to think that not many 11 year old boys have "spotty" clothes??

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amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 16:57:12

Children in Need day at school on Friday - Children are having a non-uniform day and pay a minimum of 50p to raise money for children in need - don't have any problem with that.

Then read further down and see that they have to wear something spotty - the spottier the better - that's probably not too bad to fulfil if you have a young girl - nightmare if you have a boy - especially an 11 year old!!

I am sure the children that are in need don't really care how the money is raised - so why make such a specific stipulation?? - I'm not buying him anything special so unless I ruin a piece of his existing clothes by drawing spots on it, then he wont get to participate.

HecatePropylaea Mon 12-Nov-12 16:58:48

what about round stickers on a tshirt?

Katisha Mon 12-Nov-12 16:59:13

Neither of my DSs have anything spotty. Sometimes schools just don't think I'm afraid.

beachyhead Mon 12-Nov-12 16:59:38

Cut out spots, colour them in and get a stack of safety pins grin

CuriosityCola Mon 12-Nov-12 17:01:37

Do you have any spotty clothing that could be used/turned into scarf?

Yanbu to think that spots aren't that necessary.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:01:37

That would work Hecate - I guess though I'd still be buying stickers when I could be donating that money to children in need if you see what I mean? That's certainly the best option so far. Thank you

shelley72 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:03:50

We're having to do this too, ds in reception but has nothing spotty (unlike his little sister). Think my only option is to buy fabric pens and ruin a perfectly good tshirt. do wish they had thought it through better!

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:03:57

beachy I am sure that safety pins probably would contravene some rule or other but I'd love to see their face grin

Curiosity I'm not really a spotty kind of person either - I think I may have a bra somewhere with spots on...........don't think he'll be that keen on that either grin

ShatnersBassoon Mon 12-Nov-12 17:05:01

We have the same problem.

I've bought Pudsey ears from Greggs. They had spotty wristbands too.

You could get an old plain t-shirt and draw spots on with felt pens if you really wanted to stick to the 'rules', but I couldn't be bothered.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:05:58

shelly, I agree - If you took half the cost of the fabrib pens and the t-shirt and donated that in stead and let your little one wear his favourite t-shirt surely that's a better deal for everyone?

We also do a wear yellow day for our local hospice every year which is a little easier and at least we know it's coming and it's not that bad for boys - they can wear a Brazil football top smile

wishiwasonholiday Mon 12-Nov-12 17:06:21

Every year ds' school does this, and the shops have hardly any special children on need boys tops.

HousewifefromBethlehem Mon 12-Nov-12 17:06:25

My ds is wearing spotty socks grin

VonHerrBurton Mon 12-Nov-12 17:06:48

Our school's doing this too amck.

I don't think my ds has had any spotty clothes since a pair of pyjamas 8 years ago grin

Going to do either spots on some old football socks and send him in his kit as he'd happily wear that anyway, or (possible pita but will try) paint spots on his hair with wash-off poster paint. Obvs would only work on short blonde hair! Failing that a t shirt with spots drawn on but Y5 and thinks he's too cool for that

CuriosityCola Mon 12-Nov-12 17:07:13

Haha, can you imagine your poor ds's face?!

I would just put him in something yellow. In my experience these recommendations are normally a way of saying not to wear something inappropriate.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:07:26

Shatners yes, we ruined a t-shirt last week for something else he was doing - so he has a lovely t-shirt with SLAVE written on the front - wonder if I could add spots to that?? grin

redskyatnight Mon 12-Nov-12 17:07:46

DH's old work shirt. Lots of coloured markers. Spotty as you like.

beingagoodmumishard Mon 12-Nov-12 17:08:20

this is the time of year when you are quite likely to find mums of boys traipsing round the shops, muttering under their breath "bl**dy spots" grin

Been there, seen it, done it and bought the t-shirt! - well a cheap plain white one and got DS to draw on spots. Have also used a Pudsey biscuit cutter as a stencil and drew a number of Pudseys on a t-shirt. Was quite effective, although didn't have fabric pens so unfortunately the felt tip ran abit in the rain. Another time I got a wooly hat that was like a bear's head and put a strip of white fabric with coloured on spots over one eye on the hat.

CuriosityCola Mon 12-Nov-12 17:08:24

Like the wristband idea. smile

VonHerrBurton Mon 12-Nov-12 17:09:06

Our school's doing this too amck.

