AIBU to enter the London Marathon when DH doesn't want me to?

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Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 16:20:00

I'm turning 40 next April and for some insane reason, I thought it would be a good idea to do the London Marathon which is shortly before my birthday. I love running, but have never done anything longer than 10 miles.

DH is adamant I shouldn't do it. He thinks the training will be too much and it is selfish to even consider it (I think he also thinks I'm going to drop dead during the race?)

So, WIBU to enter anyway? I think I would only seriously have to start training after Christmas, so 4 months or so of solid training. From what I can tell (please someone correct me if I'm wrong), its mostly going to impact at the weekend as I will need to do one longer run a week and realistically this is going to have to be at the weekend. The other runs I should be able to fit in during the day around work.

(I haven't got a place btw, but would try and get a charity place if possible.)

OrangeImperialGoldBlether Tue 09-Oct-12 16:24:02

Is his problem the thought that you'll have less time for him? Or that you'll achieve something he hasn't?

LFCisTarkaDahl Tue 09-Oct-12 16:24:27

It's not selfish confused - my dh isn't training for the marathon but he still runs a couple of times a week, he loves it, it's great for his health - he's 7 minute miling at the minute which is pretty good and he gets a 10 mile in at weekends.

It's only selfish if your dh doesn't have equal access to leisure time, so just make sure you divide it fairly.

Otherwise - you go girl grin

madwomanintheattic Tue 09-Oct-12 16:25:24

Well, in practical terms, it will be about six or seven hours a week where you have to concentrate on yourself, so it could be deemed selfish. But if it all fits in around work and won't impact anyone else except for a long run on one day at the weekend, then it's no real biggie, is it? The other weekend day can be your rest day.

If dh can't let you have two hours to yourself each weekend, then I suspect it may not be you that's being selfish.

That said, I think you may be on a losing battle to get a charity place now. I always forget and miss the ballot, and end up in this position! grin

I think it is a great aim for your 40th. If you already run, it's not going to make that much difference, tbh.

FoxtrotFoxtrotSierra Tue 09-Oct-12 16:26:36

It sounds like your DH is being unreasonable, but I can see his point (aside from the dropping down dead bit, you're more likely to do that crossing the road).

The training is a big commitment, but really doesn't take up too much time - your long run at the weekend will build up to 22-24 miles, which takes most people under 4.5 hours or so. This only happens once or twice and most long runs are in the 13-18 mile range, so 2-3 hours. Out of 48 hours of weekend that's not a huge amount! Can you find a schedule on runners world or similar and show your DH how much time it'll take from your weekend?

Also, maybe consider agreeing to slot your runs in at antisocial times. DH runs marathons and will often get up early to long run so he's back by 10.30 and we've only lost a small part of the functional weekend.

It's also worth bearing in mind that you'll need one complete rest day (normally the day after your long run) which means there will be one weekend day where you aren't out running.

It'll be hard to train without him on board, but he is being unreasonable. Also, I'm not sure how many charities have places left now - maybe do your research on that before having a discussion argument about it.

Good luck!

WaitingForMe Tue 09-Oct-12 16:27:25

I think its a good idea and unless you have half a dozen kids you'll be expecting him to do everything for whilst you're out every single night I can't see what's selfish about it.

I'd be adamant that my husband didn't say what I should or shouldn't do.

madwomanintheattic Tue 09-Oct-12 16:30:48

<and quite re getting his permission. I have to say that I have not once asked dh if I can take part in x, y or z... but then I'm not sure he'd ever call me selfish for wanting to!>

If he's that fussy about it, just tell him you'll get up at five of a Sunday and be back to cook his breakfast.

Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 16:37:37

Orange - I think in part its because he will be looking after DCs (we've got 3, one with ASD). He won't do any exercise despite me suggesting it nagging him (Although to be fair, he has got a dodgy ankle which he is finally getting sorted, so that could change). I've always said that he should have his own leisure time but he's a lazy git by nature. My DM had a heart attack relatively young so I think that's where that comment came from but he was trying to use it as a scare tactic <failed>

It looks as though there may be places available for the miscarriage association, which I would be interested in running for as I had one a few years ago (and made some lovely friends on here in the aftermath).

I will have a look on runnersworld and see what the training schedule will be. I've got an achilles problem at the moment but was doing about 25k a week before that stopped me.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Tue 09-Oct-12 16:39:01

I can see his point but YANBU if you're planning on fitting it around your existing schedule so it doesn't take up half a weekend day and most evenings. Good luck getting a place!

