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To wonder why people are on MN that arent parents

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TraineeBabyCatcher Sun 18-Nov-12 22:44:59

Parents of some variation, ie grandparents, step, those TTC etc
Or say, nannys and jobs such as those.

Not that they shouldn't be, just intrigued why you might be?

Because there's a huge amount of support and information on all kinds of subjects that are nothing to do with parenting; mental health, relationships, food, dogs etc.
It's a huge website, makes sense to come here smile

Gumby Sun 18-Nov-12 22:48:23

Because people get lonely

PinkMacaroon Sun 18-Nov-12 22:49:08

This comes up regularly.

I have god children and siblings. I can't have children but it doesn't mean that I'm not interested in other people's experiences or want to read all of the other topics which aren't specifically related to children and being a parent.

BoakFace Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:14

It's entertaining grin

cheesesarnie Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:18

why shouldn't they?

TraineeBabyCatcher Sun 18-Nov-12 22:51:06

There is shock.

That's a good point, to be fair I love AIBU, mostly the stuff not about kids so I guess if they don't have this anywhere else, you might come on for this.
I don't venture any further than AIBU because I can't be bothered with the effort it takes on my phone

WorraLiberty Sun 18-Nov-12 22:51:17

Because at a guess I'd say well over 50% of the conversations have nothing to do with children or being a parent.

There's relationship support, addiction support, slimming support, TTC support...the list is endless.

LessMissAbs Sun 18-Nov-12 22:51:56

Perhaps because they have, or have had at some point in their lives, a mum?

Sunscorch Sun 18-Nov-12 22:52:19

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but are you implying that step-parents aren't parents?

CharlieCoCo Sun 18-Nov-12 22:53:11

Im a nanny but without kids. Im on here because i was linked to it on another site, to the AIBU page. I became hooked on it and it took me a while to realise their were other topics on here lol. I go on the baby name page too just because i love names-and have opinions on if you have chosen a good name for your baby or not wink

independentfriend Sun 18-Nov-12 22:54:23

Because it's nice/useful to be reminded of the hard stuff about parenting whilst dealing with enormous broodiness.

Sallyingforth Sun 18-Nov-12 22:54:23

Hi OP!

I'm not a parent. But I hope to be one before too long and I'd like to learn something about the job first.

Does that answer your question?

TraineeBabyCatcher Sun 18-Nov-12 22:54:53

No I'm not sun I was just trying my make my point clear that I didn't just mean birth parents.

Thanks everyone, I guess seen as I haven't looked much further than here, then there is a lot I haven't seen/not aware of.

GreenyEyes Sun 18-Nov-12 22:55:49

I have three children but I'd say about 5% of my posts mention them.

I seem to talk about serial killers mostly nowadays, which is worrying.

MonthlyName Sun 18-Nov-12 22:56:58

* Sun scorch* I didn't read it that way, I read it as understanding you would use mn if you parented in some way I.e. step or were ttc

Sunscorch Sun 18-Nov-12 22:57:11

Well, colour me confused.

TwllBach Sun 18-Nov-12 22:57:37

I found my way here when I was googling something for an assignment on my teacher training course. Then I read some threads on classics and laughed till I cried, then I had a miscarriage and just cried. Then I had another and MN were wonderful, and most recently I ended a six year relationship, aided by MNers.

MonthlyName Sun 18-Nov-12 22:58:19

X post with the op
I'm in the ttc camp and trying to learn as much as I can before my brain turns to mush with baby tiredness when it finally happens

RobinSparkles Sun 18-Nov-12 22:58:40

They probably googled something, it brought them here and they realised how knowledgeable and fabulous MNers are.

That's how I got sucked in!

Most of the threads are nowt to do with being a mum are they?

stookiesackhouse Sun 18-Nov-12 23:01:34

I kept coming across MN Talk when googling tv reviews and cat/kitten stuff and got hooked on aibu and then active conversations smile I got brilliant support on here when my relationship broke down earlier this year.

I think MN is a great community, a brilliant resource - and very entertaining grin

It's not just for mums here is it?

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:03:04

I do have kids but I hardly ever talk about them on here

I also have a husband who is barely mentioned

Because I don't socially interact much in life other than with three professionals who are paid to talk to me.

