To think that long hair on young boys.......

(324 Posts)
Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 10:57:37

Is unfair on the child. It dangles in their face and gets in their way and must be really annoying for them. With girls you can clip it back or tie it up in pretty styles so no problem at all. It is the parents imposing their tastes and choices on the child - rather like when toddlers have pierced ears. Older boys with long hair absolutely fine - as they have chosen to wear it that way, but toddlers and younger boys no.

MadgeHarvey Sun 07-Oct-12 10:58:13

Good luck with this one OP!

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 10:58:54

Bacon sarnie anyone?

SeveredEdMcDunnough Sun 07-Oct-12 10:58:58

Some young boys choose to have long hair and get upset if you try to have it cut.

And some have it tied back.

It is nothing like piercing a child's ears against their will/without their consent.

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 10:59:28

Kettles on.

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 11:00:00

oh and YABU.

SeveredEdMcDunnough Sun 07-Oct-12 11:00:28

Have you GOT any children OP?

If you have you will know how much influence they are able to have over their hair style at a very young age.

If you haven't then you won't understand that.

GhostofMammaTJ Sun 07-Oct-12 11:00:41

Oh, yes please Worra. Do you have ketchup too?


SeveredEdMcDunnough Sun 07-Oct-12 11:01:37

Btw mine both have fairly short hair and it does not get in their eyes. I noticed when it did and offered to cut it - ds1 took some persuading but likes it Ok now.

They are 9 and 5 now.

No way would I impose something that made them uncomfortable.

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 11:02:19

<< Fiddles in bag >>

I have a few Burger King sachets Ghost blush

YABU. My son has Autism, ADHD and sensory processing disorder. His hair is his comfort mechanism that he uses to self soothe and hide behind when the world all gets too much to deal with. Yet he faces bigotry like the OP.

UnChartered Sun 07-Oct-12 11:02:44


WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 11:03:27

Anyway back to the OP...

Don't we all 'impose' our tastes and choices on our babies/young children to some degree?

AitchDee Sun 07-Oct-12 11:04:11

Not sure about your reasonings OP, but personally I dislike long hair on boys just because I think they look ridiculous.

MadCap Sun 07-Oct-12 11:04:17

Yabu All parents impose their tastes on their children until they're old enough to have an opinion. Faulty logic there I'm afraid. My ds (22 mo) has longish really curly blonde hair. They way it curls means it isn't in his eye, plus he looks like a proper little cherub. grin

SeveredEdMcDunnough Sun 07-Oct-12 11:05:03

Really Aitch? Every time?

(is that you, or someone else btw?)

UnChartered Sun 07-Oct-12 11:05:06

Not saying 'ace' at you glitter.

T'was at OP

Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 11:06:30

Yes I have 2 boys. Ds1 is 2 1/2. Ds2 is 6 months. If I left ds1s hair to grow long, it would massively interfere with his playing and get in his way.

GhostofMammaTJ Sun 07-Oct-12 11:06:49

Ha ha, I have those in my handbag too Worra. I also have McDs sweet chilli sauce, not suitable for bacon butties but very yummy all the same.

Proudnscary Sun 07-Oct-12 11:07:19


Unashamedly love long hair on boys

It's hardly child cruelty

GoSakuramachi Sun 07-Oct-12 11:07:32

But it doesn't intefere with girls playing?

Nonsense, I've known lots of boys with longer hair, it doesn't stop them doing anything.

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:07:54

Try telling that to my 20mo DS3. He literally takes MY long hair and lays it over his head and says "mine want long hair".

Unfortunately I am currently refusing to buy my toddler a syrup, and his hair is stubbornly refusing to grow as quickly or as long as he himself would like it.

He has gorgeous red-gold hair, and is most obviously expressing a preference to have it longer.

DS1 has one of those stupid Justin Bieber haircuts, and in fact has preferred longer hair for as long as I can remember.

DS2 has quite close cropped hair, again because that's how HE has always preferred it.

DS3 I can imagine is going to want long straggly surfer type hair, from what I can see - even to the extent that he points out styles he likes on other DC's and tells me "my want mine hair long".

Each to their own, all 3 of my DS's have had very strong opinions on their hair from toddler age, and it's their head, not mine.


DD on the other hand, couldn't have given a shiny shit what her hair was like until she turned 14 years old!

LadyBeagleEyes Sun 07-Oct-12 11:08:11

The only problem I've ever had with this was the time that a man and his particularly beautiful child booked into the YH I was working at.
I told the dad that I couldn't put her in the male dorm with him, but would give them a family room.
Dad was very shock angry with me, as it was actually a little boy with long straight shoulder length blonde hair. grin

theinets Sun 07-Oct-12 11:08:22

Long hair on young boys just shows their parents sad effection. Pretentious .

TurkeyDino Sun 07-Oct-12 11:08:25

I don't like long hair in little boys. I just don't. I'm sure lots of people don't like DS's super short hair. He doesn't like getting it cut, so I take him to a children's hairdressers and they get the job done.

I'm sure when he's older he'll decide to have long flowing (probably dirty) locks just to spite me. grin

Anyway YABU as people can do as they see fit with their own DCs hair.

Quadrangle Sun 07-Oct-12 11:09:50

YANBU. If it is getting in their eyes then yes it will be annoying. If there is a particular reason why the child wants it in their eyes, eg. if they need to hide behind it, then fair enough.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:10:54

DS2 has longish hair. Not stopped him from playing at all. He has asked for clips/bobbles in his hair (normally when watching me blowdry my hair) and will happily keep them in. DD, otoh, would never tolerate anything in her hair, still doesn't, except for school.

trio38 Sun 07-Oct-12 11:10:59

These responses are hilarious. Particularly tthe one calling the OP a bigot and the one implying small children all choose their own hairstyles. Because that suggests that round here all 'middle class' toddler boys choose long floppy hair and all 'working class' toddler boys choose a number one all over.

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:11:26

Yeah what all boys should have is that vile, super-short haircut where the hair is so short you can't even tell what colour it is (always looks kind of greyish) or even better SPIKY hair.

<twitches at spiky hair>

SirBoobAlot Sun 07-Oct-12 11:12:41

Oh be quiet.

And I prefer boys with longer hair as opposed to ridiculous short crew cuts that make them look like want to be chavs.

MadCap Sun 07-Oct-12 11:13:41

What Bupcakes said.

WofflingOn Sun 07-Oct-12 11:13:52

I can't stand boys with a number 1 or 2 haircut, makes them look like mini-skinhead thugs.
But that's because of my age, as a youngster only thugs and dads had short haircuts. Cool dudes had long hair. grin
Don't see the difference between long hair on girls or boys, our school rule is that it's tied back. Narrow-minded bigotry is more of a problem.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:13:56

theinets pretentious? really? DS1 had very short hair as a toddler, still does as a teenager (even though all his friends prefer the longer look) not sure how that makes me pretentious confused

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:14:15

as parents we all impose our taste on weans,assert our preferences
i prefer wee boys with short hair have no issue if another mum prefers long hair
plenty long haired laddies round here have long hair its the mc way

germyrabbit Sun 07-Oct-12 11:15:09

i always find boys with long hair have parents who thing they're a bit trendy and right on, like kids who wear rolling stones and ramone t shirts grin

Kalisi Sun 07-Oct-12 11:15:16

Completely agree with you OP, I think it's disgusting.My DS is 14 months old, I wouldn't dream of imposing my own views on the poor boy. He wears nothing as he does not like to wear clothes, he also only eats bananas and icecream and goes to sleep when he wants on the kitchen floor as that is what he prefers. I am having a slight issue learning French however as he decided last week that he did not want to be brought up with an English culture. Kids these days eh?

TheHeirOfSlytherin Sun 07-Oct-12 11:16:10

Hang on... why can't you tie a boy's hair up the same way you would if he was a girl? A two year old is not going to catch the gay-ness from putting a bobble or clip in his hair you know. (And my two year old boy actually likes it when I put clips in his hair, he thinks it's the best game ever).

SeveredEdMcDunnough Sun 07-Oct-12 11:17:13

Well I can understand that you have control at this age over their hair.

But wait till they get a bit bigger. They will tell you how they like it.

Please don't judge people whose children might well insist on having longer hair, without knowing what is behind it.

The same as I don't judge people whose toddlers/children have very short hair. I may not like the way it looks but it's not my child and I don't know their logic.


BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:17:15

Ah well. I must "thing" I'm a bit trendy and right on as DS has long hair AND a Ramones t-shirt.

It probably doesn't matter that he chose the t-shirt himself, as he really likes The Ramones.

Lesson learned, though. DS, tomorrow it's a grade 2 for you and we're off to Asda to get you a t-shirt with "I'm Fucking Trouble, Me" printed on the front.

MissAnnersley Sun 07-Oct-12 11:17:18

I would love it if DS had longer hair but my exP keeps it fairly short. I think long hair can look lovely on boys.

I'm not particularly keen on really short hair on boys for some reason but it really is just up to the parent.

This is akin to saying all girls should wear pink skirts and all boys should wear blue trousers.

Null and void OP in society today!

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:17:45

haha funny post. we all impose our arenting and preference on our kids
i dont buy those gross mini band tshirts. skanky
and seeing i pay i am the boss of what gets worn

GoSakuramachi Sun 07-Oct-12 11:17:58

The nasty comments about short hair are as judgy and annoying as the OP. How any of you could summon up the will to care about the length of other childrens hair is beyond me.

picnicbasketcase Sun 07-Oct-12 11:18:14

Not fussed either way but I don't like that thing where it's short all over with a little rat tail at the back.