TheVipperofVipp Tue 09-Oct-12 16:39:47

YABU...but it is a BIG undertaking.
Do you have DCs? I trained for the London Marathon with two young DCs and I very much needed the support of my DH for childcare on the weekends while I went out to run for 3 hours etc, every weekend. It is perhaps a lot to ask of a partner that you disappear for that long every weekend, especially if there are DCs, but I would never tell you not to go for it because it is an absolutely amazing experience.
Although training plans will kick in after christmas, you should definitely start before Christmas to build up your 'base' of running miles (now, if you can). Also, to go from 10 miles to 26 will be a big step - perhaps do a half marathon first, show your DP you can do that and handle the training, then sign up for London?
I would say that the training is very hard, you will be running most days, and quite a lot of it psychologically tough (ie - making yourself run in the cold and dark, when you're tired, and you've got a niggling injury etc etc), and you will need the support of those around you for those moments. I hope you can show your DP you can do it and he comes round because it's not actually on the day when the huge crowds cheer you on you need the support, it's on the rainy Tuesday in February when it's 2 degrees outside and you're supposed to run 11 miles and you've got a cold... HTH...lots of luck....

sookiesookie Tue 09-Oct-12 16:41:44

Well I trained 8 hours a week for a year for a half marathon. He has a point about the training and about how much time it takes if you ate already a busy couple.

Would you be ok with him being out 8-10 hours a week on a spur of the moment thought? More if you don't actually run at the moment. Or mind him impacting weekends for 4 months? If you would happily let him then fair enough.

I think you may struggle to get a place this close though.

TheVipperofVipp Tue 09-Oct-12 16:45:32

Sorry - you answered my questions while I was typing. Hope your achilles is due to clear up soon. Another factor to consider is I think you will regret not doing it and potentially resent your DH from stopping you...

RuleBritannia Tue 09-Oct-12 16:48:56

Good luck with your target. It sounds as if you have to have your husband's permission to enter the Marathon. Devise a form of application to have some time to yourself until the Marathon, complete it, add a covering letter saying how proud your children will be of their mother when you finish and post it to him.

It might show him how he's coming across.

shrimponastick Tue 09-Oct-12 16:49:33

YANBU for wanting to run the London Marathon.

Your DH is BU for wanting you NOT to run it.

Yes, it will be hard and time consuming to fit in the training. However, it will benefit not only your charity, but yourself - mentally and physically.

I agree with above poster - get signed up for a half first, and show that you can do that and then go on to do the London. If you can already run 10 miles that is a good start.

Am a bit envy as I fancy it, but after my half earlier this year I truly don't know if I could face doing that distance. But you never know!!

Good luck.

hatsybatsy Tue 09-Oct-12 16:49:34

YABU - and I say this as someone who has run it several times -including twice with 2 pre-schoolers

BUT -if you work full time then you will need a lot of support from him during the evenings and weekends. You will need to be training at least 3 times a week, and the longest run will be up to 3.5 hours by the end.

so you do need him fully onboard - can you start doing some light training now? this will prove that you're serious and also enhance your preparation (4 months from Xmas is do-able but not ideal). Maybe do some early morning training (I can sometimes be back from a run before anyone's up) to prove to both of you that you an minimise the impact on the family?

madwomanintheattic Tue 09-Oct-12 16:52:06

grin

We have three kids. One with ADHD and aspergers, and one with cerebral palsy (and an nt one, obv). When the youngest (the one with cp) was three months old, I went back to work most weekends (left on a plane on the Friday night and came back on Sunday night) and left dh with three pre-schoolers, one with a serious disability.

I think your dh can quite possibly manage a couple of hours on a Sunday on his tod. Ad if he can't, it's about bloody time he learned how to.

Oh, and my dm had a stroke at 32. She is in a shocking physical state, and I use that rather as evidence that I need to exercise more, not less.

TheVipperofVipp Tue 09-Oct-12 16:54:41

SORRY - I meant to write YANBU. Denitely NOT. Oops grin

dexter73 Tue 09-Oct-12 17:25:21

It is also not just the time spent training but that when you get back you will be knackered and might not feel like doing anything. My dh did a long bike race earlier this year and after he had got back from his 4 hour ride he was barely able to move off the sofa as he was tired.
Maybe try a half marathon first.

Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 17:30:47

Oh he can manage it - he just doesn't want to grin

The injury is Achilles tendonpathy and I've been told it can take 3 months to sort. I'm having physio and doing exercises which should (fingers crossed) sort it. I'm having severe withdrawal symptoms from not running and it's not even been 2 weeks yet I can run on it fine but its sore on longer runs.

I work from home 1 day a week and can do a run then. I can also do runs in my lunch hour at work as we have a gym/shower there (very lucky I know). I can do one run with DS3 in the running buggy but that would have to be a shorter run. It's when work gets manic that I will struggle and would have to do some runs in the evening. I may try and sell it to him by saying I will do the long weekend run v early in the morning so it doesn't impact too much on the day. It will definitely curtail my weekend drinking grin

MsElisaDay Tue 09-Oct-12 17:32:59

YANBU. At all!

I did a marathon last year and the only real change of schedule was the long run on a weekend, which I usually did on a Saturday so I had the Sunday to recover. As the longest "long" run you're likely to do will take around four hours, that's not really eating into your weekend THAT much.
And the three shorter runs during the week can be fitted around work and existing commitments, surely.

The only thing I would say is that there is a big, big gap between a half marathon and a full. Far more than the gap between a 10k and a half, in my opinion. I'd really try and build your base up long before Christmas and get at least one half marathon under your belt before then.

Going from 10 miles to a full marathon in four months, without risking injury and exhaustion, will be a big ask. Good luck though, it'll be one of the most fantastic things you ever do.

NimpyWindowMash Tue 09-Oct-12 17:36:28

Hmm, running can be quite a selfish activity - I am married to a keen runner and when the DC were very small I used to get very fed up with it. But I wouldn't like to hold him back from doing something he really wanted. What would be most important to me (as his partner) would be that he did the training properly, didn't train with an injury, and so didn't take any risks with his health.

glasscompletelybroken Tue 09-Oct-12 17:37:45

What MsElisaDay said...

Definately you can do it but you may be underestimating the training you need to do. I used to get up at 4.30am and run before the kids got up. If you are committed you will do it and you will not be sorry.

Good luck.

I think YANBU to want to do it but I am married to a keen runner and one of the reasons I have never wanted him to do a marathon is the amount of time the training takes out of family life. So I do think your DH has a point, on the other hand running is a great sport and I think you ought to be able to work something out.

DH often does runs before work for instance so he's not vanishing out in the evenings when I want help with the DC and I really appreciate him doing this, he also does his long runs early on a Sunday morning to free the day up.

Don't underestimate the training though, there's a lot of it!

aroomofherown Tue 09-Oct-12 19:08:51

I've run a few marathons and if you start training now for London you have plenty of time. Just train smart, not hard. Also, I've had 2 charity places for London and wasn't notified until January - so you can start training regardless. Have you considered a smaller marathon that is easier to get into?

This is what I did per week when I ran my best time - see if it takes up too much time for your lifestyle:

1. 1 or 2 x 5 mile interval runs (40 mins)
2. One threshold run (just slightly faster than you'd like) (20 - 25 mins)
3. One long slow run (start at an hour and build up to 3, only doing 3 x 3 hour runs)

I think YANBU btw.

aroomofherown Tue 09-Oct-12 19:09:37

Also to be honest I found the fundraising just as taxing as the training - something to consider.

Nancy66 Tue 09-Oct-12 19:14:25

Do it - it's a once in a lifetime thing....except it probably won't be because once you've done one you'll want to do another.

If you can comfortably run 10 miles then you are already a good, strong runner and have a huge head start on beginners.

Everyone will tell you something different re. training. I never ran more than 16 miles in my training and still made good times.

Just to warn you (although i'm sure you know) that charities usually expect 1.5 to 2k in sponsorship.

PoppyWearer Tue 09-Oct-12 19:28:07

I see your DH's point of view, because my DH entered the London Marathon the April after our DC1 was born. He then spent every weekend, when we had a small baby, doing long training runs. I wasn't exactly happy about it. It was hard work for me. Although I am proud he's done it.

Can you plan some respite Childcare for your DH whilst you're doing the training runs, draft in some family or friends to help with the DCs so he gets a break too?

madwomanintheattic Tue 09-Oct-12 19:37:50

Every weekend doing long training runs? He was taking the piss, poppy. It might have been quite nice for him to get out of the house, but not essential to complete a marathon.