I flit between here and one other forum and it's the only form of social interaction I get - it's rather sad, but that's the gist of it really.

The other forum is primarily aimed at young adults who generally do not deal with the things I do in my life and so this is a place where I know people have on average more life experience and will be able to talk to me.

Mumsnet is also probably one of the busiest forums in the UK at least which makes it a good place to be.

Meaning I get social interaction out of here and it makes me feel less lonely and somewhere to turn to when needing help etc.

StuntGirl Sun 18-Nov-12 23:05:11

I googled the recipe to Nigella's bourbon glazed ribs because I was too lazy to go downstairs and get the book and ended up here, and never left. That ok with you OP? grin

Kundry Sun 18-Nov-12 23:05:57

Because a friend told me about Classics. After I stopped crying with laughter I looked around, stayed and then thought I should stop lurking. There are all sorts of people here which is brilliant and I tend to go to topics that I can relate to.

LightHousekeeping Sun 18-Nov-12 23:06:23

Because I like talking about crap tv shows I'm addicted to and wouldn't dare tell my rl friends!

LadyBeagle Sun 18-Nov-12 23:06:48

I have a 17 year old ds, who I mention in passing, but MN is so much more than parenting.
I never go on any of the parenting topics, I go on to have a laugh.

TraineeBabyCatcher Sun 18-Nov-12 23:08:25

Never thought of coming here via google, I guess I just didn't really think hard enough. smile

No stunt girl that is just not good enough wink

DalekInAFestiveJumper Sun 18-Nov-12 23:09:32

I teach. I find it useful to try and see things from the other side.

amillionyears Sun 18-Nov-12 23:10:25

MN can be more interesting than the TV.

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:10:44

You are quite new, TBC ?

You are forgiven. We all post a bit of a daft thread when we are new. The we learn smile

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:11:02


TheDarkestNight Sun 18-Nov-12 23:12:02

Very few places on the internet are so full of intelligent, funny and honest women. It's a nice antidote to the whole 'tits or GTFO' attitude of many forums (fora?). It's hilarious.

Everythingwillbeok Sun 18-Nov-12 23:12:55

Hi OP I actually agree with you never would it occur to me to log onto mum set if I didn't have kids. Not saying people can't but I just wouldn't

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:13:06

gtfo ?

TheDarkestNight Sun 18-Nov-12 23:17:11

Get The Fuck Out. The reaction of people on certain male-dominated sites, on discovering that someone is female. They want to see pictures. Pleasant, it aint.

FarelyKnuts Sun 18-Nov-12 23:18:23

Gtfo- get the fuck out/off?

FarelyKnuts Sun 18-Nov-12 23:18:58

Oops not quick enough grin

quoteunquote Sun 18-Nov-12 23:19:43

It takes a village to rase a child, the more people who are interested and informed on the wellbeing of the future generations the better for everyone in society.

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:19:47

ah, I see

I don't use "male dominated" anything tbh

and if I see it, I doubt I would be welcome around those parts

LivingInAPinkBauble Sun 18-Nov-12 23:20:46

I have no children yet but DH and I would like to start ttc in the not too distant future. I am learning a lot about babies through being on here. I originally joined through my job as a primary teacher, interesting to see parent perspectives, but there is also a staff room topic I found to my surprise earlier today. I love the wit and funny threads and it is the only site to my limited knowledge that covers such a wide variety of people and topics.
Mumsnet I luffs you <shamelessly creeping now, for fear of being ousted for my inexperience of childbirth>

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:21:33

You can stay, bauble smile

LivingInAPinkBauble Sun 18-Nov-12 23:23:25

Thank you AnyFucker grin

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:24:05

not that it is anywhere near my decison grin

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:24:13


StuntGirl Sun 18-Nov-12 23:24:47

Would v. much like to thank the poster who did post that recipe in 2007 though, you've saved my lazy arse many a time!

StuntGirl Sun 18-Nov-12 23:25:28

Would v. much like to thank the poster who did post that recipe in 2007 though, you've saved my lazy arse many a time!

TheDarkestNight Sun 18-Nov-12 23:25:36

AnyFucker, I did see, I did call, I came to Mumsnet instead!