I don't think my ds has had any spotty clothes since a pair of pyjamas 8 years ago grin

Going to do either spots on some old football socks and send him in his kit as he'd happily wear that anyway, or (possible pita but will try) paint spots on his hair with wash-off poster paint. Obvs would only work on short blonde hair! Failing that a t shirt with spots drawn on but Y5 and thinks he's too cool for that

VonHerrBurton Mon 12-Nov-12 17:09:45

Dunno what happened there, posted twice, sorry

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:10:02

......would a bra be inappropriate on a 11year old boy?? grin

They already have rules about slogans and normal football strips - he isn't into all that anyway so would probably just wear a t-shirt and hoody and jeans given the choice - well, actually given the choice he would still be wearing shorts grin

YuffieKisaragi Mon 12-Nov-12 17:11:48

We have the exact same issue here..ds1 is fond of ties so im going to rummage in the charity shops for a plain short and spotty tie. Got some fabric pens so I'll have a go at making it spotty.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:11:53

Think i'll turn the slave t-shirt inside out and let him loose with a set of felt tips - if it runs it runs.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:13:46

Yuffie - that's actually not a bad idea - they don't wear shirts but he is desperate to get into shirt and tie for high school - he could borrow one of his brothers school shirts and I am sure there will be a tie somewhere in the house we could use.

ShatnersBassoon Mon 12-Nov-12 17:14:05

Everyone with an older boy should get a spotty CIN wristband and a sausage roll from Greggs.

woollyknickers Mon 12-Nov-12 17:15:00

Not just 11 year boys, OP.

My 9 year old DD has no spotty t-shirt to wear to school on Friday, either. Plus, the school only mentioned the need for spotty clothes in last Friday's newsletter - giving plenty of notice, as per usual...not!

But that belongs on a whole other thread wink

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:16:55

lol Shatners

wooly - we got the notice today just so as to make it even more inconvenient for working parents who now don't have the weekend to organise anything.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:21:44

I guess the spotty thing only suits some parents of girly 5-7 year old girls or parents of pirates

Same issue here. They need something spotty or Children in Need clothing.

A mum at school said she was ordering her DD a CIN tshirt from Debenhams I think. I suggested that to DS but he said that he is not bothered and will just wear normal clothes. He reckons nobody else will bother.

But thanks so much for the Greggs wristband info - he will wear one of those I think so I'll get one.

goingupinsmoke Mon 12-Nov-12 17:22:49

DS x 2 here - what a nightmare, but last year I did stickers I just had sheets of white label stickers, made a word doc with colour spots and printed out at home, cut out the stickers and job done!

pigletpower Mon 12-Nov-12 17:24:18

Marker pens or packs of stickers are your friend.

seeker Mon 12-Nov-12 17:25:49

Sheet of round coloured stickers. Plain t shirt.

Sorted. Why are people such miseries???????

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Mon 12-Nov-12 17:26:23

YANBU! Stuff like this really boils my piss.

I wholeheartedly do NOT support children in need, I also have boys that do not possess spotty things, and I resent being made to spend money for a charity I don't support or have my child miss out. What is even more annoying, is that when CIN is being trotted out again, the cheapest spotty things are the CIN products, so I may as well buy one of them, or spend forever trying to find something spotty and then having to pay more for it, as well as having to pay parking in town! angry

SoupDragon Mon 12-Nov-12 17:27:11

Draw chicken pox spots on him.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:27:34

Complicated by the fact that he is 5 foot 3 and wears age 13-14 clothing - i did a quick trawl of ebay and surprisingly they had no items with spots in that size in boys wear smile

seeker Mon 12-Nov-12 17:27:56

I refer the Honourable Freddo to my previous answer.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 12-Nov-12 17:30:47

Felt tip spots on his face.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:32:28

seeker - I am not being a misery here - they could have let the kids wear their favourite clothes and donate and made more money rather than have people wasting money on tat that wont get worn afterwards or on things to customise something existing. it's a waste of the Earth's resources grin

Even if the had said everyone wear something really bright it would have been really nice. I love seeing them on go yellow day all dressed in bright colours. But the spots is just a bit of an needless faff.

MyNameIsLola Mon 12-Nov-12 17:32:35

My DS's school sent the same bloody letter hmm, agree that it's virtually impossible to get anything spotty for boys so I saw the CIN wristbands in Asda yesterday and bought one of those.

Narked Mon 12-Nov-12 17:32:53


OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Mon 12-Nov-12 17:33:14

Thanks Seeker, round coloured stickers is likely to be the way forward especially as DH can take some from work and I won't have to go into town for them

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:34:24

.....Nooooooooooooo, I couldn't draw spots on his face, he is too beautiful smile

TheSmallPrint Mon 12-Nov-12 17:35:36

We have spots or stripes here too and my DS has neither. hmm Well except his footie kit so I guess that's what he's wearing.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:36:30

I'll have a scout about in the supermarket tonight or tomorrow night for a tie or wristband or socks (would they be girly?) or some stickers and take it from there - it'll have to be something manly he looks too much like a girl as it is.