WofflingOn Sun 07-Oct-12 11:18:28

'i always find boys with long hair have parents who thing they're a bit trendy and right on, like kids who wear rolling stones and ramone t shirts'

Yup, as opposed to cat's bum-mouthed 'O in't that disgustin'? from entirely pink-clad females with their girly girls and their macho men in tow.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:18:39

i always find boys with long hair have parents who thing they're a bit trendy and right on,

Hahahaha I am the least trendy/right on person. DS1 had short hair from day 1, ds2 has longer hair. Just the way it has turned out, nothing deep or "right on" about it at all.

jellybeans Sun 07-Oct-12 11:18:59

YABU. It's a silly gender assumption anyway that girls have long hair and boys short. In the past males had long hair. Up to each parent/child.

sleeplessinsuburbia Sun 07-Oct-12 11:19:09

I love longer hair, it looks natural, on my boys short hair seems too severe and adult.
I couldn't even imagine caring about how someone else's child wears their hair.

monkeysbignuts Sun 07-Oct-12 11:19:19

my little boy has the most gorgeous blonde (multi toned ) hair and he looks gorgeous with it shoulder length. so op yabvvu!

germyrabbit Sun 07-Oct-12 11:20:18

love how people get so wound up by these threads, if you don't care what others think you wouldn't get so beat up about opposing views

i meant "think" obviously - wow mn has got super snidey lately!

oldraver Sun 07-Oct-12 11:20:31

DS doesnt want his hair cut..... I did have it cut into a standard 'boys' cut when he started school as I thought it might stand out too much at a school, but its now a length HE wants, and isnt in his eyes. And he is very disappointed girls get to wear slides and boys dont.

Anywayr wheres my bacon Sarnie ?? still in the fridge as OH hasn't cooked it yet

sleeplessinsuburbia Sun 07-Oct-12 11:20:45

And I am "trendy and right on" so maybe that's why...

monkeysbignuts Sun 07-Oct-12 11:20:49

I agree with picnicbasket those little rat tails are bloody awful!

KenLeeeeeee Sun 07-Oct-12 11:21:01

grin @ Kalisi

Ds1 was nearly 3 before he would consent to have his hair cut (at his dad's insistence. I loved his golden ringlets). He hated the experience so much, it was a further 18 months before he would do it again.

I'm not sure how forcing him to have something unneccessary done which terrified him is better than leaving him and his lovely long locks hair alone.

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:21:52

of course we all make snap judgements based on clothes
long hair and band tshirt on a kid i think trying too hard.parent thinks still yoof
short phil mitchell hair with wee man gemmy clothes i think look like a bouncer

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:22:25

IME it's always the hard of thinking that don't like boys with long hair.

Like my cousin. He's your typical Staffie owner, loves his manly pursuits such as beer and belching and keeps telling me DS will get bullied for having long hair. Errrrr, no he won't. He's got long hair, not a second head.

tethersend Sun 07-Oct-12 11:22:39

I think we're all in danger of overlooking the ideal solution; the mullet.

Business at the front, party at the back.

Problem solved.

Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 11:22:49

Bupcakes, have you heard of short back and sides?

MrsBovary Sun 07-Oct-12 11:22:52

Yes, bobbles or clips can be used, just like girls. I really don't think it matters.

Surely you're imposing your own choices on your child whatever style you opt for, long or short.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:22:54

germy I think I get wound up by these threads because I would love to be "right on" and trendy but I fail miserably despite my DS having long hair , I don't even know who the fucking Ramones are FFs <wails>

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Sun 07-Oct-12 11:23:25

ooooooooh. there's an AitchDee... <awkward>

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 11:24:14

This is such a pointless argument really because it's personal taste

Some people like it and some don' what?

TurkeyDino Sun 07-Oct-12 11:24:24

Oh dear, short hair boys are chavs and wannabe thugs and long hair boys have pretentious parents. What is the universally acceptable hair length then?

I am concerned that DS may be out threatening his pals for their lunch money if he doesn't grow his hair quickly. But then I will become pretentious which could be difficult to keep up from my ex council house grin

greenhill Sun 07-Oct-12 11:24:51

My DS has beautiful long blonde hair, it looks great tied back with a hair band. He is 2 yo and doesn't like the hairdresser, similarly he won't show the dentist his teeth.

I don't always correct those that say "what beautiful hair your daughter has" because he is sometimes in bright colours, rather than in the 'boy' colours of blue and brown. It doesn't annoy him, he likes it.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:25:07

AitchTwo Oh I thought you were AitchDee.

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:25:20

"Business at the front, party at the back."


GoSakuramachi Sun 07-Oct-12 11:25:24

But my son has really short hair and a Ramones t-shirt! How will you ever decide what income bracket and aspirational status to put us in as a family? It's a conundrum. Maybe we should wear badges?

SeveredEdMcDunnough Sun 07-Oct-12 11:25:26

Didn't think it sounded like you Aitch! Have been wondering for days.

Tethers I think I love you.

quoteunquote Sun 07-Oct-12 11:25:32

I'm just back from the beach, lovely surf this morning,

lots of the young lads have long hair, it's a surf thing, suits them.

If they can manage to catch a wave with long hair, I doubt there are many things that it gets in the way for.

lots of blokes with long hair tie it back., not sure why the OP thinks boys don't.

MadCap Sun 07-Oct-12 11:25:40

I find myself in agreement with everything Bupcakes has said so far. :-D

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Sun 07-Oct-12 11:26:06

and she's feisty.

i don't care much about long hair, except that on boys it seems more to be a reflection of the fact that the mum hasn't yet taken him to the hairdressers so it has all that crappy wispy baby hair at the bottom. good, well-cut long hair is great, but then it does seem to look girlier? i like mid-length, growing out, relaxed summer hair on a wee chap. and a big chap. grin

SigmundFraude Sun 07-Oct-12 11:26:06

Long hair on boys = grim. Short buzzcut on boys = even more grim. Nice short back and sides, soft & longer on top = perfect.

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:26:37

DS gets called "she" LOADS, usually by gimmers. Despite the fact he is dressed like a boy. To some knuckledraggers people, long-hair automatically equals girl.

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 11:26:44

I agree there's no need for nasty comments about short cropped hair either. My Ds has had short hair,spikey hair,an emo long fringe and long flowing hair in his time. I've obviously been judged for every bloody hairstyle according to MN

I also hate long hair on males (of any age).

Children hate getting their toe nails cut, some hate baths, but as parents we get round that.

I am about to be a Stepnan and have already had the conversation about acceptable hair length.

I told them last night that they will be getting a shaven baby handed back, should he ever come to mine with long hair grin.

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:28:39

if one really wants can sterotype on both sides
would-be super liberal think they challenge social norms with long hair
short hair= illiberal phil mitchell dont be a pansy types

DS is currently sporting Justin Beiber hair with full on Hollister.

Awkward little shit that he is.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Sun 07-Oct-12 11:30:24

birds, you've seeeeeeriously got to take a step back re your grandparenting role.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:30:28

My DS2 (2yrs) gets mistaken for a girl despite me calling out his name "John, John" (disclaimer not his name) likewise my DD (8) gets mistaken for a boy despite me yelling "Jane, Jane (also not her name) this happens even when they are not together. My daughter has shoulder length blonde hair and wears jeans and hoodies but imo, still looks like a girl, and DS2 has collar length blonde hair and wears jeans and hoodies but imo looks like a boy. I don't care all that much.

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:32:40

Birds, you're a stepnan?! You get ZERO say in haircuts. If DS's stepnan sent him home with cut hair, I'd send her home with a split lip.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:33:17

usual DS1 had his head shaved from the ages 5-9 - his choice. Now he has short back and sides, again his choice. I try to foget about the time he tried to grow it long and instead it just grew out sideways, and not in a good way. Oh and I tried to cut my DDs hair once and inadvertently gave her a mullet. I seem to have commited all the sins of childrens hairstyles. Oh well grin

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:35:14

birds what a stupid attitude that just reads like old battle axe talk
if you imposed upon me you'd not see the child again.end of
granny doesnt equal do what you want and act entitled.

Tailtwister Sun 07-Oct-12 11:35:29

It's personal choice isn't it? You can't help but impose some of your own tastes onto your child when they are very young. You buy their clothes, get their hair cut (or not!), decide to some extent what activities they do etc.

Personally, I don't like extremely short hair. My boys don't have long hair, but they don't have the type of hair which would suit that style. It's kind of short at the back/sides and a bit longer at the top. Pretty bog standard really.

I don't really care how other people cut their children's hair. It's their business really, just like they choose how to dress them.

InvisibleHotPinkWeasel Sun 07-Oct-12 11:35:33

You know it's ok not like certain hair styles. Regardless of the age of the child

Bit daft to dress it up as concern for the child. Lots of the boys here at ds's school tie it back for sport if it's very long snd they need to, same as the girls.

I personally dislike very very long hair on girls where it's all ratty and horrid. But I'm not going to seethe quietly and do a Daily Mail Sad Face about the poor neglected child at the hair whims of the parent.

Short, long, spiky, whatever. Tis nowt to do with me.

I'm in a cultural group that doesn't do haircuts until the age of three, so quite used to all the hair lengths on little ones. I assure you OP that the boys with long hair play just the same as boys with short hair cuts (or girls with either). And they can have their hair pulled back just the same as girls. I don't see how it is anymore unfair than any other things that all parents impose on children of that age group.

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan Sun 07-Oct-12 11:36:05

ds likes his hair tied up in pink bobbles. hmm

perhaps it is something to do with having a big sister grin

PickledFanjoCat Sun 07-Oct-12 11:36:08

God birds yes I'd drop the nut on you I think.

