To still be hoping that April will be found alive?

(74 Posts)
MoelFammau Mon 08-Oct-12 23:05:38

I just feel so so very sad.

LittleBearPad Mon 08-Oct-12 23:10:22

YANBU to hope it

AgentZigzag Mon 08-Oct-12 23:10:37

Whatever the police know, it seems to be saying it's not going to happen.

Tragic all round.

She was only tiny.

MoelFammau Mon 08-Oct-12 23:11:21

She looks just like my DD. It makes me cry.

WorraLiberty Mon 08-Oct-12 23:12:02

Strange question really, I'm sure everyone hopes the same.

It's doubtful but it's not a million percent impossible.

I'm sure everyone's clinging on to that hope, no matter how unlikely it is.

Inneedofbrandy Mon 08-Oct-12 23:12:20

This has really effected me, was properly crying over it earlier on the news.

I don't understand how they know it's now murder a case and she's gone, when she hasn't been found. I'm hoping she's been stashed somewhere and will be found.

pictish Mon 08-Oct-12 23:15:07

Did anyone see all the lanterns and balloons released between 7 and 7.30 in her village?
So moving.

The whole thing is just utterly shit. Very upsetting. That poor family and that poor wee girl.

cbeebiesatemybrain Mon 08-Oct-12 23:16:03

Yanbu and you're not the only one sad

LeChatRouge Mon 08-Oct-12 23:16:06

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BupcakesAndHaunting Mon 08-Oct-12 23:17:18

Do you know what worries me?

That Mark Bridger didn't abduct her and the real culprit still has her and no-one is looking for them.

andallthatjargon Mon 08-Oct-12 23:18:07

I do too, i am the eternal optimist x (unmumsnet kiss)

MoelFammau Mon 08-Oct-12 23:18:23

I know it's a strange question.... Just feel... well, I'm not sure why this case has affected me more than other tragic cases but it really has. I think it's because she's the spit of my DD.... Just keep clicking on online news sites in the hope of getting some good news....

If she has been killed by Mark Bridger, I don't understand why he doesn't at least explain where she is. It won't make things worse for him, surely? I can't imagine what April's parents are going through. So desperately sad.

scarletforya Mon 08-Oct-12 23:18:27

Yanbu

I can't help hoping it's all some mad mistake and she'll turn up perfect.

The fact that the accused man cried in the dock made me wonder if maybe there isn't some mistake. I know I'm probably just wishing but I can't seem to stop.

missyb890 Mon 08-Oct-12 23:19:13

Bupcakes thats what I was thinking sad

MrsjREwing Mon 08-Oct-12 23:19:20

Bupcakes, I thought the same thing.

tiggytape Mon 08-Oct-12 23:19:59

YANBU - hoping for a miracle to end her family's pain is not unreasonable at all. It is just so, so awful that I think a lot of people hope the same. Whatever the police know, we haven't been told so don't perhaps have their certainty and therefore it is understandable to want to cling to some hope.

DooBeDooBeDoo Mon 08-Oct-12 23:20:48

Please, please remember what the Police said the other day: don't speculate in the public domain if it might prejudice the judicial process.

monkeysbignuts Mon 08-Oct-12 23:20:51

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lisad123 Mon 08-Oct-12 23:21:22

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TeaDr1nker Mon 08-Oct-12 23:22:38

There is most likely lots of info we are not privy to.

An OP on another thread suggested not much is being given out to the public to allow for a fair trial.

So v v sad

AgentZigzag Mon 08-Oct-12 23:23:31

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WorraLiberty Mon 08-Oct-12 23:24:32

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LFCisTarkaDahl Mon 08-Oct-12 23:25:05

No, I don't wish that as for her to be alive and with someone who is doing her harm is a much worse thought after a week.

Instead, I hope she died quickly and in no pain, with no knowledge of what was happening to her.

I really pray that happened.

OliviaLMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 08-Oct-12 23:26:52

Hi all
We would ask you not to speculate on things
Thanks

MoelFammau Mon 08-Oct-12 23:54:27

So sorry. Wasn't wanting to speculate at all. Wasn't the point. Just needed somewhere to say how deeply sad I feel about the poor girl. Sorry.

sashh Tue 09-Oct-12 06:35:09

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Whitecherry Tue 09-Oct-12 09:22:13

Yesterday in court, what happened? Is there a trial date set?

Whitecherry Tue 09-Oct-12 09:23:51

Next year will be a tough one. There will be the couple who set fire to house/death of six children's trial..... Then the trial if Tia Sharps step grandadad and then Mark Bridgers. Bloody awful.

meditrina Tue 09-Oct-12 09:29:09

Whitecherry: he's been remanded to appear before a Crown Court. There will be an initial hearing soon, where he will (almost certainly) be remanded until full trial, which will be some months away.

DappyHays Tue 09-Oct-12 09:31:19

I'm not going to speculate. It would be just perfect if she turned up safe and well. I hope that miracle does occur.

I watched the service on Sunday morning (though I'm not religious) and was very moved.

Whitecherry Tue 09-Oct-12 09:32:31

Sassh..... I hope not. More than one place means to me, that they don't know!

SeveredEdMcDunnough Tue 09-Oct-12 09:32:48

Sashh I would imagine it's because they don't know which place to look for her so are covering all bases. It doesn't imply anything like what you are suggesting.

Your post is really, really horrible. Sorry, but I really think it was unnecessary.

Whitecherry Tue 09-Oct-12 09:33:12

Thanks Meditrina! I missed the news yesterday

MaryZed Tue 09-Oct-12 09:38:52

I have reported your post sahss.

Please remember her family may read these threads. If not now, then some time in the future.

apostropheuse Tue 09-Oct-12 09:43:14

Shocking and unecessary thing to say Sahss. Not helpful.

catstail Tue 09-Oct-12 11:48:56

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tiggytape Tue 09-Oct-12 12:48:24

It is safe to assume that none of the evidence the police have found is in the public domain and that is as it should be.
The general public therefore cannot possibly decide what they think about the strength of evidence or the charges brought because we know absolutely nothing about what the police have discovered and so must trust them to do their job knowing that they know far more about all this than we do.
It would be shocking and wrong for the police to tell us all exactly what evidence they have that has led to the current charges and focus of the investigation - that is for a jury to be told in due course not to be bandied around the media to satisfy our curiosity and potentially harm any trial.

I hope that they find the poor girl and can return her to her family. Such a tragedy.

AnOldieButNotSoGoody Tue 09-Oct-12 12:56:20

I think everybody would want that outcome, surely.

It isn't going to happen though sadly.

I watched the news last night and saw the lanterns being released for her.

Heartbreaking.

perceptionreality Tue 09-Oct-12 13:04:28

Well, the fact is that the police think she has been murdered so it doesn't look likely now does it? That is not speculation.

And I'm sure they have a basis for this development.

It is too awful to take in really how her family must be feeling.

alienreflux Tue 09-Oct-12 13:09:02

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SoupDragon Tue 09-Oct-12 13:10:55

The police must have good reason to bring the charges they did.

Flossiechops Tue 09-Oct-12 13:15:00

For those of us with small children it evokes all kind of dreadful feelings. We cannot even begin to imagine the full horror of a child go missing. Poor poor family.

AvonCallingBarksdale Tue 09-Oct-12 13:16:43

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perceptionreality Tue 09-Oct-12 13:52:20

Everything will come out in the trial - I don't remember details of any crime being published before the trial so why should this be any different?

Whitecherry Tue 09-Oct-12 14:13:56

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Please can the ""they've got their man" "he's guilty" "he did x y or z " speculation on here stop, please.
Any speculation or comment like that is
a. unfair - everyone is entitled to a fair trial.
b. may damage the investigation.
MNHQ have already asked for people not to do so and the CPS spokesman on Saturday made it clear hoe dangerous such speculation could be.

BartletForTeamGB Tue 09-Oct-12 14:18:17

whitecherry, I've reported your post and asked for it to be deleted.

We don't know the facts, This man is presumed innocent until proven guilty.