Nancy, my longest ever training run was 17 miles. Beyond that, it's mostly mental resilience. <shrugs> I used to do a long run on a Sunday morning. In fact, quite often, dh would come with me and would cart kids in buggies etc, dogs on leads. He would walk a set loop, and I would run. Then he would go home, and I would do another circuit or two, and then follow him. If he was in the mood, he might even tag team for a bit and we'd swap kids and dogs.

If you get the timing right (and not milk it like poppy's dh) then it can be relatively unobtrusive.

GobblersKnob Tue 09-Oct-12 19:42:06

If you are serious you need to start hunting for a charity place NOW, they are already few and far between. Personaly I think the £1500 ish you will have to raise to enter is far harder than the training.

Bue Tue 09-Oct-12 19:49:04

My DH did it in 2009. I was fully supportive, but honestly, I would be very unhappy if he entered another one and he knows this. He would disappear for half a day every Sunday, when we didn't exactly have heaps of time together to begin with, and I found he was then so exhausted that he needed a lot of emotional support from me. Luckily the one time cured the bug!

TheVipperofVipp Tue 09-Oct-12 19:56:06

Do you have to do it next year OP? Why not do a half and/or a 20 miler next year, give your achilles problem plenty of time to heal, see if you get in through the ballot for 2014 (or give yourself more time to fundraise for a charity place - I had to raise £2,000 when I did it, was an extra mental stress factor on something that's already mentally taxing), give yourself more time to train, prove to your DH you can handle the training, get him used to the idea, etc? I guess I'm saying it could potentially be an even better experience with a longer build up to 2014 rather than rush for next spring with many things to worry about (getting place/fundraising/achillles injury/DH's attitude etc)?

Dozer Tue 09-Oct-12 19:59:53

The training,and the stuff that goes with it (food organisation, recovery, help if you get injured from physio, getting the right trainers etc) is a massive time and energy commitment, plus fundraising. During the training period it'd be impossible for your DH to have equal leisure time or indeed any!

YWBU to do it before doing a shorter race, loads of good half marathons in fun locations, eg London Parks, Great North Run, coastal routes.

I did one a few years ago with two young DC. Runs during the week were easy to slot in. The weekend run we'd often all be at home one day of the weekend anyway, and as he worked full time during the week I figured it was good for him to be alone with the children for a few hours.

Most training plans start at the beginning of January. I have to admit I didn't adhere to mine very well, but I ran 92% of it (thanks, Garmin!) so not too shabby - could have done better if my hip wasn't playing up. And I managed a 20 mile run without stopping in training. I'd not run more than a few hundred yards for twenty years when I'd started the training nine months earlier, so with your headstart of already being able to cover a fairly hefty distance you should have no problems. I was up to around ten miles by January but I'd only done it once or twice.

The long runs are only a few hours for the first few months of solid training. From what I recall you only need to do 3 or 4 runs of at least 15 miles, so realistically that's only a few weekends where you might use half the day. My longest run took four hours. Not a huge commitment for your DH really.

Of course if you're wanting to do a sub 4 hour or something there would be a lot more training, but if your aim is just to get round, with minimal if any walking, then the training doesn't have to be a full time job. Perhaps that would be a good compromise? You say you'll do it, but not aim to beat Gordon Ramsay or something. Generalising massively, but it does tend to be the men going for the times and the women just wanting the satisfaction of finishing (preferably in a reasonable time), which may account for the disparity in apparent commitment to training.

The hardest battle is fighting injury, I lost a lot of training due to not wanting to make things worse. Oh, and the fundraising, but for marathons especially people will surprise you. Makes a nice change from friends walking their way round 5Ks dressed in pink pompoms after all!

DH started running as a result of all my running, I guess I inspired him, so he has a new hobby smile He runs far more than me these days!

I think it's a fab idea but I'm a bit biased of course..

Urbanvoltaire Tue 09-Oct-12 20:16:27

I've not read all the posts so what I'm might have already been said, apologies in advance.

I've been doing 10k-1/2 marathons for about 2 years, building up my distances according to what races I've entered.

I always do a long run on a Sunday mid morning (have to eat then digest breakfast), at least an hour if not more. When I get home I've to shower, wash hair, have something to eat and sort out washing of kit etc. I then oversee homework (aged 5&10) then prepare lunch for kids.

