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- we live in a tiny 2 bedroom flat (DH shows no interest in leaving it despite my pleading).
- I've got a 2yr old DD & 9 mth old DS.
- DH leaves early for work in the morning. The bathroom is right next to the kids' bedroom. When he has his morning piss he manages to wake me (I'm not bothered about this) and wake the kids (I am bothered about this).
- I'm at home all day alone with the kids, and I'm not being precious when I say, it is physically exhausting. I'm on pills for anxiety and depression and often find it difficult to cope.
- When DH doesn't get up early for work, the kids sleep for at least another 2 hours. This definitely helps me to cope better with the rest of the day.

I reached the conclusion that it must be DH having a piss before work that wakes the kids up. So I suggested to him that he not piss before leaving for work (anytime up till 5am is fine). And he completely blew up at me. He got very angry.

I didn't think I was being overly unreasonable with my suggestion, as I've been preventing myself from pissing after 5am for months now. (Yup, it can be uncomfortable at times - but getting up at that hour and having the kids all day on your own is even "more^ uncomfortable).

AIBU?

Of course YABU. What's he going to do - tie a knot in it?

Put loo paper down and it muffles.

What do you want him to do, pee on the pavement on the way to work?

YABVVVU. Just ask him not to flush, perhaps.

I think telling him not to go to the loo when he gets up is a bit U to be honest.

Nice one, OP

Yes of course you're being unreasonable. He needs to urinate FFS.

It may be reasonable to ask him to be quieter getting ready but you can hardly demand someone ceases essential bodily functions.

Tell him to piss on the pan not directly into the water and don't flush it.

YABU to ask him not to relieve himself in the morning.

You have got to be kidding...telling a grown adult that he can not go the toilet in his own home, YABVVVU

What do you expect him to do?

Oh is this a joke thread?

When you've got to go.... YABU

How does he wake you? Does he piss ball bearings into a metal pan or something?! Is it actually the noise of him weeing, or just the fact that he goes into the bathroom and make noise? Could he pee sitting down and put some paper down to dampen the sound, not switch the light on, just be generally quieter?!

Tell him to aim his wee against the side of the loo (obviously inside the loo) rather than in the water. This will make it sound less like Niagra.

Ha ha ha.

What soup said

I think you should ask him to sit down and wee, aiming his willy towards the edge of the loo and then not flush, I can't see that would be noisy enough to wake anyone.

I think you know YABU and ridiculous. Banning your DH from having a wee, what exactly do you want him to do when he needs to go? .

He could sit down to make it quieter!

Lol

Give him a pot and let him piss in that then chuck it out the window.

Sit down to pee and direct willy against the side of the pan.

I had to ask my OH to NOT do his morning pee whilst I was a.pregnant and b.in the bathroom

but that was because it made me hurl. I think IWNBU I think YABU.
Specially because we had two toilets.

Why not ask him not to flush?

On a practical note, if you are struggling you will probably be able to get a funded 2 year place at nursery for your two year old. Its 15 hours a week.

Yabu but it'd rile me too if my dp's wazz was the wake up call. If he sat down to wee I bet it wouldnt be as bad.

Compramise? Wee like a girl and I wont divorce you.

aw don't be mean to her, two hours is the difference between a nice day and a miserable one, she's clearly desperate. he should be willing to piss onto some loo roll i'd have thought, and not flush, that's perfectly reasonable.

(of course your hallway might be eye-watering by the time you all get up but you can live with that i think for an extra whole TWO HOURS SLEEP )

I second putting down some bog roll to muffle the noise. A little consideration goes a long way!

He could pee in the kitchen sink

HTH

I think you are being unreasonable and quite possibly insane.

Is it the weeing or is it getting up and opening and closing doors and walking on creaky floorboards?

I wake up busting for a wee most mornings. What the hell would you do if he needed to get up in the middle of the night ffs.

ah, i see i x-posted with Nice People.

erk. and then again with some not so nice.

i really feel for the OP. TWO HOURS!

He can sit and piss can't he? His arse will cover the pan and muffle the sound.

I agree that the sound of a pint of hot piss from 3 foot up directly on to water is VERY loud in a small flat.

It won't work if he's got a skinny little ass, if he has a bit of meat your laughing.

MrsDeVere I know that one. When I was pregnant with DC2 I could smell from my living room if someone had done a wee and not flushed. DC1 being the main culprit. But anyone who opened the door before flushing and Id be able to smell it. For a while I thought there was something wrong with DC1! Then I realised it was my nose.