IF he is guilty, then we don't want a mistrial on the basis of people declaring his guilt on the internet.

If he is innocent, he has to wait for the judicial process to happen and to prove that.

BartletForTeamGB Tue 09-Oct-12 14:18:50

Cross-posted with hobnobs. I completely agree.

Well said Bartlet

hellokittyrocks Tue 09-Oct-12 16:43:13

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perceptionreality Tue 09-Oct-12 16:56:29

hellokitty - I think your post would be considered speculation but honestly, are you that naive?

Danielle Jones was killed by her uncle with whom she'd had a relationship. It's been said time and again that in these cases the person doing responsible is rarely a bogey man who jumps out of a hedge.

LeeCoakley Tue 09-Oct-12 17:02:58

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MaryZed Tue 09-Oct-12 17:43:17

op, would you consider asking for this thread to be deleted? I really don't think this board, and in particular aibu, is something I would like April's mother to come across one day sad.

AnOldieButNotSoGoody Tue 09-Oct-12 17:57:37

What's with the deletions confused

MaryZed Tue 09-Oct-12 18:00:20

Horrible suggestions as to what might have been done with April sad. Totally unnecessary.

mnhq, you can delete this if you like too.

I really, really would hate anyone to be talking about my child like this.

LadyBeagleEyes Tue 09-Oct-12 18:02:39

I don't think there should be any more threads about this unless they find her.
It can only be speculation now.

AnOldieButNotSoGoody Tue 09-Oct-12 18:03:46

Ah right.

God almighty that's not on.

Sassybeast Tue 09-Oct-12 18:05:11

Agree with Lady Beagle. I think it would be nice if one of Aprils Pink Ribbons was placed on MN somewhere to show our support for her family. Any threads, however well intentioned, will just descend into this horrible speculation.

LeeCoakley Tue 09-Oct-12 18:05:41

I wonder why mine was deleted? I know I swore, but with reason confused

MaryZed Tue 09-Oct-12 18:06:52

I agree.

Lee, I didn't see yours, but if you were commenting on one of the deleted one's they would have deleted yours too.

Where is the op? I really think this should go. It's horrible.

I agree.

AnEerieAirOfHorror Tue 09-Oct-12 18:30:33

I agree about the pink bow on mn to show our support.

perceptionreality Tue 09-Oct-12 18:40:48

I agree too about the pink bow.

On facebook there are groups openly speculating and facebook is not removing them of course hmm

AnOldieButNotSoGoody Tue 09-Oct-12 18:59:18

A mum at school had a big pink bow tied to her rear windscreen today.

catstail Tue 09-Oct-12 20:15:20

Huh, why was my post deleted on this thread? I don't think I speculated about the arrested man at all, quite the opposite in fact.

AvonCallingBarksdale Tue 09-Oct-12 21:02:23

Horrible suggestions as to what might have been done with April . Totally unnecessary

Just wanted to be clear that I think my earlier post was deleted due to perceived speculation (at least I imagine that's why it went, although I don't think I speculated confused). I would never have commented or suggested what is in bold in this post.

MaryZed Tue 09-Oct-12 21:07:39

Sorry Avon, I didn't mean to imply that all the deleted posts were horrible, but a couple were. In particular the one I reported earlier - in fact a couple of the deleted posts were in reply to that one too.

The whole thread just looks such a mess now it would be better gone.

MrsDeVere Tue 09-Oct-12 21:12:42

I think all of these threads should go.
This is not an appropriate subject for internet speculation and discussion.
This is someone else's child.

We have no ownership of this case. None.
Leave it be.

MaryZed Tue 09-Oct-12 21:15:16

I've reported again, as the op hasn't been back and I really don't think it's appropriate to leave it long term in aibu.

AvonCallingBarksdale Tue 09-Oct-12 21:17:06

MaryZed, that's fine and I know some of the posts were just awful. I just felt uncomfortable being associated. I think, yes, the whole thread should go now sad

ThatBloodyKnid Tue 09-Oct-12 21:19:28

I think all of these threads should go.

Absolutely, MrsDeVere.

I've requested deletion too.

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