This is a bit of a long story so sorry before I begin.
When my husband and I married we gave each of our mothers an engraved locket and each of our fathers an engraved fountain pen, they had our names and the date of our marriage on them.
My husband's parents died six years ago very close together and very suddenly. His dad died first and after the funeral his mum gave my husband the fountain pen back saying she though we should have it.
His mum died a month later and my brother in law took all her jewellery "for safe keeping".
My husband's brother and sister then proceeded to carve up belongings between them and their children cutting my husband out. We didn't need or want anything anyway and they had teenage children off to uni or setting up homes. Our children are a lot younger than theirs.
A charm bracelet his mum had was kept by his sister - fair enough but the charms were taken off and split between my husband's neices and nephews leaving our children out. One of the nieces got two charms because she couldn't decide between them and our daughter didn't get a single one.
I know that probably sounds churlish on my part but it really upset me.
Anyway, my brother in law asked my husband about our locket and was it something we'd like. We said yes, especially as our daughter missed out on a charm. Brother in law said he'd bring the locket up next time he saw us. He didn't and since then he has avoided meeting us at family events ie if we go he doesn't.
We have asked him to send the locket by post to us but he says he doesn't want to trust Royal Mail.
Next month this saga will have been going on for seven years. I am fed up and would like the locket returned. I have bought a Royal Mail Special Delivery bag and had the postage pre-paid on it. I would like to send it to my brother in law and say please return the locket in this and we will take responsibility.
My husband thinks we should leave it for a quiet life and forget about it, but our daughter has no keepsake from her grandma and I feel my brother and sister in law have both been very selfish.
I don't want a heap of gold or a huge diamond, just a small silver locket that my daughter can treasure.
Am I being petty here, should I let it go or is it the principle that matters?
Thanks for your thoughts.
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AngelHMum · 08/07/2010 14:21
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