StuntGirl Sun 18-Nov-12 23:25:58

Oops, did a Chaos blush

expatinscotland Sun 18-Nov-12 23:26:03

because . . . well, who cares? It's a huge site and I think the more who come on, the better.

Me personally: I ended up here because a mate of mine was either pregnant or had a new baby (I've honestly forgotten when exactly this was!), and she found MN and found it hilarious bonkers. She didn't stick around but she told me it was very funny (in the laughing at, not laughing with, sense).

And I found you, and I found you very funny and lovely and wise, and I stuck around. smile

However, shedloads of people on MN are students because that can be quite solitary, so I know that's another reason people sometimes end up here.

TraineeBabyCatcher Sun 18-Nov-12 23:27:03

Not really new Anyfucker, maybe just that I haven't really looked much further than this part of mumsnet as I only come on on my phone and its a pain.

I wasn't criticizing anyone for doing so, I just couldnt think of why you might. Now I see there are actually hundreds of reasons

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 23:27:12

good decision, TDN smile

TheDarkestNight Sun 18-Nov-12 23:28:00

LRD, I'm a student, of sorts. I just like a natter.

GetorfsaMotherfuckingMorrisMan Sun 18-Nov-12 23:28:03

I like the fact that there are non parents on here.

I usually post abput other stuff than parenting to be honest.

HildaOgden Sun 18-Nov-12 23:28:31

I do have kids,but I tend to avoid most threads about parenting because I love nattering with other women,either in real life or online

MichelleRooJnr Sun 18-Nov-12 23:58:00

I originally joined MN when TTC.
After 4 failed IVFs it aint happening but I don't feel I need to leave.
There's loads on here that's not child related, and the stuff that is, well it's often about how hard it is which in all honesty I take heart from.
I'm very much excluded from a lot of RL. And although you might think MN is a strange place for a bitter infertile to hang out - go and have a look at what's available in forum land for people like me. Zilch. It's "Childfree and happy" where they bitch about parents all day or "Still TTC" where they focus on, well, ttc.
I want to chat to a mix of people who may or may not have kids but have LOTS else going on in their lives.
Aren't you ever interested in hearing the views of non-parents?

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 00:07:45

I was a lurker for ages and signed up to post about a particular TTC issue. Have since split with partner but still like to come on here for the japes, plus every now and then a serious topic will catch my eye and I can spend hours over one thread. I turned 27 just 7 minutes ago, and have quite a few friends my age with babies and young kids, so I find MN useful to research their parenting styles (just out of interest) without having to ask them directly and look judgey. I know it's annoying when people with no kids tell people with kids how to parent. Also I do hope to have children one day, if that's fate's plan for me, so this is a valuable resource for when that time comes. smile

MardyBra Mon 19-Nov-12 00:14:56

Happy Birthday Error. thanks

Ullena Mon 19-Nov-12 00:30:27

Happy Birthday, ErrorError!

I joined as we are on the road to adoption and it's nice to be able to talk about that and ask for advice, etc. Then I got hooked onto AIBU...

I'm a nanny with no kids of my own. I joined MN after it was linked on nannyjob and ended up moving over to here really as I prefer the frank chat and AIBU!

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 00:40:33

Thank you! Didn't mean to hijack thread with my birthday, but thought it was a bit relevant because I was feeling a bit emotional and philosophical this evening. (Emotional due to recent ending of 4 year relationship, and feeling a bit wobbly at the prospect of having to 'start all over again')

AIBU is my fave, and I occasionally pop into Chat. and when I'm bored/lonely I love to browse through Classics for a laugh.

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Mon 19-Nov-12 00:44:08

I believe there are also men who listen to Woman's Hour


ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 00:48:25

I am also fond of CBeebies. Worried now that I'm not supposed to be watching it by myself!

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Mon 19-Nov-12 00:59:00

If you are over 5 error, then no you shouldn't

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Mon 19-Nov-12 01:02:19

Just saw your birthday post, error! Definitely shouldn't be watching cbeebies! Happy birthday!

squoosh Mon 19-Nov-12 01:18:21

Because they come to look in awe as someone tells a story about how their cherub was caught scooping poo out of his nappy and eating it.

