To take a photo of dd before she goes out with someone else?

(42 Posts)

I have a child with aspergers , she has fight or flight mode and in a panic will run but also she is very niave and if told to she would do anything..

I have started taking a picture on my phone before she goes out with other people, (school friends and parents) not because I expect anyone to snatch her but more in case she wanders off especially as her friend lives in area they play out still.

I'm being too pfb aren't I?

DeepPurple Sat 13-Oct-12 14:49:03

That actually sounds quite sensible tbh. Although may be every time us s little ott!

RandomMess Sat 13-Oct-12 14:49:41

Nah sounds quite sensible tbh.

Much easier to get people to help look for her if you can say a little girls dressed like this - have you seen her when she's panciked and ran off.

She's nearly ten though blush

WofflingOn Sat 13-Oct-12 14:51:37

Sounds sensible to me, then you have a record of what she was wearing and her hairstyle. Better than not letting her out of your sight for a second, that would be PFB to the max.

Sparklingbrook Sat 13-Oct-12 14:51:42

If it makes you feel happier don't worry about it. Seems sensible if you are worried.

Ithinkitsjustme Sat 13-Oct-12 14:53:25

Certainly a picture on a regular basis sounds sensible and knowing exactly what she is wearing would also be a good idea, with the exception of my 3 year old I would have no idea what any of my kids are wearing today and have no up to date photos either guilty emoticon

AlfalfaMum Sat 13-Oct-12 14:53:39

Oh, I think that's really clever. I've often thought if one of my kids got lost I'd struggle to remember what they were wearing confused

I have a girl with Aspergers too, she has never been one for running off but I know kids on the spectrum are very prone to wandering.

freddiefrog Sat 13-Oct-12 14:54:03

Sounds quite sensible actually

My DD1 has gone over the park with her friends, and if anything happened, I couldn't tell you what she was wearing (jeans and a hoodie probably but I'd have to check what was missing from her wardrobe to be sure)

DozyDuck Sat 13-Oct-12 14:55:34

What a fantastic idea, pinching it, but I'm extremely pfb so you might not want to give my YANBU much credit wink

rollmeover Sat 13-Oct-12 15:04:52

In your circumstances it doesnt sound too daft and its not doing anyone any harm is it? She doesnt even really need to know you are taking it if you dont want to make her paranoid.

Oh I don't tell her why. I just take a picture.

TinyDancingHoofer Sat 13-Oct-12 15:42:19

Do you keep all the pictures? It could be a really fun slideshow if you played it at speed to see how she's changed over time.

Jenny70 Sat 13-Oct-12 16:26:01

I am the least pfb parent, but if we're going somewhere busy (or where I may be chatting/distracted) I will do this.

Sparklingbrook Sat 13-Oct-12 16:29:01

I thought that Tiny. What a lovely record.

MousyMouse Sat 13-Oct-12 16:29:40

very sensible.
I take photos of my dc when at busy places/events for the same reason.

TeddyBare Sat 13-Oct-12 16:29:42

I have done this when we're going out to busy places for the day. I think it's a good idea.

ICutMyFootOnOccamsRazor Sat 13-Oct-12 16:30:25

Sounds like a good idea, tbh. I am definitely not a pfb type, but might do this from now on when we're travelling.

I've only just started doing it and she only goes with friend every couple of weeks but I saw a video where someone had done it every month from birth to teens as a slideshow, it was fab.

nickeldaisical Sat 13-Oct-12 16:33:36

it's a good idea - most people if asked wouldn't be able to say what their child was wearing.

Noqontrol Sat 13-Oct-12 16:35:09

Its a good idea.

lovebunny Sat 13-Oct-12 16:50:50

that's a brilliant idea, from all sorts of angles. you get to have lots of pictures of your girl. there's always an up to date one, if needed. she knows her mummy loves her. you have a record of what she's wearing. in later years, she'll probably be really interested in your record of her youth...

well done, good mum. not pfb. just love.

janflan Sat 13-Oct-12 17:12:19

I'd say a good idea, the time i needed to tell the police what my son was wearing i didn't have a clue. Not sure if it was shock or not but i couldn't remember.

fuckwittery Sat 13-Oct-12 17:13:47

I took a photo of my DD as soon as she got a new coat so I had a record of it.

TraineeBabyCatcher Sat 13-Oct-12 17:18:29

I've heard someone else mention it before, about taking a photo of your child at the beginning of every trip out. Therefore you always have a photo of them if godforbid anything happened, and its up to date and shows there exact clothes. Plus in the long run its a nice momento.

