to consider tracking down this man and demanding that he look after my kids for the rest of the day?

(55 Posts)
TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 16:21:55

DP works in London part of the week and I come up with the kids about once every two or three weeks. We stay in a flat in a managed building with an underground carpark. Parking is very tightly regulated because they used to have problems with people taking over extra spaces for second cars or bike storage etc - now you aren't even allowed to swap spaces with someone else by agreement.

I have a deadline for a magazine article looming. It was a tight deadline because the editor needed to replace another article at short notice, but it should have been easily doable. I never leave things to the last minute but I've had a few arrangements go wrong and both kids have been ill and I now have two days to get it into shape, neither of which I have childcare for, meaning that I need to do it during naps or in the evenings which I don't like doing because my brain stops working at about 7pm and it is a complicated topic.

We don't have much of a routine re: naps, but one thing I can absolutely rely on is both DCs having a long nap in the afternoon if I do something tiring in the morning and manage to keep DS2 awake, or only let him have a catnap. I therefore planned today with military precision. I took them to softplay and wore them out, had lunch before getting in the car, and then managed to keep them both awake until about 5 minutes before getting home, when they both conked out.

This was absolutely perfect timing. If they fall asleep 5 to 10 minutes before getting home then they will wake up, grizzle and moan until we get inside and then fall asleep again straight away. But the timing is crucial - if they sleep for much longer than that, DS1 won't go back to sleep at all, and DS2 will take absolutely ages to go back down and then will only sleep for about half an hour. So I was delighted with myself and was pretty much rubbing my hands with glee as we pulled into the carpark, anticipating about 1 1/2 to 2 hours of uninterupted work.

There was someone in our parking space.

I waited, thinking that someone had just pulled in to pick something up - we are a couple of spaces along from one of the lifts and the other spaces nearby are used for storage. No-one turned up. I pulled into another space and ran up to the front office where the security guy told me that someone was moving out, but he didn't know which flat it was. I asked him to find out and get the car moved asap. About 25 minutes later, a chap saunters down to the carpark and starts taking stuff out of the car - out, you note. Not in.

Me: Er, excuse me. You are in my space.
Him (breezily): Oh yes, sorry, I'm moving out.
Me: Yes. So I heard. But you are doing it in my space.
Him: Well, it's nearer the lift.
Me: It is, isn't it? It's also my space.
Him: Oh. Sorry about that.
Me: Did security not speak to you about it?
Him: Oh yes, he said someone was waiting.
Me: But you're still unloading your car.
Him: But I'm moving out.
Me: Well can you go and do it in your own space?
Him (a bit stroppily): Fine. I'll move then.
Me: Yes. Good plan.
Him (unloading some more things) Just a minute.
Him: (even more stroppily): Can't you wait?
Me: I have sleeping kids in the car and I need to get them inside asap otherwise they are going to wake up and stop me getting any work done this afternoon.
Him: Well how was I supposed to know that?
Me: You're not. Which is why you don't take someone else's space without asking. You have no idea how much you are going to inconvenience someone.
Him: Well you could have parked in someone else's space.
Me: And what about when they wanted their space?
Him: Well you could come down and move it then.

So he moved the car into his own space.

Which was two spaces along and one row across. This represented approximately 15 feet further to walk. He took my space to avoid walking 15 feet.

So I unloaded the kids, with him chuntering at the security guy about my unreasonableness, and got them upstairs. After 30 minutes of trying DS2 slept for a total of 10 minutes. DS1 slept for about 20 minutes. They are now awake for the duration and I have got nothing done. Except this epic whinge on MN of course.

So bearing in mind this pillock is the reason why the DSs are now awake, would it be unreasonable of me to go and knock on every door in the building until I find him, and then demand that he entertains my children for the rest of the day? Not just 2 hours - the rest of the day. My reasoning is that I am now so irritated that I will need a cup of tea and a bit of MNing before I can possibly be expected to do anything constructive.