Or they fancy Tom Hardy
Or they despise their MIL
Or they need to know how often people change their sheets
Or they like to talk about Samantha Brick
Or they are on the 5:2 diet
Or they get angry when H is pronounced Haitch
Or they don't approve of Halloween
Or they approve of Halloween
Or they read something annoying on facebook
Or their neighbour parks their car outside their house
Or they want to know if baby Blanche is now called Blanche
Or they really, really fancy Tom Hardy
Or they think Tom Hardy isn't a patch on Benedict Cumberbatch
Or they want to know if everyone showers every day
Or they want to know what the rash on their bum might be

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 01:23:06

Haha! I started watching In the Night Garden because it was on when I visited a friend and her baby, then got a bit hooked blush That Baby Jake freaks me out a bit, but I love Mr Tumble and the other chap with the talking veg. Must stop!!!!!

I was just wondering (and this is slightly related to the OP, do people prefer the term childless or child-free?) I'd say I'm a child-free MNer, but hope that doesn't make me sound like I'm anti children. I don't think many people would be anti-kids if they were on MN anyway. Just a musing I had.

As you were. grin

BadLad Mon 19-Nov-12 01:26:41

Surfed in while looking for something else. Found some of the discussions interesting, so I continued reading.

Also I don't live in the UK but for my job I need to keep up with what people in the UK are discussing / thinking, and this site is one of the sources I use for that.

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Mon 19-Nov-12 01:28:58

Ah, who is your favourite In the Night Garden character? Mine's makkka pakka. Doesn't iggle piggle look like David Cameron?

Did we ever find out about Blanche? Oh, Blanche....<wistful>

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 01:35:28

I can never remember what they're called but I like the ones who live in mound that looks like it's made of twiglets inside (tombliboos?) but they're also a bit annoying because it takes them a whole episode to figure something out that would take normal people 30 seconds! LOL at iggle piggle/David Cameron! Yes!!

I do also enjoy the baby name threads... such as "What do people think of 'Eglantine'?", OP gets shot down and then she gets the hump because no-one agrees with her grin. If there is a baby Blanche thread I'm intrigued, please link if you find it!

squoosh Mon 19-Nov-12 01:37:47
kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Mon 19-Nov-12 01:40:37

Oh Blanche... I do hope you exist.

Twiglets grin

What plans for your birthday? Apart from reading up on Blanche of course.

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 01:42:13

Thanks! Will read properly later, but just scanned through and noticed the OP did not update, how frustrating! Baby Blanche might be a couple of months old by now!

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 01:43:05

Lazy Birthday for me. Never work on my birthday, tradition! Bubble bath and a roast dinner, lots of sherry!!

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Mon 19-Nov-12 02:01:25

Sounds perfect!

My daughter has finally settled after choking on her calpol at 12.00 sad so I'm off to bed till she wakes again in half an hour

Blanche where are you?! Sob....

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 02:07:35

Aww hope your daughter's okay, must be frightening for you. I think I'd be tempted to accidentally on purpose revive the Blanche thread just to force the OP to update!! Can't help but think of Corrie or The Golden Girls. Or blanching potatoes confused. Poor thing. Would have been better if OP's DS got to choose the name instead of her DH! Or maybe not.

boomting Mon 19-Nov-12 02:10:37

I originally came on here because there was so much bollox being talked on the chicken keepers forum that I couldn't quite walk away. Nowadays, I also post in the FE section because there is some (but nowhere near as much) bollox talked there.

ZebraOwl Mon 19-Nov-12 02:47:54

Someone directed me to the Infamous Cutted Up Pear & I hung about Just Reading for, er, a year or so, I think? Only joined last week because of the hole I'd bitten through my tongue reading "Guiding/Scouting = (a) Christian organisation(s)" grin

I am a volunteer with Girlguiding UK in various capacities working with Brownies, Guides & Senior Section (so 7-26 year olds) & it IS useful to See It From The Other Side.

