to be confused about the tooth fairy?

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DS is 4. Am I rihgt in thinking that in a couple f years he is likely to lose his first baby tooth? Surely by then he'll be a bit old for the tooth fairy - will he not get teased at school? Is there not a really small window where they truly believe?

MrsJamesMartin Thu 08-Sep-11 22:47:24

DD believes and she is 9. She also believes in Santa x

No child is going to admit to not believing in the tooth fairy, because if they did, that would mean no delivery of money for their teeth falling out.

aldiwhore Thu 08-Sep-11 22:50:45

My eldest doesn't really mention it at school, he's 7, a realist, knows he could get the piss taken out of him but loves the fantasy enough to at least go with it!

My sister admitted that she stopped believing at around 8 but didn't mention it as she thought me and my mum still believed... we were getting worried when she was 14 and still mentioning Santa.

If either of my kids asks me straight, after I've asked them what they think, we'll have a chat about stories, make believe and that magic is what happens only when people suspend their disbelief... hopefully by that time they'll be so confused they'll forget the original question!!!

You might want to warn your DS that the tooth fairy is unreliable and basically incompetent. At our house she has:
Forgotten to collect teeth for two days.
Left twice the amount of money because she had a couple of glasses of wine and woke up in the morning forgetting that she had already been the night before.
Not known what to do with a tooth so left it in a spare room bedside drawer to be found by a child the following day.
Left money and forgotten to collect the tooth (because it was hidden in an obscure place).

To clarify my earlier post, your DS will not believe in the fairy, but won't tell you he doesn't. So he won't be teased at school and will still get his tooth money.

Santa isn't real?

Well f*ck sad.

oh dear!! SO how long do they truly and genuinely (like he believes in SAnta) believe for?

Yes I do realise that when they're 13 and assuring you all the other fairiesleave a tenner they maybe don't believe, but surely there's a poiont at which they do sad

DD only believed for a short while, one of her friends told her the tooth fairy wasn't real - she was delighted, as she was scared of the fairy. hmm I think some of her friends still believe, and she JUST about still believes in Santa. She's 7.

Might not be in a couple of years though, SPB - DD's first wobbly tooth was at 4.9, although she was 5 when she lost it.

<weeps> at thought of my baby all grown up. It was only his 3rd day at school, all the bigger children pushed past him on the way into school and he looked all little and cnofused. Then he seemed to get it and started running in with the rest sad It won't be long before he's a big, cynical, streetwise pre-teenager.

<overreacts slightly>

Rollergirl1 Thu 08-Sep-11 23:05:18

SPB: DD lost her first this morning. She is 5:5. I will be happy if she makes it through the next 2 or 3 believing. Although surely once they start questioning the TF then isn't Father Christmas soon to follow?!

magicmummy1 Thu 08-Sep-11 23:05:51

What confuses me about the tooth fairy is why she would pay good money for all those old teeth. confused

aldiwhore Thu 08-Sep-11 23:09:04

I think the wholly truthfully believing stage is the blink of the eye, it lessens as they get to the questioning, thoughtful stage.... YOU are the one that keeps the magic alive. Belief is not the important thing imo, the magic is. So you keep doing it, it actually doesn't matter if they're having doubts or thinking 'is it really mummy?'

I remember waking up (sounds dubious this bit) to find my DAD in my room, in a tutu, donning a loo brush and delivering 50p.... we still kept up the pretence long after!!!




OvO Thu 08-Sep-11 23:14:44

My DS1 is almost 7 and completely and utterly believes in the tooth fairy.

Magicmummy, the tooth fairy has a castle made from teeth and all new teeth are used for repairs.

SiamoFottuti Thu 08-Sep-11 23:17:22

She turns them into stars, innit?

My seven year old boy totally believes.

Rollergirl1 Thu 08-Sep-11 23:18:02

aldi: Well that would bloody well put me off the Toof Fairy then and there. I do admire your imagination and sheer will. grin

allday Thu 08-Sep-11 23:18:22

My 8yo believes in the tooth fairy but MadameDeathStare is right, she is incompetent and maybe delayed by several days and drop the precious tooth on the carpet on the way out.

magicmummy she builds her castle out of them you fool.