I like little boys with longish hair. They've time enough to get it shaved.

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:37:24

lol bupcakes, my sentiments exactly
and kids would be told granny not visiting again .ever
id hire a nice aupair who wouldnt cut the jip.unlike granny

Is that your way of telling them you don't want to be called on to babysit Birds

"I am about to be a Stepnan and have already had the conversation about acceptable hair length.

I told them last night that they will be getting a shaven baby handed back, should he ever come to mine with long hair grin. "


I'm not one of those who is "livid" when MIL cuts DS's hair without asking (which she has done - I as unimpressed but on balance not going to have a tantrum as the kids love her and she has them over night each school holiday, which we appreciate) but in what way is this your place?

Tailtwister Sun 07-Oct-12 11:38:10

Wow Birds. Glad you aren't in my family. If you were, you certainly wouldn't be getting your hands on my children!

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:39:14

I just think that if they express an opinion on their hair, so be it, and I will go for that. Rather have happy children whatever their hair length, tbh.

I have one with short back and sides, one with Justin Bieber hair with silly in-the-eyes floppy fringe, and one who wants to have surfer hair if his hair ever grows.

Where does that place ME?

And as for DD - she expressed no opinion any which way about her hair until she was 14. Again, where does that leave me in your silly analysis?

My opinion is that they are the ones who have to go outside, they are the ones who have to feel happy with their appearance, if they choose to have longer hair, they are the ones who have to deal with getting it brushed every day.

Why is it up to me how they choose to present themselves?

I won't be forcing DS3 to get his hair cut if he wants it shoulder length any more than I would force DS2 to grow his hair longer.

Happy DC's matter far more to me than the style of their hair.

bigsnugglebunny Sun 07-Oct-12 11:39:51

Where I grew up, incredibly short hair on a boy was a sign that they'd had headlice and been shorn... <shudder>

I have no preference, I think it depends on the child and/or parents. My DS1 (12) loves growing his hair long, but he refuses to look after it properly so we get it cut when it gets to a certain length.

DS2 has beautiful auburn curls, and used to have it down to his shoulders - but then developed a habit of chewing it (ASD related) so he has it cut in a terrible home-haircut; as he doesn't tolerate the hairdressers.

It's hilarious that I call bigotry when the OP is wildly discriminatory towards people like my son who has his appearance a certain way because of his disabilities?


bigsnugglebunny Sun 07-Oct-12 11:40:36

Just to add: DP has waist length hair grin I like it!

minouminou Sun 07-Oct-12 11:41:09

DS has got amazingly long blond hair, but he also has some friends with grades 1 and 2 hair. No-one really cares, from what I can gather.
I actually really couldn't give a toss, until some knuckle-dragging moron gets all worked up over artificially created gender nonsense, which thankfully is rare. In those circs, I'm just pissed off at breathing the same air as an idiot. You want your kid to have a short do, get it done....or not....whatever.
Bird - I hope you're joking...I'll assume you are.
If you're not, you're in for serious trouble - that was an obnoxious post.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:41:26

Exactly Couthy there are bigger and more important battles to be had than the length of a childs hair.

JustSpiro Sun 07-Oct-12 11:41:52

It's not something I would go for if I had a DS but what other people do with their children's hair is their business as far as I'm concerned.

TBH honest I don't think brutally short cuts on boys look great either, and I saw a poor little bugger of about 10 with a proper Pat Sharp mullet the other day which was just shock hmm!

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:42:11

Fucking Hell, Birds. Would you ignore the wishes of the parents and the child to do so?

And you're a SW?!


scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:43:30

im v fair.i make snap judgements about everyone
long hair,short hair,dug on lead, or patchouli oil hippy types
i will happily cast aspersions upon anyone if im in the mood

Birds I see you don't want to see your step grandchild much then?

YouMayLogOut Sun 07-Oct-12 11:45:35


Boys and men can always have a ponytail, can't they?

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:46:28

grin at Scottishmummy.

Do you have a permanent wedgie from your Judgy Pants? They must be cutting off your circulation if you are making snap judgments about everyone you encounter!

Take the Judgy pants off for a day, or try to challenge your judginess every time you make a snap judgment.

You might feel more relaxed and less stressed!

pigletmania Sun 07-Oct-12 11:47:00

YANBU at all, especially toddlers where it looks all straggely. I am a short back and sides kinda girl, when ds 8 months has more hair he will be going to the barbers

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:47:17

lol,we had the conversation with the grans and only when they agreed did they get free rein
regardless of their thoughts on organic food,ginger, or discipline they comply with our preferences
you see gran isnt the boss. and has never been lead to believe she has a major say

cbeebiesatemybrain Sun 07-Oct-12 11:47:38

I don't get it, why is it ok on girls but not boys? Little girls must find hairclips and bands irritating too by your argument? My dd is only 6mo so yet to test this btw but my ds had long hair until he turned 2. I trimmed his fringe so it didn't get in his eyes but he had the most gorgeous blonde curls I couldn't bear to cut it! It looked lovely (yes I'm biased and pfb) and didn't seem to bother him at all. I actually cried when he had it cut off! blush

Sorry op I think yabu on this one. Gender stereotypes anyone?

5madthings Sun 07-Oct-12 11:47:52

my boys all had long hair when they were little, it didnt get in their way at all, they liked it and so did we, we occasionally put a clip or bobble in it and as they have got older they have it styled as they like, ds1 is 13 and his hair is longer than mine, ie down his back, he likes it.

ds2 likes his shortish and he sometimes gels it up in a mohawk style!

ds3 and ds4 is shortish but not very short, as it grows it gets to a surfer type style, they like it and we keep it trimmed etc, its just a non issue.

my mil didnt like them having long hair nad refused to have photos of them as they looked like 'street urchins' shock her loss! and if any relative cut their hair without the express permission of dp or i then they would not be having access to the children unless we were there!

minouminou Sun 07-Oct-12 11:47:56

All this "but it gets in their eyes, they can't do stuff....."
My arse. These people are just too spineless to come out and say they don't like it and they've got Da Fear of Da Gay, so they dress it up as "concern".
One word....Vikings.
And Mongols, now I think of it.

Didn't stop them, eh?

Bluestocking Sun 07-Oct-12 11:48:47

Aitch, agree with "crappy wispy baby hair at the bottom". Especially when the mother harps on about how she can't bear to have his "curls" cut off.

5madthings Sun 07-Oct-12 11:49:27

Oh and my mil now doesnt like dp's or ds2's hair as she thinks its too short and makes them look like criminals! cant win with her. i find that hilarious as my dad was RAF so had no 2 all over and it didnt occur to me that my father looked like a criminal, every adult male i knew in the forces had short hair, they were far from criminal!

pigletmania Sun 07-Oct-12 11:50:05

My dd 5 has ASD and won't let us anywhere near her hair, looks all straggely, my friend just about managed to trim her fringe. I long to take her to the hairdressers for a lovely stepped bob grin

"Birds I see you don't want to see your step grandchild much then"

I see you all ignored the grin, but anyway my relative agrees with me, it is us v the father.

I willbe a partial carer for a varity of reasons.

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:52:02

My 76 year old Granddad has long hair that he pulls back into a pony tail when he is working.

My 52 year old Uncle has a mullet.

My Dad always had hair past shoulder length and permed a la 80's footballers.

My 50 year old stepdad has short back and sides.

My 21 year old Dbro has had everything from cropped to shoulder length and everything in between.

In my family, the men tend to have longer hair than the women (though I buck that trend with waist length hair), and the men spend far more time on their hair than the women do.

I guess given my family's hairstyles, I have learnt that hair is individual, and is up to the person whose head it is on.

pigletmania Sun 07-Oct-12 11:52:04

I just don't like long hair on boys/ men it's my persons
Tastes, like some of you like long hair Nowt wrong with that

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:53:18

saw wee boy with gorgeous long hair in park other day.looked v celtic
there are any number of things for folk to get hump about
and hair is as good a place to start as any i suppose

ChristianGreyIsAJackass Sun 07-Oct-12 11:54:11

I havent been on mn for aaaaaages but am welcomed back into the fold with 'business at the front, party at the back'
Thanks tethers you have cheered me up no end! grin

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:54:52

birds in fairness it was such a peculiar post
your attempt at humour was somewhat lacking
encouraging that you were kidding

BegoniaBampot Sun 07-Oct-12 11:55:47

I do both as I can't be arsed going to the hairdressers all the time. They go, get it quite short and tidy and then it grows for ages relatively long till I can be arsed going back for the next cut. Little one likes his hair quite short as it's very curly and bushes out to a lovely bubble ad it gets longer. Do prefer it short for holidays, heat and swimming though.

Ds has rather long blonde curls, I like it, it suits him. I'd rather children not all look he same, they are all individual.

Bluestocking Sun 07-Oct-12 11:56:59

Birds, the grin didn't take the sting out of your apparently very aggressive stance on the entirely unimportant issue of hair length. But your latest post makes it clear that hair length is probably the least of this still unborn child's worries.

I carn't look at a boy with long hair and describe as 'nice', let alone gorgeous, tbh.

But then i don't think that shaved heads look thugish.

minouminou Sun 07-Oct-12 11:58:01

Phew, Birds. I wasn't sure, there. The only thing that made me think you were joking was the "shaven baby" was just too brutal to be true.

The unborn child doesn't have any worries.

We all talked about it over dinner last night, because i have bought the pram and was talking about a variety of things.

I'm in Liverpool, appearance matters.

Kalisi Sun 07-Oct-12 12:03:19

grin at the thought of a Nan having any say in a babies hair!

pigletmania Sun 07-Oct-12 12:04:54

Look why are people being castigated for not having the same opinion as everybody else, we are not shep and are entitled to our opinions

bigsnugglebunny Sun 07-Oct-12 12:05:16

I'm in Liverpool, appearance matters.

