to be annoyed that it's easier for people with wide feet than people with narrow feet to buy shoes? It pisses me off.

(62 Posts)
ethelb Fri 02-Nov-12 09:03:15

Honestly. It's true. I have two pairs of shoes and a pair of trainers as shoe shopping is such a 'mare.

Raspberrysorbet Fri 02-Nov-12 09:05:05

Is this a different slant on the short v fat people thread? grin

littleanne73 Fri 02-Nov-12 09:05:23

have you tried Clarks they do some widths and ranges are better than they used to be dd has school shoes from Clarks this season!

Wetthemogwai Fri 02-Nov-12 09:05:39

Yanbu, I buy shoes 2 sizes too big and stuff the ends with tissue!

ethelb Fri 02-Nov-12 09:07:01

@raspberry yep grin

It's true though. Women with big fat feet get all the good shoes. They don't have to wear silly straps over the top like little girls.

SpectralMissSpooky Fri 02-Nov-12 09:07:07

What about those of us with a high instep though?! I've resorted to converse and doc martens, which I love, but it would be nice to have some stirrup! <weeps>

ethelb Fri 02-Nov-12 09:08:36

I have a very high arch as well. Honestly. It is a nightmare. I find finding trainers or walking boots that accomodate high arches nearly impossible.

So revise that to women with flat, fat feet being able to buy all the nice shoes.

Well I have very wide feet and find shoe shopping a nightmare but I have no idea if it's easier than shopping for narrow feet as I have never had to do it.

AbbyRue Fri 02-Nov-12 09:09:16

Go on and be annoyed then if it helps you sleep at night

This is silly IMO as you're implying that there's something wrong with people who have wide feet hmm as if they chose to?

Be annoyed at not being able to find narrow feet shoes but no need to be arsy about others.

YABU

GrimAndHumourless Fri 02-Nov-12 09:10:34

you wanna try having a stupidly high instep so nearly all styles of shoe get stepped out of - slingbacks? step out/courts? step out/ballet flats? step out

trainers/dolly shoes/biker boots is all I have to chose

[competitive foot whinger]

I also have to accommodate orthotics with my wide feet and my calves are too sturdy for about 99% of boots so it's really hard

sausagesandwich34 Fri 02-Nov-12 09:11:22

I have size 10, wide feet with high arches

I have 1 pair of boots which have been re heeled and re soled so many times I can't count, and my work saftey boots -and that's it

anyone want to swap?

EdithWeston Fri 02-Nov-12 09:12:32

You need a nice, long soothing bath trip to Hong Kong shopping. Or Singapore. Or anywhere else in Asia where the average body frame is smaller than the average Caucasian one. Much wider choice, and a good holiday too.

Wetthemogwai Fri 02-Nov-12 09:30:00

My 'yanbu' was ment to be 'ya*d*bu' oops!

VegemiteSandwich Fri 02-Nov-12 09:32:51

YANBU. It is definitely easier to find shoes for wide feet than narrow feet. BUT no-one in the world finds it actually easy to get a nice pair of shoes to fit.

PS: I'm a podiatrist so this is one of the few times I know what I'm talking about!!

hackmum Fri 02-Nov-12 09:35:53

OP - YANBU! This is me too! I have very narrow feet and buying shoes is a nightmare. Like you, I have hardly any shoes for this reason. I always thought it was just me. Perhaps we should start a club. Or a website selling narrow shoes.

Mrsrobertduvallsaysboo Fri 02-Nov-12 09:45:56

I will top trump you and say narrow size 9 feet are a nightmare to buy for.
There is smallfeetures....a lot of mumsy shoes- think Hotter but for AA fittings.
Or Crispins in London...beautiful shoes with Hefty pricetags.

ethelb Fri 02-Nov-12 09:48:23

@vegemite. Balls. A friend's DP got her a pair of Kurt Geiger shoes for her birthday. He ordered them off the internet. I asked her how he knew they were going to fit and she said "he knows my size".

For some people it really is that easy to find shoes.that.FIT.

bruffin Fri 02-Nov-12 09:51:30

I find it.impossible to but boots because of my calf muscles, I also have wide feet.and high arches and it's not easy to but shoes at all.

bruffin Fri 02-Nov-12 09:52:25

That's buy not but.

apachepony Fri 02-Nov-12 09:56:15

I have fat feet and unfortunately am developing bunions from rubbing against shoes. So count your blessings! Also why do so few places do half sizes? They're the only ones that fit!

peppersaunt Fri 02-Nov-12 09:56:25

I find that expensive shoes are the best fit for my small narrow feet (much to my husband's disgust grin)

ethelb Fri 02-Nov-12 09:56:45

Yep. I'm also a 4 1/2. They don't sell those either.

peppersaunt Fri 02-Nov-12 09:57:41

Snap to apache re half sizes!

Mrsrobertduvallsaysboo Fri 02-Nov-12 09:59:30

Peppersaunt...I agree.
Dh knows my mantra is, if it fits, get it in every colour!
I spent £400 on 2 pairs this week sad

Servalan Fri 02-Nov-12 10:01:25

Try having feet that are wide at the top and narrow at the heel <hates shoe shopping>

ethel your feet sound like mine. I have narrow size 3 1/2's.