All easy going as we don't really plan much for a Sunday (that's what Saturdays are for hence homework & domestic chores).

BUT ..... by mid-afternoon I'm pretty shattered and end up falling asleep in bed for at least an hour and if I don't, I nod off in armchair and am generally grumpily tired for the rest of the day.

So in reality an long-ish run really affects the whole day. Plus I also like to get to bed early on the Sat eve which might knock out your social life a bit?

Anyway, hope this helps & good luck with your running!

DrCoconut Tue 09-Oct-12 20:50:56

It's great that you are seriously considering this. I see that it will be a big undertaking but unless it hugely impacts on him your DH should support you. It's not as if you will permanently be training for a marathon after all. I'm considering what will basically amount to a marathon for what would have been my dad's 100th birthday in 2017. It would be recreating a feat of his sports wise and getting sponsored. But I'm the most unsporty person ever and have no idea if I can how long to allow to get fit enough.

Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 20:54:55

I wouldn't say I could comfortably run 10 miles, it was hard! But that was with a lot less training behind me (it was a few years ago) and now I run faster and do longer training runs for fun.

Part of me thinks it would be stupid to do it next year with an injury now. But part of me thinks if I don't then I won't do it. Its the psychology of doing it before I'm 40 I think. Call me deluded.

I really want to do London as I live there and it would mean a lot to me to do that one, rather than one in a city I don't know. I think it would give me an extra boost when I'm struggling.

I'm not that worried about raising £1500 - I managed to raise over £1000 when I did the Great South Run, partly because my work will match the amount raised. I would hope that with a lot of badgering cajoling, I can persuade more people to donate.

I'm not fussed about getting a quick time, I just want to get round, hopefully running the whole way. Both my sisters have done marathons (one of them is a very good runner, did it in 3hrs 15) so I can get lots of advice from them.

I will have a look at half marathons near me but realistically I'm not going to be able to do one until nearer Christmas to make sure the injury heals properly. I guess if I have a place and then get injured I can defer until the following year??

BlueSkySinking Tue 09-Oct-12 21:37:25

I've just completed a half marathon and I've looked into this too - different marathon though.

I would say you need to work up to doing a 12 mile run every other weekend and then also the weekends in between run longer, building up to the 3 hour mark. Mid week, aim for 3 runs lasing about an hour, one or two of which should be quite quick.

TheVipperofVipp Tue 09-Oct-12 21:51:49

Well then, you sound pretty determined (which is great, because motivation is the most essential part), have a charity in mind with places, have a plan to raise the sponsorship (agree with a previous post that people can be v generous for marathon sponsorship), and can get ready advice on training from your sisters. You are also right that running London if you live in London is really really special - you will have the experience of a lifetime grin.

So it really is just about getting your DH on board with this then, isn't it (because it will be so much easier if he is)? You need to explain to him why this is important to you, that you've researched the training, etc, that you can do this and you need his support.
Lots and lots of luck.

howdoo Tue 09-Oct-12 21:53:08

I'm about to do my first marathon in about a month, so am at the most time intensive part of the training. My total training will be 16 weeks. Initially your long run each week could almost be done before the household gets up. But in the middle of training, your long run each week will be 2 hrs, going up to 3 plus hrs, for at least 9 weeks. Could you agree to leave v early on a Saturday? If you went at 7am, at least you could be back by 10/10.30 at the latest.

Nancy66 Tue 09-Oct-12 21:54:58

how far are you from work.

I was able to do a lot of my training just by running to and from the office

Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 22:00:08

15 miles to work - it's a bit far to run and then go to work! I have got off the tube a few stops early and run though. It's harder in the winter because of the logistics of making sure I have a winter coat to go home in.

Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 22:03:03

Howdoo - yes I could agree to go at 7am on Saturday.

Bluesky - when you say a quick 1 hr run - how quick do you mean? I do 10k in just under an hour.

Joiningthegang Tue 09-Oct-12 22:17:35

Ydnbu - you eill probably have more energy while traiing and is an investment in your health
I can understand you dh may have concerns re the time it may take up - but sounds lile you have already considered these

Am i the only one who can't recall ever having asked my dh for "permission" for anything?

