To leave DD downstairs watching TV whilst I sort the washing out on the landing upstairs?

(48 Posts)
IRCL Thu 11-Oct-12 19:48:40

Just got off the phone to my mum, mentioned that DS was downstairs watching TV whilst I was on the landing sorting through the mountains of washing.

She started ranting at me saying how I shouldn't do it.

All doors are open and I shout down to her, nothing in living room that poses a danger really, unless you count more bloody washing.

AIBU to think that it is fine or is my my mum right and I am being an irresponsible parent?


Mrsjay Thu 11-Oct-12 19:49:45

What age is he I think your mum is being a bit loony you can't be attached to children 24/7 you are upstairs not out for the evening confused

kim147 Thu 11-Oct-12 19:49:59

How old is DS? Still doesn't matter though smile

YANBU, how are you meant to get anything done if you have them attached to you all the time?!

usualsuspect3 Thu 11-Oct-12 19:51:54


downday Thu 11-Oct-12 19:52:04

YANBU was your mum superwoman

WorraLiberty Thu 11-Oct-12 19:52:32

Am I the only one hoping the OP will say 17yrs old? grin

CookingFunt Thu 11-Oct-12 19:52:33

How old is DD?

LemonBreeland Thu 11-Oct-12 19:52:48

YANBU even if she is a toddler.

Mrsjay Thu 11-Oct-12 19:53:49

|IS it a daughter or son there is a conflict grin

Mrsjay Thu 11-Oct-12 19:54:13

Am I the only one hoping the OP will say 17yrs old?

I was thinking 10 grin

Graciescotland Thu 11-Oct-12 19:55:54

YANBU DS + TV = 20 minutes to do what needs to be done. So long as you can hear them I think it's ok althoughdo beware of the silences DS drew all over our white couches the other day with an orange pen (it did come out, all hail crayola!).

catgirl1976 Thu 11-Oct-12 19:57:54


I leave DS whilst I get stuff done and he's 10 months. The room is as babyproof as I can reasonably make it, he can't get out and if I didn't leave him from time to time to gawp at baby tv play with his wooden, Mandarin flashcards I would get nothing done

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Thu 11-Oct-12 19:58:01

I do it, sometimes you just have to let Thomas and his friends baby sit. As long as you can hear them and pop down to check on them I don't see an issue.

TerrorNotSoFrightened Thu 11-Oct-12 20:08:06

YANBU how else are you supposed to get anything done?
Does she expect you to take him/her to the loo with you also?

MissPricklePants Thu 11-Oct-12 20:09:57

YANBU! I would never get anything done if I didn't let dd watch a bit of tv or occupy herself with toys for 20-30 mins.

gordyslovesheep Thu 11-Oct-12 20:11:26

I think it's fairly irresponsible not know the gender of your child grin

OP DD or DS and how old?

ShutTheFrontDoor Thu 11-Oct-12 20:20:08

Twins, one of each.

DoubleYew Thu 11-Oct-12 20:34:52

My mum is way more protective of ds than she was with us. I was chatting to a granny and she said its because with a gc you are worried about them and your dc if anything happened to them so its double the stress.

Whatever age your dd or ds I'd say this is fine. Lock the front/back door if they are mobile.

Mrsjay Thu 11-Oct-12 20:35:30

AH twins oK where is girl twin

Raspberryandorangesorbet Thu 11-Oct-12 20:47:06

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IRCL Thu 11-Oct-12 21:01:27

Oops. Seems I don't even know the gender of my child!

I have a DD and she will 3 next month, I leave the doors open and keep shouting her.

She replies yes like a teenager, gets sick of me asking!

Nice to know IANBU. I just sort of have to ignore my mum when she says stuff like that.

And to be honest I don't know what she did when we were younger, there were four of us!

She is a worrier though admittedly.

kim147 Thu 11-Oct-12 21:06:03

3! YADNBU. Of course a 3 yr old can be left by herself for a bit.

catgirl1976 Thu 11-Oct-12 21:24:07

envy at Raspberrys flash cards

My silk worms are from Waitrose though so neh neh grin

She's 3? My son is age 3, I leave him all the time to do stuff, he comes and finds me if he needs something. YANBU.

I'd start telling your Mum less to be honest. She's sounds bit loopy to me grin Save yourself the aggravation and tell her less about what you're up to/ choose to do with your DD wink

spottybag Thu 11-Oct-12 21:31:22

THREE???? Jesus Wept!!!! Of course it's ok!!

