To refuse to give someone else control over my food shopping.

(57 Posts)
SCOTCHandWRY Thu 22-Nov-12 15:06:56

Ok, I ABU as this is slightly thread-about-threadish, however...

All the big supermarkets seem to be pushing their order online food delivery services as being a sensible, green and time efficient thing to do, but I think it's a rubbish idea (unless of course you really can't get to the supermarket).

I want to actually see and choose the food we are going to eat! This is particularly relevant to fresh foods - I want the longest use-by date, the least bruised etc (unless of course it's yellow stickered/reduced price because it has a short date, or isn't perfect).

My PIL get weekly deliveries (different supermarkets), no end of complaints about substitutions (even though they have said no substitutions!), short dates, bashed tins etc, have to wait in for deliveries, and pay about a fiver for the privilege.

Even if they PAID me a fiver to deliver my shopping, I still wouldn't do it!

complexnumber Thu 22-Nov-12 15:11:10

Biscuit with that.

threesocksmorgan Thu 22-Nov-12 15:13:01

yanbu I like to go and do my own

SCOTCHandWRY Thu 22-Nov-12 15:15:32

Only if I get to choose the Biscuit COMPLEX grin

We have had shit fruit every time since we started online. I used to do Ocado and it was fine.

MrsBucketxx Thu 22-Nov-12 15:21:10


i feel the same fresh stuff need to be looked at and felt.

Nope, I have enough control in everyday life to not need control over bashed tins.

very occasionally I like to go and have a look round a shop, most of the time I couldn't give a tiny fuck and prefer to sit at home drinking tea and doing something more fun.

VitoCorleone Thu 22-Nov-12 15:23:07

I use tesco and they're pretty good, always have stuff with good dates and i can usually get a delivery slot for £2.50.

Asda are shit though, used them once and they forgot a whole bag of shopping

VitoCorleone Thu 22-Nov-12 15:24:44

Should just add i take my driving test next week and if i pass i'll be doing my own shopping. But online has been a lifesaver for me these last couple of years.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 15:25:22

Nope never had bashed tins or shit fruit and short sell by dates. One time since they started doing it it has messed up (I got loads of free cake, jam tarts, brioche's and a free delivery coupon) I love my asda delivery man.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 15:26:44

Oh and £3:50 is cheepep then my bus fair to, if I really wanted to be frugal I could get the £2 one but that would mean waiting in all day.

Tee2072 Thu 22-Nov-12 15:27:36

With no car? Online shopping is perfect.

If I ever get a car and a license then maybe I'll go back to going to the supermarket, as I actually enjoy it.

I just don't enjoy lugging it home on the bus or in a taxi.

pictish Thu 22-Nov-12 15:27:44

I argued the same for years....but once when I wasd laid up I conceded, and it turns out it's fucking brilliant!
I have never had bashed fruit of bashed cans, or even a stupid substitute. They have always been on time, and to me it's worth every penny of the delivery.

So yabu.

cozietoesie Thu 22-Nov-12 15:28:36

I had a bashed egg once (the whole pack was credited to me) and that's the sum total of my problems with delivery. I also factored delivery into giving up my car so I walk to the local shops for some fresh produce and use delivery for the rest and the heavier items. I reckon to be way ahead.


PS - and I work it so that I get free delivery.

ObiWan Thu 22-Nov-12 15:29:44

It depends. I'd happily pay double what I do now to avoid hauling several children around the supermarket.

I specify which items I will accept subs for, and I specify long dates. We've never really had any problems.

I don't drive either, so having the stuff come to me is so much easier than buses or taxis, or having my husband sacrifice a couple of hours at the weekend.

pictish Thu 22-Nov-12 15:30:44

Same here Obi Wan.

Katisha Thu 22-Nov-12 15:31:12

I've never got past knowing how many grammes of broccoli I want. Filling in the list with weights and measures makes me go a bit helpless.

kdiddy Thu 22-Nov-12 15:32:20

YABU. It's convenient, easy and saves me money actually because I have a running total of my spend as I do it so always take stuff back out of the basket. Been doing it for a year now and only once have I ever ha any fresh stuff I wouldn't have picked up along with short dated stock. That was with Tesco - never used them since. Ocado all the way now and all of the fresh food are items I would have chosen myself.

Besides, anytime you eat out you're relying on someone else to have chosen decent fresh produce so you can't always have that level of control.

nickelbabeuntiladvent Thu 22-Nov-12 15:32:25

i agree with you.

i do buy veg boxes online, from a site called Food For Kent, whose aim is to help local farmers etc.
Otherwise I do like to buy that kind of thing in person.

Startail Thu 22-Nov-12 15:32:38

I haven't tried it yet. I know what sizes spuds cook on auto and how much fat I'll tolerate in my meat.

I like choosing my own things.

PhallicGiraffe Thu 22-Nov-12 15:34:18

If you want to waste two hours of your life, battling through the isles against all the other muppets, trying to find all the obscure foods you need, then waiting ages to get to the till, proceeded to take out all the food you just put into the trolley in order to pay for it and put it all back in again, they spend £££ on petrol or bus money getting it all home again...... Then power to you.