Two years ago we used fabricpaints on two old stained polo shirts which we have kept, so hoping they will still fit. DD (6) has lots of spotty clothes, DS (8) has none. We were given several weeks notice though and a choice of CIN, spots or any other Mufti clothes. Collection on the day is bottles for the Christmas Fair tombola but we are doing a cake sale for CIN after school, so those that don't wish to donate can stay away.

ScatterChasse Mon 12-Nov-12 17:43:13

amck if he likes wearing shorts would he do what my (male) DCousin did? Buy a cheap pair of spotty tights (Clare's Accessories/Primark or somewhere like that) and wear them under shorts?

It's very obviously 'dressed up' and not bad in this weather! He was on the school's website and everything grin

(And I think his DSis might have pinched them afterwards...)

MammaTJ Mon 12-Nov-12 17:46:51

An old T-shirt, cut out circles and tack a huge one front and back of an ok t-shirt?

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:49:04

lol - Scatter - I think he wouldn't - I wasn't joking when I said he was beautiful - he has a pretty face - still soft and sweet and has the current long hair style - unless he is clearly in boys clothes and even when he is he gets mistaken for a girl. He is not in any way effeminate but the girls like putting clasps etc in his hair and the boys understandably give him a hard time - I think girls spotty tights could quite possible ruin his life - some kids I think could definitely get away with it and it would be fun.......he couldn't.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:50:31

Mamma - I guess we could cut circles out the already ruined t-shirt and wear a dark one underneath so it showed through? Good idea.

Chopstheduck Mon 12-Nov-12 17:51:16

It does add up though, all these dressing up days. I don't think it is being a misery, seeker.

I gave into ds1's begging me to get him a pig costume for pink day, which cost £15, upon the basis he was going to also wear it to a fancy dress party which was subsequently cancelled.

Then the twins came home needing white clothes for an Egyptian day. Seriously, who buys 7 year old boys white clothes?! I ended up lending them both a couple of my tshirts, tied up around the waist, and they both came back stained beyond cleaning!

Chopstheduck Mon 12-Nov-12 17:52:45

op, what about these here You can order them to be delivered to store in time.

PandaG Mon 12-Nov-12 17:53:10

almost no spend, but a bit of effort:

cut out circles from waste paper - envelopes, old magazines etc, or too small t-shirt

tack onto any old t shirt with big stitches.

job done, and ethical as they can be removed and garment used again.

I've used circular stickers in the past - the centres from CD labels so they were in effect free. I don't want to spend much on a charity dress up day, rather than donating to the charity. We've suggested spots or yellow where I work (pre-school) and I've got the fabric scrap circles to tack on my uniform from last year. Expect soem children will come in spotty clothes, other will wear the pudsey ears. But at 3 or 4, much easier I know.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:53:22

Actually the t-shirt that he had to write slave on never actually got used - it was for a class play - in the end he was a slave dealer instead and got a loan of a shirt from his (male) teacher as they are about the same size grin

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 17:57:02

Chops, that link didn't work but looked like it was for Tesco so i'll check them out. Ta

Thanks Panda - definitely easier with little ones I think and at least there is a plain alternative offered in your case.

spiderlight Mon 12-Nov-12 17:58:45

We had this last year. I ended up buying some iron-on round sparkly things from ebay for 99p but it was a pain, and that was with a four-year-old - would have been much worse to come up with something for an eleven-year-old!

Could you not just feed him loads of chocolate for the next few days in the hope that he'll develop his own spots?

valiumredhead Mon 12-Nov-12 17:59:23

We did round stickers last year.

It's not just 11 year olds, 3 year old ds doesn't have anything spotty either!

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 18:01:27

lol spider - I am sure he wouldn't object - he has a beauty spot but I think one wont be enough grin

Kbear Mon 12-Nov-12 18:03:18

I bought a spotty blanket in Primark for £3 and made it into a poncho for DS last year and he will be wearing it again this year !!

goingupinsmoke Mon 12-Nov-12 18:05:19

spiderlight you made me laugh and snort a bit of tea on the laptop - Thanks

DizzyHoneyBee Mon 12-Nov-12 18:09:20

Normal clothes and draw spots on his face and arms smile

Doingthedo Mon 12-Nov-12 18:09:27

by the way, it not the teachers who came up with this idea - IT'S CHILDREN IN NEED! Blame the BBC! And sellotape circles onto something, or even better, get the children to do it themselves, then you all don't need to do anything!