I could also then ask him why moving out involves taking stuff out of his car and into the building because last time I checked, the moving out process involves removing stuff from the place you are vacating.

I would have killed him! I feel your pain grin Cbeebies is your friend for the rest of the day.

squeakytoy Mon 12-Nov-12 16:24:31

And take a deep breath...

Could you not have just parked in his space... confused

Tee2072 Mon 12-Nov-12 16:25:27

He's lucky you didn't kill him. Or at least harm him.

GRRRRR on your behalf and YANBU.

fuzzywuzzy Mon 12-Nov-12 16:27:11

Do it.

Ok no, I'm sorry your plans were ruined. Do you have a lovely friend/neighbour/relative near by who could perhaps have the boys for the afternoon and let you work?

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 16:34:47

Squeaky - I didn't know which his space was, and it had a motorbike parked in it. That's how I know it was his space he moved to, not another random one - he parked half-in the space, got out and unlocked the motorbike and moved it into the next space and parked his car.

And I couldn't just park in someone else's space as I would then have to either leave the kids in the flat 3 floors up and come down to move it, holding someone else up in the process, or drag them all the way down with me and stick them in the car.

I decided against physical violence as there is always the risk you would get a judge without children who just wouldn't understand the strength of feeling involved with nap disruption!

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 16:36:07

No-one else who can have them. They are being fiendish. I might re-think the physical violence if I can track him down....

FrenchJunebug Mon 12-Nov-12 16:54:28

Am I missing something? What did it matter which space you were in?! Couldn't you still take your kids upstairs. And if you have such a deadline to file how come you have time to put an email on this thread.


What a cock.

Obviously the OP couldn't just park in his space, because she says her parking is tightly regulated and presumably she doesn't want to get her car clamped!

WilsonFrickett Mon 12-Nov-12 17:00:14

GRRR. He's a cockwad. And of course he should mind the children for the rest of the day. He should also be bringing you tea, fact checking and gently stroking your hair when it all gets too much.

But he won't so stick CBeebies on and crack on with your deadline <tough love>

snuffaluffagus Mon 12-Nov-12 17:00:57

Ah god how irritating. I'd have got VERY angry in your situation!

midseasonsale Mon 12-Nov-12 17:02:35

I think I would have blocked him in and carried on with my day

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 12-Nov-12 17:10:14

YANBU - doesn't matter why you needed the's yours. He was being a dick.

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:10:47

As LRD says, I couldn't park in another space as the management get fairly hysterical about parking infringements and threaten fines and all sorts of other unenforceable sanctions which I can't be bothered with.

And the kids are now awake and whinging which has scuppered any chance of doing anything involving concentration, so MN it is! I will have to finish the bloody article tonight or get up early tomorrow.

Wilson - not a chance, unfortunately. DS1 is installed in front of Toy Story3, but DS2 is alternating between clutching my leg and wailing, and turning the TV off which is sending DS1 into a rage!

Midseason - I couldn't block him in without blocking 3 other people in as well - and of course getting in trouble with the management committee again. Otherwise I absolutely would have done - and I would have refused to move until DP got home to look after the kids. grin

Trills Mon 12-Nov-12 17:17:18

You do good stern kungfu.

You used to be stern on the train, it's good to see that you are continuing. smile

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:18:56

I wasn't so much stern as slightly high-pitched and shrill.....

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Mon 12-Nov-12 17:21:09

Wow, I'm fuming on your behalf! What a prize tosser!

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:23:24

Thank you.

You know what would really help? If a whole horde of MNetters descend on the carpark and sit on his car so that he can't finish moving in or out or whatever it is that he is doing.

And when he challenges you, please say things like "But I'm knitting " with a look of bewilderment.

Trills Mon 12-Nov-12 17:32:46

If I knew how to knit I would be there.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Mon 12-Nov-12 17:34:55

I can knit, as long as someone else casts on for me I'm there!

PrincessSymbian Mon 12-Nov-12 17:44:17

I can knit and cast on, let's have a Knit-In!

