Hi - long-time lurker and 1st time poster here. I don't think IABU, but am open to other opinions.
DH and I have one son, who will be 1 in August. We spent 10 years TTC, and finally after 3 rounds of IVF, DS arrived last year. MIL and FIL seemed supportive and interested during those pre-conception times, but have not shown much interest since DS arrived. When we brought him home, we had to go to their house to introduce him, and as we arrived, MIL opened the door and said "Oh, I'm just on my way to the hairdressers. I'll see him another day" and promptly went out. This has been the story pretty much since then - if we don't make the effort to go round/invite them over,then they just don't see him. Since February, they have seen him just 4 times. FIL is retired and MIL works flexi, and they live in the same town as us.
TBH we have made our peace with the way they are, and even though we often get knocked back, we regularly instigate contact. When they DO see him, they seem to enjoy him and engage with him - but then it's out of sight out of mind.
They came over yesterday for half an hour (at our request) and while they were here, MIL mentioned his birthday and that they plan to buy him a car seat. She asked me to pick one, and then (in the same breath) told us that she's got tickets to see Westlife (!) on DS's birthday. She knows we are having a party for close family, and when I said "You're going to miss his party" she said "I'll send a cake"
I feel as though I have been reasonable and patient over the last few months, (to the point of being a doormat, it seems) but now I feel that this is the last straw. She's not even a Westlife fan!!! DH is also p*ssed off, but says we should let it go - he says it's their loss, but I think it's ours too - and more importantly DS's. I want to say something, and sort it out - but should I? And if so, what?
Thank you
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AIBU?
to think that MIL should think about her Grandson occasionally?
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InWithTheITCrowd · 15/06/2010 16:08
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