of "Wow! Well done for losing over 3 stone!" does not have your best interests at heart and isn't someone you can rely on for honest support. Even if she's your mum.

StuntGirl Thu 22-Nov-12 22:07:40

Btw, bloody well done for losing over 3 stone grin

Narked Thu 22-Nov-12 22:14:15

Find something you love and do that. For arms, swimming is very good. It also has the added bonus of being good for your heart and bones.

MikeOxard Thu 22-Nov-12 23:11:38

I can't believe how many people on this thread are saying things like it wouldn't be healthy to lose 10lb more, it wouldn't look right etc. OP's aim is within the healthy BMI, at the point she feels suits her frame best - so where's the problem? If she said aibu I want to stop losing weight at the top end of a healthy BMI, would you be saying hmmm, not sure, how tall are you, I think that will still look a bit fat, why not try losing 5lbs more? No, didn't think so. /End rant!

LessMissAbs Thu 22-Nov-12 23:22:41

teabag: Under 8 stone and she will look scraggy round the neck, she would probably be a size 4. Thats skinny. Slim is the way to go not skinny with bones sticking out, so unattractive

I am the same height as the OP and weigh around 7 stone 10. I don't look skinny (I have quite a round face and have quite powerfully built legs) and am told I am attractive. I do triathlons. To be perfectly honest, if I got down to around 7 stone 6 I'd lose that little bit extra adipose tissue which isn't really necessay and probably get my 10k time down a bit too, and I would love to. Since I look better than most women my age, and am often mistaken for being much younger than I am, I'm not going to worry about how I look, and instead concentrate on how I feel and how my racing performance is going, which are both quantifiable things with merit.

Oh, and I'm a size 8 in some things, a size 10 in others, and occasionally a size 6 on top but thats only due to vanity sizing those clothes are really a size 8-10

Being able to see your ribs is perfectly normal and healthy and rather different from being skeletal. Putting on weight as you get older isn't a necessity, but usually a consequence of the western diet and lack of exercise. People are so used to seeing unhealthy overweight people in this country it warps their sense of what is healthy and what isn't.

LessMissAbs Thu 22-Nov-12 23:24:27

By the way, I went up to around 8 stone 6 a couple of years ago and looked overly chunky. Since losing weight again, I get much more male attention - not thats what I'd judge anything by.

Pictureperfect Fri 23-Nov-12 02:24:09

There is a big difference between wanting to loose some more weight when people around you think you have lost enough and having anorexia nervosa. What was your goal weight, as do you keep changing the goal for lower? Anorexia is more than wanting to loose weight and from here we can't tell if you have a healthy relationship for food and other issues

MarjorieAntrobus Fri 23-Nov-12 02:39:22

I read this thread rather quickly.

Three things struck me;

1. You did well to lose the weight you did, and you are now at a sensible weight for your height.

2. You take a lot of notice of your mother's comments. Why do you mind that she says you are not slim enough?? What is her agenda here?

3. I think your DS is right to be concerned about you.

Sausagedog27 Fri 23-Nov-12 07:55:00

I lost 3stone a few years back- I was really proud of myself for it but for a small while it did become my sole focus and I was obsessive over it. I wouldn't say I had an eating disorder but I did need to take a step back from it.

One of the other things I thought was that being thin would mean I was happy, but in reality when I made it to my target weight, I still thought parts of me were fat and I was unhappy with my shape etc. I took up doing lots of exercise and also accepted the shape I was. Unfortunately you can't choose where you loose the fat from - ie your arms etc, but toning will really help.

Good luck op, but do try and be more objective about this. I found in the end that i came to my natural weight and no amount of exercise/reduction in diet would get me any lower.

I've lost 46lb now. I still have around 3 stone to go, I was very obese.
I'm already being told to stop by family - but I'm still classed as obese. My BMI is 30.5 now.

Incredibly frustrating. I'm far from eating disorder territory!

PetFox Fri 23-Nov-12 09:26:46

My brother lost 2 stone when he had salmonella and it was really shocking to me when I first saw him, so that my first reaction was to think he looked ill (he was better by then!) - he'd been quite overweight, and suddenly he had cheekbones and collarbones and defined shoulders. But he was still technically a little overweight and had a belly, so it was just the change in him that was so shocking. I think this is what makes family members overly concerned when a loved one loses weight. Don't listen to long as food isn't becoming your main concern, that is.

Ciske Fri 23-Nov-12 09:32:41

You must have a slight worry somewhere that he might be right, otherwise you wouldn't be posting this. Nobody on this board can judge whether you're anorexic unless they know your personality, your eating habits, and your current health state.

Why don't you go to the GP and ask if it's ok for you to lose more weight, or if he feels that could harm your health? Your current size sounds good to me (and I bet to most people!). Maybe the time has come to focus on getting a lifestyle that will help you maintain your current weight rather than constant dieting. That could be a nice challenge as well. smile

"my original goal was to get into a healthy bmi,
i think i need to lose more because i'm not quite there yet"

That, right there, is the problem. You are way into the healthy range now. Your BMI is, on paper, pretty much ideal. But you still want to lose more. It probably wouldn't make you any healthier, but you admit you're motivated by the challenge of changing the numbers.

Please bear in mind that in later years (i.e. your age onwards!), being at the top end of the BMI healthy range is better than being at the bottom, less risk of osteoperosis etc.

Losing weight can give a massive high, but that often leads to a distorted perspective and it's easy to assume there's no problem when in fact, there's the beginnings of one.

Which doesn't mean you have AN, but does mean you should take on board the concerns of those around you and chat with your GP, get yourself checked over, before attempting further weight loss.

ethelb Fri 23-Nov-12 09:45:36

I'm 5'2'' and 7stone10lbs would be the lowest healthy weight for me iyswim

legohouse Fri 23-Nov-12 14:19:02

Thank you,i have just logged in and had a read through all the replies.

I have taken on board the advice,i think i do possibly have a slight problem,i love the way i feel now,love the clothes i can wear now etc...i am very afraid of food now as it may take me back to where i used to be,heavy and miserable with a very limited wardrobe.

I have a small number of foods that i eat,i really don't see anything wrong with this...they are healthy and unprocessed,eg eggs,fat free natural yogurt,grapes,satsumas,lean meat and vegetables.

I do go swimming (with my younger children so i don't get a workout as such as watching them)

Walking is my big love and i am known where i live as the walking woman lol!

LessMissAbs Fri 23-Nov-12 14:54:06

I find it best not to talk about weight loss (other than with other competitive athletes) as some people can find it too emotive and get all worked up about it. Do what makes you feel comfortable, not what other people think you should do. I really found the comments about toning up by doing a sport slightly misinformed, as if that somehow excludes you from watching your weight. Its actually all about power to weight ratio and you don't want to carry any excess weight on top of muscle. So many slim people do in fact keep quite a close eye on their weight, it requires discipline unless you're natually thin, and I think thats what makes it emotive for some people.

legohouse Fri 23-Nov-12 16:59:05

yes,i think i am starting to agree!! i suppose it is a very personal thing and people have many differing opinions about it.

I have however found reading the replies very helpful so thanks again to you all,i heart mumsnet!

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