Hi ladies, I have just joined mumsnet and this is my first post, although I have been lurking and reading for ages.
So, nice to meet you all and I would be really grateful for your opinions on this.
I have a 6 month old baby girl and when I was pregnant with her, my dad informed me that he would not be giving me and the baby a lift anywhere when my DH is at work (I can't drive, have tried to learn but didn't end well!) as he didn't want the baby making a mess in his car.
Then the other week he rang and told me has has bought another little runaround so that he can take me, my mum and the baby shopping, out for lunch etc. Obviously I thought this was really kind of him.
So, we arranged to go out for lunch on Monday but when they turned up to pick us up, DD's car seat would not fit in as the seatbelts were too short to go around it. Dad said "you can just hold the seat then" and I said I wasn't going to do that. Cue much huffing and puffing and in the end he managed to force the seatbelt to click in but the carseat was not sitting flat on the backseat of the car as it's meant to so it didn't feel solid. Dad said "that's ok, I'll move the front seat back to help hold it in place and we'll just go like that". I said that I was still not happy it was safe and didn't want her to travel like that.
My mum jumped straight in as she knew he would get annoyed and suggested we just go somewhere within walking distance instead. My dad said we were being over fussy and we weren't going far and weren't going to have a crash and I just said "well, we'll have to go somewhere we can walk to today and I'll just buy another carseat that WILL fit the car".
We are due to go out again in just over a week, but the trouble is I have looked on the internet and can't find any car seat which will fit and apparently the car in question (Daewoo Matiz) is notoriously impossible for this. So now I will have to tell my dad DD is not travelling in the car he bought especially and I know he is going to go mental, say I am fussy, ungrateful etc. But what else can I do? She is my baby and surely as her mum it's my responsibility to not let her do anything I think is dangerous.
The thing is, I am older for a first time mum (mid thirties) and my daughter was desperately wanted for many years. I do sometimes wonder if that makes me a bit over protective of her.
Anyway, sorry if I have rambled but what do you think?
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not to let DD travel in dad's car?
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fingertoes · 27/05/2010 10:48
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