OvO Thu 08-Sep-11 23:19:15

Stars? Stop drinking the cooking sherry, Siamo. Stars are unborn babies waiting to be made. Everyone knows that. Tsk.


allday Thu 08-Sep-11 23:19:19

"She turns them into stars, innit? "


cjbartlett Thu 08-Sep-11 23:20:10

My 7 year old ds says to me 'you're friends with the tooth fairy' when he asks why she couldn't find his tooth , he knows all right, he hides his teeth to make it trickier for the fairy angry grin

LittlePushka Thu 08-Sep-11 23:20:57

OK have I got this right....aldiwhores DAD is the real actual toothfairy for real - but he may or may not come because he has been to madamdeathstares for a few pints of wine?

I am a little unsure how to play the fairy thing because my two boys refuse to countenance anything to do with fairies whatsoever. might just take tooth , leave the reddies and say nowt!!!

SiamoFottuti Thu 08-Sep-11 23:21:50

We started off with the tooth fairy using them for building but DS thought this to be both creepy and unhygenic, so when a cartoon told him that they were turned into stars he gently informed me that I had given him the wrong information.

He's an odd little mix of ruthless logic and total willingness to believe in magic. smile

lol I can't wait for all this
I hope the loo brush was NEW

aldiwhore Thu 08-Sep-11 23:25:20

rollergirl it did for a while, until I was 28 and had my wisdom teeth out, I then knew exactly who to go to for my toothmoney.... bless him he gave me £50!! mwahaha, backfire!

Keep it simple, the toothfairy collects teeth because she collects teeth, like mummy collects crappy necklaces from charity shops to turn into new jewellry but has never done so, and like daddy collects shite films. The toothfairy doesn't need a reason!!

She (or he - no gender barriers in this house) recycles them by popping them into the gums of newborn babies.


aldiwhore Thu 08-Sep-11 23:26:23

I didn't question whether the loo brush was new, I was too busy being horrified at my logistic's mananager dad in MY FUCKING TUTU!!!! I'm guessing it wasn't new.

OvO Thu 08-Sep-11 23:27:15

That is so so naaaasty, Spangled. I love it! grin

Rollergirl1 Thu 08-Sep-11 23:28:03

Stealth: I have just delivered coinage in exchange for the tooth. DH and I argued. We had agreed on £2. I wanted to leave a £2 coin instead of the 2 £1 coins that DH handed me. He said wtf does it matter. I said that the tooth fairy would be weighed down flying with too many £1 coins...

I think I just need to go to bed now.

Not the first tooth though. She leaves that as a keepsake. Not because she forgot to take it away, you understand.

Rollergirl1 Thu 08-Sep-11 23:31:29

Aldi: Better he wearing your tutu then had his own, no? grin

aldiwhore Thu 08-Sep-11 23:37:37

True true rollergirl

Underconstruction Fri 09-Sep-11 13:30:02

A letter from the toothfairy adds to the magic. Though sadly in our house the toothfairy lost interest after the first brilliantly written and very funny letter. For the second tooth there was no letter and DD1 was most upset.

We'd moved house by the third tooth and the fairy here uses a proforma "thank you for you front/back top/bottom tooth in excellent/good/poor/bad condition" etc with a quick personal note added - a bit easier to get the toothfairy to do that much. Not sure he'll ever wear a tutu though (and I'm quite sure I'm happy about that).

PigeonPie Fri 09-Sep-11 13:34:54

I have decided I am definitely not doing the letter thing. My DSis did this with her two and ended up writing letters at silly times of the night because she was out that evening or something else had happened and I really don't want to get into that sort of hype.

Having said that, both the letters the children wrote and the ones that the fairy wrote would make a fantastic little book as she was very funny.

ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs Fri 09-Sep-11 13:51:13

I only have one DD so being the tooth fairy was simple. DD honestly believed but was a bit miffed that Erin got a letter from her fairy.
I went to a card shop, got a length of purple gauzy ribbon, some gold thread and some teeny tiny star, a bit of purple paper and a gold pen. It took me hours to write the letter and stitch the bag.
DD was upset because Erin's letter had footprints on it.
I did tell my DD that Father Christmas wasn't real last year. She was almost 10 and we were moving to England.
Once she had stopped crying she said 'you'll be telling me the tooth fairy doesn't exist next'.