It's a good idea given the circumstances, I thought from the thread title it was going to be a NT older teen going out with boyfriends for some reason grin

My son was playing out this morning and i look out the window for him every couple of mins, and at first I couldn't see him and it instantly flashed through my head I could remember what trousers he was wearing (because he spilled milk on them and didn't want to change them after breakfast and I didn't make him as he was only going to play out and around the house today) but not what he had on his top half under his coat... I spotted him a moment later, but if you have more than 1 child/ an older child sometimes it is hard to remember exactly what they are all wearing should you need to!

HolyAutumnGoldBatman Sat 13-Oct-12 17:58:13

I went on a child protection/safety course and that is exactly what they advised. Take a picture when going on a day out/to somewhere busy and then if they do get lost you have a current picture, showing exactly what they are wearing to show/give to staff/police/anyone else helping to look for them.

Another piece of advice was don't shout out their name. Stand on something so you can see further and look for them, but don't call them.

AlfalfaMum Sat 13-Oct-12 18:24:56

Why should you not shout their name HolyAutumn?

HolyAutumnGoldBatman Sat 13-Oct-12 18:34:31

The idea behind it was that if there is someone there who wanted to abduct a child, it would not be a good idea to alert them to the fact that a child is lost/alone and to tell them that child's name and to show them who was looking for them.

Most children know not to go off with strangers, but if they're lost and someone comes up to them and says 'hello Amber, I've been looking for you everywhere, come with me and I'll take you back to your mummy and brother. I love your brother's thomas the tank engine t-shirt, that's really cool etc etc' then they're much more likely to go off with them.

Obviously the chances of that happening are thankfully very, very small.

neverputasockinatoaster Sat 13-Oct-12 19:43:37

I think the photo is a good idea and one I shall adopt!

I lost DD over the summer (long and horrendous nightmare) and I was suprised that I could remember exactly what she was wearing. Had it been DS I might not have been able to remember so clearly.

Brilliant idea op, i might adopt it myself.
It's always good to have an up to date photo of your child and if god forbid anything did happen, the authorities will know exactly what she looks like and what she was wearing on that particular day.

SoleSource Sat 13-Oct-12 20:02:03

Yanbu keep it up. Clever. DL ntto PC smile

McHappyPants2012 Sat 13-Oct-12 20:06:37

Sounds sensible I am going to start doing it smile

ImaginateMum Sat 13-Oct-12 22:44:39

Very sensible!

And better than a girl I went to school with who was always made to wear the same clothes as her sister in case one got lost.

sparkle12mar08 Sun 14-Oct-12 07:44:51

Very sensible, we've been doing this on big busy days out for a while now.

DameEnidsOrange Sun 14-Oct-12 07:55:47

Another one pinching the idea YANBU

akaemmafrost Sun 14-Oct-12 08:24:11

I do this too.

Ohhh I am not an over paranoid loon yeyy

Good idea-
I 'lost' my DS at school and when one of the teachers asked me his name I couldn't even remember that for a split second sad

GhostofMammaTJ Sun 14-Oct-12 18:05:32

A really good idea. I always used to put a piece of paper with my phone number about my PFBs person. My little ones now would lose it, so I write on their forearms if we are going somewhere crowded. I do not care if people think I am mad for doing so if it could aid their safe return to me if they got lost.

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo Sun 14-Oct-12 18:12:05

I remeber helping two lost little girls at a very busy country fair. They approached me as I was accompanied by dd2 in pushchair and my aged grandma - so looked jolly safe I think. They were trying to decribe their dad but were so agitated it was inpossible to work out anything about him. We were just talking to a policeman when dad dashed up. He was wearing a shirt with turtles on it - which was why the little ones had been going on about a 'sea' shirt -which of course meant nothing to us!
So actually if you're in a very busy place with a child who is likely to get lost it would be an idea to plant your details on them as well as having a pic of them. I will never forget seeing those parents. Dad was beside himself with relief but mum was in another league altogether - she just cried and cried. This was in September 2002 - right after the Soham murders. I think they had both thought they were never going to see them again.

akaemmafrost Sun 14-Oct-12 18:17:16

Or maybe we're both paranoid loons whistling.

Strangely enough though I have. Nearly 10 year old ds with HFA. He too is much more vulnerable than the average 9 year old.

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