<snort> indeed, it is the birthplace of the hideous "scouse brow" grin

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 12:05:22

birds grin I am assuming you are taking the piss now with your comment about buying the pram and being in Liverpool re appearances. I almost thought you were being serious! Gah, I am no good at reading sarcasm and irony grin

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pigletmania Sun 07-Oct-12 12:06:41

I would hate it if dh grew his hair long, it would not suit him and would try and cut it off grin

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 12:06:43

When I was little I had a sort of long bob style with a fringe.

According to my Gran, every little girl should have her fringe clipped back but I hated clips and hair slides with a passion.

I used to dread being taken to visit her because my Mum and Dad used to insist I had to wear a hair slide to 'stop her moaning'. They'd say "Oh keep still Worra, it's only for a couple of hours!"

As a result, I couldn't stand visiting my Gran and used to sit there feeling like a prize tit... with a hair slide that resembled a brown fucking polo mint on my head hmm

bigsnugglebunny Sun 07-Oct-12 12:06:55

teddybare presumably the step-grandchild is from her husband's side?

colleysmill Sun 07-Oct-12 12:08:28

Ds has a double crown, 2 lovely circles rotating inwards.

If its cut short he looks like a cockatoo and it flaps as he runs along. Keeping it a bit longer means I stand some chance of getting it flat. Other than a really close cut which I personally am not keen on, longer hair is a better option for us.

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 12:08:52

Birds isn't a troll.

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 12:09:46

Appearance only matters if you let it matter. I would rather bring my DC's up not to be sheep, and to be able to stand up for the choices they make, both in the way they live their life and their appearance.

Hair is just one way of doing that.

If other people have a problem with my DS's having their hair the way THEY want it, then surely it is the people commenting that have an issue, not my DS's?

Does it matter that my friend that runs a Nursery has bright pink hair? Does that somehow make her less able to care for the children?

Does it matter that my Granddad had his hair in a ponytail when giving advice on insurance, or did it only matter that he knew about the products he was advising on?

I just get meh when people make an issue out of something that is a non issue.

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Oct-12 12:10:28

If its cut short he looks like a cockatoo and it flaps as he runs along

Sounds like my DS2

He's in danger of taking off on a windy day grin

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 12:11:15

My DS has a crown right at the front of his head, it played havoc with his emo fringe.

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 12:12:37

God yes, the double crown. You just can't work short back and sides with a double crown. Hence why DS1 has Justin Bieber hair through choice.

colleysmill Sun 07-Oct-12 12:13:28

worra yes definately take off territory! grin its quite endearing to me but looks a bit daft to everyone else!

When ds is older he might want it spiky and gelled up but I'm not buying hair gel for a 3 yr old!

jamdonut Sun 07-Oct-12 12:14:11

My youngest son always had short hair till he turned 10 and decide he wanted his hair long and floppy, and no amount of cajoling could persuade him otherwise. When it gets long enough to just about tie into a ponytail, I have to say enough is enough and he gets it trimmed (not cut short) and relayered ( to stop it flopping in his eyes).

Peka Sun 07-Oct-12 12:14:25

I love my son's longish curly auburn hair. We get loads of compliments every time we step out the door. He'll be able to get tattoos, a short back and sides and refuse to do any housework when he leaves home. While he's with me he's going to have to live with the softer side of life. And, just because girls are being totally left out of this thread, I will also keep any daughter's hair above shoulder length until she's old enough to brush it herself without crying.

colleysmill Sun 07-Oct-12 12:15:11

My SIS says ds's hair is very Noel gallagher -esque! But it works and can be made some what presentable!

5madthings Sun 07-Oct-12 12:18:15

colley the madboys also have a double crown and i agree too short and it just sticks up! ds1 also has a birth mark on his head where no hair grows, so he needs to keep it at least a certain length to keep it covered up, the dr said this as too much sunlight on it would put him at increased risk of skin cancer on the birth mark. he has the choice now he is older to have the birth mark removed (they would do it with local anaesthetic so had to be old enough to keep still!) they would have to do it with a few operations, removing a little bit each time and gradually pulling the skin/scalp together so he would eventually end up wiht a scar/line rahter than the circle with no hair that he currently has. he is 13 nad is not bothered by his birth mark, you cant see it as his hair is so long and we have left the decision up to him. but when he was little it was another reason that we kept his hair long.

i dont care what other people do with their children hair, so dont judge me for the styles that my children have. as it is i dont like really short hair on little boys, hence mine not having it short but i wouldnt judge or comment on another parents choice of hair style for their child.

Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 12:19:31

Minouminou, how many gay men do you know with long hair? IME they tend to have stylish short hair. Anyone know any gay men with straggly long hair?

pigletmania Sun 07-Oct-12 12:21:31

I don't judge other people for having their ds with long hair, don't really notice, just do t like it myself and will take ds to the barbers to have a cute David eckham quiff when he is older

Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 12:23:12

Also, if only genius khan had gone to tony and guy. Discuss.

"birds I am assuming you are taking the piss now with your comment about buying the pram and being in Liverpool re appearances"

I didn't know that my relative existed 18 months ago. Her foster placement broke down and she got accidently pregant.

We are now making the best out of a less than ideal (who's is?) situation.

So, yes i bought the pram. I am helping her move from the hostel that she lives in. That is why i am so involved, she sees me as a surrogate mum.

Luckily we agree on the hair issue grin.

Which would seem odd to some considering she had green hair last month and is now pink.

My youngest DD (15) has emo hair, i just don't like long hair on boys, or untidy 'dead' whisps/hair on girls.

arthurfowlersallotment Sun 07-Oct-12 12:23:52

Me, me, I know a gay man with long hair.

Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 12:24:32

Obviously gengis

I know a gay man, balding with long hair at the back. Do I get a prize?

Could I also add samurai to Vikings and Mongols?

purplehouse Sun 07-Oct-12 12:32:08

I don't like hair that gets in the way of vision or activities or is uncomfortable.

This applies to little boys and girls and also big ones. I know a girl who is 10 with one of those sidesweep fringes and she now always holds her head tilted to one side. She was trying to do a craft activity at a table and instead of looking straight at it, she was tilting her head with this ridiculous long side fringe. Can't help thinking it's going to give her neck problems.

The topic is about toddlers and babies, I do not understand how at that age their sex can make any difference in whether or not they look good with long hair.

haahoo, since you asked, I know quite a few gay men as well as a few bisexual men with long hair. Hair length/style does not affect sex or sexuality.

squeakytoy Sun 07-Oct-12 12:34:16

All I can say is, if you get offended when people dont correctly guess the gender of your child, dont let your boys have long hair. Other than that, it is upto you as the parent how you let your small child look. Not up to the child, the parent.

RandallPinkFloyd Sun 07-Oct-12 12:35:35

I never cease to be amazed at the things people have an opinion on!

Hair? Really? Children's hair? People actually have opinions on other people's children's hair? confused

(As for cutting a grandchild's hair, definitely agree a slit lip would be in order)

DS3 has hair of spun gold and I will sob the day he wants a shorter cut like his older brothers.

DS2 has his hair the shortest which doesn't seem to stop him loving his ballet class.

I can highly recommend the bacon and cream cheese sandwich I've just had lunch!

colleysmill Sun 07-Oct-12 12:39:31

Ds was bald until 1 yr so we didn't notice the double crown until then. When his hair did finally grow it grew in a single stripe down the centre of his head like a badger and then gradually filled out.

Interestingly people often commented then on the stripe more than they do now on his longer hair now - they often couldn't or wouldn't believe I hadn't had it cut that way. I would often hear comments in the park or supermarket of "look at that poor child's hair"

LonelyCloud Sun 07-Oct-12 12:41:39

Question to people who can't abide boy toddlers with long hair - how do you get them to sit still at the barbers?

DS's (13 months) hair is getting a bit long, but I'm a bit concerned that if we take a trip to the barbers, we might end up in A&E, given his dislike of sitting still when there's new and exciting things to explore.....

Why can't boys have pretty slides in their hair? silly OP. how would any child look bad if their hair was done up in a nice style? All kids are pretty.

LOL @ theinets grin

znaika Sun 07-Oct-12 12:44:28

well I do come from Russia where the mullet is the norm for most guys - so feel free to discount my opinion, but I like a classic bowl on a toddler!
I'm with the op though, toddler girls with long hair seem to get their hair washed and brushed and tied back, but the boys get left au naturel with bogie encrusted sticky rats tails and look grim, esp when the mother declares hse can't bear to get snotty encrusted rats tails cut because it looks too cute...

CelticParalympian Sun 07-Oct-12 12:49:36

My DS has lovely long hair, because I like it. I'm a bit right on, but definitely not trendy! I've had a fringe cut in it to keep it out of his eyes, and if he tells me he wants it short I'll get it cut.

YABU. Mind your own.

GoldShip Sun 07-Oct-12 12:55:27

Lol at 'massively interfere'. Seriously?

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 12:55:33

Christ alive every thread has some Missy marple saying troll
trolling about length of hair yes that will have us all gripped.
the potential for damage and mischief maximised.quick get dem glistening torches

InvisibleHotPinkWeasel Sun 07-Oct-12 12:58:26

Not worth the pitchforks really is it? grin

Perhaps a toasting fork for all the recently thrown buns though?

SummerRain Sun 07-Oct-12 13:02:31

Ds2 is 3, he has sensory issues and won't let us or the barber near his hair. I'd much prefer it shorter but he won't allow it and I'm not willing to traumatise him by holding him down screaming and having a meltdown whilst we hack at it.