DilysPrice Mon 12-Nov-12 18:10:15

We got an old CIN spotty hanky for 25p from a charity shop many years ago and I have hoarded it carefully ever since for these occasions, along with the Union Jack Tshirt for "Wear your National Costume" day and the Gryffindor robes from an NCT sale for World Book Day.

When the last DC finally leaves primary school I'm going to offer them on eBay as a job lot grin.

pantaloons Mon 12-Nov-12 18:11:14

We cut holes in an old t shirt and ds wore it on top of another top last year. This year they have to wear pj's and the "donation" is £1.50, so £4.50 for us. Plus some new pj's as their old ones aren't fit for public consumption!

Chopstheduck Mon 12-Nov-12 18:13:34

hmm, not sure why it didn't work, but they were spotty wellie socks for £3.

Scholes34 Mon 12-Nov-12 19:12:13

I think you're just against the idea, OP. Just use a bit of imagination and cut an old piece of clothing into circles and sew it onto something he'd usually wear. You can easily unpick it afterwards.

Wellthen Mon 12-Nov-12 19:14:14

As a teacher in a school who are doing 'something spotty'...its really not that important. If they dont have something spotty send them in mufti and explain 'they dont have anything spotty'. Its a bit of fun, not a rule!

Agree with the drawing spots on. Costs nothing if you use some existing make up or face paint.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 19:25:37

Scholes - not against as such, I just think that people in general will go away and spend unnecessarily just to fit with the theme (which has also been given at short notice) when they could have donated that money directly to the charity, kids would have been happy just to get to wear their normal casual clothes so no issue there. My son is big on following the rules so he wouldn't be happy just to ignore and wear something else so to make him happy we will do something. I just grudge the whole faff and potential cost of it for something that is supposed to be a charitable event.

If it wasn't that it would him him unhappy, I'd quite happily send him in in whatever he wanted from his existing clothes with a tenner donation - if I have to buy something - then i wouldn't give him a tenner. I also grudge wasting clothes (however cheap) that could be donated to charity too or sold on ebay for the Christmas fund

I'll talk to him later and see what he wants to do.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 19:26:43

.......and I don't do sewing!! Speaking as someone who uses UHU to glue on the boys' Scout badges grin

tassisssss Mon 12-Nov-12 19:28:45

Last year I let ds (then 8) draw big circles with fabric crayons (that I already had, thankfully) onto one of his super cheap supermarket polo shirts.

Agree, annoying.

Normal mufti - there is a spectrum of spottiness with 'very spotty' at one end and 'not spotty' at the other, you just go for the 'not spotty' end of things.

And it IS teachers that decide to do things like this, the BBC can't force schools to do this particular form of fundraising. DD's school is doing pyjamas, not spotty stuff - which is fortuitous as even as an 8yo girl the only spotty item of clothing she owns IS a pair of pj bottoms!

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 19:36:24

If it was PJs or stripes he could wear the Onesie he insisted on buying from primark and also insists that it fits despite it looking like his backside is getting cheese-wired smile

MammaTJ Mon 12-Nov-12 19:44:56

My DC have to wear PJs to school on Friday, if that makes you feel any better. Bloody freezing weather and wearing PJs. I really don't think they think these things through properly.

Wellthen Mon 12-Nov-12 19:55:29

We sort of assume parents wont literally send children to school in their pjs...You surely think things through enough to know they need to wear a vest/t-shirt and leggings/soft trousers underneath. They could even wear shoes! (I know they aren't strictly pjs but we're thinking outside the box here.)

Bearing in mind many teachers will also be wearing pjs, we definitely think things through.

picturesinthefirelight Mon 12-Nov-12 20:09:35

Loads of kids at my dc school devoratevplain white t shirts with fabric paint

As I run drama classes I generally raid my costume store ds usually wears an oversized spotty clown bow tie & braces.

Pixel Mon 12-Nov-12 20:15:36

Saw lots of CIN t shirts in ASDA today but there were loads more for girls than for boys, what's that all about? There were a couple for boys but one was a sort of hell's angel type thing and the other was a picture of a pair of headphones as if hanging round the neck, not spots. The girl's ones were lovely colourful spots which would have fitted the school's 'wear something spotty' theme.
Got a similar problem here with a 12 yo boy who is big for his age and doesn't possess anything spotty. I've already had a quick trawl of charity shops and come up with a big zero unless he wants to wear a blouse which I doubt grin. Have paid out for felt tips (no fabric pens in W H Smiths I went to) and now have to find a shirt to ruin.

ladygoldenlion Mon 12-Nov-12 20:21:05

Ours have to wear yellow, much easier than spots for boys!

