I need some advice and I think I may get more of a response here...
I've been having an affair for three months which I want to end. I hate myself for having done what I've done and I know that it's wrong and vile and I just want it over with.
The back-story is this; I met the other man ten years ago. We had a holiday fling and kept in touch for a few months afterwards. I was convinced he was "the one" and when the contact between us ended, I was devastated. I thought about him for years afterwards. Then last year, we came into contact again through Facebook and all the old feelings came flooding back. He lives a hundred miles from me so we haven't been at it every time DHs back is turned (I know this doesn't make it any better, I know this) just a few snatched evenings here and there. The OM says that he loves me and that he'll wait for me to be with him and for a while, I thought that it was what I wanted but to be honest, I've come to my senses and the horror of what I've done and what I've risked has hit me like a lead brick. I feel depressed and just like the most evil person in the world. I never thought I'd be the type of person to do this kind of thing (I can't even say the a word, it makes me feel sick) but here I am.
I want to tell the OM that I want to end it but I don't know how best to do it. I've distanced myself from him in the last week by not responding to texts so much and telling him that I've got a lot on etc but I need to categorically end it. He's very clingy which makes it difficult, I know if I end it, he'll keep trying to persuade me back which I don't want at all.
I don't expect sympathy. I know what I've done will appall a lot of you. I could just do with some impartial advice to be honest. I have no-one to talk to about this and I have no idea what to do.
Sorry for the long post.
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cupcakesandbunting · 26/04/2010 09:57
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