To think whoever says babyslings are comfortable is a fucking liar.

(93 Posts)
Ionlylikeitwhenitrains Fri 09-Nov-12 13:23:57

Cuz they ent. angry

Bastards.

CanIHaveAPetGiraffePlease Fri 09-Nov-12 13:24:58

Which have you got? The ones I had I could use all day? Baby Bjorn ones though were really uncomfortable!

SufferingLampreys Fri 09-Nov-12 13:25:30

YABU

and wrong

valiumredhead Fri 09-Nov-12 13:26:05

We had a baby bjorn - horrible thing as it squashed my hurry boobs but dh like it when ds was really little. Quite like the idea of those ones that are just like a really long piece of material.

Welovecouscous Fri 09-Nov-12 13:26:07

YAbu - you need to try more slings. Get thee to a sling meet!

Agree with CanI, sorry. They are comfortable if you have the right one for you and tie it properly. At least, until "baby" is 18 months old and still wants to be in a sling...

DuchessofMalfi Fri 09-Nov-12 13:26:33

It's such a personal thing, isn't it? I loved my Baby Bjorn - it was really comfortable and used it until DS was too big to fit into it smile

ontheedgeofwhatever Fri 09-Nov-12 13:27:15

I've got two.

One is a baby bjorn and I can only last in it for an hour or so before I'm desperate to take it off

The other is a karime and I find it very comfy and happily wear it for hours at a time. However, I had to get someone to show me how to use it properly as I found it awful at first so if you've got a fabric one try to get some lessons as it makes a huge difference

VirginiaDare Fri 09-Nov-12 13:27:54

yabu. you must be doing it wrong. I used to wear one for up to 8 hours a day and I have a bad shoulder, never hurt.

noisytoys Fri 09-Nov-12 13:28:48

I had a littlelife ultralight convertible which isn't a sling because it was a backpack but I could carry it all day til DD was about 3

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 13:29:11

I'm to hijack...

Totally agree they are not, I had a baby bjorn, great if you were born without nerves in your shoulders or back. Is there though a holy grail of one that is EASY to put on (I don't define tying bows etc as easy) and comfortable? I had a comfy one but just can't be arsed with 6 foot of bloody straps to tie.

OnwardBound Fri 09-Nov-12 13:29:19

Which slings would people recommend?

I had an Ergo - which was okay until baby about 8 months old.

And then a Babasling with DS2 which was okay until he was about 3 months old.

Those wrapping ones look the business but complicated...

wonkylegs Fri 09-Nov-12 13:29:29

Our bushbaby carrier was agony after 20mins... My close baby I could wear all day and I say that as a lady with severe arthritis riddling my body.
They just suited me, my body & my baby.

Karoleann Fri 09-Nov-12 13:31:31

YANBU - I could never wear the three I had (with any of my three children) for more than 30 minutes without my back/shoulders/neck killing me.
Baby bjorns are okay when they're tiny.

bumperella Fri 09-Nov-12 13:31:44

I use a karrime one (basically a very long length of lycra-y jersey stuff). Once I tied it a couple of times i found it wasy - just a knack to get used to it.
Must depend on your height/shape/posture as to whaich one works for you though!

ScrambledSmegs Fri 09-Nov-12 13:33:21

Was carrying DD quite comfortably in the Ergo till I got pregnant this year. She's now 2.8yo.

Baby Bjorn however - most uncomfortable sling ever. Had to give up using it when DD was little more than 4 months old. The physio told me he sees a lot of parents who've knackered their backs using BB's.

mrskeithrichards Fri 09-Nov-12 13:33:52

BabyBjorns aren't slings, they're carriers and shit.

Google your nearest sling library.

Miggsie Fri 09-Nov-12 13:34:12

They are all awful...tried many
I hated them
DH hated them

and more importantly DD hated them.

Sold off via Ebay - what a relief!

Fairylea Fri 09-Nov-12 13:34:27

I could never get on with one and ds hated it too.. tried a Moby, baba sling and baby Bjorn. All went on eBay.

I think different things work for different babies. Ds just wanted to lie out flat and stretch from a newborn!

SCOTCHandWRY Fri 09-Nov-12 13:34:31

Depends on both you and the sling...

No way I could ever use one (I tried several), I was mystified by friends who used them and raved about how easy they were... until I twigged, I'm hypermobile, so although "fit and healthy", my spine, pelvis and shoulders just couldn't cope with the stresses.