Right now it's rather conveniently hiding the massive bruise he got when he crashed into a door on Thursday grin

PosieParker Sun 07-Oct-12 13:02:37

I am a feminist but I'm with the OP tbh. On most boys their long, often, scraggy hair looks awful. It is often a statement by the parents rather then what suits the child. And dreads on kids, no matter what race, looks pretentious and hideous.

MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea Sun 07-Oct-12 13:05:02

I am not a fan of long hair on boys.
I am not a fan of long hair on girls if it is wispy and ratty.

Men with long hair...yes if it is thick and luxurious, not if it is thinning and limp.
And men with pony tails and Balding crowns should be put in stocks.grin

Ds has a short back and sides...he hated the hairdressers as a toddler and had to be pinned down. We solved the problem by a lady coming to the house...he was ok then.

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 13:05:12

by all means assert your preference but don't pass it off as fact
if a parent wants dreads, long hair that's their preference
in same way as short hair doesn't necessarily equal smart to everyone

Longdistance Sun 07-Oct-12 13:07:15

The boys with long hair that I have seen recently, are those with long, dank greasy hair, with wispy bits that go in their eyes. Looks like the parents haven't bothered taking them to the hairdressers all. Just awful I'm afraid.
But, I do like boys with curly/ Afro hair, that's obviously been well managed.
<dons hard hat>

My son ASKED to have long hair when he was about 7. He wanted to look like Legolas from Lord of the Rings. It got to about shoulder length before he wanted it short again. It did get in his eyes a bit (Legolas would never have a fringe, apparently), but I would French-pleat the front section. He really liked that!

MummyPig24 Sun 07-Oct-12 13:14:15

I like long hair on boys. Ds is almost 5 and has short hair. It suits him and its been cut this way since he was 1. Recently he's been asking to grow it long. If he protests when I suggest a hair cut he can give it a goo. It's his hair! Dd was one of those baldy babies and it took forever to grow. She has had 2 haircuts and its quite long now. I think most children would strongly protest if their parents tried to do something with their hair they didn't like!

LittleMissFlustered Sun 07-Oct-12 13:21:06

My son's hair is his concern. He has had it short and down to just pays his shoulders. He prefers it collar length, Incouldnt give a monkeys as long as it is clean. He is five. I am common as muck and have no pretensions.

More to the point, who really gives a flying fuck?

LittleMissFlustered Sun 07-Oct-12 13:22:10

Apologies for dire typing in my last post. I think I need another coffee.

NervousAt20 Sun 07-Oct-12 13:23:13

<<sits back with a bar of chocolate>>

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 13:24:45

is that the same as I'll get the popcorn
how v old skool

Wetthemogwai Sun 07-Oct-12 13:48:02

birds you had me laughing at 'I'm in Liverpool, appearance matters'

I'm in Walton where it clearly doesn't <spots the woman walking around fully dressed and wearing a dressing gown instead of a coat>

Fwiw I like shoulder length, curly hair on boys but any longer or straight and I don't like it. Tis just taste.
Dd has no hair at all at 18 months so style is not yet an issue

cece Sun 07-Oct-12 16:14:28

I've just been to watch my long haired son play contact rugby. <shrugs>

Prarieflower Sun 07-Oct-12 16:26:18

I utterly loathe short hair on boys,think it looks awful and makes every boy look the same and err slightly rough which is why my 9 year old boys have always had long hair.

One had a scissor phobia and neither liked or wanted short hair so all 3 of us were happy.Never dangled in my boys faces as they have fringes.

Dd has v long hair and it's always in her face as she hates it being tied back.

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 16:29:03

Short hair makes boys look rough?

What a ridiculous thing to say.

Prarieflower Sun 07-Oct-12 16:31:33

Not in my book.

Closely cut identikit hair = rough and reminds me of the skin head look.As for those ridiculous patterns cut in short hair hmm.Clearly parents have different tastes and opinions re

monsterchild Sun 07-Oct-12 16:41:32

I've seen young boys with long hair have their hair tied back. Little braids, head bands and the like. It doesn't get in their way then. Also, most kids I have met absolutely have opinions about their hair, and most are wearing it exactly as they like it! Often to the parent's horror...

In fact, i suspect boys have more say over their hair than girls do. Or most girls want long hair. I am not super fashion conscious, so it could be that, or it could be that parents just won't give girls short short hair.

You see adult male footballers wearing headbands on the pitch these days. Styles (and assumptions) are a-changin' ...

LynetteScavo Sun 07-Oct-12 16:56:39

I very much imposed short hair on my toddler/young DS. He would love to have never had it cut.

LynetteScavo Sun 07-Oct-12 17:00:25

The new head at DS2's school is dictating no hair touching the collar...or it much be tied up. If he wasn't such a dick, and shouted at the kids in assembly about it I would be tempted to encourage DS2 to grow his longer just because I feel like rebelling.

InvisibleHotPinkWeasel Sun 07-Oct-12 17:03:29

My ds's hair is cut like George Clooneys. How is that rough?

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 17:07:32

George Clooney can be as rough as he likes TBH. grin

LynetteScavo Sun 07-Oct-12 17:10:13

GC's hair isn't too short. It's buzz cuts on boys that can make them look rough , IMO.

InvisibleHotPinkWeasel Sun 07-Oct-12 17:15:03

But a French crop is hardly long hair? confused

Usual, damn good point grin

I said GC as an sick of saying French crop, then having to link to an picture of GC to explain what I mean.

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 17:15:46

What a snobby attitude that is grin

Buzz cuts make boys look rough, ok then how about long hair makes boys look like stuck up snobs.

Prarieflower Sun 07-Oct-12 17:34:38

I can live with that usual.

LynetteScavo Sun 07-Oct-12 17:37:22

you may say "stuck up snob" I say "from a middle class home" grin

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 17:38:17

I don't think that, Just saying.

crackcrackcrak Sun 07-Oct-12 17:51:14

Friend of mine refused to cut her ds hair until people asked ht repeatedly if he was a girl. She has finally cut it off. I'm sure she thought it would interfered with AP or some such.
My neighbour has a toddler with white blond hair she clipped back for ages. This hair is so gorgeous I couldn't have cut it either! I'm gutted her ds kept a clip in for a year - my dd can't manage 5 minutes!

Each to their own grin

crackcrackcrak Sun 07-Oct-12 17:54:18

What's more. My gorgeous nephew looks like he is on a concentration camp because his mother insists on doing it all over with clippers. Every time. And not because he has nits. He's 12 - I hope he rebels soon grin

missuswife Sun 07-Oct-12 17:57:47

YABU. Have you ever tried to make a toddler do anything they don't want to do? If a little boy doesn't want long hair he will make his preferences known. Same for little girls, trying to keep them from pulling their hair ties/clips out is a losing battle.

Anyway in my culture we don't cut a child's hair until they turn three.

NellyJob Sun 07-Oct-12 17:59:21

it's a class badge thing - the long floppy surfer do, says 'look we are middle class' while a number two shouts 'chav!'
my boy has worn his both ways (well it wasn't a floppy do, it was a horizontal mess) - and nothing has beat the reaction to a blond haired blue eyed kid with a v.short do.

I find my DSs hair helpfully marks us out as pretentious middle class try hards in those precious few moments before the casual observer has had a chance to hear his poncetastic middle class try hard name.

He had it 'bra strap' length until year two of school we tied it up in a looped ponytail for him to comply with school rules and he wore it loose at home. He loved it long and wanted it in two plaits like Mildred Hubble.

He now has it in a more socially acceptable shaggy chin length surfer style. It is like spun gold and washed daily.

MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea Sun 07-Oct-12 18:01:16

That is just awful, MrsTerryPratchett.
(goes and throws Titanic soundtrack in bin)

Patterns in hair are really awful.

thegreylady Sun 07-Oct-12 18:03:23

My friends son was badly bullied between the ages of 4 and 9 because he had shoulder length blonde curls. His mum loved it and he loved his mum but that little boy was picked on by his peers at three different schools because of his hair. Of course the bullies were to blame but that didn't make J any happier.

NoobytheWaspSlayer Sun 07-Oct-12 18:09:57

DS1 has a short crop (his choice) DS2 has a somewhat retro pageboy at the moment (his choice), he loves his 'air cwips, and is also a massive fan of tights of all colours (currently rocking pink spotty ones with lime heels).

I do not think he will catch 'the gay', nor do I worry about people mistaking him for a girl. He's 3 - why shouldn't he play dress up and choose his own appearance now? He also needs to be prised away from his digger t-shirt and matchbox cars. He seems utterly unfazed by anyone mistaking him for a girl - 'no boy silly'. Am I worried about him being teased? No - his nursery class all love him to bits. Each time we go to the hairdresser we lop a bit off so it's not uncomfortable or a hindrance.

I'm sure as soon as he starts school he'll want short hair like his brother, or bloody ben 10 anyway.

GreenBeer Sun 07-Oct-12 18:15:45

I personally don't like long hair on little boys, so would cut it.

But each to his own.

RinkyDinkyDoo Sun 07-Oct-12 18:31:01

My DS has shoulder length blonde hair, would rather him have that than a shaved head with rectanglar piece of hair left on the top- saw that on a toddler the other day < shudder>

BlueSkySinking Sun 07-Oct-12 18:35:44

I quite like long hair on boys. Does it relly matter if girls have short hair and boys have long hair?