You are storing up kidney troubles for yourself, girl! YABVU expecting anyone to not have a pee first thing in the morning.

He has to empty his bladder. You know you are being unreasonable on that

However, I agree that he can be quiet. He can close the door, he can put loo roll down, he can not flush the chain. He can tiptoe.

But he cannot be expected to not void a full bladder.

I can see why he lost it.

Begin again. Calmly state your case.

Ask him if he could sit down, not flush, just leave the lid down so you can flush it as soon as you get up.

Being tired totally blows. I sympathise

Obviously he needs to push his cock backwards, that won't work either if he's got a very small cock.

If he's got a very small cock and a very small ass my plan won't work, sorry.

If he's hung like a donkey and has a flabby butt your problems are over.

No problem. You're welcome.

Is the kitchen away from the kids bedroom? If so perhaps he could piss in the sink. Mind you it's a bit tricky if he fancys a No2 at the same time.

Aitch I love how your post about cross posting with nice people cross posted with a post saying the OP is insane.

(my eyes have gone all funny reading that back...)

Get thyself a potty and put it under th'bed.

OhFor after DC5 my sense of smell has never quite gone back to normal. Ironically OH has no sense of smell due to Multiple Sclerosis. As you can imagine this can lead to much hilarity

Can't you just leave the light on so that doesn't wake anyone up, or have a nightlight, and get him to be quieter?

First of all you could ask him to make sure that he shuts the bathroom door, and puts the seat down before flushing.

He's gonna have to pee

Though I bet it is just them waking up when they wake up.

We have the same issue. DH is very good - gets up 5.30, does use the loo but sits sown and doessn't flush (puts lid down), creeps around avoiding the creaky boards and generally is very considerate. I feel for you OP - early starts are hell.

Massively U. Is it just having a wee that does it? Not the flush, or moving about the flat? Does he shower? Not sure what the options are, short of pissing in a bottle and lobbing it out the car window on the way to work like a trucker!

50smells seems like the sort of person that would be good fun in the pub!

This made me crack up. I used to get up for a wee about 5am and it would wake my DD for the day, not fun!! So I started to put loo roll down and wee really slowly (sorry if tmi!). Some days my DH gets up for a wee and wees so loud it wakes my DD up!! It is annoying when you are so tired, but you can't ask him not to go, just ask him to wee quietly, if he puts some loo roll down the toilet first and not flush the chain that should do the trick. Bless you it sounds funny but it isn't when you have to get up at 5am every day!!

Get him to piss in the kitchen sink. Or an empty milk bottle. Then you will know if it is the morning piss or something else that is waking the kids up.

Yabvvvvu and you know it. What do you expect him to do, pee in the street

Does he have a shower in the morning? He can piss in the shower.

Really? How Loud can it be? We have a one bed flat and I manage to et up and shower/ breakfast/ etc and leave without waking the whole flat.

Suppose try sitting down if it's really tsunami like

<derails thread> never understood how men sit down to pee. In all my years, I've never seen it. All boyfriends / OH have stood up. How on earth is it done? Do they sit down like a woman and just squish their willy down the loo?

In your OP do you mean you want him to leave the flat (you split up) or you want to all move to a new place together?

If you are splitting up he is not going to do anything you want if he is an arse.

If you are not splitting up then I suggest you apologise for your over reaction but explain that it would make a huge difference to his childrens day if their mum could have some more sleep and he can help make that happen by weeing on some loo paper.

How about a large plant that he could water every morning?

YABU to ask him not to pee but can ask him to put down some loo roll to muffle it a bit.

I have no idea what it is about him peeing that wakes us all up. I'm always awaken from a deep sleep, and it's always as he's pissing. We have wipe-clean floor that are creaky, so maybe that's it. I've been holding in my morning pisses for months, so - he should too! Screw you guys

Charliefox - seriously?

You need a good old fashioned chamber pot
He could then pee in that and leave it in the bedroom for you to empty later.
Hopefully he wont need a dump

Of course it could be that its someone moving around, door opening and closing thats waking the kids

Guys,. you are going to find it hillarious that every morning he exits through the window instead of through the door. 100% true.

Is there a reason for that?

I worked with some Swedish men a few years back and they told me it was very common in Scandinavian countries for men to sit down and pee.

I have no idea if this is true. Anyone?

Chub - cause the main door is very loud and right next to the nursery.

you need to crochet a baffle

<taps nose>

Christ, you must be really light sleepers or your DH must be really noisy!

My DH gets up at 5.10am and I don't even hear the alarm clock go off!