I will just get it all delivered in handy bags right to my door thank you very much. P.s. I use Ocado - they are good smile

Mintyy Thu 22-Nov-12 15:37:06

I do both. I went to Sainsbury's today and bought some things I haven't bought before, some things that I wouldn't have thought of if I hadn't seen them. I tend to be less imaginative with my online shopping.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 15:37:21

You can even get the drivers to come in and put it away for you if your a bit fragile.

izzyizin Thu 22-Nov-12 15:38:16

The time saved makes online shopping a no-brainer plus I tend to buy only what I need rather than filling a trolley up with 'let's have a try of that' goods.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 15:43:57

Although the last time I went to sainsburys I came out with a nutcracker for 5p! Wouldn't of got that online grin

akaemmafrost Thu 22-Nov-12 15:45:32


akaemmafrost Thu 22-Nov-12 15:45:44

That's for the OP btw.

cozietoesie Thu 22-Nov-12 15:48:49

No reason not to do both, InNeedOfBrandy. Having the heavier/larger stuff delivered leaves you free to enjoy a little bit of aisle grazing without the angst of a full trolley beside you. I still use the local small shops and delicatessens as well as real store supermarkets. Just not for as much bulk.

I used to say that and then I discovered Ocado. I still pop into the supermarket once or twice a week for top ups, but on the whole it is very nice to have the entire week's shopping sorted in 10 mins and all you have to do is put it away. Rarely had substitutions, any breakages are refunded no quibble and you get to keep the remainder, eg box of 6 eggs with one broken, get refund and keep 5 eggs. I have occasionally bought things in Sainsburys that have turned out to be not sealed properly, out of date or damaged and it is a palaver to take them back compared to a quick click on Ocado for a refund.

fuzzpig Thu 22-Nov-12 15:57:39

YANBU, it's your choice!

My family would be screwed without online shopping though. No car, and even before we got the delivery saver prepay thing, the delivery charge was less than bus fare.

DH has been on crutches for over 2 years and I have CFS so can't even stand in a queue let alone push a trolley round. Shame, as I actually really like food shopping.

lunar1 Thu 22-Nov-12 15:57:41

No idea how the last person to pick my shopping was employed. They substituted a whole chicken and gave me chicken crisps instead. Honestly how stupid do you have to be to think that is an ok replacement!

AnnIonicIsoTronic Thu 22-Nov-12 16:05:54

My bulky stuff comes to the door from tesco

My fresh stuff comes to the door from Kent

The future

I like shopping in person but i think I'd probably save a fortune if I did it online. I don't like the idea of other people selecting my fruit and veg so I don't think YABU.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:09:11

I used to get a f&v box, cancelled it as of this week, I was throwing stuff out and my freezer is packed with veg.

WilsonFrickett Thu 22-Nov-12 16:09:43

You do know it's not compulsory, don't you? If you don't want to shop on line, well, just ...don't. all the more cheaper delivery slots for me

QueenofNightmares Thu 22-Nov-12 16:10:54

YANBU I prefer the control over my own shopping can make sure the fruit isn't manky <I'm looking at you Tesco seller of moldy tomatoes> the meat isn't full of fat and I can get some nice RTC bargains while I'm at it. I don't drive I walk to the supermarket which is about a mile away then grab a taxi home for £3. I'd spend far more with online shopping as I wouldn't be able to adjust my meals to use the RTC stuff.

SCOTCHandWRY Thu 22-Nov-12 16:12:27

Interesting, the number of people who are recommending Ocado... unfortunately we have no Ocado here in Scotland (and only a tiny handful) of Waitrose.

And yes, I am a control freak about food as DS1 has a tree nut allergy, DS4 can't have cows milk and I can't have Gluten or egg yolk... I read ALL the labels! PIL have a couple of allergies too - hence the complaints re substitutions...

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 22-Nov-12 16:14:08

We do an Internet shop about once a month for things that they can't go wrong on, and then for food that needs to be fresh or have good dates on it, we do it ourselves. Works for us to do a bit of both.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 22-Nov-12 16:14:41

Well, YANBU because that's what puts me off but one day I will get round to trying it. DS likes looking at the fish though so for now it's a cheap treat grin

Bunbaker Thu 22-Nov-12 16:17:07

I use to mistrust online shopping until I was housebound with a medically fragile baby. Getting deliveries from Tesco was a life saver. I have been ordering from them for over 10 years and have been extremely fortunate with their service - from picking and packing to delivery. I have had very few errors, damaged goods or rubbish substitutes, and on the odd occasion it happened they have been very quick to refund me.

Why do you need to look at toilet roll, baked beans or washing powder? You can get the bulky stuff delivered once a month say and stock up with the fresh stuff as and when you need it.

