To get some new friends?

[noitwasntme]

When ever I go out I always end up looking after the same friends they get really drunk put themselves in stupid situations and I end up looking after them.

I just wander why they put themselves in stupid situations by doing stupid things it has got to the stage when I think they need to grow up and take responsibilty for their own actions,its seems all they do is worry about their looks,weight etc they cant even go out without a fix aibu to move on and find some real friends with real morals?.

[hugebelly]

How old are your friends?

If you like them and want to spend time with them, you could go out and do fun things like shopping, cinema, dinner and if they want to go off and get drunk, let them.

Always keep an eye out for new friends. Join a book club, go local community, go out with work collegues and find something to do that doesn't involve your friends who like to drink to much.

[smallishsheep]

Are they really your friends? YOu sound more like their mother.
Do you feel uncomfortable when out? tbh you sound like me when my confidence was shite, I hated going out and felt I had to look out for everyone rather than enjoying myself. I've since lost weight, lightened up and got my mojo back and enjoy going out much more. It's fun to go out sometimes and get a bit drunk. But if you feel they're a burden then drop them. And by a fix I assume you mean drugs. in which case drop them now.

[noitwasntme]

Yes to all Smallishsheep, and I have little confidence at the moment but dont need a fix to have a good time, I have my dc's they are all I need ,I just like to go out and let my hair down, but it would be easier to stay at home tbh.

[noitwasntme]

Maybe I need a Hobby

[smallishsheep]

Then work on your confidence and get some new friends to go out with. Just because your friends get drunk or do drugs it doesn't mean you have to. But if you have so little in common with these girls why are you even friends with them? Do they make you feel inferior? (Meant in the nicest way). When I was overweight I went on nights out as I felt dutybound to, but spent the night in the corner feeling like a leper. Now I've got my confidence back I realise what I was missing out on, and have much more fun as a result.

[noitwasntme]

Im not interested in drugs, just dont want it around me when I go out. It just means I wont be going out with them.
I do worry about my appearance but thats because I have lost my confidence a little, I am normally the one in the corner watching whats going on,gulping my wine to try and relax ,once I have relaxed I then end up looking after everyone.