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:44:58

Well that's perfect, Freddos! You can refuse to move because you are waiting for someone to come and cast on for you.

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:45:34

I wonder how many knitting MNetters you can fit on a BMW....

EarnestDullard Mon 12-Nov-12 17:50:05

YANBU. At all. I'd cheerfully throttle anyone who prevented my DCs from napping.

EarnestDullard Mon 12-Nov-12 17:50:27

And that's without work deadlines! Just for the sake of my own sanity smile

BooyhooRemembering Mon 12-Nov-12 17:52:24

i can knit, i'm on my way... where am i on my way to? confused grin

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:52:51

I'm delighted that so many people think I would have been justified in committing acts of violence.

It makes me feel all moderate and restrained by comparison. grin

Now, about the knit-in. Do you think we should leave the bonnet area free for someone to have sex on? That would properly get in his way....

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:53:44

Booyhoo - space in the back left corner by the lift. Two along from the one with the tree sculpture and the ironing board.

BooyhooRemembering Mon 12-Nov-12 17:53:51

no, no sex, it would mess up my knitting.

VodkaJelly Mon 12-Nov-12 17:53:52

I feel your pain kungfupanda. Where I work there is no parking so we lease parking bays from a local business, literally a 2 minute walk away. We have pay for these bays ourselves, every month.

But we are near the railway station and the amount of times people park in our bays is unreal. As there is nowhere else to park we end up in the long stay pay and display car park so really we are paying twice.

Sometimes it is commuters and sometimes is the people who live over the road or twats popping into the shop or the chippy.

It drives me demented and if I catch someone in my bay I give them a gob full and threaten to block them in.

The company is not really interested and will merely put a note on the offenders windscreen.

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:54:43

Oops, no, that's my space.

Go to that one, turn right and cross over to the next row. Space with a BMW and a motorbike next door.

Full of knitters.

And possibly some people having sex.

MrsHoarder Mon 12-Nov-12 17:57:10

I'll come. Can I start on the tiny cock-warmer I'm making mil's dp for Christmas?

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:58:29

Vodka - you'd love my office. We have a carpark.

The only problem is that it is a bizarre, L-shaped carpark with a bit sticking off it, and it isn't actually big enough for everyone who needs to park in it. So if someone needs to get out in the middle of the day, it's like one of those sliding puzzles where you can't move one piece until you've moved several others out of the way. It opens onto a main road, so you can't even back out to let other people out - you have to manouevre round each other with the receptionist standing in the middle yelling "KFP - 2 feet forward with wheel on full lock. KFP's colleague - stand-by to move into space vacated by KFP. NO! KFP's Boss I did NOT tell you to move. Back into that space by the bins right now!"

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 17:59:27

MrsHoarder. Would I be right in thinking that you and MIL's DP don't get on? grin

UnbridledPositivity Mon 12-Nov-12 18:03:24

YABU: someone as twattish inconsiderate as this would probably be rubbish at looking after children!

YANBU to stage a knit-in! grin

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 18:05:18

I think we could probably accommodate a couple of quilters, but someone would need to bring a very long extension lead for the sewing machines.

One quilter, reporting for duty! grin

I do it by hand so I could most happily sit there with a lot of pins and papers I'd have to move veeerrry sloooowwwly if anyone showed up.

I fancy making a festive one spelling out 'parking wanker' in red and green.

MrsHoarder Mon 12-Nov-12 18:10:52

I quite like him, but he was taking the Mick out of the fiddly baby mittens I was making at the weekend. He'll probably laugh or hate me and put whole chillies in my food

I've got a good long extension lead too, I'll bring that.

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 18:12:59

Could everyone perhaps contribute to a giant cock-warmer for his car?

I think he'd like that. It would make him feel all wanted. He might not move out at all.

