In being fed up with teenagers STILL playing football outside at 9pm

(39 Posts)
Codandchops Fri 06-Apr-12 21:12:02

FFS! DS is autistic and struggles with noise. In addition this is a residential area with young children who are in bed (one hopes) at this hour.
Honestly I would have more consideration than to allow a teenage child of mine to do this when I knew other families had young children.

This is nightly now - not to mention the number of times the ball hits my front door or kitchen window.

Grr! Am gonna ring the HA on Tursday.

Or am I being unreasonable - after all it IS half term?

CrystalMaize Fri 06-Apr-12 21:15:33

Bladdy teenagers! Have you asked them to stop, or take it elsewhere?

lalaland3008 Fri 06-Apr-12 21:19:04

Hmm, not too sure. At least they're not getting into trouble.

Aside from the fact that your ds is autistic I think most children should be able to sleep through the noise of kids playing football (runs off to hide now).

YANBU. I have 2 DSs of 10 and 12. They got told to keep the noise down playing with their FOAM football at 4.30pm by the miserable sod down the road.grin

He was BU but it is not on to be out there at 9pm and for the ball to be hitting your front door and window.

Are you brave enough to speak to them, or will you get a mouthful?

everlong Fri 06-Apr-12 21:19:52

I think yababitu.

Teenagers playing football is annoying especially as you say your ds struggles with noise.

But those teenagers could be up to a lot worse than kicking a football about at just gone nine at night.

Sorry.

YANBU. That would piss me off too <grumpy-chops>

Tranquilidade Fri 06-Apr-12 21:20:53

I had a relative who lived in an end terrace house where teenagers banged the football against the end wall. She was prone to drama and described the noise in their living room as being like the Battle of the Somme on summer evenings grin

Gumby Fri 06-Apr-12 21:22:21

My friend had this problem
She bought a house that backed on to a massive open green space
Of course teenagers & football was rife especially in the summer months
She moved grin

Mutt Fri 06-Apr-12 21:22:56

lala - they will be getting into trouble if the ball breaks a window.

I have never allowed my footy mad DS(11) to play football in the street. It's unfair on people whose cars get hit, gardens get damaged, have to put up with the noise...

Teens and their balls belong in the park.

WorraLiberty Fri 06-Apr-12 21:24:13

YANBU

But before you contact the HA, have you tried politely speaking to them?

Not all teenagers are unapproachable and they might be very understanding.

FredFredGeorge Fri 06-Apr-12 21:25:42

I think it depends on where they are playing - if it's in a park that happens to be adjacent to your house then YABU. If it's essentially in the road outside your house then YANBU, assuming you've asked them if they could take it somewhere else.

There's nothing inherently wrong with playing football and 9pm, and it could be that they genuinely don't know there are any kids there who'd be struggling to sleep with their noise.

DoomCatsofCognitiveDissonance Fri 06-Apr-12 21:26:56

Yes, speak to them.

But, surely one of the things about living in a residential area with children is that, well, there will be children and children's noise around?

They should not be hitting your windows (!) or house, but I think given we're getting towards summer you need to prepare yourself for teenagers to be playing out at 9pm - in a couple of months it will still be light then! Do you really think they shouldn't be playing out?

2ombie5layer Fri 06-Apr-12 21:27:10

YAsooooNBU. I have just moved away from activities like you describe except the kids that would be playing outside right now were younger than teenagers. I wouldnt dare speak to them myself, but I have phoned 101 a couple of times, but these times they were throwing snowballs and ice at my house deliberately.

girlywhirly Fri 06-Apr-12 21:28:27

Could you canvas opinion in your road, and put a group complaint out to the footballers, I wouldn't want to do this alone but if a group of residents approached them to ask them to stop it might carry a bit more weight. I don't know if you have any community police who might come and talk to them about the football being a public nuisance, especially in the light of your child being upset and your doors/windows repeatedly being hit.

I don't think YABU.

harassedandherbug Fri 06-Apr-12 21:29:43

Why don't you go and ask them to go elsewhere, and explain why? They won't bite.

DialsMavis Fri 06-Apr-12 21:31:34

YABUish. Teenagers can't do wrong for doing right now. People complain if they stay in playing x box, or just hang about aimlessly. If they were rude when you spoke to them, then fair enough to be pissed off. I assume you have spoken to them politely before grassing them up? Is there a park nearby they could go to? if so, then they should be there really I suppose.

GnomeDePlume Fri 06-Apr-12 21:32:16

Hmmm....

YANBU to be annoyed
YABU to expect other people to know that your DS is sensitive to noise

Not everybody is aware of the age ranges in other people's houses (I know I'm not). Also doesnt help that my DCs have never been early bedtime people.

Would it be possible to identify a couple of the households which are providing players and go round during the day tomorrow and explain the problem?

IME most teenagers want to keep a high opinion of themselves and given the opportunity to sort the problem will gladly do so. Suggest that say 9.30 might be a fair curfew and also ask if they can avoid kick the ball in your direction of your house then that would be much appreciated.

Keep it light and without accusation and you may be surprised at the results.

Of course if it doesnt work then contact the HA.

everlong Fri 06-Apr-12 21:34:51

Why don't you go out in a friendly, smiley manner ( even if it's false wink ) and just explain about your ds and how much you would appreciate it if they wrapped it up in 10 mins.

You'd be surprised at how lovely a lot of teenagers can be.

