DS in year 7 has met up with a crowd of girls. One of his friends has been 'going out' with one of the girls for a few months and now DS has got friendly with one of the other girls. This girl is texting DS incessantly, facebook, msn messages. Last week I caught him on his mobile phone at 3.00am talking to her. Since then we have taken phone, ipod, off him at 7pm each evening and limited broadband access in the evening too.
I know I shouldn't have read the texts they are sending but they are too grown up for my liking - ie seeing each other naked etc etc. The girl's mother takes her daughter to see ds's friends play football matches and recently has turned up at ds swimming training evening. They took photographs of him (no other children) and have subsequently posted them onto facebook. I find this, in itself, quite alarming!
The girls' parents had a party this last Saturday and ds asked if he could sleep over to which we said no. We said he could go to the party but that we would pick him up. As a result of this he must have called his friend and one of the other mothers asked to speak to me. She asked if he could sleep over and assured me he would be safe in a caravan at the bottom of the garden and that it would be alright because her 16 yo son would be there too. I had not met any of these people at this point. I said no again politely but feeling I had to justify myself. We dropped him off and met the parents and the girls just at the front door. Then at 10pm picked him up and ds informed us that these parents think we are wierd not letting him stay over etc etc. Ds is confused as he has a friend same age who is allowed to stay over not just the night but all weekend!
I am finding this hard to cope with as I feel very wary 1) of the girl's incessant texting (which is very controlling and needy), 2) the girls' parents not respecting my decision not to let him stay over and 3) my reaction to ds is all wrong when we previously had such a good, open and respectful relationship. I have told him he is too young for this and both my partner and I are concerned that he is being affected by being pulled in two directions.
Know they are all growing up fast but isn't 11 too young? and how do you deal with it?
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11 yo boyfriend and girlfriend - too young?
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BonAppetit · 16/06/2010 10:45
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