I don't have children of my own & chances are - leaving aside the whole Terminally Single thing I have going* - I won't ever have children of my own thanks to Being Broken. However, I did a lot of the Bringing Up of My Naughty Little Sister following the death of our mother when I was 10y5m & my sister was 7y8.5m old, so I am not completely without Parenting Experience. Just rather too much of it too young. Which is still going - I got all emptynesty when I was barely in my 20s & am now hearing my sister turn into me when she deals with her daughter & her step-daughter. (Plus some overtones of both our grandmothers, in fairness & echoes of Mummy. It's a good mix.)

* NB I'm honestly not bothered by Being Single. I have embraced my cat-mad spinster fate quite happily grin

Loveweekends10 Mon 19-Nov-12 05:46:42

You seem a little thoughtless by asking that question. What about people who are trying to be mums that need the support. Or want to be mums in the future? Or can't be mums because they are with a bloke that won't let them?
I think life is a little more diverse than you are thinking and so consequently so is this site.

teacherandguideleader Mon 19-Nov-12 07:26:35

I got directed to this site by a link from somewhere else. I spend 90% of my time with children and have learned some useful tips - especially for when I am on residential trips. I feel I have a much better understanding of what might make some parents go 'woooaahhh, that's not right'. It is a real bug bear of mine that one of my parent helpers thinks I can't possibly know anything about children because I don't have any (although I used to teach her child - her parenting skills were nothing to be proud of!).

I would like to have children one day, although medically it might not be possible. I'm hoping that if/when that happens I'll have somewhere I can go for support.

exoticfruits Mon 19-Nov-12 07:35:52

It is open to everyone- you can come on and never have to mention children. You are also allowed to have opinions even if you don't!
It is very insular to restrict it.

I have no children and very little to do with children but dp and I were taking his godson out for the day so I googled things to do and MN came up

As others have said it's great to have a site that is predominantly populated by intelligent women. I've learnt lots through being on here

exoticfruits Mon 19-Nov-12 07:40:12

You also won't find anything funnier!

TraineeBabyCatcher Mon 19-Nov-12 08:19:16

Loveweekend- I did actually mention those TTC. I was not intending to be insensitive I was genuinely interested as to why people may have come here other than for the more obvious reasons.
I personally think it was a perfectly reasonable question and I have been given some responses that I would definately not have thought of as to why you may end up here. I wasn't saying there is a right or wrong reason just wondering what they may be.

AmandaCooper Mon 19-Nov-12 08:50:41

I'm not aware of any other forum like this but not parenting. Maybe there are some but I've never come across one. There's plenty of topics which have nothing to do with children. Most of them in fact.

Latara Mon 19-Nov-12 09:03:56

I would like to TTC in the future; but not met a suitable man (hopefully will one day soon!) & take meds that don't go with TTC.

I looked up Mumsnet out of curiosity after the Daily Mail said it would be 'a Mumsnet election' at the last general election, so was curious as to what MNers were actually like.

I stumbled on AIBU & Chat, couldn't stop laughing at certain threads (but in a good way) & wanted to join in.
Much of MN is more aimed at women in general than just Mums.
There are too many male dominated forums on the net.
Although some men are on here too, which is fine.

Latara Mon 19-Nov-12 09:05:34

Also i met many men with DC so the prospect of Step-Mum-hood is fairly high at my age (36).

TandB Mon 19-Nov-12 09:06:04

I know. Because we're all so boring and have no opinions on anything but children.

Latara Mon 19-Nov-12 09:07:31

Thanks to MN i've been able to give a bit of advice to my divorced male neighbour who only sees his son fortnightly; & who gets quite stressed over it.

RuleBritannia Mon 19-Nov-12 09:13:52

TraineeBabyCatcher When do grandparents stop being parents?

TraineeBabyCatcher Mon 19-Nov-12 09:25:26

They don't, I was just trying to make it clear that I didn't just mean one specific 'group' of parents. That I could think of those with a more direct link, it was the other reasons you might not necessarily think of.

I've no children and not TTC but I like it on here. I get to let off steam at ILs then realise they are actually quite nice, I like to chat about books and various light hearted issues, I'm nosy about other people's lives. All sorts of things keep me on here.

MN has also taught me to be much more accepting and understanding of kids around me. A couple of years ago a child having a tantrum in a supermarket would have me muttering about brats, now I'm so much less judgemental and 9 times out of 10 have sympathy for the poor mum who might be having the day from hell and can do without nasty comments. I do still hoik my judgey pants from time to time, just not my first reaction anymore.

