to think sex once a week even with 2 babies is a poor show

[flossielimejuice]

Just wondering if you think we should be 'doing it more'!.

We have 2 babies ages 11 months and 2.5yrs which is obviously tiring. But I think we need to make time to 'do it' more. Dh says he is knacked just getting to work!

We are in our early forties and been together just over 3 years.

What do yout think - should I be online now or in bed!!

[OhExpletive]

Bloody hell, once a week with 2 under 3 is what I'd describe as "at it like rabbits"

[ArseHolio]

Ha!

We have a 5yo and a 18mo and are lucky to have sex twice a month.

Sex isn't the be all and end all

[ShowOfHands]

Does it matter if we're all doing it 6 times an hour or only when the moon's in uranus?

If you're not happy then there's only one person you should be talking to.

[4andnotout]

Dp would love it once a week, at the moment it's more like once a month

However have weaned 19mo dd4 in the last few days and she is sleeping in her bed so hoping the tally will go up a bit

[JaxTellersOldLady]

exactly what SOH says. Everybody has a different 'need' - if I was at it once a week DH would be very but I would be even more knackered than I already am.

[lorelilee]

agree with Expletive

[TheBolter]

Show off.

[flossielimejuice]

Dh is laughing at the replies. We are feeling hard done too that depite our best intentions only manage in once a week and thought we were not doing too well - sounds like its normal if not better than!

[Pozzled]

Agree with SoH.

[expatinscotland]

Who are all these people who count the number of times they have sex?

[JaxTellersOldLady]

flossie - can you instruct your DH NOT to mention to MY DH that yours is getting it once a week please.

Many thanks

oh and stop showing off you pair of bunnies!

[clam]

What other people do is irrelevant. Are you both happy with it? If not, then try to fix it.

[flossielimejuice]

we dont count expat - i just mean roughtl on average

[Maveta]

it hardly requires an agenda to know you have sex once a week so doubt the op is keeping a log! i think once a week sounds great - its about what we manage usually with one 3yr old but i do know what you mean, we are TTC at the mo and making the effort to up it a bit (fnarr fnarr) and its actually a nice change to turn the crap tv off, close the laptop and have some couple time. its easy when you have little ones to just zombie out on the sofa doing your own thing then flop into bed with no more than a wee peck before you roll over. its nice to remember that making that extra effort can actually be a fun activity in and of itself.

having said that, we are both also working and have recently upped our keep fit routines so we are feeling roundly KNACKERED and also have nights where we just look at each other and go ´don´t even think about it!´

[ImSoNotTelling]

Our kids are the same age as yours.

We are counting times per year rather than per week, so from where I'm sitting it sounds like you're getting plenty

But what SOH said is the right answer.

[AuntieMaggie]

can you also not tell my DP that you do it once a week with 2 kids? we rarely manage that these days and have no kids!

[AllSheepareWhite]

2 under 3 and once a week, we only have one 11 month old and that's what we manage! Get some sleep that is what I say

[textpest]

I agree with AuntieMaggie!!

[custardismyhamster]

I have no kids and barely manage one a week, DP doesn't seem bothered

[ThatVikRinA22]

how about a reward system for your DH, a sticker chart maybe. if he ticks enough boxes tell him youll give him a bj at the end of the month...

im thinking this is a wind up.
if not ill give the benefit of the doubt and just say that sex and frequency does tend to alter depending on the circumstances.

are you complaining about your DH? or yourself?(or are you just boasting!)

[verylittlecarrot]

Upon achieving the holy grail of sychronised napping with my two dc (nearly 3y and barely 4m) My DH today suggested an opportunistic bit of nookie. My response included the words "Bloody Hell" and "scary" and "recent third degree tear".

As Richard Whitely once said, it's not so much "twice nightly Whitely".

More "Once yearly, nearly"

[whoneedssleepanyway]

this has made me laugh, am feeling normal now...!!! doesn't help that we have DD2 in our room either!

[BouncingTurtle]

More like twice a MONTH in the turtle household - though DH would like it twice a week, the randy bugger
However will have to up frequency if we are going to make baby no. 2!