YouHaveNoPowerOverMe Fri 09-Sep-11 14:03:02

What tooth fairy?

I have it on good authority that the tooth fairy died when I was 6yrs old. So, erm..... 19yrs ago!

Father Christmas was drunk on sherry and crashed his sleigh into a tree killing himself. The tooth fairy (who lives in the tree) ad the Easter Bunny (lived under the tree hmm ) also died in this tragic accident!

It must be true.... My dad wouldn't have lied to me would he?? sad

The tooth fairy wouldn't be weighed down - two £1 coins weigh the same as a £2 coin!

(I definitely didn't believe in Father Christmas by the time I started losing teeth, but I am apparently cynical and lacking in magic)

The tooth fairy sells surplus packs containing little notes, a charm and a bag on ebay. I suppose there's not the money in teeth that there used to be

randommoment Fri 09-Sep-11 16:07:17

I think they've guessed about the tooth fairy, and FC too, but only in the last year or so. (DDs are 12) Best advice is make them put the tooth, or stocking in FC's case SOMEWHERE OUTSIDE THEIR BEDROOM. The little angels who could sleep through WW3 going off become hyper sensitive to sound and it is very dull waiting until 2 a.m. on a school night or Christmas Eve for them to be so out cold that you can creep in and out without being caught.

I'm deeply confused by aldiwhore's dad. Was it his own idea? Or did your mum put him up to it?

whatdoiknowanyway Fri 09-Sep-11 16:08:54

My daughter was 7 and lost a tooth just after school one afternoon. I had picked her up from school but then had to hand over to her dad as I was going to Denmark on business. I reminded him not to forget the tooth fairy was coming and then set out for the airport.

Next day a distraught 7yr old was told by her father that the tooth fairy hadn't come because she had a big backlog of teeth to see to (he forgot of course).

She went in to school and told her more worldly wise friends what had happened. they said 'told you it was your mum', she said' no mum is in Denmark' and they basically said - 'work it out, the one time your mum is not there what happens?'

There was the domino effect after that... Easter Bunny, Father Christmas all gone although she did have a lovely time helping with the fantasy for her younger sister.

Anyway, ever since then in our family we may not be sure where Father Christmas lives but we KNOW the Tooth Fairy lives in Denmark!

One of the TAs in either Yr R or 1 had DD's class making Santa traps - things with bells or something on that would alert the sleeping child to Santa's ingress ... I mean?! What?! Fortunately the same horror of Strange Person entering the bedroom at night that caused DD to be glad about the tooth fairy not existing also means she leaves her stocking outside the door. Teeth still go under the pillow, but that's okay as she knows it's me, plus will sleep through a remarkable amount of furtling about.

We managed to maintain the belief is Santa all the way through February (told Tooth Fairy is not real) to December (really quite expensive Christmas holiday to Lapland). She suspects though.

I had the tooth mouse. My mum used to write me little notes to go with the money and paint paw prints on...I liked those more than the money, which I didn't really use until a few years later.

I think I always knew it was her (esp. when they said things like, "and be sure to be quiet in the morning and not wake Mum up" and "I've given your tooth to her for safekeeping" !), but you don't really make a big fuss of that kind thing when you're little. I don't remember saying thank you anyway.

Megfox Fri 09-Sep-11 17:43:37

Just wait till you see your last baby LEAVING school.....! That's a real reminder of how old YOU are.....!

carabos Fri 09-Sep-11 18:16:01

IME no-one believes in the Tooth Fairy. Kids go along with it because its fun and they get the money. Parents go along with it because its a fun thing to do with the kids. The Fairy (whether male or female) is widely known and understood to be an incompetent drunk. Santa is a different matter wink.

wearymum73 Fri 09-Sep-11 19:54:08

The tooth fairy forgot to come to my DS on his 4th tooth. The next morning it was really really he was told that tooth fairy's can't fly when its to windy!
I even was pointing out that the birds couldn't fly in the morning, they kept on getting blown backwards!!
So he checks now how windy it is when he loses a tooth to see if the tooth fairy can come :-)

imogengladheart Fri 09-Sep-11 20:47:03

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