I have never found a pair of ballet pumps that fit and don't fall off. I don't wear heels, any kind of girly shoes come to think of it.

The narrow width birkenstocks are great for me in the summer. Size 36 fits me perfectly so maybe a 37 would fit you? Also clarks 'regular' fit are fine and they do half sizes, although they come up small so I need a 4 anyway.

Trainers are usually OK as I buy them in a 4 and lace them up tightly so they stay on!

peppersaunt Fri 02-Nov-12 10:11:30

I recognise that mantra!

Selks Fri 02-Nov-12 10:12:40

Well you might find it hard to buy narrow shoes (and you have my sympathy) but why assume that it is easier for those with wide feet? I can assure you it is not! Most 'shoes for wide feet' are either not very wide really at all or designed for someone aged around 70. 'Tis a nightmare and I live in two or three pairs of shoes max.

peppersaunt Fri 02-Nov-12 10:13:56

Try ballet pumps with elasticated backs mrs bugsy

KitKatGirl1 Fri 02-Nov-12 10:15:42

Yep, me too. Can't wear any shoes which don't have s strap on (like a little girl). All my evening shoes are only halfway to being grown up cos they have to have a strap.

And as for narrow fitting boys schools shoes. No chance. Friends with dcs with E fitting try and tell me they struggle to find shoes. Try having a boy with a C width fitting!

KitKatGirl1 Fri 02-Nov-12 10:17:07

Wonder why I love winter (boots are usually much easier to find) and the middle of summer - narrow birkenstocks are pretty good - but hate it when the weather's in between?

SecretNutellaFix Fri 02-Nov-12 10:19:33

I have very wide, very short feet with a high instep, and large muscular calves.

It took me three winters to find a pair of boots.

I can't wear heels wither due to tendon injuries. I have one pair of walking shoes rather than trainers, a pair of work shoes that cover my foot instead of being fucking strapped and 2 pairs of very thin summery ballet flats.

It's easy to get shoes when you have wide feet? <pisses self laughing>

bruffin Fri 02-Nov-12 10:26:25

We have the same feet secret grin

I have ordered a pair of boots from fashion world, the do really high width fitting and a super curvy thigh fit.

bruffin Fri 02-Nov-12 10:27:00

Calf not thigh, not really into thigh high boots.

Thanks for the tip pepper

Scholes34 Fri 02-Nov-12 12:35:11

Regardless of whether it's fat or narrow feet, it's impossible to buy a nice pair of ladies shoes fit for purpose - ie sturdy enough to be able to walk any distance in them, thick enough soles that the cold doesn't penetrate, but still look good and are not clod-hoppers.

High insteps are bad news. I can barely get my big toe in some sandals.

maddening Fri 02-Nov-12 13:04:45

No - it is easier for people with average size feet. V narrow or v wide will be equally hard.

YerMaw1989 Fri 02-Nov-12 13:17:47

No it bloody isn't!!! size 9 EEE here bloody horrendous,

DowntonTrout Fri 02-Nov-12 13:40:25

I have average feet but long legs so my calf is very high. Long boots are almost impossible to buy as the shaped calf bit sits below my calf and they won't do up around my actual calf IYSWIM.

DD has long narrow feet and is almost impossible to buy for. Some shops just won't sell us a pair of shoes because they don't fit properly. We can't buy anything from a normal shoe shop. If we find just one pair that fits we have to have them as there is no choice. Even Clarks/start rite struggle to fit her.

DrCoconut Fri 02-Nov-12 19:23:37

I find most shoes in high street shops to be too narrow. I have to order from catalogues. And try finding anything in a wide fitting that doesn't look like you raided your granny's wardrobe! All the girly shoes I'd love to buy are teeny tiny Cinderella shoes sad

I am finding all these threads baffling. grin

Surely these hugely successful international retail giants (the ones that make it easy to buy stuff) have scores of people researching what will sell. And then stock that. So it will always be easier to buy stuff if you fit into a majority demographic (do I mean that? YKWIM anyway). And not so easy if your needs are more niche, at whichever end of the scale. There is always going to be more choice available for the masses in the middle.

It's like me saying 'AIBU to be outraged that it's easier to buy black tights than it is to buy ones with patterns of dolphins on?'. Then a million posts saying 'dolphins are EASY. God, I need squid tights - try finding them'.

digerd Fri 02-Nov-12 20:10:41

I am an E fitting, and feet swell in the humid heat. I find that shoes seem to have got bigger than they used to be. And then just recently a pair that were fine are now too tight. Was told some years ago I had a wedge shaped foot. Favourites at the moment are my 1996 calf lenth boots bought in Germany for shopping, and Hush puppies suede, lightweight, flexible sole, velcro stap, chic trainer style bought several years ago. In burgundy, black and beige colours - 3 pairs !!!!!!

digerd Fri 02-Nov-12 20:14:28

Servalen
You have wedge shaped feet too.

monsterchild Fri 02-Nov-12 20:14:39

I agree with VegemiteSandwich that shoe buying is hard for everyone. And I will go a step further, and say that if you have any sort of pain threshold, shoe buying is even more difficult!