PickledFanjoCat Sun 07-Oct-12 18:36:11

Hair length in my opinion had feck all to do with class. Whatsoever.

tittytittyhanghang Sun 07-Oct-12 18:37:47

I couldn't give a shiny poop about the length of hair on other kids. I wouldn't make any assumptions on the child due to the length of their hair. Isn't that just silly? Now im worried that people are judging me on the length of my hair. smile

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 18:44:31

Eugh at patterns in hair.

There were two boys staying at the same hotel as on in Crete this year with that sort of hair. Nothing quite as cringey as seeing scrawny white kids from Rotherham trying to look like black kids from Compton.

InvisibleHotPinkWeasel Sun 07-Oct-12 18:52:34

Meh. Your only young once, they were in their school hold buppers, and it's a damn site better than those bloody woven thread thingies girls insist on having in their hair. Swirls and spirals grow out quicker, take less time to do and cost less. No do you have to make conversation with a crusty hippy whilst your dd sits still for 30 minutes. wink

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 18:53:47

My Ds had a stage of patterns in his hair, then he moved on to his spikey hair stage followed by his emo stage.

He didn't have a personality transplant with each hairstyle though.

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 18:57:48

Woven things in girl's hairs? Wha....? <dies>

3monkeys3 Sun 07-Oct-12 18:57:50

YABU! My DS1 (4) has long hair - it's gorgeous - he had, what I think of as, a messy britpop sort of hairdo which he is now growing out to a surfy sort of hairdo! His choice - I asked him if he wants a short haircut and he said no. His fringe is in his eyes at the moment - it's just an awkward stage and it will be out soon - he isn't too bothered by it anyway. My DD wouldn't have clips in her hair until recently and it was a nightmare growing her fringe out (which had to happen as she has a cow's lick), so it doesn't just apply to boys! DS2's hair is still short, but I will grow it on his behalf until he decides otherwise! We aren't particularly trendy, but DH is a surfer so I suppose it follows that our DC have surfy dos. Personally, I don't like short haircuts on boys, but I don't judge the people whose children have them!

LDNmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 19:00:02

I can't believe this is even an issue worth discussing shock

And that's even with the fact that I started a thread on rice washing once.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sun 07-Oct-12 19:04:00

What about this hairstyle for boys? would it pass the MN test?

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sun 07-Oct-12 19:05:02

Or this combo smasher

perplexedpirate Sun 07-Oct-12 19:15:43

Long hair is pretentious? Band T shirts are skanky?
What the hell is wrong with everyone today?!

Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 19:16:45

Love it woolytights. Definately no annoying hair in eyes!

TheOldestCat Sun 07-Oct-12 19:24:22

DS (aged 2.8) has two hairstyles - short at the back and longish crazy curls that go up at the back. It really is odd.

But I can't bear to have it cut as he was practically bald until 2 and the hair was very welcome.

The curls are quite frizzy (crispy baby hair) but not snot-encrusted as they are still too short for DS to get much in them and his hair doesn't go in his eyes. He does trap flies in his frizz though. grin

He'll put his eye out with that Wooly.

YABepicallyU!!!! After reading the comments on this thread once again I am shocked by the disgustingly intolerant views of some people, hopefully their children will grow up to be better people who don't judge others the same way their parents did!!! sad sad

princelypurpleparrot Sun 07-Oct-12 20:10:18

Personally I prefer longer hair, and don't like how short hair looks.

The band t-shirts are a fiver from H&M. Not pretentious, but quite funky and v cheap!

nooka Sun 07-Oct-12 23:06:57

My ds's hair is longer than my dd's hair. It's how they like it. So long as it's clean and untangled i don't really care. dd has a bob, which is way better than when it was longer (looking back I wish she had had it shorter years before, but she felt that girls needed to have long hair so was never keen). We kept ds's hair longer as a baby/toddler because he got a bit squashed inside me and his head was very triangular until he was five or six. Plus as it is curly it doesn't really get into his eyes just grows into a bit of a mop. My mother complains about it on a frequent basis. He did once accidentally have a very short cut when we took him to the Afro barber instead of the Greek one and I hardly recognise him in the photos. However apart from when they were tiny it's been all their choice.

sashh Sun 07-Oct-12 23:15:48

<wonders if this thread can be merged with the one on children cutting their own hair>

missingmumxox Sun 07-Oct-12 23:26:52

I favour the Richard Beckinsale look myself for my boys aged 7

SmellsLikeTeenStrop Mon 08-Oct-12 00:04:21

Note to self, get DS2 a band T-shirt from H&M to match is lurvely long blond hair. Also, act pretentious.

TroublesomeEx Mon 08-Oct-12 04:33:41

My son has long er hair. Not long but shoulder length, sometimes below, sometimes just above.

It's always been his choice.

It was my choice when he was a toddler - but then every parent imposes their choices on their toddler/young child.

He occasionally had it cut 'properly short' when he wanted, but he always regretted it. Longer hair just suits him more.

He's gorgeous with it.

But then DS's hair is also red so it would be a travesty to cut it!!

Besides it suits his personality.

flow4 Mon 08-Oct-12 06:04:00

Awwww, why didn't I find this thread at 3am rather than 6am? A nice soothing discussion about nothing very important was just what I needed to get me to sleep! smile

Badgerina Mon 08-Oct-12 06:51:27

All children should have shaved heads.

wonderingsoul Mon 08-Oct-12 07:30:48

i have 2boys

one has short hair

and the other blonde chin lenth hair.

CrunchyFrog Mon 08-Oct-12 08:36:07

Mine have longish hair, collar length curls on the small one, dead straight white blonde in what is supposed to be a Beiber type cut on 7 year old DS1, but his hair is so poker straight and fine that it isn't really a style at all.

I think they look fine, if they want it cut then they can do, no bother.

I have a friend who does natural hair with her kids, the 5 year old boy has waist length blonde curls, beautiful.

TittyWhistles Mon 08-Oct-12 08:45:01

Badgerina grin and then you could tattoo a serial number on their heads, save all that bother of thinking up names.

Or paint them different colours so you could tell them apart. Or pink for girls and blue for boys

3faced Mon 08-Oct-12 08:53:10

Its good fun playing the game called " is that a boy or a girl? "
Long hair on small boys gives me the creeps.
I always think that the mother either wanted a girl or is trying too hard to be trendy.

ophelia275 Mon 08-Oct-12 09:09:15

Longish hair on boys looks infinitely better than the chavvy spikey crop so many have. Once their fringe is long enough they can tuck it behind their ears. How is long hair on a boy any more detrimental than long hair on a girl?

3faced Mon 08-Oct-12 09:25:16

The spikey crop is infinitely better than the shaggy scruffy long haired look on boys.
It really grosses me out this long hair fad.
In fact it should be banned by law.
Short hair in all its forms looks sooo much better on young boys.
Tuck it behind their ears? Oh dear?

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 09:43:20

Can't we talk about preferences for boys hair without calling kids chavs for gods sake?

This is kids!! My nephew has has long hair one month short the next depending on what he wants. Is he a chav one day not the next?


TittyWhistles Mon 08-Oct-12 09:47:03

I think short hair looks better on girls tbh.

Little girls hair is rarely thick and lustrous, usually thin and straggly with bits of playdoh or dinner in the ends.

A little girls with a short, neat pixie cut or a smooth bob looks miles better than uneven rat pigtails.

BupcakesAndHaunting Mon 08-Oct-12 09:50:01

Little Geezers. They are Little Geezers (boys with spiky/shaved hair)

Bluestocking Mon 08-Oct-12 09:50:10

"natural hair", crunchyfrog? This makes it sound like an official school of thought like "attachment parenting" or "baby led weaning". Does your friend take it this seriously?

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 09:51:54

Yes little geezers grin

EasilyBored Mon 08-Oct-12 09:52:30


If DS ever grows any bloody hair, I will never be able to cut it. I love long hair on little boys. Short hair makes them look so grown up.

BupcakesAndHaunting Mon 08-Oct-12 10:03:14

I took DS (5) for a trim before holiday.

I made the mistake of taking him to a geezer hairdresser as the girl who normally does it is on maternity leave. He practically scalped DS! He went in with a lovely Britpop haircut, came out looking like a Mini Geezer. I almost wept. It si growing back now, thankfully.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 11:29:11

No, I know of only one gay man with long hair, he is mixed race and occasionally grows a 'fro. We've had more than the average number of men with The Gay in our lives, and he's the only one I can think of. This is somewhat skewed by a lot of them liking the Tom of Finland look, though.

I've actually said to people in RL on several occasions that v few gay men have long hair. I actually can't believe people would think it these days, anyway.

Oooh, add Samurais into the mix...forgot about them.

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 11:29:14

grin at the idea of 'trying too hard to be trendy'.

I have never tried, and will never try, in the history, or the future, of this, or any other, universe to be trendy. Hard or otherwise!

I didn't want a girl either.

And I don't see how it's a fad.

DS is 13 and has had longer hair his whole life. Other than the couple of times he wanted it shorter and the last time he had it cut short. But he didn't like it.

I just loved his hair - thick and red and thought it would be a travesty to cut it. And he had a high forehead as a little child. He looked really cute with longer hair and a bit odd with short hair. And then he wanted it long.

At its longest, I put it into a ponytail before cutting it off. It's 6 inches long and lives in my dining room cupboard!

I hadn't even considered what it might 'say' about me/him/us.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:03:19

I don't get this "must have wanted a girl" thing either.
I think it's something trotted out by the hard of imagining....

