AIBU to have just realised that I have been sexual assaulted many times

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I had extremely large breasts as a young teen. I was a 30DD at 13 and my size 8 hour glass figure was very popular with the boys hmm.

At 19 I had my breasts reduced on the NHS because my head was fucked.

It is only with many years of hindsight (I am 36) thanks to Mumsnet and a recently developed feminist perspective that I realise that all the 'incidents' that happened to me were sexual assaults/grooming and not my fault.

I have fb'd one of the cu--nts--lprits tonight.

*culprits

AnyPhantomFucker Sun 23-Oct-11 22:38:52

YANBU

Moomim Sun 23-Oct-11 22:39:40

30DD isn't that big.

Kayano Sun 23-Oct-11 22:40:44

You fb'd them?!

I know what you mean though. I was a G cup at 15... It was pretty terrible and now I'm pg I'm a H cup sad

Can I ask how you get a reduction on the NHS? I'm too scared to look into it blush

YANBU. How are you feeling about it now?

worraliberty Sun 23-Oct-11 22:41:55

Well it's hard to say YABU or YANBU without knowing what the 'incidents' were to be fair.

AnyPhantomFucker Sun 23-Oct-11 22:42:13

kayano...3 of my RL friends got breast reductions on the NHS

they have never looked back, seriously

one of them was swimming in a river and white water rafting 3 months after the op

AnyPhantomFucker Sun 23-Oct-11 22:44:20

Moomom what a stupid comment

30DD at 13 is bound to draw unwelcome attonetion (unfortunately)

as it would as a grown women, if the rest of your frame is very petite

what are you...competitive for biggest boobs ?

AnyPhantomFucker Sun 23-Oct-11 22:44:39

crap typing...sorry about that

30DD wasn't that big? It depends on what the incidents were? Are you both having a fucking laugh? I was a 28HH when I got them reduced, is that big enough for you?

The 'incidents' include; my shirt being ripped open at school (very often), being groped in the street by a grown man, being groped by a waiter when sat at a table with my parents, being groomed by a 24 year old man just out of prison and aquiescing to perform sexual favours on him (age 15), to be groped in clubs x20, and finally to be groped by my team leader at work.

worraliberty Sun 23-Oct-11 22:55:02

No of course I'm not having a fucking laugh hmm

Now you've actually told us what the incidents were...YANBU

But please remember no-one here has a crystal ball.

EllaDee Sun 23-Oct-11 22:55:25

Oh, that is awful. I'm so sorry.

It makes me really angry the way people will talk about a child as if, because that child has some adult physical features, it somehow doesn't need to be treated age-appropriately. At 13 you deserved to be treated as a young teenager and left alone. angry

I am hoping you get some closure from the fb contact - I couldn't do something like that, impressed at your strength! But take care, won't you? Don't let the pricks get you down about it.

StewieGriffinsMom Sun 23-Oct-11 22:55:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

And you've only just realised you were assaulted? Did you not tell anyone at the time?

Sorry you had to go through that lot

squeakyfreakytoy Sun 23-Oct-11 22:55:59

You sound very angry, (understandably).. but FB is not the right tool to go about getting revenge.

EllaDee Sun 23-Oct-11 22:56:37

Cross-posted (took ages typing, sorry) and have only just seen what actually happened - fucking hell! angry

That's disgusting.

Ilikedrinkingblood Sun 23-Oct-11 22:56:45

God, no wonder you felt your head was fucked. You poor thing. Sometimes what is accepted at the time can be horrific in hindsight. You were so young you probably just thought that's how things were.
sad
Have you thought about counselling? It may help you to talk through this, you must be so angry and confused. Bastards.

blackeyedsusan Sun 23-Oct-11 22:57:07

fuck pippi, that is awful. of course it was assult.

worraliberty Sun 23-Oct-11 22:58:04

And if it actually took Mumsnet and a recently developed feminist perspective to make you realise being groped repeatedly and made to perform sexual favours is a sexual assault then I'm glad you found this site.

chicletteeth Sun 23-Oct-11 22:58:40

Fuck me OP.
You really need to post what your grievances are, before getting shirty about somebody questioning you over them

DD's aren't that big, but that doesn't mean you weren't assaulted.

Did you really not realise that your shirt being ripped open and being groped by your boss, wasn't right at the the time?

StewieGriffinsMom Sun 23-Oct-11 22:58:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Rollon2012 Sun 23-Oct-11 22:59:13

I cant understand your anger , especially infront of your parents :O

however, genuinely what do you think fbking them will achieve??

AnyPhantomFucker Sun 23-Oct-11 22:59:15

worraliberty did you really need it spelling out to you what the nature of such sexual assaults might be ?

EllaDee Sun 23-Oct-11 22:59:55

I agree with ilike. I think it's a survival mechanism at the time - you feel confused and the attention seems 'positive' so you twist things in your mind to pretend it's ok/the fault was your body not their behaviour. sad

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