Similarly, people with baby car seats who actually carry the baby about in them! Any more than front door to car door would leave me with back pain for days!

Slings are not for everyone so YANBU.

CMOTDibbler Fri 09-Nov-12 13:34:48

I had a few slings, and when ds was 4 (and big) I could still carry him for an hour on my back with no problems. When he was a baby I'd happily carry him all day - ring sling to be begin, then Mei Tais and hybrid carriers (long top straps, buckle waist)

QueenOfFlamingEffigies Fri 09-Nov-12 13:34:50

I also think it depends on the sling.

I can still carry my 2.3 yr old for a good couple of hours in a carrier.

I can't be doing with the wrap ones either but we have a Wompat which is no harder than a rucksack to use and is really comfortable.

HecatePropylaea Fri 09-Nov-12 13:36:26

I've always thought the idea of them is lovely and it looks really cute but I saw a woman in tesco the other day with what appeared to be a toddler tied to her front with a big bit of material and she was doubled over with the weight and I thought that cannot be good for your back!

amarylisnightandday Fri 09-Nov-12 13:36:45

I had a tomy and a close parent and both were agony with dd1 but I'm willing to try again with dd2 with a Kali sling and a ring doing and an ergo.

mrskeithrichards Fri 09-Nov-12 13:37:20

Babaslings are shit too! It's no wonder they are so cheep on eBay!

MysteriousNameChange Fri 09-Nov-12 13:38:31

Sorry but I'm also on the 'depends on the sling' brigade.

Most of the high street brands are rubbish - they don't bring the baby close enough to your centre of gravity.

You can still get nice ones with buckles such as Rose and Rebellion. Ergo as well. Boba for bigger kids (haven't actually tried that one).

Stretchy wraps are good for little ones though you do have to tie them up.

AmberSocks Fri 09-Nov-12 13:39:17

I agree,i have tried loads and none felt comfy,and ive been to sling meets,babybjorns have been the best but even they hurt after an hour or so,i have bib boobs so maybe thats why.I have tried ring slings,the wrap ones,ergo,boba everything.

Ionlylikeitwhenitrains Fri 09-Nov-12 13:39:31

Okok I realise iabu as I have only tried one, a stretch wrap sling like a kari me.

It hurts after 5 mins of walking and i mean HURTS. I was relying on it as i have a little one to take to school and one in a buggy. I didnt want a double and still don't but its getting to the point when I dread putting it on because of the shoulder/back pain.

thecatsminion Fri 09-Nov-12 13:40:19

I find the Babybjorn was good a while back. Now DS is heavier, it is most comfortable when my DH is using it.

Pascha Fri 09-Nov-12 13:40:23

I loved my Connecta best for little babies, then I had a Beco Butterfly II as it has an integral harness to help klutzes like me get bigger babies on the back. DH fancies a Manduca this time round because it looks manly hmm. I don't get on well with ties either. Buckles all the way for me.

mrswoz Fri 09-Nov-12 13:41:07

I have got a Close carrier and it is lovely, but I can feel the difference if I have put it on a bit wrong (too high up usually) it has to be 'just so'. Only 2 knots to tie and you REALLY can't get those wrong, one front one back no tricky wrapping?

sleepywombat Fri 09-Nov-12 13:41:54

Ds1 only liked baby bjorn but my back & shoulders didn't.
We all hated moby wrap - masses of material to spread out to wrap around, babies couldn't stand being confined in stretchy material, I was too short so found it v uncomfortable & felt as if baby was falling out all the time/it was slipping down (taller people might be ok with it).
I tried simple handmade slings, but my wriggly, refluxy dses weren't having any of that 'cradle' position or similar.
Our favourite has been the patapum, really comfy, easy to put on etc. Ds1 liked it from 8mo, ds2 from much earlier.
Friends rave about Ergo.

BartletForTeamGB Fri 09-Nov-12 13:42:13

YABU - I think you have got the wrong one for you and your baby.

I hate seeing babies dangling from Baby Bjorns and they look really uncomfortable on your shoulders.

Whereas, I LOVE our Ergo. DS is 2.2yo and 13kg and we still use it. DH used it to take DS to the fireworks on Monday night and they were completely comfortable.

