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AIBU to be scared of doing a key job alone at 8pm at night?

(38 Posts)
Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:41:56

Find it really creepy and I imagine someone waiting in the Campari to get me .

Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:42:24

Carpark typos sorry

scurryfunge Wed 10-Oct-12 19:43:29

Campari?

scurryfunge Wed 10-Oct-12 19:43:55

Ah, ok!

TheCatSofa Wed 10-Oct-12 19:44:21

I don't know what you do but at my work we have a lone working policy - maybe check and see if your work has one and if not implement one!

Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:44:56

I get scared and got no one to come with me

GotMyGoat Wed 10-Oct-12 19:45:36

no, yanbu. Dark+being alone=scary.

have your work have done a risk assessment for this?

Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:46:16

I dont think so it's just cleaning

scurryfunge Wed 10-Oct-12 19:47:34

Is it a well lit car park? It's not that late. I do lots of lone stuff in the dark at work but people tend to know where I am. What worries you specifically?

FutTheShuckUp Wed 10-Oct-12 19:48:02

Sorry but grin at finding someone in the Campari!!!

Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:49:57

Not too bad jus get scared that someone is hiding ready to pounce lol

Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:51:23

Lol iPhone 5 u wud think it would be better with the typos!

scurryfunge Wed 10-Oct-12 19:52:03

Can you ask that someone checks your welfare at regular intervals?

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 19:54:58

Why would you be scared? Do you otherwise not leave your house alone after dark?

Sagelyhaunting Wed 10-Oct-12 19:55:22

Yanbu to be scared.
I work nights alone and when I have to go out (technical problem, checking on accesses, fetching the paper etc) I am often a bit jittery.

Take a big heavy torch, make sure someone knows where you are, phone in pocket, keys to hand to make you feel safer.

Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:01:05

Well being alone in a building which is totally empty is rather creepy

Shutupanddrive Wed 10-Oct-12 21:06:31

What is the job? Are you in car park the whole time or is that just on the way in/out?

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:06:47

Why? I'm alone in my house, its not creepy.

OHforDUCKScake Wed 10-Oct-12 21:15:10

How is being alone in your home comparible to being on your own in a car park?

Where are you most likely to get mugged?

No locked doors to get behind in a car park.

What a daft and patronising comparison.

OP YANBU.

GhostofMammaTJ Wed 10-Oct-12 21:18:19

I work alone all night in a creepy building. I look after elderly people with mental health problems. It is an old building so there are lots of spooky noises, also occasionally one of the oldies will get up and wander around.

I often get scared but I do know that the building is secure.

Going out to a dark campari car park would frighten me, and I do not think that is unreasonable.

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:21:54

Are you likely to get mugged inside a building where you are alone?

It's not a daft and patronising comparison, you just didn't understand it. OP said being alone in a building was creepy. I'm alone in a building, saying its not creepy. Have you got that now? hmm

OHforDUCKScake Wed 10-Oct-12 21:29:18

Car park. Your warm secure home.

No comparison. You got that now? hmm

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:32:43

Oh dear lord, its painful. Look again.

^Cheekychops84 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:01:05
Well being alone in a building which is totally empty is rather creepy^

then
^GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:06:47
Why? I'm alone in my house, its not creepy.^

Not car park. in a building. Comparison to another building Had moved on from car park.

I'm not sure I can use any smaller words for you. hmm

YANBU and no I don't go out alone after dark. I have ishooos!

Flojo1979 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:36:08

Ummm is it time to put kettle on? Tea or coffee?

Tabliope Wed 10-Oct-12 21:36:24

GoSakuramachi - there is no comparison even with the buildings! Your home presumably is only accessed by you and family so essentially secure. A building of work can be accessed by numerous people that you don't know so I'm not surprised OP feeling unnerved.

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:38:14

Either you are totally alone in a building or you are not. In can't be creepy by dint of being deserted and also have people wandering in and out. You need to decide what it is you are worried about.

Flojo1979 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:38:24

I get that its creepy so YANBU to be scared in the carpark but unless u never go out after dark then I think u just need to get a grip. Much more likely to get hurt once u get in your car and drive than the walk to it.

OHforDUCKScake Wed 10-Oct-12 21:40:00

"why, Im alone im my house, its not creepy."

You were comparing the OP's fear of being alone in a car park, with you being alone in your home.

I give up.

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:40:57

also you are far more at risk of harm within your house than anywhere else, so indeed it is an excellent comparison. Statistically you're about 100 times safer in your deserted building or in the car park than you are at home.

Flojo1979 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:41:34

I'm with gosak on this one, the creepiness is in your imagination not a genuine risk factor determined by who has keys to the building.
Having said that, I live alone and sometimes get spooked in my own home at night.

PatriciaHolm Wed 10-Oct-12 21:42:37

Hm. I used to work alone some evenings on one floor of the BBC in Television centre, and that would definitely feel creepy, very different to being alone in a house! I would hear someone coming into my house, for a start, whereas they could get into TVC and my floor without my having any idea.

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:44:57

^"why, Im alone im my house, its not creepy."

You were comparing the OP's fear of being alone in a car park, with you being alone in your home.^

No dear, I have just painstakingly explained you that I wasn't. Get a responsible adult to read it to you if you still don't get it.
Yet again, COMPARISON WAS ALONE IN CREEPY BUILDING to ALONE IN HOUSE

do you need it in another language?
sole en anime konstruaĵo, sola en domo
allein in gruselige Gebäude, allein im Haus
bersendirian dalam bangunan menyeramkan, sendirian di rumah

Better?

PatriciaHolm Wed 10-Oct-12 21:45:10

And I don't think a feeling of creepiness is particularly related to a statistical analysis of the likelihood of anything happening! Creepiness is definitely in the imagination, but it's definitely there, for some people, IYSWIM.

OHforDUCKScake Wed 10-Oct-12 21:47:50

Wow. I havent come across such a patronising cunt in ages.
Well done you.

GoSakuramachi Wed 10-Oct-12 21:49:46

<bows>

Salmotrutta Wed 10-Oct-12 22:00:01

I don't like any empty buildings at night - my own home included if I'm on my own.

It's a bit of a phobia of mine going to bed when I'm alone at home. Goes back to childhood.

But it's good to know there are people who can dismiss others fears so flippantly hmm

<Makes mental note to never cross samurai swords with GoSakuramachi>

Flojo1979 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:53:54

I know what u mean salmo I have phobia since childhood stuff too. But then my DP left, and there has to be a certain amount of: get over it and stop being so ridiculous!

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