I usually get my non food and non perishable stuff delivered and buy my meat and veg from local farm shops. It's a win win situation for me.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:19:02

You can read the labels online! It's not just a picture of the product.

AmberSocks Thu 22-Nov-12 16:20:24

I havnt entered a supermarket in 4 years!I have no idea why anyone still does!

In all that time i have never had any problems,i think once some milk leaked but that has been it.I use waitrose and sainsburys.They choose the freshest stuff they have(or are suposed to,they always have for me) and all the offers in store are online except for the stuff thats going out of date and they sell cheap at the end of the day.

Haughtyculture Thu 22-Nov-12 16:22:50

I'm a lazy cow so I love having shopping delivered!

SCOTCHandWRY Thu 22-Nov-12 16:22:52

We do an Internet shop about once a month for things that they can't go wrong on, and then for food that needs to be fresh or have good dates on it, we do it ourselves. Works for us to do a bit of both.

A sensible approach - but I still wouldn't like hanging around for deliveries (pretty rural so delivery drivers often lost, late).

Bitdifferent Thu 22-Nov-12 16:25:01

Ooh that reminds me I must just add a box of clementines to my order for tomorrow! My order that will probably be waiting for me when I get home from school tomorrow morning, all delivered and put away by 9.15. Another ocado shopper here. The fruit and meat are fine, no substitutes and rarely late (usually early) with one hour slots. I hate shopping, it's much easier shopping on my phone whilst I sit with dd2 as she reluctantly does her maths homework!

SantaisBarredfromhavingStella Thu 22-Nov-12 16:28:37

I use Tesco who are pretty good, never had bashed fruit, short dates or crap substitutions in fact a bottle of wine I ordered for a fiver was substituted for a £10 bottle & price matched so quite impressed.....
I also only pay £2.50 for delivery for a slot when I'd normally be in-would cost me more than that in petrol.

So all in all I think YAB a bit U

Bunbaker Thu 22-Nov-12 16:30:32

"but I still wouldn't like hanging around for deliveries"

Ocado do one hour slots, Tesco do two hour slots, and all the drivers have satnavs. It seems that you are just looking for reasons not to even try an online shop. I was sceptical at first, but it frees up so much more of my time.

Life is too short to spend lots of time in a supermarket.

InNeedOfBrandy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:32:40

Oh and if you do need to pop to the corner shop during your delivery slot and they come guess what, they ring you and wait for you to come home. grin

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Thu 22-Nov-12 16:47:13

I have better things to do after a night shift than shop so I love internet shopping. I can get home, sleep and wake up just in time for Mr Tesco to deliver me some shopping. I do sometimes shop in store but I guess I am lucky, the dates have always been good and if I am fussy about a product I just select the 'no substitutions' option, most of my fruit and veg comes from my veg box so I don't really encounter the problems you speak of.

maybenow Thu 22-Nov-12 16:52:50

I get deliveries from sainsburys - one hour slots for delivery, no hanging around grin

I get fruit and veg from an organic box scheme and bake my own bread so mainly dry goods, cleaning stuff and toiletries... never had an issue. I don't accept many substitutions, and they always check if you want them at the door and you can send them away if you dont' want them.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Thu 22-Nov-12 16:55:00

I am very rural too which is another reason I like internet shopping, it saves me getting in the car and trawling my sorry backside to the supermarket, especially at this time of year when our roads can be foul.

Bunbaker Thu 22-Nov-12 16:56:46

I forgot to add that we live in a rural area and it is cheaper to pay the full delivery charge than get in the car to go to the supermarket.

MrsChristmasVamos Thu 22-Nov-12 16:59:37

I like internet shopping, I do quite a bit online. Only ever used Tesco, and they are very good, if items are missing it's refunded, or if it's the wrong item...they also refund delivery if they are late.

Apparently if you have a Waitrose near you, I think if you spend a certain amount in there once you have shopped you can get it delivered for free.

Iceland also home deliver if you spend £25 or more.

Bunbaker Thu 22-Nov-12 17:02:11

I have had another idea. Tesco offer a service where you place an order, they pick it and pack it and you collect it. All the meat and veg will be packed together so you can check your order before you leave the shop.

ChippingInLovesAutumn Thu 22-Nov-12 17:02:50

Do you always moan this much about things that are available &/or optional and not compulsory? What's the point? If you don't want to do it, don't do it - why give it a second thought let alone start a thread about it?

BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte Thu 22-Nov-12 17:06:38

I don't drive, so delivery is cheaper than getting a taxi home with a big shop.

Ocado have very detailed product information about ingredients, allergies etc. I also find the customer reviews helpful. The minimum shelflives are also given.

The drivers are occasionally late, especially in the evenings, but there is always someone here in the evenings so not a problem, also they are very good at keeping you informed if they are running late. I often use the 7.30 to 8.30am slot so it is all done before school. The drivers have been without exception polite and helpful.

I live within 5 mins drive of a big Sainsburys and have two child free days a week so I could easily do my own shopping but I really like Ocado and have plenty of other things I'd rather do with the time.

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