MummyPig24 Fri 09-Nov-12 13:44:40

I had a baby bjorn with ds and a tomy with dd (both lent to me) and neither was comfortable. I have huge boobs and small shoulders. I'd try a wrap style sling next tume. It's just about trying different ones and finding the right one.

Ionlylikeitwhenitrains Fri 09-Nov-12 13:44:47

I carry him in the frog position and also the one where you make a pocket with the bit of material closet to you iykwim

fraktion Fri 09-Nov-12 13:49:58

I find if I don't get a perfect wrap then it pulls and gets painful quite quickly. You do learn how to get it to suit you but some people just much prefer buckles.

I found the moby wrap really comfortable, and DS2 loved being in there. The little bugger would not be put down for months, so it was wonderful to have my arms back. I think he liked that it held him snugly; he just wanted to be cuddled all the time.

Nivet Fri 09-Nov-12 13:53:40

My slings are very comfortable, thank you. So YABU to call me a fucking liar, a tad harsh.

YANBU to not like slings yourself.

I used a stretchy wrap when mine were tiny and now use a Girasol woven wrap and now thanks to this thread I'm very tempted to buy a Wompat.

My name is Nivet, I'm a sling addict.

KenLeeeeeee Fri 09-Nov-12 13:57:10

YABU. I love my Moby wrap. DS is 6 months old and still very comfy to carry in it, even with my ruined hips & back.

Tried a Baby Bjorn & was in agony after half an hour. My wrap is very uncomfortable if it's not tied tightly enough too.

EdgarAllanPond Fri 09-Nov-12 14:04:06

you need to try some and find one that is comfortable for you.

betweeen self and sister we have our own sling library - currently i am using a wrap sling (DS2 4mo)and a backpack (DD2 2yo). comfy for a full hour.

OverlyWordyHurdyGurdy Fri 09-Nov-12 14:07:42

Baby Bjorns are awful, but Ergos are brilliant. Comfy and easy to put on, great if you're as badly co-ordinated as me..

Scholes34 Fri 09-Nov-12 14:11:07

Can you still get a Wilkinet sling? Sooooo comfortable, because all the weight it on your lower back (like a well-fitted rucksack), rather than on your shoulders (like the awful Baby Bjorn sling).

The Wilkinet looks cumbersome to put on, but it's not.

JellyBellies Fri 09-Nov-12 14:12:28

If you don't like long straps try something like a Kinderpack. They are brilliant. I have one for my DS2 who is 17 months. I have used it for him since birth. I also have one for my 3 year old!

Please do not base your experience of slings on the baby bjorn. They are crap. I always feel sorry for the parents I see wearing them and want to go up and tell
them about real slings but I don't. blush

Just because they are sold everywhere doesn't make them good.

If you want to try a different ones find a sling library close to you. Or go to the natural mamas forums. They have a great buy and sell forum for slings. And good advice too smile

Scholes34 Fri 09-Nov-12 14:16:05

Baby Bjorn must have a very good marketing department.

moojie Fri 09-Nov-12 14:17:06

I definitely think you need to practice a bit more to get the right tie. I have had a few slings now and just a small difference in how tight or loose can make a huge impact in how comfortable it is to wear.

I used a close parents sling when ds2 was little as it eliminated all the tying. I just couldn't tie a wrap sling properly if I wasn't in front of a mirror. Probably could have if I'd had lots of time to practice!

I now use a Manduca and love it. I can carry ds2 who is now 7 months out for a day at Legoland. He does prefer to nap in the buggy so I usually carry him around when he is awake.

elliejjtiny Fri 09-Nov-12 14:19:28

Can I hijack this thread to ask a sling question. I carry DS3 (aged 21m) in an ergo and I find it very uncomfortable. I'm short, chubby and hypermobile if that makes a difference. Should I just accept it's going to hurt or try another sling? The only sling meet near me meets at school run time. I can't give up and use a buggy as DS2 is a wheelchair user.

Marrow Fri 09-Nov-12 14:21:07

I suffer with a lot of back and neck problems due to an accident years ago. I had a Bjorn with my daughter and after 10 minutes of use the pain was unbearable.

However I had a Moby for DS and they are amazing. It takes a bit of practise to do them up at first but very quickly you'll be able to do it in your sleep. I was able to carry DS for hours with no discomfort at all. There are lots of clips on YouTube showing you how to use them. I can't recommend them enough.

