To this at during lunchtime at work?

[suzyfluzy]

Hi

I having had 3 childen I have prolapse. I should do kegels but I work full time as a teacher, have 3 kids and a house to run so just dont get time.

I know some people can do them while driving etc, but my muscles are so weak I really need to concentrate. Anyway the physio has really told me off and give me a pelvic exerciser probe to use. I have tried to find the time to use it at home but just cant see to find the time when I am alone to do it.

I has a thought that maybe during lunchtime at work and go to my car and do it. The car park is no accessible to the children or public. (A few memeber of staff go to their car to smoke). But mentioned it to a friend who was horrified. Saying if anyone spotted me they would think i was masturbating!

Is it a unreasonable thing to do - I dont think it is likley that I will be spotted in the couple of seconds it takes to insert and remove the probe.

[annh]

How long would you have to sit there with the probe in? How often are these exercises meant to be done?

[suzyfluzy]

20 minutes twice a day - everyday .

[annh]

Hmm, yes, I think you could force yourself to find 20 mins at home once a day but I can quite see that twice with 3 kids around is pushing it a bit. I think I would go for it, although I am amazed that you actually have 20 mins of down-time at lunch. The teachers in our school seem to spend most of their lunch in the classroom, in meetings or running various clubs!

[tinkletinklelittlestar]

Do it while brushing your teeth to start with cos you must have time to do that! You can build up from that - hanging out washing, washing up, cooking, sitting and reading a book, having a shower - there are loads of little opportunities for you to do these exercises. 20 minutes twice a day sounds a lot but if you start in little chunks it will help.

[suzyfluzy]

No I have to do it sat down and while concentrating as I have to try and 'lift' with the probe.

I could do 20 mins in the evening at home once the kids in bed etc. But I have tried setting alarm early to do it b4 they get up- but alarm just wakes them and dh does not like me waking him either.

[Blu]

Hi, SuzyFluzy, welcome to Mn.

Is this a new form of dogging?

Wouldn't you nip to the loo for putting it in/ taking out?

[TheBoyWithaSORNedMX5]

Oh god, please do it at home and not at school.

Not because it's inappropriate or anything daft like that, but because of the repercussions if you were seen attending to your fanjo in the carpark. You would never, ever live it down.

[suzyfluzy]

No nipping to loo would not work - it has wires.
Yes the repercussions of being spotted are very bad. The question i suppose is how confident I am that I will not be seen. The car park is around the back of the school gated off from the kids and will a forest backing on to it. So it is quite unlikley

[Lemonylemon]

Apparently, we shouldn't be doing kegels, we should be doing squats, so I've read on a thread elsewhere today.....

[gingernutlover]

i wouldnt do what you are suggesting because however small the chance of being seen were it just wouldnt be worth it. I am a teacher too. Can you not wear it whilst sitting and eating your dinner? (at home, I mean)

[ChippingIn]

I think, especially as you're a teacher, this would be a very bad idea - it will only take one person to get the wrong idea and your career could be over... it's not worth the risk (no matter how small you think the risk is).

You can get a quieter alarm that wont wake the children and tell your DH to fuck off - it's 20 minutes earlier than you'd normally get up - better that than a life of (avoidable) incontinence!

Do it again when the kids are in bed - DH can go to the kids if they wake up/play up.

It's only 20 minutes (x2) - make yourself a priority.

[SloanyPony]

Set your mobile phone onto vibrate and put it in your pocket as an alarm.

How old are your kids? Old enough to just say, go back to bed, its not time to get up, mummy is busy?

I'd find a way of getting a less disturbing alarm and do it then, and last thing at night. If for some reason the kids wake up early, then so does your Dh, and he can deal with them. You lost your pelvic floor having kids - he can lose 20 minutes sleep occasionally.

[suzyfluzy]

The 2 of the kids are toddlers. And the 20 mins is not occasionally - it is every day.

But thanks for the replies - yes going to have take the advice and stick with doing at home. I'll have to sort of the alarm situation.

[LisaD1]

Seriously, you CAN'T do this in the school car park, or any car park!

If you were teaching my children and got spotted doing this I would not stop until you lost your job. It is completely inapropriate for you to do this in public.

This is a personal problem for you and you need to deal with it personally and privately.

[CoupleofKooks]

could you do it sitting on a closed toilet seat? i know it isn't the most pleasant surroundings but better than in a car park i think

[melpomene]

Is there a lockable private office that you could borrow for 20 minutes at lunchtime?

Can you speak to the head/your manager to ask if they can provide you with a private space at lunchtimes? You probably wouldn't need to explain the exact nature of the exercises, just say that it is physio/medical treatment and you need to partially undress for it so need to be sure you can be private. If a member of staff was breastfeeding and wanted to express breastmilk at lunchtimes then the school would need to arrange a suitable space. This situation is a bit similar.

[Hulababy]

LisaD1 - massive massive over reaction there! You would actively try and get a teacher sacked for trying to deal with a personal medical problem?

OP - I don't hink you can do it in acarp park. I am sure you could be discrete, wearing appropriate accessible clothing, etc. But the risk of being seen by someone is too great. I know you say the children can;t access there, but another member of staff or visitor might - and the embaraasments surrounding it if nothing else would be awful to contemplate.

Is there a member of SMT who would be sensitive and discrete you could discuss this with and have them provide you with a private quiet place to go to at lunch. Maybe a small office with a door lockable from inside, or even a storeroom that could be fastened shut? School are supposed to try and find private places for nursing mothers to express - and obviously there is the risk of breasts being seen there - so there must be ways round this.

[MisSalLaneous]

If you went to your car every single day and sat inside for 20 minutes, someone would eventually start wondering what you're up to.

Don't do it.

[Hulababy]

Oh I agree it shouldn't be done and would be very inadvisable of course. However, I still think LisaD1 was being very OTT with her reaction regarding not letting up til the teacher was sacked, etc.