I have sausage feet, no arch, blunt toes, an achilles that is flush with my heel bone, and finding shoes is extremely difficult for me. I also blister like crazy, so must be selective and have injury from sports that limit the amount of height I can wear.

I wear a lot of "sensible" shoes.

digerd Fri 02-Nov-12 20:19:38

Monster child,
I too have an achilles tendon flush with my heel, but don't think it was when I was younger.
Went for a bone scan in which they measure the width of the heel - mine has become narrow- and was diagnosed with thinning bones !!!!!!!!

MrsTwinks Fri 02-Nov-12 20:48:59

yabu to assume its easy for wide feet, trust me it really isnt. I have wide, thick feet with a high instep. I work in a shoe shop. I still can't get shoes easily, infact I have to wear at least 2 sizes to long even in EEEE ballet pumps to fit my feet.

yanbu to find narrow feet impossible thou. Like I said I fit shoes and it can be really hard if you are anything slightly different from "normal"

monsterchild Fri 02-Nov-12 20:51:28

digerd mine has always been that way. Makes wearing any kind of dress shoe pure agony, doesn't it?

maristella Fri 02-Nov-12 20:55:01

I hear you OP! Pumps, nice flats etc, I leave them all behind when I'm walking along angry

Mary Janes shoes are the only way!

TheBigJessie Fri 02-Nov-12 21:04:42

Why are women's shoes so impractical? I was looking for shoes that I could a) walk a mile in and have dry feet, and
B) wear to a interview for an office-based job.

whattodoo Fri 02-Nov-12 21:16:37

Oh good google!

I'm short, fat and have wide feet. I wear glasses and underwired bras. Do I need to feel guilty about anything else?

If its any consolation, I find that tights seem to be made for the slender thighed, not cake munchers like me with thighs of thunder. The nylon burns my inners.

And hold ups are a nightmare - many's the time I've walked down the street hoping that no-one will notice the pool of american tan gathering around each ankle.

LaVolcan Fri 02-Nov-12 21:17:03

And what if you have long narrow feet with a high instep but a different size for each one? Like me? Although if they do half sizes I usually find that I can manage OK with one foot being a closer fit than the other. And I blister easily too. (Maybe that's because the size isn't quite right?)

LaVolcan Fri 02-Nov-12 21:19:04

The nylon doesn't burn my inners but just doesn't come up far enough and my thighs rub. Not nice. I suppose I could wear those 'directoire' knickers that old grannies used to wear for that reason.

skyebluezombie Fri 02-Nov-12 21:33:55

I have wide feet and cannot find shoes to fit! I end up buying a size bigger sometimes, but then they are too long.

I have to have a triple E fitting in boots or I cant get them on

whattodoo Fri 02-Nov-12 21:39:03

lavolcan what is a directoire knicker and where do I get them from?

I can't get boots to fit my fat calves.

expatinscotland Fri 02-Nov-12 21:43:22

YANBU

PurpleGentian Fri 02-Nov-12 22:08:00

YABU.

I have wide feet, and usually have to go up a size or two to get a shoe that's wide enough for my feet. And then it looks like I'm wearing clown shoes, because there's so much empty space at the end of the shoe.

I appreciate it's hard for people with narrow feet too, but the people it's easy for is people with feet of a "normal" width.

Sneepy Fri 02-Nov-12 23:26:32

Take comfort, narrow people, in the fact that your feet will always look more elegant. The most expensive and beautiful shoes are made for narrow feet, you can wear converse without a care and will never find the perfect pair of sandals only to discover that your toes are scraping the ground on either side. DD1 has got little fairy feet and even at 6y always looks fashionable because of them (or maybe because all of her shoes are £££ as she has the step out issue).

SchrodingersUndeadMew Fri 02-Nov-12 23:55:48

Try finding shoes for size 4, narrow, flat feet that need orthotics!

<cries at the thought of shoe shopping> grin

LaVolcan Sat 03-Nov-12 09:37:43

Directoire knickers are those ones with legs which go to the knees. Just doing a quick google, I found these: www.woods-online.co.uk/shop-by-product/traditional-underwear/directoire-knickers.html

uggmum Sat 03-Nov-12 09:44:42

I have wide feet and dropped arches. I find it impossible to buy shoes. I tend to wear uggs in winter and fit flops in summer. Even shoes labelled for wide feet don't fit me. I've also had a double bunion removal which doesn't help.

My dd has inherited my awful feet. When she needed school shoes we had 5 trips to buy shoes. They didn't have even have 1 pair of shoes that would fit her in...Bantano, Clarks (including adults) m&s and Charles clinkard. I was seriously losing the will to live. Finally got some hush puppies but she hates them.

dolcelatte Sat 03-Nov-12 09:47:17

I wholly sympathise - Ferragamo or James Inglis cater for narrow feet, although the styles can be a bit dull. Jimmy Choo is also good for narrow feet and has some lovely styles, although it is a bit pricier.

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