Loueytb3 Tue 09-Oct-12 22:24:44

I wasn't asking permission - I think I said something along the lines of "I'm thinking about doing a marathon" and he said "over my dead body"

glasscompletelybroken Wed 10-Oct-12 08:59:36

Louey I often say I ran the London marathon "inspite" of my (ex) husbands best efforts. People would assume he was supportive but actually the whole training felt like a battle sometimes. Still worth it though - without a doubt.

Loueytb3 Wed 10-Oct-12 09:50:21

I've applied to run for the miscarriage association this morning. Haven't yet told DH but will blame you lot for persuading me to do it grin Of course, I might not get a place.

Nanny0gg Wed 10-Oct-12 09:56:06

Just get a running magazine, or look online and follow a training programme. That is a must. And become best friends with your physio. But it will take up a lot of your time.
One of my DCs did it - it was an amazing experience and I'm so glad we went to watch.

madwomanintheattic Wed 10-Oct-12 19:33:05

Wooooo! Good luck, fingers crossed you get a place. Do they announce their runners on a specific date, or just confirm as they apply?

lovelyredwine Wed 10-Oct-12 19:41:18

My DH has just run a marathon and started training in January. He didn't start doing really long runs until the last 2 months or so and these were only at weekends. He did his weekday runs before work, so was getting up at 5.45 ish 3 days a week. At weekends he did his runs when our dd was having a nap so it didn't impact on our lives too much. It does take a lot of commitment- there is no way I'd be off for an 8 mile run at 5.45 but there we go!

I think it's a great achievement and would love to do it one day, but sleep is too precious at the moment! Good luck.

Loueytb3 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:00:36

I think I should find out quite soon. I found them through a clearing site for charities who still have places. Fingers crossed!

Loueytb3 Thu 11-Oct-12 14:54:13

Shit - I got a place!!!!!

I'd better tell DH now grin

madwomanintheattic Thu 11-Oct-12 15:21:46

Wooooooo! <happy dance>

Have a great time, training and all. It was brilliant fun when I did it. Dh and the kids were more knackered than I was as they spent the whole day racing from point to point trying to time where I would be!

Have fun!

BelieveInPink Thu 11-Oct-12 15:48:14

Well done! Go for it, you will be massively proud of yourself and so will DH

Out of interest, which charity is it and how much do you have to raise?

Mrskbpw Thu 11-Oct-12 16:00:47

Brilliant brilliant brilliant. I have run the London Marathon and it was amazing. I only started running in the September before and could only run for 3 minutes then.

I've only ever done that marathon but my husband runs - he's doing London (again) next year. It is hard being the one who has to pick up the slack on childcare (and I feel it as well because he does his long run on a Sunday - because he goes to football on Saturdays!) but I'm sure with a bit of jiggling you can work it out.

He does a lot of midweek runs at lunchtime so he's not out every evening and he does make an effort not to be grumpy bugger after his long runs. Actually it's only near the end that it gets really hard.

Lots and lots of luck - you'll love it!

Loueytb3 Thu 11-Oct-12 16:01:40

Thank you grin

It's the miscarriage association and I have to raise £1500. I had a mc a few years ago so can add my personal story to hopefully guilt some stingy men poor souls into parting with their money. I still struggle with it now, even though I've had DS3 since. I'm hoping it will be cathartic to run for them.

madwomanintheattic Thu 11-Oct-12 16:24:25

I ran for cancer research after my bf's mum died of bowel cancer. She was essentially my second mum. I definitely found it gave me some sort of closure.

Remember to write your name huge on your shirt. I forgot, and so everyone was calling me by the name of the company that had sponsored me and given me the shirt! It was faintly surreal!

aroomofherown Thu 11-Oct-12 17:27:08

Woop! Congratulations! You will absolutely love it.

I always get very emotional when I see the personal stories etc on people's shirts. Amazing amazing experience.

ScarlettCrossbones Thu 11-Oct-12 18:16:01

Oh Gawd, you're starting to make little ideas flutter round my mind too ... next year's Edinburgh Marathon is the week before I turn 40 ... I normally only run 10ks and have always been adamant I wasn't interested in half-marathons or marathons because of all the training ... but maybe just once ... see what you've done now, OP!! wink

Loueytb3 Thu 11-Oct-12 22:20:44

Scarlett - that sounds like me until very recently!! I only really changed my mind after this years marathon. It must be something about turning 40. I have it all planned, run the marathon and then 6 days later celebrate my 40th in style and no doubt have a horrific hangover Go for it!!!