3faced Mon 08-Oct-12 12:13:10

No need for nasty personal attacking mino. I actually know of someone who has a long haired boy and is desperate for a girl.
Well please tell me of these other reasons that boys have long hair then?
Especially the boy mentioned above with hair down to his waist shock he must be teased terribly at school.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:17:28

DS gets mistaken for a girl frequently - he just says "No, I'm a boy with long hair."
He is genuinely unconcerned. He usually has it back in a plait, but occasionally lets it go loose when he feels a bit Viking!
Really, guys - from a grade one to the bum....just let them be if they're happy.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:22:07

Just because you know of one person like that means almost nothing.
As a matter of fact - I had to look upthread to see your comment just now, so chill your boots, if you please.

As for other reasons...there are many...same as the reasons for having short hair.....
As for the waist length hair boy..."he must be teased"....maybe not. If he was, do you not think it'd get cut shorter?

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 12:27:51


I think it's largely because young children aren't born programmed with the idea that 'boys have short hair, girls have long hair'.

Not all adults think like that either.

Some adults think long hair looks nicer on boys than short hair.
Some adults don't like the look of short hair on boys.
Some boys like having long hair.

I don't get why some people have such a problem with it.

Why do girls have long hair?
Why do girls have short hair?

Parental preference, personal preference. Any number of reasons really.

Does this someone you know of have a long haired boy because they wanted a girl or are they mutually exclusive?

They have a boy with long hair.
They would like a daughter.

Because I have a daughter and there's a heck of a lot more to being a girl than the length of your hair!

Wetthemogwai Mon 08-Oct-12 12:28:21

Syead (sp?) from eastenders is a gay man with longer hair...hes the only one I can think of

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:30:16

I'm sorry for your friend, 3Faced, but she's looking to a minor and (ultimately) arbitrary social significator to fill that gap.
I hope she gets her girl - I've got both....and both have long hair.
Another family I know - both son and daughter both have's never occurred to me to ask why. The mum has short hair, too. I guess it's just the way they roll.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:31:26

Thanks FolkGhoul - that's along the lines of what I think, but DD is rather demanding atm and I can only do short bursts of typing!

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:33:14

A man with The Gay?
And long hair?
On' telleh?

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 12:37:24

That's ok minouminou grin

Yes, I have two children, one of each. Both with long hair. Tbf, DS's is shorter than it used to be, but still longer rather than shorter.

In fact my toxic bitch of a mother is the only person to ever pass a negative comment about his hair. Most people tell him how good/cool it looks.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:44:14

The only people who have been unpleasant about DS' hair have been a bit unbalanced and unhappy in general, tbh. Way too much into gender stereotypes - to an unhealthy and restrictive degree.
I'm talking here about someone who flipped out when I referred jokingly to her DS' undies as knickers...
You know..."Oooh, look at you in yer little knickers!"

Obviously some posters on here live in areas where you really would get hassle for long hair, so they make their judgement call based on that. If we moved away from here, we'd have to have a rethink and go for a surfer look, I reckon.

Thankfully, we have had very little grief indeed, and we have a good range of people from different backgrounds/continents and so on.

Times are changing - not that long hair on boys is a new thing, anyway.


I have 2 dss. One with very short hair and one with longish hair. The one with long hair is three and very capable of telling me he doesn't want his hair short.

In dd's school this is so common they've given the boys the same rule as the girls. If its below shoulder length you have to tie it back or cut it. Quite a few of the boys tie it back for school.

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 12:53:21

Times are changing - not that long hair on boys is a new thing, anyway.


Jesus had long hair

Or so said the t shirts of my youth!

plus3 Mon 08-Oct-12 12:53:22

YABU - my DS hair is a mop top at best - sticks up all over the place. It's not unfair to him because he loves it. He also has sensory processing disorder & likes stroking hair. Stops him stroking other peoples grin

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 12:54:05

TheOne yes, my son's school has the same rule.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 12:55:17

Don't forget Genghis, Folkghoul....

prettybird Mon 08-Oct-12 12:55:38

I have a beautiful Victorian doll with ringlets of real hair. The hair was from my great great uncle, who, as a young Victorian boy had long hair as a toddler and it was then cut when he was a wee bit older.

Op: YABU. I almost agreed with you when you were saying that it stopped them from doing things but then you exhibited double standards by saying that it was OK for girls to have long hair because they could put it back hmm

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 12:58:05

Ooh yes, and Genghis.

And, as you said, Vikings!

Well I'm glad FolkGhoul. It should be fair. I know schools (ds1's) that make the boys cut their hair.

3faced Mon 08-Oct-12 12:58:44

Mino and Folk you really do protest far too much!!!
I am just giving my opinion like everyone else.
But seeing as your opinions are the only ones you see as being correct, lets see if any short haired boys mums would like to speak.
I just dont like to see boys with long hair.
That is my opinion.

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 13:00:03

I not only let my boys' hair grow but I also dressed them in dresses and called them girls' names, because I really, really wanted a daughter.

I also am desperate to be trendy.

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 13:01:57

You're being so rude 3faced, you're not just giving your opinion, you're being appallingly rude.

I mean, "Long hair on small boys gives me the creeps." that's such a shitty thing to say!

3faced Mon 08-Oct-12 13:02:25

See I knew I was right with my theories.

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 13:03:20

I wasn't protesting 3faced confused

I was answering this question:

Well please tell me of these other reasons that boys have long hair then?

asked by you at 12:13:10

Hold on a minute. Were you asking a rhetorical question? Sorry, I thought you were asking a question to which you wanted an answer.

Since then I've been engaging with other people.
And still not protesting.

Yes, you're entitled to your opinion. Of course you are.

But you asked a question and they usually require an answer.

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 13:04:25


prettybird Mon 08-Oct-12 13:05:52

Oh - and ds only had his first hair cut at 2.5 because he still had baby hair until then and it had barely grown. It was generally kept fairly short (usually a number 3 or 4 but with quite gap between cuts) until he was about 9 or 10 and then he had a year of wanting to grow it. Went nearly a year without a cut.

Now it is kept mid (boy) length - a No 8 every couple of months. His choice. (He's 12 now)

FolkGhoul Mon 08-Oct-12 13:06:10

I'm not defensive about it either.

I know other people have different ideas. I'm quite comfortable with other people doing different things.

That's why I haven't insulted other people's, including your, preferences.

Life's too short to get that upset about hair length.

FerrisBueller1972 Mon 08-Oct-12 13:07:04

Shirley I really hope you were being sarcastic up there.

3faced Mon 08-Oct-12 13:07:08

I am giving my opinions.
Sadly this has turned into a one sided debate.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 13:10:09

It's not turned into a one-sided debate, it's just been a series of posters at the same time.
Of course you have your opinion - I don't see the point of that statement there. Do you feel we're attacking you personally?
How are we protesting too much?
Against what?
Someone's opinion? I think we're big enough to absorb the impact of someone else's thoughts.

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 13:11:17

Sometimes I wonder how people actually manage to get onto the internet without blowing themselves up or something.

prettybird Mon 08-Oct-12 13:12:03

At ds' rugby last year two of his friends (twins) had long hair (way below their shoulders). it was their choice, not their mum's. If they were teased for it (which I wasn't aware of at rugby), it would have been the teasers that were in the wrong, not them for choosing to grow their hair.

One of the twins has now cut his hair. The other one has stopped coming, so I don't know if he has still chosen to have long hair. His choice though!

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 13:12:32

I haven't insulted anyone either - I haven't slammed short hair.
You did ask for reasons, we gave you some, and then we started sharing anecdotes and a few light-hearted jokes that were just a bit silly.

Quadrangle Mon 08-Oct-12 13:15:25

Is boys with clips and hair ties in long hair a London thing? I don't think I've ever seen that. The boys at my dd's school seem to have hair that is neither very long nor very short. It is a sort of grown out style, but not to the point of being down their back or over their eyes. Maybe in their eyes a little bit.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 13:16:09

Right - gotta go.
Be back later

Well I'm in Manchester Quadrangle so I think it's probably common enough.

crikeybill Mon 08-Oct-12 13:16:45

I live in a part of south london where it seems all the little boys have shaven heads and wear tracksuits.

I have had to admit to myself that I have purposefully kept my DS hair long. He is only 14 months but its quite long at the back and springs up into little curls. Its lovely. The more I am asked when I am cutting it the more I am determined to let it grow. DH couldnt give a shit, his very full head of hair is still in a 90's short ravers ponytail lol grin

wisden Mon 08-Oct-12 13:18:13

3faced Your post makes you sound like a twat and heres why: to call small children (or indeed older children) creepy because of their long hair is quite frankly, creepy in itself. Why would an adult call a child creepy based on their hairstyle? It makes you look creepy, as does the suggestion that any boy who has long is secretly longing for a daughter. I would say more but I think I have used up my daily quota of the word creepy.

Some of us with long haired boys have dds too by the way 3faced.

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 13:23:55

haha wisden.

<points at eyes>

<points at your eyes>

<my eyes>

<your eyes>


wisden Mon 08-Oct-12 13:26:16


Is it just me but after typing the word creepy out so many times it starts to look wrong?

PickledFanjoCat Mon 08-Oct-12 13:30:32

Fuck me I feel creeped.

This thread is making me feel sad, I am up the duff with DS2.

I am going to make one a Creepy Girl-Boy with the gay and the other a short spiky Chav.

Fakebook Mon 08-Oct-12 13:31:52

Why can't you put hair bands and hair scrunchies in boys hair? I had a friend who used to tie up her son's hair with a hair rubber band.

minouminou Mon 08-Oct-12 13:34:53

I've used clips in DS' hair on occasions.
Isn't there a range of clips with footballs and the like on them?

I'm having difficulty staying away from this! On my phone here!

wisden Mon 08-Oct-12 13:37:41

DS2 wears bobbles and clips in his hair (might as well make use of them, DD hates them) but he has only worn them for the last few months. How long till he catches the Gay? Or becomes creepy? Or, at 2, is he already creepy? damn that creepy word

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 13:39:22

I mean, really. What sort of person calls a little child creepy?

a creepy person with the creepy giving creepster.