Sitting down to pee makes complete sense.

- relaxing
- less concentration required
- cleaner (less splashes)
- warms the seat for the next person
- and most importantly, it's more QUIET

A urine baffle??

I worked with some Swedish men a few years back and they told me it was very common in Scandinavian countries for men to sit down and pee. I have no idea if this is true. Anyone?

That's not true.

CharlieFox, my DH won't let our sons stand up to pee because they are both terrible for gazing round the room while they're doing it and peeing up the walls, over the cistern or into the bath. So, yes, they have to sit down and hold their willies down - or face parental wrath!

someone needs to invent the wee muffler

I actually think you need to get your children used to sleeping through light background noise. Not peeing and climbing out if windows is odd.

50smells...you're cracking me up!

OP ...why the hell does he exit via the window???

Maybe you could buy some of those disposable bedpan bottle they give to men in hospital - then he can use it in the garden on his way out. It surely must be biodegradable!

God your poor DH he's not allowed to pee in his own home and he's not allowed to use the door either!

You do realise your very U and sounding like a bit of a nightmare don't you?!

Sit down, don't flush, don't slam the door.

It really is that simple.

<voice of experience>

We don't flush while DS is sleeping (nightmare sleeper), but not to wee at all would be beyond me!

Do you maybe have a compost heap in need of dampening?

Most Japanese men sit down to pee, so says DH.

OP, have you considered a white noise CD on low in the nursery?

You are the most evil person so far this century.

YABVU.

My cousing lives in Switzerland and apparently he is not allowed to pee standing up after something like 9PM in order to avoid causing too much noise to the neighbours (live in a flat).

So...he climbs out of a window in the morning, and is now expected not to pee?
Is this for real?!

I think there might be bigger issues here?!!

Can you come to a joint plan to move to a bigger place at some point? Are you trying to make him so uncomfortable that he realises you need to move? Can you take the initiative and find some possible alternative flats that are a more practical size for a growing family, just go ahead and book some viewings?

I totally sympathise on the practical issue as we had similar when we lived in a flat. DH didn't flush and managed to be quiet!

Is it the peeing or the flushing that wakes the children? He could pee but not flush? YABU if you expect him to leave the house before emptying his bladder though.

The second page of this has me giggling out loud like a loon. Climbing out of the window... wee baffle...

I know it's frustrating when the children get woken by early morning noise - but you can't stop him weeing, you really can't.

MY DH does sitty down wees.

I didnt realise this when I first met him, obvs.
When I found out, I was a bit but he explained that he had three young kids and his ExW was a bit when wee noise woke them up - so they had the kind of convo you are having now. He has got so used to it he cant do any other sort of wee.

His kids are now 17 15 and 12.

I still feel a bit about the sitty down wee thing, it has scarred me for life. His kids are fine though.

Your poor DH!!
He has to leave the house through the window and now u don't want him to pee!
YANVVU!!
Do you tiptoe around when the dc's are asleep? They need to get used to noise. Mine slept through the fire alarm and ds2 slept through a firework display in his pushchair

All of you have forgotten the real problem is the children waking .

Get them ear mufflers or ear plugs

Happy husband can piss to his heart's content.

He just needs to put loo roll down first. That's easy.
Oh and he also needs to use the door ffs - although you will laugh about this when your dc are older.

Yabu to ask him not to piss, Yanbu to ask him to try to find a way to relieve himself without waking the entire household. Dh leaves for work at 5.30, dd is such a light sleeper that even the sound of her bedroom door opening on the carpet will wake her up, at first he woke her up every single sodding morning until I was at the point of strangling him, now, 5 months on he manages to get up, dressed, turn the burglar alarm off and get his coffee and breakfast without waking anyone.
He wees sitting down with loo paper in the bottom to muffle the noise, no flushing. He then goes downstairs, gets dressed in the kitchen with the door shut, washes his face in the kitchen sink, gets a coffee and some breakfast (towel on work surface to muffle noise of clanking pots) and goes to work. All of the kitchen cupboards have felt pads next to the catches so they cant bang shut, same for the drawers. Kettle is a super quiet one. Probably the loudest noise is the spoon stirring the coffee!

towel on work surface - genius!

Wow insane.

Did anyone else read the ladybird "Five Little Kittens" book when they were young / to their kids? The one where mummy cat goes into town (having been asked for many things by the kittens) and some bizarre series of events unfolds, involving kittens climbing through windows and being told off by the local policecat? All I can hear is that policecat's voice in my head "*Honest folk go through the door!*"

Sorry, random thread diversion...

