To want to call social services?

[fatoftheland]

Sorry, more of a wwyd.
There is a family that live in the same block as me and they are beginning to worry me. They smoke weed a lot and have 2 children which they are constantly shouting at. The worst is at the 2 year old.
Examples of what I hear
"Put your clothes on you fucking divvy or I will kick you."
"You dopey little cunt stop splashing in the pool."
"I will fucking kick you if you don't put that down you stupid cunt."

The other day her 20 stone dad shouted to the mum "Fucking hit her will you, stupid little bitch. I will lock her in her room."
I have heard them hit her before.

It's so upsetting to hear them, some days I could cry for her. Would you call them or keep out of it?

[MmeLindt]

I would call Social Services, it sounds horrific. They are probably well known already.

[BigFatSepticToe]

that does sound rather extreme and if I were hearing that regularly then YES, i would call someone SS/childline/NSPCC etc

[TheLifeOfRiley]

YANBU call SS.

poor kids

[BigFatSepticToe]

and start keeping a diary, logging every incident you see and hear

[thisisyesterday]

ffs, yes of course I would call them. why wouldn't you?

you've heard them swearing, shouting and hitting a small child and you need to ask???

[MmeLindt]

Good idea, BFST. Keep a diary so that they have evidence.

[Manda25]

Dunno why the 20 stone dad is relevant ....but of course you need to call SS/CS.

[Marjee]

Personally I would call, that sounds heartbreaking! Social services will do lots of assessments before they act, they won't just take the children away. If, god forbid, something terrible happened it would be on your conscience forever. That little girl needs you to call.

[fatoftheland]

They have lived here a while and I have never heard them up until recently. They are only young and have a new baby. The mum seems to be stressed constantly and I think he has hit her before. They can be so lovely to the little girl at times but seem to turn quickly.

You are right I will call them and they can at least be aware of the situation.

[diamondsandtiaras]

I guess the 20 stone bit is relevent as he has that amount of weight behind him when he hits his child........

Definitely call someone. No child shouls have to live like that. If you heard someone treating an animal like that you'd call the rspca........to do that to a child is just despicable.

[FabIsGettingFit]

Police
Social Services
Your health visitor

And keep calling until someone does something.

[fatoftheland]

Yes, I said it because I was thinking how terrifying it must be when you are that small and you have someone that large screaming in your face.

[expatinscotland]

Call them.

And the next time you hear them carrying on like that, I'd call the cops, too, and report a domestic disturbance involving a child.

[FabIsGettingFit]

Also, could you record it?

[fatoftheland]

Yes I could write it down. But, this is going to sound selfish, I do worry what they would do if they found out it was me as I live on my own with two children and he is not the type to let things go.

[expatinscotland]

Call them anyhow. It's anonymous. And start logging it.

[Manda25]

Report them anomalously - or call NSPCC and see if the can pass the info on to CS/SS on your behalf.

[phoenixflower]

If you reported anomously and didn't give any of your details to social services OP, the family would unlikely be able to trace you as even SS wouldn't have your details!

[fatoftheland]

Yes i will definitely call them. Maybe a visit will be enough to make them think about their behaviour and get some help for the mum if she needs it.

[phoenixflower]

meant to add, I would report it to SS if it were me.

[FabIsGettingFit]

expat

there is a thread in chat someone thinks you will be interested in - it is called something strange happened to me.

[Manda25]

sheshh at my spelling - sorry

[ThatVikRinA22]

i wouldnt hesitate, id call NSPCC for advice. you dont have to give your details.

[ShadeofViolet]

Agree with the other posters, I wouldnt hesitate either.

[shinyshoes]

Please please do it for the childrens sake they are defenceless