WorraLiberty Fri 06-Apr-12 21:36:36

Could you canvas opinion in your road, and put a group complaint out to the footballers, I wouldn't want to do this alone but if a group of residents approached them to ask them to stop it might carry a bit more weight. I don't know if you have any community police who might come and talk to them about the football being a public nuisance, especially in the light of your child being upset and your doors/windows repeatedly being hit

Or she could just go out and say "Hi, you alright? Sorry to be a pain but would you mind playing down the road a bit? It's just that the noise is keeping the kids awake and my window's been hit a few times...thanks"

I think anyone would be very unreasonable to start getting neighbours and community police involved, without at least giving the teenagers the courtesy of letting them know they're disturbing her.

GnomeDePlume Fri 06-Apr-12 21:42:18

exactly everlong

Be friendly, I remember seeing some while back that teenages arent good at processing other people's emotions and that fearful and angry get mixed up.

Keep it light

Agree with WorraLiberty

harbingerofdoom Fri 06-Apr-12 21:49:37

The footy sounds out of order but on our road all the teenagers got on and played together. We suddenly had 10+ teenagers that would hang out in the road and lived on it. Any trouble:woe betide them. Not so much of the football but skates,bikes,boards and noisy laughter!
If any neighbour had a problem she would tell them directly and they would move or go in.
PS those without teenagers can do DIY in the morning and annoy everybody!

AThingInYourLife Fri 06-Apr-12 21:49:55

Agree with Worra

SydSaid Fri 06-Apr-12 21:51:03

I Think YABU. It's the weekend and its only 9pm and they are playing football, not getting drunk or shooting up or hanging around looking bored.

They aren't doing anything wrong in any way. They aren't to know about your child's noise issues. Im sure the noise isn't a problem for most young kids getting to sleep.

I always loved to see the kids out playing in the estate I used to live in. The noise was never a problem - they would play football, frisbee, rounders and various other games. All very friendly and gave a real community feel. Made me think that would be my kids when they were old enough and that made me smile.

SydSaid Fri 06-Apr-12 21:51:55

What worra said! That's really all I needed to say!

Hitting windows and doors with the football is wrong Syd.

Catsdontcare Fri 06-Apr-12 21:56:19

I agree with worra give the kids a chance to do the decent thing first. They've probably not given the noise any thought and will move on or whiten down of you approach them in a reasonable manner.

SydSaid Fri 06-Apr-12 21:57:15

The op made it sound like she had more issue with the time of night and the noise.

Of course hitting the house with the ball isn't ideal, chances are its not intentional. It's not hard however to stick your head out the door and ask that they move away from the house as they are disturbing her young child though - is it?

Catsdontcare Fri 06-Apr-12 21:58:36

Oh and I sspeak as someone who always politely asks people not to talk in the cinema. I've never once been given grief back for asking because they are so disarmed by my terribly British "hi would mind awfully not talking" patter!

southeastastra Fri 06-Apr-12 22:01:36

you should report it, only that it might make the HA realise that there needs to be somewhere quieter for the kids to go

i do feel sorry for kids as any spare space here is built on, kids need somewhere to hang out

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere Fri 06-Apr-12 22:06:55

I live round a green.
It is full of kids from May till October.

I like it most of the time.

Our cars take the odd bashing that can be a bit hmm

But mostly its nice to see them playing together.
I doubt the teenagers have given a thought to the noise they are making.

BUT i do feel your pain. Other types of noise drive me insane. There is a bloke who walks up and down chatting on his phone at night and the noise the bloody ice cream van makes when its chugging away outside makes me want to drop something heavy from my window.

WorraLiberty Fri 06-Apr-12 22:20:09

Oh don't start me on loud mobile phone convos MrsDeVere angry

I live on the corner of a cul-de-sac with a few 2 story flats down the end. Apparently the phone signal is bad there so they walk down to the end of the road and stand outside my house all hours of the day and bloody night, shouting down their mobiles.

Mind you, some of the 'private' calls I've overheard would make your hair curl grin

Codandchops Fri 06-Apr-12 22:22:01

Yeah, am being a bit U. They have all gone now and peace reigns.

Much nicer than my previous place with open drug dealing going on.

Forgive me for my little rant.

everlong Fri 06-Apr-12 22:23:57

And the guy who delivers newspaper every morning at 06.05 driving fast then screeching to a halt, gets out of his car leaving his radio on loud whilst he posts the papers then slamming his door and speeding off!

Lovely.

everlong Fri 06-Apr-12 22:25:52

Ah that's good OP.

Relax and have a wine or brew whichever floats your boat.

Jusfloatingby Sat 07-Apr-12 21:34:18

Glad its stopped OP. I would say up until 9 is okay for football, but any time after that is annoying and unfair. I have sometimes gone out and asked kids to stop skateboarding up and down under my window or not to gather right underneath the sitting room window making noise when there is a green a few yards away. I always say it nicely and have never got a rude response yet.

ImperialBlether Sat 07-Apr-12 23:47:32

I love hearing teenagers "playing out". They seem so innocent and happy. I sympathise with your son, but I think if he can get used to it that's a lot more healthy than stopping them. They are getting rid of energy, forming friendships, keeping out of their families' hair and having fun. You can't control the environment your son lives, unfortunately.

startail Sun 08-Apr-12 01:28:01

UANBU to ask them not to kick the ball at your doors and windows and I wouldn't feel unreasonable asking them to piss of at 10pm.

Of course quiet at 9pm is reasonable with small children, but it will seem most unreasonable to a teen. I know my 11 and 14 year olds will be in the garden making a din well after 9.

Jusfloatingby Sun 08-Apr-12 20:30:26

Surely though it's important that teenagers learn that you have to consider the neighbours and stop making noise after a certain time. For instance, I wouldn't go out and mow the lawn at 9pm on a week night because I would be aware that people might be starting to go to bed if they have an early start the following morning. I don't see anything wrong in teach teenagers that, if you live on a road with other houses all around, you have to exercise a level of consideration.

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