to expect a little help

[lifehaschangedforthebetter]

As a SAHM is unreasonable to expect DH to lend an occasional hand at bath/bed time. If i do get help I have to ask for it and its usually a struggle, I know he thinks I have it easy at home and I should do my half of the work myself, i know this is probably an age old argument but I just feel a bit unappreciated. I also think he should want to spend time with our DD but he just seems to expect me to do it all! ARRGGHH

[JaneS]

Of course YANBU. Just because you're a SAHM, does not mean that you should do all the childminding and all the housekeeping. If you're looking after your DD all day, that is far more hours than a full-time job, and then you're doing another job (keeping the house) on top of that. Unless your DH also works two jobs, one of which is significantly longer hours than 9-5, he is being very selfish.

[lazarusb]

I always told anyone that would listen that I stayed at home to care for my children, not to clean etc. That is a job which should be shared by the adults in the house, as is bedtime etc. My MIL thought I was just being lazy, she was a doormat all her life "never expecting any thanks" but complaining about it now. She was still making my other DH's bed when he was 20. He got a shock to the system when he met me! ..as did MIL...!

[lifehaschangedforthebetter]

Ha, I know, it just seems a difficult balance to strike, It hard because as soon as DH comes home from work its bath time and I feeel bad thrusting the baby on him immediately, but if I dont, he doesn't see her all day.

My MIL is exactly the same, keeps a house so immaculate its insane, I just cant keep up to those standards! More important things to do etc!

[TheBoyWithaSORNedMX5]

Can your dd go to bed a little later, so that your DH can have a bit of time chilling with her before bath and bed? How old is she?