Are you sure it's him pissing that's waking them up, and not just the sound of him pottering about getting dressed and stuff?

I had that book, degutastic, my DM recently got it down from the loft for the DCs. It's ace.

Sorry, OP for the diversion, I think you are being a teeny bit U but I completely understand why. I second sitting down. I really don't fully understand why men have to wee standing up, just so much potential for mess, with my DSs anyway.

(I'm a bloke) If I get up in the night and stagger to the toilet for a wee, I sit down and do it, as I don't turn on any lights (wakes baby, wife and me more than it needs to), there's no noise, plus it's easier when you've only got one eye semi-open and are in zombie mode. As the thick one in The Inbetweeners said, "it's like giving yourself a little treat!"

You need to move. I'd be pissed off at everyone being woken every morning, but you can't ask DH not to go! 4 people in a 2 bedroom flat must cause you a lot of stress generally though.

I'd go with the pee-ing in the kitchen sink solution myself...

I had an ex who peed sitting down, always.

Actually OP you have reminded me that in our old flat (bathroom next to DD's bedroom, paper thin wall) DP would pee in the kitchen sink after she was in bed.

DS pees sitting down. But he is 7 and too short for the kitchen sink.

I am really enjoying this thread!!! I am peeing myself (very quietly op)! I do see your point though! My husband does what I would describe as dad wee's. they go on for hours and are are like having the bloody niagra falls in your bedroom. You are not being unreasonable!! (Well you are but got such a laugh about your husband crawling out of the window I've decided to be kind!!)

Could you try getting a white noise player for the kids bedroom? We found that in the summer, when DD had the fan on in her room, that she would tend to sleep for longer as the white noise drowned out any other movement noises

Last night DH had a drink and had to get up twice in the night for the toilet.
Both times he woke up DD and myself with his clattering through rooms, switching the light on and off, and a noisy wee.
The second time, about four, DD decided she wanted to try to have a nice chat about bonfire night and she didn't get back to sleep for ages, so, neither did I.

So, I think your DH should hold his bloody wee in and shut up moaning about it.
But I may be biased.

Not weeing is horrid and not good for his kidneys. Peeing sitting down, however, thunders a lot less than standing up.

Our only bathroom in our old house was an en suite in dds room (the room was way too small for us) and we managed to go tom the toilet without waking her.

Perhaps they wake because they aren't used to noise. Both our girls have slept through me hoovering their rooms.

Well I bet you won't be needing those anti-depressants in the morning, OP, after all these lovely supportive posts I mean, especially the last one . Great solidarity ladies (apologies to those who have made positive suggestions). Especially Anon for telling someone who is suffering anxiety and depression that they are insane ffs. What an unfortunate, ill-advised word to use to someone in the circumstances. Think it through Anon.

For all we know the flat could have paper walls. In fact it doesn't need to have. We used to be able to hear a colleague pissing inside a loo with the width of a corridor in-between.

I'm sorry you're having such a bad time OP. If your partner understands how tough things are for you, although it's quite an ask, he will oblige and take the steps not to wake the children up. (Buckets, muffling, etc.)

It will get easier, I promise. Do what you need to do to get by.

You are being totally ridiculous. Never mind unreasonable.

Sorry different didn't mean you. Seems it took me ages to write post.

You could sound insulate the nursery? Maybe build false walls around the whole room, or pad the walls with cotton wool?

Or alternatively you could get a grip

Could he piss out the window and leave through the door?

Zachary

German men are now increasingly sitting to piss. It's the latest thing! I think you need some perspective but I know how it feels when you have a small baby and no sleep.

Things will get better soon op. I'm wishing you up an ensuite! Think a serious discussion about moving definately needs to happen. Hope you get some sleep! My little boy went through this phase. he was two and i was pregnant with twins. i used to put peppa pig on and i would get a blanket and have a snooze on the seetee. not that easy with a nine month old though. (Still thinking about the window it really has made me giggle!! definately one for the grand kids!)

He might piss like a friggin horse tho. My BF thunders his piss into the pan-I think it might be an alpha male thing....

Your post sounds like there is a lot of resentment building up on your part. You hate your 'tiny' house, you don't enjoy being with the kids all day alone (understandable). Don't take it out in your dh. He can't help needing a wee at 5am. If he's getting up that early for work you should appreciate it's not easy for him. He could try & pee quieter. I think finding some way that you can get respite from childcare all week could be good for you. How about getting a childminder and a pt job? Even if it's not going to increase your household income it might make you feel better and be good for getting a job once kids are at school.