JellyBellies Fri 09-Nov-12 14:25:50

Eliejjtiny - try a Kinderpack. You can get them in infant, standard, toddler and preschool size. A standard or a toddler size would be good as they have a higher back than the ergo so are more comfortable to carry in.
Hope this helps! PM me if you need more info.

sleepsforwimps2010 Fri 09-Nov-12 14:28:14

im amazed by all the people carrying toddlers! ds was nearly 14kg and over 3ft tall at 2.4years. the very idea of carrying him in a sling or on my back gives me cramp!......
but he is a little giant bless him!

OnwardBound Fri 09-Nov-12 14:30:52

Can I also ask a silly question of the Ergo devotees.

I have one tucked away. If I used it for DS2 who is now 21 mths old would I best to carry him on front or back?

And if carrying him on the back is best, how on earth do you get child in the sling and on your back when you are alone with them, ie with no adult present to help you?

TheOnlyPersonInTheDarkDarkRoom Fri 09-Nov-12 14:35:44

YANBU I bought/borrowed 5 different types of sling and not ONE of them did I get on with.

I think I have a different shaped body and baby to everyone else, or something.

I'm also a massive fan of my Connecta. It's got buckles so you're not faffing with reams of material, but it's still very comfy smile
I use mine every day with 6mo DS.

I used a BabyBjorn with DD and didn't use it much at all. Not comfy for either party.

OTTMummA Fri 09-Nov-12 14:38:25

I have multiple problems with my legs, back and pelvis, I am also a size 22 apple shape, I had a section with DD 3 months ago and she has lived in her close baby sling since we have been home. I actually resent the fact I bought the iCandy peach, it is great, but it gets used more for carting shopping about, and I can honest say she has been in her pram less than 10 times. I would say you need a material one, mine has 2 rings either side of the hip and you sit baby in the cross section at the front, pull the fabric over each side of baby and tighten by pulling the fabric through the rings, tie up and off you go! I practised by watching an online video on YouTube, I used a teddy bear first, and DD did cry the first fed times whilst putting her in, but once you are off and walking she falls asleep for ages. Now when she sees me put it on her legs start going and she gets all excited smile

mummysmellsofsick Fri 09-Nov-12 14:40:10

YABU. I still carry my enormous 1 year old everywhere. Can't remember when we last used the buggy.

You obvs have a dodgy sling. The long piece of cloth type is the most comfy but a pita to put on. Second for me is my Beco- quick to get on and off and still comfy for long walks (did 2 hrs recently)

mummysmellsofsick Fri 09-Nov-12 14:45:49

scholes34 I agree about marketing, I wonder why everyone has the bb when they are so fundamentally useless even with a tiny baby. I think their reputation comes from the fact that their other stuff like the bouncer chair is better than their competitors. DS still uses his bb bouncer chair it's strong and folds flat, I love it.

fraktion Fri 09-Nov-12 14:51:22

Ellie - I've heard ethos aren't great for shorter people. I can see why as I'm 5ft7 and couldn't be much shorter and still comfy.

Onward - you could front carry but back is comfort. Try either scooting him round from sitting on your hip to piggyback or if he's used to being tossed around stand behind him with both of you facing forwards, grasp his shoulders/upper arms tightly and him round up into your back (which I prefer as it gets them good and high). There are YouTube videos. Also practice over a bed so they understand the commands 'lie flat' and 'hold on'.

fraktion Fri 09-Nov-12 14:52:04

Oh fecking autocorrect. Ergos. Comfier....

Shagmundfreud Fri 09-Nov-12 14:53:19

I used a babybjorn, a wilkinet and a patapum. All good.

One day I was at my mums and my brother and I decided to go for a walk with his dd, who was 18 months at the time and not walking for long distances.

No sling handy, so I put her on my back like the African women do, and tied a cloth around her, so she was pressed in towards my body.

Massively comfortable! More comfortable than any other way of carrying.

nicecloth!

PekkaBoo Fri 09-Nov-12 14:55:52

Baby Bjorn is rubbish for any type of housework.

Arthurfowlersallotment Fri 09-Nov-12 14:58:00

Can someone tell me how to work the kari me?

I think it's designed for thin people with a cups.

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 15:04:50

Slings are very good but you ned to find the right one for you and your baby - and learn how to use it properly!