EvilTwins Mon 12-Nov-12 20:26:48

I came on to shout "DON'T BLAME THE SCHOOL, BLAME THE BBC" but I see someone has already done that. wink

We're doing the same where I work but if kids turn up in mufti but no spots, we're hardly going to send them home. Get a grip.

littlebrownmouse Mon 12-Nov-12 20:27:56

Mine went with spot stickers all over his face one year.

sparkle12mar08 Mon 12-Nov-12 20:34:55

Bugger that - I just send ds in ordinary mufti. They're not going to send them home again...

seeker Mon 12-Nov-12 20:39:03

And soon there'll be a thread about how primary schools are all just SATs factories, and there's no joy in them any more and teachers never go the extra mile.............

goldenlula Mon 12-Nov-12 20:42:58

Mine are drawing circles with coloured pens on t shirts (which I did buy but they were £2 for 2, so ds2 has one ready for next year and I gave the other one to ds1's friend). I could have used one of their polo shirts had I have thought of it as they have seen better days. I officially haven't received any notification of it being spotty day, I just happened to see a sign in the school office when I collected ds2 on Fri for a SALT app. Had I not had to do this I wouldn't know, but apparently a text was sent but neither dh or I have received it which is unusual.

CaptainKirksNipples Mon 12-Nov-12 20:50:00

Sorted. Don't have a problem with children in need or Red Nose Day as we get enough notice, but we had to wear purple for something and my 8yr old ds has nothing purple!

DD2 school gone down the wear your pj to school route for CIN.

Kid in DD2 class gone down with Chicken Pox so our school theme could have been grow your spots for CIN [grins].

VivaLeBeaver Mon 12-Nov-12 21:14:27

I thought I'd escape this this year as dd now in yr7. No she's brought a letter home today. So 4 days notice and I'm at work all week. FFs.

I wouldn't mind if I had a bit more notice.

amck5700 Mon 12-Nov-12 21:16:38

That's a pretty good price too Captain - wont be big enough for me but useful for someone without an abnormally large primary child.

Evil - get a grip???? wtf that all about?

seeker - I don't think anyone here really has a problem with the concepts of a, doing something nice for the kids and b, raising cash for charity, it's the specific nature of the instruction and late notice that is annoying.

Just spoken to him and he says that he will just wear school uniform and donate his money as it would be a waste of a t-shirt - all I said was what do you want to do, shall we decorate a t-shirt? sad

ioness Mon 12-Nov-12 21:18:13

Think yourself lucky. We have to provide ww2 evacuee clothes by next week. Yes, my 7 year old pink and purply leopard print loving 7 year old has loads of brown/grey skirts, cardigans and blouses hmm

Kbear Mon 12-Nov-12 21:31:39

school uniform will do for evacuee day, with odd socks falling down, plaits in hair, cut down an old pair of trousers for boys, cardboard box covered in brown paper with a string handle and a luggage label cut out of brown paper with their name on. easy smile

picturesinthefirelight Mon 12-Nov-12 21:36:35

Def normal school uniform (shorts if poss for boys) with the obligatory shoebox has mask.

ioness Mon 12-Nov-12 21:39:02

could you come round kbear and sort it all out? Mine hates skirts and ribbons in hair. These are two of the "must haves" on the list. i will be wrestling with her to get them on next week.

Kbear Mon 12-Nov-12 21:48:23

on way!!

Seriously don't worry too much - scruffy school uniform with unbrushed hair (IDEAL for that harrassed parent in the mornings!! ) - don't worry about plaits, give her a gas mask box to carry and a teddy bear and she's all set. If she wants to wear trousers, let her, so what? Teachers won't care and she'll feel like she's joining in without being uncomfortable.

My ds hated dressing up but WW2 was the only day he didn't mind because it was almost what he wore usually!!

Kbear Mon 12-Nov-12 21:49:45

why not go online with her and show her what girls looked like then, so she knows she won't be dressed up like a doll, but more or less what she looks like now!

ioness Mon 12-Nov-12 22:17:12

Thanks kbear. I'm thinking of bringing out narnia and the box of delights and scrutinising what the dc are wearing.

UniS Mon 12-Nov-12 22:21:44

DS wore a spotty bandana last year.

Other children wore home made spotty shirts or baseball caps , done with stickers or pens, need not be fabric pens.
Year 3 MADE spotty bandanas.

confuugled Mon 12-Nov-12 22:30:56

Prime him to say that he is wearing invisible spots.

or white spots on his white shirt (or whatever colour he happens to be wearing).

or hang a bottle of clearasil around his neck.

or say that he is wearing microspots

or that the spots are on their side and therefore not visible in this dimension...

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