KenLeeeeeee Thu 11-Oct-12 21:32:57


Raspberryandorangesorbet Thu 11-Oct-12 21:51:11

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Softlysoftly Thu 11-Oct-12 21:56:48

GPs are brilliant, MIL told me not to tell dd1 off as she's too little (3)! DH distinctly remembers being whacked with a bit of their front privet hedge at not much older.

She will have left you to your own devices plenty of times, the rise tinted glasses get installed as soon as a d/dil gets pregnant.

ujjayi Thu 11-Oct-12 22:09:28

I'm sorry OP, I really did want to make a contribution to your thread but I am too busy PMSL at the competitive silk worm ownership ishooos grin

HappyOrchid Thu 11-Oct-12 23:48:17

No way unreasonalbe.

My mom once yelled at me when DD aged about 5 at the time answered the phone because I was taking some rubbish out to the bin. Apparently I ws irresponsible to leave her alone in the house whilst I went with house keys in my pocket the 3 - 4 metres to the dustbin.

My mom conveniently forgets that she worked evenings and my dad worked shifts and they often overlapped working times and from the age of 10 I would look after my 4 year old sister for at least an hour mist days.

Ozziegirly Fri 12-Oct-12 05:01:23

Well I leave DS (2) in front of playschool with his toast in the morning while I have a shower. He's got legs, he knows where to find me if he needs me.

What was she objecting to? The TV being on or you not being in the same room?

catgirl1976 Fri 12-Oct-12 05:37:30

I heard your silkworms smoke Raspberry <sniff>


Trousersrolled Fri 12-Oct-12 05:43:46

YANBU. Unless you can get your DD to help with the laundry... smile

Raspberryandorangesorbet Fri 12-Oct-12 09:20:36

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Faylalu Fri 12-Oct-12 09:46:03

I'm probabaly a terrible parent, but if I didn't let my son watch TV while I did the washing/showered NOTHING would get done and I would stink. He's a good boy and I check on him all the time.

I think it depends on what kind of child you have. If my son was a climber/wall drawer, kitchen knife finder then I would have him with me ALL the time, but he doesn't bothered about anything apart from the Lingo Show etc...

browniebear Fri 12-Oct-12 11:53:50

No UANBU I leave ds 2.5 watching mr tumble and can get lots done, except he seems to know when I go for a wee and Then he just follows me upstairs to say clever mummy

cheekydevil Fri 12-Oct-12 11:57:20

3! I was down bloody mines by that age. Your too bloody soft you southerners!

cheekydevil Fri 12-Oct-12 11:58:19

grin @ brownie clever mommy wipe too?

valiumredhead Fri 12-Oct-12 11:59:34

3? shock of course it's ok!!!!!

urbanproserpine Fri 12-Oct-12 12:02:52

haha, she should try having twins! No choice then. relax.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 12-Oct-12 12:05:38

Dear God. When my DS1 was 2.8 I used to leave him downstairs in front of the TV while I attempted to settle my then newborn for a nap. If he wanted me he could come and find me...

browniebear Fri 12-Oct-12 12:15:31

Cheekydevil sometimes I get a round of applause toogrin

youmeatsix Fri 12-Oct-12 14:18:12

if you had taught your 3 year old to fold/iron & put away the washing, you could watch JK with your feet up AND know where they were and what they were doing at all times!

sarahtigh Fri 12-Oct-12 14:27:44

my DD is nearly 3 and has pretty much freedom to roam all over the house and back garden; I check periodically if not in same room, keep kitchen door shut to prevent fridge ranging and helping mummy by washing up!

I think it is good for 2+ year olds to amuse themselves, I hear her talking to her animals and toys, she knows where to find me, I would nip to greenhouse to get tomatoes for lunch etc, they really will not sponataneously combust if you leave them for a couple of minutes

your mother is unfortunately unhealthy paranoid

crackcrackcrak Fri 12-Oct-12 14:31:03

I do it. After breakfast dd watches telly for 30-45 mins while I get ready and do housework. I pop on and out and talk to her down the stairs. I always dash down if she dies my answer but its always because she's engrossed in mr tumble or whatever. I thi k she likes to sit quietly sometimes anyway. I get ready then we go out and go active things together - never had a problem.

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