A sling meet or sling library will let you try on lots of different ones, give you advice and help you get them fitted, and may lend you them out. They also tend to be fun socials with tea and cake - all for a contribution to the room hire or similar...

http://www.slingmeet.co.uk/

PS I now have 7 woven wraps of different lengths/patterns, a mei tai, a wompat for DH/GP use (which are ACE smile ), and 2 ring slings. Happily carry my toddler for as long as she wants, and often for naps... very comfy smile

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 15:05:34

Babybjorn and babaslings are just rubbish IMO

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 15:08:26

Karime needs to be bandage tight - tighter than you might think, and fairly high as well....

Mousefunk Fri 09-Nov-12 16:03:14

Oh I exclusively babywear as in I do not own a buggy and I wear my 17 month old AND my three month old and can clarify it is not uncomfortable. I use ergo on my back for toddler and ellaroo wrap on front for baby. I even carried toddler on back in ergo until I was about 32 weeks pg, I love it.

However I did have to play around and find the right sling for me. At first I had an mei tai which I detested, I tried it when DD1 was a newborn and it felt unsafe, like her head was falling back all of the time/my neck was killing. So I tried a maya ring sling and I detested it.. I could never put it on right and it always killed like a bitch. I eventually got there with the ergo and haven't looked back since, love it! Definitely would advise an ergo..

Baby bjorns are the worst ones to use, along with bag slings (such as baba sling). The best slings are the woven wraps like the ellaroo and other companies do them too, or soft structured carriers like the ergo or beco. But it is personal, everyone has different opinions. But yeah, def avoid baby bjorns.

HTH

mamamibbo Fri 09-Nov-12 16:05:26

if its uncomfy you have the wrong one, soft carriers are better, babybjorns are horrible uncomfortable baby danglers

BartletForTeamGB Fri 09-Nov-12 16:09:06

"im amazed by all the people carrying toddlers! ds was nearly 14kg and over 3ft tall at 2.4years. the very idea of carrying him in a sling or on my back gives me cramp!......"

That is the same size as my toddler (2.2years) and he still fits comfortably in a sling.

Mousefunk Fri 09-Nov-12 16:12:59

To person asking about putting toddler on ergo its definitely better putting them on your back, I tried it on my front and it hurt so bad I thought I was going to die. There's great videos on youtube showing you how to get them on.

Mousefunk Fri 09-Nov-12 16:13:57

I don't know why my typing is all crap- on ergo, an mei tai.. Must really need sleep..

shinyrobot Fri 09-Nov-12 16:28:04

We had a baby bjorn and another similar one by a different brand and both dh and I had no issues at all wearing then for several hours at a time. We used ours till the dc no longer squeezed in grin

Ionlylikeitwhenitrains Fri 09-Nov-12 16:34:21

So I've read every post and here, I think is all the relevant info I'm standing at a pretty statuesque 5ft 1 my ain is 5 weeks old and my boobs are fluctuating between 30 c-d spending on when lo has a feed.
I walk for at least an hour a day and have a 25 month old in a maclaren xt so heavyish pushchair.

PLEASE someone recommend something or tell me where I'm may be going wrong.

Oh and the sling I have says.victoria sling lady confused it was given to me

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 16:40:20

Are you tying it quite tight, with the baby's head high on your chest, almost under your chin? Spread the passes out across your back as well.

Also you may be using core muscles that you wouldn't normally - may take a week to build strength. Carrying your baby like this is excellent for core strength - I've lost inches off my waist grin

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 16:42:26

Victoria sling lady slings are good stretchy slings - she's also a very helpful lovely mother herself who will help you if you contact her smile

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 16:43:29
Enfyshedd Fri 09-Nov-12 18:07:10

I have a Victoria Slinglady as well - only 5'2 1/2" here with a 38FF bust. I find my VS really comfy, although I mainly wear it in the house when DD (5mo) is grumpy & avoiding sleep in the evening (live in a hilly area with a lot of dodgy pavements and worry about tripping). However, last week it had a lot of use as we travelled 250miles on the train to visit Future MIL & couldn't fit the pram in her Ford Ka when we took DD out and because we used the pram to move the luggage around the train stations.

