Another PIL and SIL one I'm afraid, but genuinely need advice on this one please!
I used to love and trust PIL and SIL like my own family, although they have always treated me a bit like an idiot. I learned to rise above it.
All changed when DD (16months) arrived. Suddenly, PIL and SIL behaved like they had a child and wanted'to take over', and kept tryin to send me away (eg. why don' you sleep, why don't you go out shopping-the day after I got home from hospital) I could do nothing right, and still can't. Comments are made every time they see her (plus e-mails to DP how I don't know what I am doing and should be doing xyz) and I have learned to just ignore it, and keep visits to a minimum.
I am now pregnant with twins, due in December. MIL and SIL are now continually making comments such as :'How will you cope?' and 'You will never magage' and 'We feel so sorry for DD'. MIL also says every time I see her (about 3-4 times a week) how the babies will obviously be in special care for a long time and how it will be very sad for me, and how I will struggle.
Now I am obviously aware that this pregnancy is a higher risk pregancy. I am also aware, that life with a toddler and 2 new born twins will be very, very busy- but why on earth would I not cope? Plenty of women do and why should I be any different?
And do I really need to be told every time that my babies may have to be delivered early and need to be in special care? Why can't we just think positively?
Are these just pregnancy hormones, or is it time to say something? It is really getting me down.
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or should I just get used to being treated like an idiot?
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ilovecats · 27/06/2010 21:31
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