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 18:16:04

In fact, we could turn his car into a multi-textile work of art. LRD could do a parking wanker festive bonnet cover, Mrs Hoarder could knit a cock-warmer shaped car-jacket thingy. I used to know how to do lacemaking so I could cover his bonnet in intricate lacy patterns which spelled out "Knob Face".

Anyone any good at ribbon-weaving or similar?

DoubleYew Mon 12-Nov-12 18:16:22

When ds was younger I got exceptionally annoyed at some builders making a noise (in a public street in the middle of the day blush) because they woke him up.

PMSL at the receptionist ringmaster of cars.

Wouldn't a tiny cock-warmer be more appropriate?

I do like the detail of your plans, though.

HongKongPooey Mon 12-Nov-12 19:23:43

I was raging at a reversing tarmaccing vehicle only today BEEEEEEP BEEEEEEP... one little bright eye popped open as I swerved down a sidestreet at speed to get away from the alarm clock wake up.

YANBU, but I do not knit, quilt or sew. I can do cakes......icing.....

cumfy Mon 12-Nov-12 19:25:46

Did they fine him ?

Without fines/bans the management co may find difficult in practice to enforce these "strict regulations".

Oh and what's to stop residents swapping vehicles if they can't swap spaces ?grin

Some0ne Mon 12-Nov-12 19:43:20

I've been known to rant and rave at bin lorries, barking dogs, children playing, and also whichever of my children isn't the one I'm currently trying to persuade to sleep blush I feel your pain.

I can't knit very well but I can probably crochet something insulting.

TandB Mon 12-Nov-12 19:55:58

I don't know if anyone ever does get fined - the management tend to just nag everyone into submission!

Most people are surprisingly obedient - although there was a wholesale rebellion over an attempt to ban anyone storing anything in their parking space. They did give up on that one. There is also an ongoing attempt to reorder the parking spaces. Apparently when the building first opened there was a bit of a free for-all over spaces, and when they assigned specific spaces, people did a bit of space-trading and they finished up with a definitive list of parking spaces where the number on the space doesn't correspond to the number on the flat.

When you move in the management have to consult the list and go "Ah, yes, flat 92. That will be space 106 for you then."

Someone suggested recently that it might be sensible to actually make the spaces correspond with the flat numbers but this caused an almighty row because some people have had the same parking space since 1995 and are hugely attached to it.

If they do re-order the spaces, I definitely want to be there the day they try to enforce it. I suspect there will be punch-ups.

I'll be sure to invite MN.

Anyway, kids finally in bed. Article beckons. Thanks for the support - will arrange the knit-in asap.

MuddlingMackem Mon 12-Nov-12 20:04:47

YANBU. I remember some very stressful months of precision nap timing for DD.

And if people won't move parking places perhaps they would like to pay for painting new numbers on the spaces so they match the right flat. That might make them more amenable to swapping back. ;-)

Yanbu I feel your pain.

We are the only house on our street with a drive, as our house used to be a shop and cab office. People constantly park over the space, or in it on occasions too, and get the right arse when I tell them to bloody move. The traffic warden does sod all either, as for some reason if the cars have a residents permit, despite the white line he never tickets them. However when dps mate was unloading a bookcase part on the drive, part on the line, he got a ticket. Bloody annoying

Shamentincturepincher Mon 12-Nov-12 20:25:57

YANBU. Consequating someone for their selfish actions is a gift.

Tee2072 Mon 12-Nov-12 20:40:39

Is consequating a word? hmm

Shamentincturepincher Mon 12-Nov-12 21:00:26

It is now. Try it in a Californian accent, it helps enormously!

Tee2072 Mon 12-Nov-12 21:02:03

Like Valley Girl, you mean? Because I lived in California for nearly 10 years and I'm not aware of an actual accent.

Shamentincturepincher Mon 12-Nov-12 21:43:30

Ok, go more East Coast. A la Lowenstein...

Tee2072 Mon 12-Nov-12 21:47:28

Okay I get ya now!

Shamentincturepincher Mon 12-Nov-12 21:53:02

Phew! So worth it!

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