My tips:
1. I find it best/comfier to carry DD really high up, so baby's head can rest on the chest above your bust - you might need your DP's help to hold your baby high enough when adjusting & tightening the sling. To justify this, I do have some back problems, and the higher you make sure the baby is carried, the less strain you feel.
2. I usually use the Pocket Wrap Cross Carry - to make sure it's comfy for baby, make sure the crossed bits under the bum are opened up to hold the bum, not bunched up under the legs.

See https://www.youtube.com/user/victoriaSlinglady for VS's demo videos on how to use them.

The whole 'if it hurts you're doing it wrong' really makes me hmm.
We don't all have the same mattress or sofa or shoes because some people find things comfy that others find really uncomfortable, so why can't we say the same about how we cart out babies around?

TheOnlyPersonInTheDarkDarkRoom Fri 09-Nov-12 18:31:50

I was given one of those slings which is a massive piece of material that you wrap round. My slightly-on-the-large-side friend swore by it. I tied it on myself and couldn't even get it round the requisite number of times WITHOUT the baby in it, never mind with. My mum and I spent hours trying and admitted defeat.

I think slings are like the rolling your tongue thing and its some kind of genetic predisposition.

I live in a village with a lot of Fijian ladies and they all walk around with babies strapped to their backs (well, not all, but the ones with babies iykwim), it looks so lovely and easy and handy. envy sigh.

INeedThatForkOff Fri 09-Nov-12 18:34:10

I really can't believe how much sling 'addicts' spend on this, that and the other model. If they're that hood, why do you need more than one? hmm

I also find the judgy comments about the Baby Bjorn really patronising. I used one with DD and it was fine for both if us. I intend to use it again with DS. And there's nothing 'unnatural' about my parenting.

RosannaBanana Fri 09-Nov-12 18:39:04

I am interested to hear that others with back/pelvis problems have used slings without probs. I have a bad back, knee, and lingering SPD and haven't been able to use any type of sling for long periods, despite getting help on how to use them.
Would any sling devotees say that some people just can't do slings, or do you really think there's one out there for everyone?

Lastofthepodpeople Fri 09-Nov-12 19:07:27

The Baby Bjorns have a lot to answer for. They put a lot of people off slings. I stopped using mine when DS was 6 weeks because it was too painful for my back and shoulders, on the other hand I used my Rose and Rebellion carrier comfortably until he was 2...

Rockchick1984 Fri 09-Nov-12 19:09:05

Ineed baby bjorn do serve a purpose and some people do find them comfortable, however there are slings available which are much more supportive which is why people are sometimes derogatory about them. To see what I mean, stand up and raise one leg. Support it by holding your leg near the crotch where a bjorn supports a baby. Now move your hands down and support your leg from the back of the knee. It is far more comfortable in the second position. Also google baby carrier hip dysplacia if you want more evidence of why a knee to knee support is better for a baby.

Roseanna I don't personally know anyone with all the issues you have stated. My DH has a bad back and can happily carry our 19 month old, 2 stone toddler in a Rose and Rebellion as the weight is supported by his hips rather than shoulders/back. I think with knee problems and SPD you would need to try a few, or try different types of carries with a woven wrap (I can do about 6 carries with mine, but only 2 which I will actually use as they are the only ones I find comfortable) smile

RainbowsFriend Fri 09-Nov-12 19:33:47

I don't need more than one, but they're pretty, go with different outfits, and some I don't mind getting (very) muddy, some are short and fit in a bag etc,....

I do truly believe there is a sling for everyone. I had bad lingering SPD and a sling helped as it meant I carried her centrallyy. DP has a bad back and carrying DD regularly in a sling has actually strengthened his core muscles and helped his back... but some people do need to build up to it as you are using muscles you might not be otherwise

CharlotteBronteSaurus Fri 09-Nov-12 19:39:54

YABU
there is something for everyone
I am about as far from a lentil weaving attachment parent as it's possible to be but am quite evangelical about the sheer practicality of slings.
the hard bit is finding out the one that's best for you, due to the massive variation between people and babies.

i carried our 98th centiler in a kari-me, but went through a bjorn, ring sling, an erog, and a wilkinet before finding that one. try out as many as your friends will lend you, and buy off ebay - I don't think we spent more than a tenner on all but the ergo, and we sold that for more that we bought it for.

