About costume for nativity

(32 Posts)

So, DD1 is a star in the nativity and needs a costume by end of November. She's in reception so first thing I have had to make and I was quite looking forward to it.

DH just emailed to say he has bought a star costume off Amazon. I sent him a (shirty) email back saying he will be sending it back as I am making it.

Aside from the fact that I was looking forward to making it, I also don't see the point on spending £12 on something I can make for practically nothing. (I just need to get some card).

Oh and I'm currently a SAHM so have the time. So, WIBU to make him send it back? I feel a bit bad now as he thought he was being helpful.

(There may even be 'etiquette' on making/buying costumes that I'm not aware of).

Fakebook Tue 20-Nov-12 12:30:25

No you won't. £12 is a rip off for a star! If you have time to make one then go for it!

I bought dd one 3 years ago for £1 from m&s. she's in reception year too so I'm hoping she's a star in her nativity.

NoraGainesborough Tue 20-Nov-12 12:31:22

Yanbu to went to make it. However make sure its good. My friend always wants to this. But, tbh, they are rubbish. Her child is now old enough to tell her and she has stopped.

Yabu to get shirty with him. What's wrong with and email that says ' I know you were trying to help but I was really looking forward to making it. So I will be sending it back.

Don't get why some people get crappy when people try to help

imnotmymum Tue 20-Nov-12 12:32:28

You need to make it IME bought costumes are a cop out. Get away with a bit of tin foil whist you can !!!!

imnotmymum Tue 20-Nov-12 12:33:15

However let your DD decide she may love the Amazon one.

5Foot5 Tue 20-Nov-12 12:34:36

I made a star costume for DD when she was in Pre-school.I got some corrugated cardboard from a big box and made two large star shapes which I covered in foil and glitter and then fastened them together with tapes at the shoulder so she could wear them as a sort of tabard.

They survived for years and were used as an extra decoration over the banisters!

Do feel a bit sorry for your DH who was only trying to be helpful but I am sure if you explain how much you were lookijg forward to this he will understand.

Aw I loved making costumes when DD was little. And think of all the lovely World Book Days still to come wink

MargeySimpson Tue 20-Nov-12 12:34:39

asda and tesco do them for about a fiver! If you have the time, it is sort of a right of passage to make it though smile

Jingleflobba Tue 20-Nov-12 12:34:54

The one and only time I bought a costume for DS (a king) it fell apart after the dress rehearsal and I had to go in and sew him into the damn thing for the actual performance. I might as well have made it! YANBU
(But I bet DH thought he was saving you some time)

5Foot5 Tue 20-Nov-12 12:34:36
I made a star costume for DD when she was in Pre-school.I got some corrugated cardboard from a big box and made two large star shapes which I covered in foil and glitter and then fastened them together with tapes at the shoulder so she could wear them as a sort of tabard.

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This is exactly what I was going to do.

I know IWBU to be snippy with him and I sent an email straight after saying I knew he was trying to help. TBF the email only said "NO - I am making it, you can send it back." And DH has form for getting involved in things that are already sorted. (I thought of him on the spoonfuckerery thread the other night).

typicalvirgo Tue 20-Nov-12 12:42:12

Hmm... I am definitely in the home made camp. That's what it's all about isn't it?

Ds is a villager next week and from what I can gather from talking to other parents he will be in the minority dressed in a home made outfit and these are Sahm too.

I get that some parents work and can't find the time to make something and a click on the Internet is easy, but half an hour and two old tea towels wasn't too onerous.

If you are keen and have the ability - go for it !

I've got to be honest and say that I'm on the side of a click on Amazon sorts it out but that's just because I'm crap at things like this and wouldn't want to embarrass my DC's and I'd be really impressed if my DH ever thought to try to help out and sort it for me.

I have just sent another (nice) email saying how much I was looking forward to making it but thanking him for considering it. I feel quite mean now. blush

It's still going back though...

MummyPig24 Tue 20-Nov-12 12:58:38

YANBU if you really want to make it. Sometimes its nice to do these things yourself. Currently battling with ds who is seriously cheesed off about being an angel in the nativity and is refusing to take part!

Jingleflobba Tue 20-Nov-12 13:10:24

<thanking whatever god/dess is hanging around that Dd is a narrator and only needs to wear party clothes>
I am crap at sewing...