You're right wisden,


wisden Mon 08-Oct-12 13:41:50

Only a creepy person would call a child creepy. Applying their own standards to toddlers. T'is creepy.

wisden Mon 08-Oct-12 13:42:53

That came out wrong - applyng their own prejudices and fucked up thinking to toddlers is what I meant. Creeeeeeppppppppppyyyyyyyyyyy

BupcakesAndHaunting Mon 08-Oct-12 13:49:36

My DS has got long hair AND wears Hello Kitty slippers.

How creepy/gaymo is that on a scale of 1 to 10?

wisden Mon 08-Oct-12 13:51:27

Bupcakes My DS has long hair, fairy slippers and a princess rucksack - I think mine will catch the gay before yours. Or if he doesn't catch the gay then he will definitely catch the creepy.

I've got a picture of ds2 wearing dds pink Stephanie wig from LazyTown with his own blond hair showing at the bottom and singing into a pink, sparkly microphone. He was singing I'm a Barbie Girl. Do you think I need to be worried? grin

ShirleyRots Mon 08-Oct-12 14:02:47

That would be a 20 Buppy.

DS2 had blonde curls and a play kitchen. Not only could he have burned his hair off with the imaginary cooker sad, but it traspires that he was a creepy gay girlboy. sad


usualsuspect3 Mon 08-Oct-12 15:45:13

Not nice to call long haired boys creepy.

Equally not nice to call cropped haired boys chavs.

My two sons have had everything from a very short cut (didn't like it) to shoulder length and beyond. One has just had his shoulder length massive blonde afro cut short and I miss it!

We once french plaited DS1's hair when he was 14 and it was very long and very blonde.. he looked gorgeous grin Definitely not gay either ...

Hair's hair.. you cut it, it grows! Really not something to get your knickers in a twist about!

However I once got DD2's bum length hair cut into a bob and she sulked for months. She's 18 now and still keeps it waist length..spiral curls.. lucky sod!

witchbiatch Tue 09-Oct-12 09:12:54

What a bitchy thread! I have just read through this and there is a gang of bullies on it. 3faced said it gives her the CREEPS and did not call anyone CREEPY. Oh and folk I am so glad you dont teach my children. Cant believe you are a teacher and a bully. What a bunch of cahs you are the lot of you.

wisden Tue 09-Oct-12 09:27:43

You're right witch it is a bitchy thread. That some people can look at a child and judge that child to be creepy is awful, (what normal sane person uses the word creepy when talking about a childs hairstyle? Seriously, tell me, who does that?) that some people slag off children because of their hairstyles is, well, there are no words. That some people will assume a child is pretentious/a chav/creepy/a thug purely based on their haircut is very bitchy.

Oh, is that not what you meant?

greenhill Tue 09-Oct-12 10:43:04

Massive generalisations going on ^^

Some people have just posted what their DC's hair looks like and made no judgement about any one else's DC.

But some people do seem to think that AIBU is asking for an opinion, possibly because of the use of a question mark at the end of the statement "am I being unreasonable?".

They then feel entitled to post their equally reasonable or unreasonable opinion grin

Okaaaay... I have two sons, one with a chav cut (his hair grows straight up light a pineapple top and looks weird when it starts to grow), one with a creepy cut, long and golden ringlets, but...

I also have two dds, one with a very short bob, and one with very long layered hair.

Where the fuck do I fit in with some of these theories?

Anyone who bases a child's character by their haircut is a prick, that goes for those slagging off the very short cut on boys too.

PiousPrat Tue 09-Oct-12 13:26:03

Now now wisden there is no point getting competitive with Buppers. you are both going to lose. My 13 month old DS has long blonde hair that is regularly in bobbles and slides, makes a beeline for the play kitchen at every toddler group, has his own dustpan and brush set and, and! his Godless mother is a lesbian.

She has obviously been infecting him with Teh Gay since he was mere days old. Poor mite didn't stand a chance sad still, it will be fabulous to have someone to go shopping with when he gets older.

purplehouse Tue 09-Oct-12 14:14:02

lol at DS being infected with the gay

I would watch that he doesn't start eating or biting the slides and bobbles though.

BupcakesAndHaunting Tue 09-Oct-12 14:16:51

I want my DS to be infected with the gay but my only gay friend has emigrated. sad

Can I send him to stay with you for a weekend, Prat? <hopeful too of future shopping partner>

ScaryBOOAlot Tue 09-Oct-12 14:22:36

PMSL @ Prat.

My dad has made comments before about how I am "turning DS gay" because he likes pink, has a toy buggy and kitchen, wore hair slides in his hair when he had conjunctivitis.... Damn, my evil plan has been foiled hmm

FolkGhoul Tue 09-Oct-12 15:27:12

Oh and folk I am so glad you dont teach my children. Cant believe you are a teacher and a bully.

So I'm going to assume this was aimed at me...

I've read back all my posts and if anyone can tell me where I've been a bully I'd really like to know.

I can see that I've expressed my opinion and answered questions.

I can see that I've backed my opinions up with reason.

I can see that I've said I'd never considered what my child's hairstyle might say about me.

I can see where I've challenged an accusation or an assumption.

But I can not see for the life of me where I've bullied anyone.

TIA. x

extremepie Tue 09-Oct-12 17:51:37

DS2 has ASD and becomes hysterical if you try to cut his hair!

DH, DFriend and I tried to hold him down and give him a haircut once, it didn't go well - he was so distressed that we felt it was more cruel to force him to have his hair cut when he was obviously happy with it the way it was, it didn't get in his way and he didn't care what he looked like either way so we left it.

Now we wait until he is asleep and give his fringe a little trim to keep it out of his eyes and we are all happy.

Plus, he looks adorable with long blonde hair and I can't imagine him any other way, it's a part of his personality even if he does get mistaken for a girl a lot

He doesn't care what people think of him and neither do I - nor do I care what anyone else chooses to do with their child's hair!

CruCru Tue 09-Oct-12 17:54:09

Gosh, is this one still going on?

PickledFanjoCat Tue 09-Oct-12 18:20:07

Witch speaking personally after seeing kids called chavs I think the Adults on this thread can take care of themselves.

Surely this is just a question of personal taste?

Personally I don't really like long hair on boys, and I'm not keen on young boys using gel and wax to spike up their hair etc, as I think it's yet another way of kids growing up too young. I like shortish/mid length hair on boys. But I'm not going to say that all boys with crew cuts are chavs or all boys with long hair are gay (I don't ever know where that comes from - none of my gay friends have long hair?!). It's just hair. Judging children on it is unfair. We're allowed to like different things.

Quadrangle Wed 10-Oct-12 09:50:10

I'm not a fan of Justin Lee Collins' hair style.

greenhill Wed 10-Oct-12 10:49:32

I'm not a fan of Justin Lee Collins.

Woozley Wed 10-Oct-12 10:55:35

I'm not keen on it - but only on the basis that all the parents (yes all) of boys with long hair I've ever seen seem to be PFB/*LOUD PARENTING*/Hooray, braying types who think their son is, well, the sun.

sweetkitty Wed 10-Oct-12 10:58:12

My personal taste is that I don't like long hair on any boys, young or old. My DS has short hair (probably as I have 3 DDs and can't be bothered faffing with it).

However, it's my choice and I really couldn't care less what anyone else does with their DSs hair.

Boomerwang Wed 10-Oct-12 11:05:46

My sister in law let her son's hair grow so long because she didn't want to chop off the beautiful locks. I thought they looked silly.

I don't like long hair on boys. I used to like it on adult men but now I find it scruffy. My OH has long dreadlocks which I've got used to, but if he wanted to cut them off I sure as hell wouldn't stand in his way.

DuelingFanjo Wed 10-Oct-12 11:23:47

GOSH OP - who died and made you lord ruler of haircuts for small boys!?

juliazoe4 Wed 28-Nov-12 11:44:04

Long hair on young boys just shows their parents sad effection.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Wed 28-Nov-12 11:49:15

In your opinion only Julia of course wink

Old thread alert

BupcakesAndCunting Wed 28-Nov-12 11:49:54

Wow, that was really worth digging the thread up for...

BupcakesAndCunting Wed 28-Nov-12 11:50:25

And I think you mean affectation.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Wed 28-Nov-12 11:51:13

Indeed bups.

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Wed 28-Nov-12 11:53:17

My son has curly hair. When stretched, his hair reaches beneath his shoulders.

He is refusing to cut it. I indulge him, because he is utterly gorgeous.

His plan is to grow it until his hair reaches his feet, then he will cut it, and glue it to his own body, so that he can fulfill his lifelong ambition to become a teddy bear.

BupcakesAndCunting Wed 28-Nov-12 12:02:33

grin Quint, he sounds gorgeous!

Narked Wed 28-Nov-12 12:14:52

theinetsSun 07-Oct-12 11:08:22
Long hair on young boys just shows their parents sad effection.

juliazoe4Wed 28-Nov-12 11:44:04
Long hair on young boys just shows their parents sad effection.


bondigidum Wed 28-Nov-12 12:49:52

What bollocks.

Who decided long hair was exclusively for girls anyway? Look around you, i'd say quite a big percentage of teenage boys have long hair ( and young men for that matter). And guess what? Some girls have short hair too shock

My DH has lovely long hair, as does my dad. Only fitting my DS should follow suit. He has beautiful long curls and I won't cut it unless he wants it cutting because it is his hair and his choice.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Wed 28-Nov-12 12:56:16

How very strange narked shock

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