Madwoman - good idea about the name. I will remember that.

Loueytb3 Mon 22-Apr-13 17:06:44

I thought I would just update this post. Yesterday, I ran the London Marathon in 4hrs 43mins. It was bloody hard but I ran the whole way - the crowd kept me going in the end. Having my name on my shirt really helped when people yelled at me to keep going even though I felt like stopping.

So far I've raised £2300 for the Miscarriage Association and with work matching £500 of it, it should be at least £2800. So thank you for your posts encouraging me to enter!

Feeling rather sore today but now thinking of what race to do next...grin

Jinty64 Mon 22-Apr-13 17:09:48

Congratulations on your fantastic achievement. Enjoy your birthday!

catsmother Mon 22-Apr-13 17:10:45

That's brilliant. How was your DH about it in the end ? I hope he supported you and congratulated you afterwards.

complexnumber Mon 22-Apr-13 17:14:04

Congratulations, that is a heck of an achievment.

Did your DH give you support once he realised you were serious?

WhitesandsofLuskentyre Mon 22-Apr-13 17:15:30

Well done, that's a great time! I hear Brighton is a fab marathon to run, but as we head into summer there will be quite a few 10Ks around, and that is a lovely distance to run, to keep your legs moving.

LegoAcupuncture Mon 22-Apr-13 17:15:56

Well done!

mercibucket Mon 22-Apr-13 17:23:39

Awwww lovely well done smile

Trazzletoes Mon 22-Apr-13 17:25:52

Well done x

LazyMonkeyButler Mon 22-Apr-13 17:40:55

Well done! That's a huge achievement, you must feel really pleased with yourself for raising all that money grin.

Good for you!

LayMizzRarb Mon 22-Apr-13 17:41:50

Congratulations! Have a fantastic Birthday - hope you are proud of yourself !

FryingNemo Mon 22-Apr-13 17:44:10

Well done you! So impressed.

McNewPants2013 Mon 22-Apr-13 17:50:42

Well done. I would sign up to just giving website.

Is your DH supportive of your dreams normally, what if you decided to do night school or train for a new career ect.

Fuzzysnout Mon 22-Apr-13 17:51:16

Really well done - that's fantastic!

McNewPants2013 Mon 22-Apr-13 17:52:50

Ignore my last post.

Well done for following your dream and completing the marathon smile and what SN amazing amount of money to have raise flowers

BerryLellow Mon 22-Apr-13 18:06:56

Well done you! smile

ChaoticTranquility Mon 22-Apr-13 19:22:18

Well done smile

StickyProblem Mon 22-Apr-13 19:27:28

Well done! flowers

Loueytb3 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:12:44

Thank you grin

DH was supportive although at times did complain about the long runs at the weekend. He took all 3 DCs into London yesterday to watch - although they missed me in the end. We did meet up afterwards and they were very exited to see the medal. DS1 has SN so he can be really tough to deal with at times - I didn't think DH would take them all in on his own.

Next I want to do a half under 2 hours and I there is a 10k I do every September so I will do that again.

And the ballot for the 2014 London marathon opens next Monday....DH will kill me if I get a place next year, but on the other hand, I probably won't.

The other good thing is that I've dropped a dress size. Long distance running is great for fat burning. Now I need a new wardrobe...

TheVipperofVipp Mon 22-Apr-13 21:46:18

Oh wow! So lovely to see this thread come up again and to see you did it - and in a cracking time too! Loads of congratulations, on training, finishing, running all the way, raising so much money, and dropping a dress size too! Great stuff grin

Sanjifair Mon 22-Apr-13 21:54:15

Many congratulations!!!

raisah Mon 22-Apr-13 21:55:02

try running a half marathon first as its just a bit over your 10 miles maximum. this will challenge you and build up your confidence. Also, your dp can see whats involved and how capable you are to run the full marathon.

StuntGirl Mon 22-Apr-13 21:58:47

Read the thread raisah grin

Congratulations OP, brilliant achievement flowers

raisah Mon 22-Apr-13 22:00:55

silly me didnt read it all the way through! congratulations on completing the marathon, I wish I had the stamina & knees to run.

badguider Mon 22-Apr-13 22:01:21

Yay! good for you. And good for DH for coming round to the idea too.

raisah Mon 22-Apr-13 22:03:02

typing & breastfeeding at the same time isnt easy! :-)

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