Pagwatch Mon 19-Nov-12 09:40:43

You do know that you will have to respond to
A) clarify that you are now aware of loads of good reasons why 'currently not parents' would be on a parenting forum and
B) that you were not in anyway being rude about any of the groups of people mentioned in your op...
..until the end of time

I thought the OP was quite polite - she said she was just interested, not suggesting anyone shouldn't be here.

It'd be interesting to map out why we are all here and what topics/threads different demographics go on.

TheCatIsEatingIt Mon 19-Nov-12 10:21:28

I came investigating when the Gordon Brown Biscuit Hoo-Ha took place. I was single and nowhere near TTC at that stage, but got hooked on AIBU. I'm an auntie and a godmother, so am interested in people's experience of kids, and will be TTC in the new year, so have recently been reading about conception and pregnancy and wishing I hadn't

doctordwt Mon 19-Nov-12 10:24:34

Because it's like the biggest and most engrossing set of problem pages and coffee shop gossip you've ever seen in your life.

I browsed here for hours before I had kids, followed a link one time and ended up HOOKED.

Anyone who likes chatting and gossiping and amusing stories would like this place. I think the having kids thing is little to do with that!

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 10:27:15

people like forums these days they love a natter a bit of advice whatever mumsnet fills that not all of the people here talk about their children all the time or post about children I don't i will mention them but i dont post in parenting topics ,

TraineeBabyCatcher Mon 19-Nov-12 10:37:28

The posts about not talking about children has actually made me realise how little I actually talk about my child here!
I love that, for the majority, people give it to you straight especially on AIBU.

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 10:39:41

TBF my children are older 1 an adult sometimes i give out old wives tales adivce and i get this face confused grin

MulledWineOnTheBusLady Mon 19-Nov-12 10:41:50

I think I googled how to get mould out of something. Those were the mouldy years.

Trainee I always wonder that too. Doesn't bother me either way, and I know that MN covers everything, not just motherhood. But I don't think it ever would have occurred to me to look and find that out, until I had children.

Mould clearly brings the childless flocking to MN. I find MN brilliant for that stuff too.

At some point all my childless mates will realize the reason I know all this stuff isn't that I'm a domestic genius, it's that I ask the hive mind all the time.

Pandemoniaa Mon 19-Nov-12 10:46:40

It hadn't occurred to me that I'd become a "parent of some variation". Oddly enough, when I had my dcs, I'd assumed it was a permanent connection. No matter how old they, or I became.

But to answer your question, I am here precisely because you are not determined by being a parent or indeed judged unwanted if you aren't. Discussions are too wide ranging for that to be the case.

As it happens, I'm also a grandmother and find it really helpful to keep up with current thinking and ideas because I'm fortunate enough to have a very close relationship with her and, of course, her parents.

Not that I should have to justify myself to you, OP, anymore than I expect you to face an interrogation as to your suitability to participate on MN.

fraktion Mon 19-Nov-12 10:49:08

Zebra you sound/write an awful lot like a (Guidey and something else involving books and guide camping locations) person I know... I may accidentally mention MN the next time I see you and watch closely.

The days of getting flamed off for not having DC are gone... And it never really worked anyway. I got told to Go Away in 2004 and whoops I'm still here. Although I do now have a Small to prevent me from MNing give me done legitimacy.

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 10:49:45

If you google something mumsnet often comes up with answers so as had been said people find it that way, My friend is a single primary teacher no kids and she reads mumsnet andnetmums other parenting forums she even has a 'like' to a forum for children with special needs

JugglingWithPossibilities Mon 19-Nov-12 10:50:38

I think the OP asked her question in straight-forward innocence too - and it's been interesting to read the answers. Hopefully makes us all appreciate the place more and re-affirm that everyone is welcome. Think it definitely could be womensnet for example, where visiting men also welcome as long as they behave themselves wink

ZebraOwl Mon 19-Nov-12 11:31:55


<practises poker face>

I suppose I miiiiiiight be. But then again, maybe I'm not. Bwahahahahahaha...