Alternatively go to bed earlier?

I do get annoyed when mne comes in at 1am after a night out and wakes us all up. but I couldn't be annoyed at him having a pee when he's getting up at 5am to support us. I think it would be reasonable to ask him to be quieter.

FatLadyAboutToSing That's ok!

I am wondering what happened this morning?

To be fair, I have banned DH from peeing in the loo next to DS's bedroom when he goes to work early for exactly this reason- he has a pee just before he leaves, and just as the front door shuts I have DS next to me, wide awake and tantruming because daddy's not there.Then he's grumpy all morning because he's tired.

I grew up in a house with ancient plumbing/ noisy pipes with a strict "if it's yellow, let it mellow" rule between 10pm and 7am, so I'm in the "pee but don't flush" camp.

Could you play a classic music cd on repeat as 'white noise' in their rooms. We do this as we live in a stupid open plan house.

"If he's hung like a donkey and has a flabby butt your problems are over."

That is just absolutely hilarious!

Well, what happened?

I don't think you are being unreasonable to seek a solution that doesn't wake the kids up. It's a long day and if it becomes 2 hours longer, it makes me want to cry. Look for a solution that allows him to pee though!

Harking back to mrsDV and her nose, mine has never returned to normal service either. The spit roast chickens made me throw up in the supermarket so many times when I was up the duff. I still can't go too near them...

Why can't he pee in the kitchen sink? Not ideal but better than a thunderingly loud toilet trip (depends where your kitchen is, obvs).

If I have to get up in the night for a piss, to avoid waking DS, I will walk quietly, pee quietly (put paper down first) and then not flush until morning.

I feel my basic human rights are still intact. Some posters on this thread can afford to calm down.

My sister, who lives there, informs me it's illegal for men in the Zurich canton to piss standing up after 9pm due to noise pollutuion...

If my husband pissed in the kitchen sink I would leave. That is a revolting suggestion.

I can't believe some people are suggesting he wees in the kitchen sink! That's disgusting!

Well if he's got to open the window anyway he may as well piss out of it.

YANBU. If his piss is having such a bad impact on your day he needs to piss elsewhere (or far more quietly).

Gosh how unreasonable of your dh getting up and off to a hard days grind at 5am and actually daring to have a piss.

Tell you what... Why don't you to to work instead and then he can have a few extra hours in bed, I'm sure that would work fine for him

I can see why it is getting to you, even if it unreasonable to ask him not to pee. I know all too well that devastating feeling of the kids being woken 2 hours early when your exhausted. When your feeling depressed it can be soul destroying.

I know it's AIBU, and I know it is totally unreasonable to ask your partner not to piss, but come on, The OP said she was depressed and anxious, this is obviously a symptom of it. Give her some slack. Some of the posts saying she is insane, and, get a grip etc are a bit shitty.

Although, you did make me laugh with the dh climbing out of the window post BurntToastSmell

Talk to him about moving again, and about how much it would improve your well being and general family life.

And in the meantime get him to line the pan with loo roll and don't flush

The kitchen sink can have bleach chucked down it. I'm not suggesting he gets his cock out and sprays the dishrack and the chopping boards with his piss, like some giant tomcat.

Maybe I'm being unreasonable, and it would be better to sleep deprive someone already on medication for anxiety and depression.

And if you ladies think your DP has never pissed in your sink, dream on.

Good god if my DP asked me to do this I'd think he was going silly. I wee at LEAST 5 times a night.

I totally sympathise. DH and I were regularly woken for years by our upstairs neighbour's morning pee. It was thunderous. We obviously never said anything - I can't imagine how that conversation would go. If we'd had the baby while we were there and he'd been woken I might have considered it though!

As someone who was woken at 5am every single morning by father sounding like Niagra Falls i fully sympathise. It wasnt until my parents swapped the rooms around and it was my mother that was being woken that she insisted he pee more quietly. Never got an apology for being a liar/drama queen though

I agree that asking him to sit down would make a difference. But apologise first for being U at asking him to not pee at all!

Seriously Gold? atleast 5 times? I think you need to see a doctor, I am sure that isnt normal.

Oh another MN fallacy about men, they all piss in the sink. No they don't. And you must know some complete animals if all the men you know do.

smeg I have got a weak bladder, which at 21 isn't very good! Apparently it's because it's twisted (found this out as it took 3 nurses to catheterise me)

YABU and ridiculous. You already have him climbing out through the window to go to work so he doesn't disturb your PFB , and now he's not allowed to have a pee in the morning?