MordecaiAndTheRigbys Tue 20-Nov-12 13:11:52

I'd buy rather than make. I am hopeless at that kind of thing.. bit off to get snotty with him. At least you tried to make amends though. He was only tryin to help. You say he has form for getting involved in things that are already sorted. Well why isn't he allowed to help when they are getting sorted? Sounds to me like he wants to help?

Very glad that pre-school provide the costumes!!

Poor bugger, he was probably only trying to help. Some men can't do right for doing wrong.

Oh of course he is 'allowed' to help. But last night he asked about it I said what I was going to do...and then this morning he bought one. Oh and he does get involved in the planning...but he has a bad habit of 'forgetting' and then planning something else. (He does it to his family as well - like arranging to go his sister's AFTER he has already confirmed he is coming to my niece's birthday party).

If it's something we have agreed I'm dealing with then why ride roughshod over that? Same as if he was organising something I wouldn't then go and do something totally different.

He is fab generally - it's just this habit of going off and changing plans that have already (I thought) been agreed. Fair enough if he had just said shall we buy one but to just do irked me.

So for instance, in the example above, the first I knew that he had arranged for us to go to his sister's house for dinner was when I saw her in the morning and she said 'see you later for dinner'. When the birthday party had been arranged for ages.

Woozley Tue 20-Nov-12 14:02:45

Star tabards were £5 in Asda when DD1 was in nursery.

ISeeSmallPeople Tue 20-Nov-12 14:05:59

Stars were £2 in tesco!

Embellish it by all means. But don't go all Kirsty just for the sake of it.

CwtchesAndCuddles Tue 20-Nov-12 14:13:01

I'm in the make not buy camp but sometimes it's just not cost effective. This year dd is a sheep. School want an all in one jumpsuit type thing which is actually cheaper to buy than make!!

Maker your own but don't give your dh a hard time for trying to be helpful.

DeWe Tue 20-Nov-12 14:18:19

I've loved making costumes for them. Ds is a narrator this year. He was very happy until he saw his costume requirements. "Smart clothes! I am not wearing smart clothes! They're uncomfortable!"
Hopefully the teacher will be happy with shorts and a t-shirt. grin

5Foot5 Tue 20-Nov-12 16:57:42

But don't go all Kirsty just for the sake of it.

But some people actually ENJOY doing just that!!

ISeeSmallPeople Tue 20-Nov-12 17:29:52

She must be your first grin
By the third I take any short cut I can. I need a light house keepers outfit by Monday if you'll take orders? thanks

Yes she is my PFB. grin

DH is fine about it. He is used to my outbursts of over-reacting.

A lighthouse you say...

ISeeSmallPeople Tue 20-Nov-12 18:20:33

Put all world book day, roald Dahl day, alien day, bug day, fairy tale day, lighthouse keepers day, children in need, red nose day, sports relief, etc stuff in your diary now. Some happen every bloody year.

Check what older children are wearing, & scan all the newsletters so you have a vague idea of when the next unreasonable demand polite notice from school will drop through her book bag.

PenguinBear Tue 20-Nov-12 19:31:42

YANBU to want to make it although just wanted to say how lovely your dp sounds smile. Much better than having one who never changed one nappy and now refuses to come to parents evening / school concerts as he's done it all before. Awful seeing all the other dp's there and knowing yours just cannot be bothered sad

CollieEyeOfNewt Tue 20-Nov-12 19:41:18

Oh thank god pre-school provided the costumes when DS came home and announced he was "the merkin" in his play shock confused
And his friends were "the franky sense king" and "the gold king".

Oh, I see! grin

BlackholesAndRevelations Tue 20-Nov-12 19:43:12

YABU to be stressing about this so much. Have you nothing else to worry about?

5Foot5 Tue 20-Nov-12 20:35:52

ISeeSmallPeopleTue 20-Nov-12 17:29:52
I need a light house keepers outfit by Monday if you'll take orders?

RatherBeACyborgTue 20-Nov-12 18:08:13
A lighthouse you say...

Haha! Now I have this mental picture of an enthusiastic mum not reading the letter properly, spending all weekend on the costume and then going in to school on Monday with their PFB draped from head to foot in a red and white cylindrical column with a light and toy helicopter on their head while everyone else's child is just wearing a souwester.

kilmuir Tue 20-Nov-12 20:41:54

never had to make any costumes, all the schools my Dc have attended have supplied the costume.
badly made homemade ones are awful

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