To feel like I desperatley NEED another baby

[RedRedWine1980]

I just cant rationalise this and im sat here in tears as I type (probably PMT or something) but I feel sick at the thought of the kids getting older by the day and feel like I so badly need to go back to the begining with another baby.
Ive just spent 3 years at uni to do my chosen career and I need to get working to earn some money but its just hit me like a train.
So AIBU or just a prat?

[runnybottom]

remind yourself that if you did you would need to do it again in 3 years. And then again, and then you'd have to live in a shoe!

Biology is a bitch, but you have to try and get your head to rule your hormones!

[RedRedWine1980]

Oh tell me about it! The practicalities of having thw two I have makes life so much easier than if we had three or more but wow I never felt like this- like time is running out kind of thing its weird

[Joolyjoolyjoo]

YANBU. Who knows how we women decide when we draw the line?!

When ds was born (no 3) I had this lovely content feeling, like a cat with all her kittens, even though I had previously wanted 4. Had a bit of a wobble when he was about 1 (I always have a wobble at that point, for some reason!) but am now enjoying the idea of the children growing up, sharing new experiences etc. Have NO desire at all to go back to the beginning!

How old are your children? Is having another baby feasible for you (even if not very convenient right now)? Is this a sudden feeling or has it been nagging? If it's sudden, I'd give it a little while to see if it goes away by itself- mine did! If it's been nagging, you might be better to look deeper into it.

But you are not being a prat

[YarninMonkey]

Of course you ANBU! Congradulations on completing your course. Babies are wonderful but maybe it's time to focus on you in light of your achievements. Or perhaps now is the perfect time for you to start again. Great help I am am also premenstrual and haven't had a full nights sleep in 2 years!!

[jurisfictionoperative]

Neither. I know exactly how you feel. I have ds14 and dd11, I am 34(till tomorrow!) and I feel like my life as a mother is ebbing away before I'm ready. I love children, I love being a mother, and my hormones are going wild. I don't think we are irrational or prats. At a basic level, we are put on earth to reproduce. Your career will still be there in a few years. Your fertility won't. Someone once said to me, you only regret the children you don't have!