I do not believe this is real. If it is, you seriously need to take a step back and look at how bizarre your behaviour is.

I missed the window part! What the actual fuck.

I think you may need to move. And I suspect from your op that as that is what you want to do, you may be trying to make life as difficult as possible for your DH so he agrees to it.
Which is not, IMO, very nice.

If my DH told me I had to climb out of a window to go to work and not have a pee in the morning I would quite honestly tell him to fuck off.

Just sit down and talk to him, explain the reasons why you feel you need to move, listen to what he has to say. Can you afford to move? What is stopping him from agreeing?
Then work from there.

Of course YABU to ask him not to take a leak, is it not the 1st thing everyone does after waking?

However YWNBU to discuss the situation with him like an adult & explain why you are so desperate (which you really do sound-I sympathise as I do not function well without enough sleep)

The other thing to discuss is your clear unhappiness at living in the tiny 2 bedroom flat-is this something you have to do because of cost or is moving to a bigger place an option? If so why is DH so reluctant to consider? (sorry if you've already been asked this but short of time this morning so can't do 6 pages )

Tell him to go downstairs and piss in the sink if it bothers you that much .....

They live in a flat!

I'm not surprised he leaves for work early. Poor bloke obviously can't wait to get away before you think of something else to nag him about. This must be a joke posting.

put a big wadge of loo paper all over the bowl of the loo.

sit down.

pee

close lid.

do not flush.

hmmm having sleep deprived mum and two kids is not acceptable at all if it can be avoided. Not taking a piss in the morning is also unacceptable. So you need to find a way for him to piss that doesn't wake everyone.

Plenty of good suggestions on the thread already...

OP - firstly, you need to apologise to DH for asking something so utterly unreasonable.

Then you can discuss what can be done to try and minimise the noise.

Sitting down and not flushing are the most obvious suggestions. But don't go phrasing 'sitting down' in a way that comes across as an affront to his masculinity.

Basically, sitting down to wee in a morning when you're a bloke means that you don't have to concentrate as hard at aiming in the right place and the urine jet is naturally going to go on the sides of the bowl rather than the water.

Play on the positives to get him on side.

Best of luck (from a recent convert to nighttime/morning sat-down wees).

DH sits down to pee. He is scandanavian. In fact at the language school where all us foreigners go to learn the lingo there is a poster on the toilet door showing correct peeing position. And the man is most defintely sitting!

Don't give him any liquids after 6pm and hopefully he won't have any wee in his bladder come morning

Yes. You are being very unreasonable in your request. No wonder he reacted badly.

Have a chat with him and come up with a reasonable solution.

I really sympathise. I know what its like to feel that you would do anything just to get a decent amount of sleep. I wonder what your DH would say if the situation was reversed?

Our bathroom beside DC bedrooms and DP and I both tend to 'hang' on if we wake before DC- means we get a few extra minutes with a , or even a cuddle! They don't stir at anything in the night, but are much more easily woken by noise in the morning.

Many many people on here (myself included) were willing to try anything to alleviate sleep deprivation- that is what were are doing when you asked DH not to wee in the morning.

I do realise that it is not really a practical request, but I am quite quite sure that if you were waking DC early by weeing, and DH was doing the childcare then he would be annoyed with you.

The situation for this poster has moved on since this post; her new one is in relationships. Right now when her abusive husband pisses is not a priority!

Aplogies I didn't realise. I haven't seen new thread and hope I've not caused any offence- if I have I am sorry.

Stuntgirl this is a completely new thread from the same person!!

This is about wee

Other one in relationships is Whingey kids!!!

get him to wee in the sink and wash it away that way , probably quieter.

Of course entirely possible that it is him being up and about that is waking dcs.
My stbxh is up v early for shifts and this coincides with dd2 coming through to me!

Mad thread. My husband pees, shaves, cleans his teeth and showers before work. That's just normal adult cleanliness. Put the kids to bed earlier if you're concerned they aren't getting enough sleep.

Ah, the romance of family life!! How very dare he?
When you had your first date, did you foresee that the bastard would wee in the morning?

Lady This one was originally posted a few days before her AIBU post about kids whinging, which has since been moved to Relationships due to the turn of events.

Tbh the events in this thread aren't really relevent anymore, they're a symptom of a bigger problem which she's currently trying (I hope) to deal with.

Oh ok, wasn't aware this was before!! Yes read the other thread, hope op is ok Im sure her "d"h taking a piss is the last thing on her mind