<swirls cape & strides away>

laughtergoodmedicine Mon 19-Nov-12 11:40:55

Who knows who is or is not a parent? Some people probably regard that as

Mick Jagger might say ...well, to be honest, I dont remember how many children I have.

Seriously mumsnet needs high numbers of all kinds of people.

Casserole Mon 19-Nov-12 12:00:23

OP I think it was a perfectly reasonable question that you tried to phrase as openly as possible to include people and not offend, FWIW.

Personally, I like to come here every so often so reaffirm my belief that some people can take offence at absolutely bloody anything.

I haven't made that Nigella stick ribs thing in AAAAAAGES...

TraineeBabyCatcher Mon 19-Nov-12 12:36:16

Thank you Casserole, I posted out of interest, not because I felt people had to justify themselves to me. I tried to word it in a manner that made it clearly that I was genuinely unsure, not because I was trying to make people feel as though they or I have mote right to be here.

Pande- I was just trying to get across that I realised you may come on here for parenting related things, ie about your children and/or your grandchildren and/or your step children etc but I didn't know what other reasons there would be and I was just interested how you might come across mumsnet.

Slumberparty Mon 19-Nov-12 12:45:50

My DS and DM talked about it a lot, as they got hooked when DS had a DD - I took the mickey...finally looked for myself, got hooked on AIBU.
A lot of threads on here, relationships and chat are not related to children or parenting so is relevant / interesting to all.

Slumberparty Mon 19-Nov-12 12:46:13

Meant DSis not DS.....

MrsTwankey Mon 19-Nov-12 12:53:28

I found it by accident when looking for a receipe or something. Started reading AIBU in my lunch hour and then found other topics. It wasn't until yesterday I actually went on a parenting thread for the 1st time and I've got 3DC.

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 12:53:58

I think I like others, I googled something random and a Mumsnet thread popped up with the answer, so that's how I started lurking in the first place. To be honest, before I realised about the variety of topics available here, I wouldn't have considered signing up if I'd only just heard of it and not read on. I'd have thought "But I'm not a Mum, would anyone value my opinion at all?" Guess I thought being a Mum was like an exclusive club. When I hear my mum friends talk about parenting issues I just smile, nod and say "oh yeah absolutely/of course you must feel that way." but I don't know the feeling do I. Then I dash home to MN as I'm a little bit clueless! So I do think you have a legitimate point OP, and not offensive at all.

I'm more attracted to the non-parenting threads of course, but have contributed to parenting related things, if I can relate from an 'I have experienced this as a child myself' sort of way, e.g. bullying/falling out with friends/embarrassing things kids say/how to talk about sensitive topics with kids etc.

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 12:55:02

Oops far too many I's in my post! Haha!

101handbags Mon 19-Nov-12 14:06:11

I don't look at the conversations that are about children but still find plenty to interest me here.

TheSmallClanger Mon 19-Nov-12 14:14:31

I go ages only mentioning DD tangentially.

I like MN because it is one of the rare online discussion forums that does not revolve around the "needs" of teenage boys and young men. I like being able to chat with knowledgeable, funny women about all sorts of stuff, serious and silly, without being bombarded with irritating memes and endless sexist prattle. I know others don't agree with me on this point, but I like the level of moderation too.

SaskiaRembrandtVampireHunter Mon 19-Nov-12 14:48:00

I do have children, but mine were all in their teens when I started to use MN, and the appeal was that this is one of the few parenting sites that cater for parents of older children/teens/young adults. Most seem to focus on babies/toddlers/primary school age kids.

Saying that, most threads I read or post on aren't related to parenting at all. (I seem to post about zombies a lot) As others have said, this is a great place to have interesting, informative, and often very entertaining conversations about a huge range of subjects, and it's nice that all comers are welcome, you get a great range of views and experiences.

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 16:25:44

this is one of the few parenting sites that cater for parents of older children/teens/young adults.

that is why i came here initially as another site i used they were all younger children and wasn't really what i was looking for ,

exoticfruits Mon 19-Nov-12 17:10:04

Because it's like the biggest and most engrossing set of problem pages and coffee shop gossip you've ever seen in your life

I agree-that is why it is addictive. Where else do you get to give people your advice on any subject?

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