BananaramaLlama Fri 09-Nov-12 19:47:16

With stretchy wraps you need to have the material really snug against your body. You need to use the stretch of the fabric to put your wee one in. People tend to have them too loose

BananaramaLlama Fri 09-Nov-12 19:50:52

Oops, posted too soon - if it's too loose you will sometimes lean back to compensate which can make it sore on your back.

If you have a sling moment nearby you could get some help with it. Or a sling library might help - you could try on a few.

Hope you can find something to work.

BananaramaLlama Fri 09-Nov-12 19:51:40

Sling moment?? Sling MEET.

PropertyNightmare Fri 09-Nov-12 19:51:47

Yanbu. I have tried loads. Not one comfortable one did I find. My back is a bit of a rwat though so perhaps that's why I can't get on with them.

BertieBotts Fri 09-Nov-12 19:51:54

Sounds like you might have it too loose, and/or a different style of sling would suit you.

With a stretchy one, you need to first put it on without the baby in, tie so there's no slack, and then let the stretch of the material take the baby's weight rather than leaving room for them, or tying it around them (like you would with a woven sling) - the stretch will get looser as you walk, so ideally you need to start out with it a little bit too tight.

Also, preferably as few layers of clothing between you and the sling as possible, so have it under a coat definitely, maybe under a cardigan/zip top/fleece/whatever as well.

If you have a sling meet or sling library near you you could go and get some pointers and try a few out. I know sling meets get a bit of a hippyish/bad rep on here, but this is the exact situation they were invented for, and you wouldn't have to carry on going if you weren't keen - they're happy for people to stop in for advice and never come back grin

Climbingpenguin Fri 09-Nov-12 19:52:24

I think with the Kari-me, you really need someone in RL to show you the final adjustment to make it work,

I'm 5'1 and was a C cup and loved it for both my LO's but with my first I had to take her and the sling to a sling meet to get it to work. 10 mins later and i never had a problem again.

My connecta otoh is alright now that DS is a year but I don't fully get on well with it.

I think there's lots of helpful advice on here, OP. smile I would also say, try to get to a slingmeet (or La Leche League meeting if there isn't a slingmeet locally but there is a LLL, loads of them are baby-wearers grin) and have someone show you how to put it on properly. Tight like a tight t-shirt. Youtube has loads of tutorials too, have a look. You may just find that a wrap, stretchy or otherwise, isn't for you, but try a buckled soft-structured carrier (SSC) instead - a Connecta or mei tai. The forum Natural Mamas has lots of help and also a great source of used slings for sale.

Dellarama Thu 15-Nov-12 12:09:27

For all those with baby b's and have found them uncomfortable why not have a look at

Www.slingguide.co.uk for an idea of what's available and then
Www.slingmeet.co.uk and ukslinglibrarynetwork they can direct you to your local slung library, where you can try out a good range of carriers that support babies weight and hip and spine development by holding baby knee pit to knee pit.

I comfortably carry all my children when they want/need it. I have didymos, girasol, NATIBABY and all sorts of woven wraps, buckle carriers ( buckles) such as a wompat, Madame goo goo, kinderpack, nubigo, opiati, softai, kitten creations.... So so many....

So why not try some out?

OxfordBags Thu 15-Nov-12 12:31:03

OP, wraps and carriers really are 'suck it and see' (except don't suck them or you won't get a refundm haha). We have a Manduca and it is brilliant. Try and find a slong meet to go to, they are brilliant for helping fond the right one for you and baby.

Onward, I chuck my 19month old Ds over my shoulders to get into our carrier and he loves it. If I'm too knackered for that, I get him to do 'horsey' and put his arms around my neck from behind then wrangle him into place. It's a bit nerve-wracking at first doing it by yourself, at home or in public, but it soon becomes second nature. You just have to be intuitive about it.

Roseanna, I have physical disabilities and lingering SPD and I carry my 2stone, 2 ft 8 toddler in a back carrier. It actually helps me walk in a more aligned way, is hard to explain, but it is doable, I promise. But if you don't feel up to it, don't force yourself x

OxfordBags Thu 15-Nov-12 12:32:47

Slong meet? Sounds even more fun than a sling meet...

Pongwiffy Thu 15-Nov-12 13:26:05

I love my caboo (close) hybrid sling, easy to use, comfortable and DD loves it. I went through a karime and peanut shell before it. I also use a mei tai as a back up incase I forget the caboo! It's amazing and I've got the cocoon for it which is a waterproof outer with a hood.

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