I've posted here before about the issues surrounding my DH, his parents and his brother - some of that is relevant, some is not.
The gist is this: MIL had a stroke, and is not very independant. FIL copes but needs a lot of help and whines and moans constantly when he doesn't get it immediately. BIL - who lives in house - has no issue spending MIL's money but does sod all.
I have talked my head off at my husband, trying to get him to sort his brother out. He won't - he says it's his father's problem, because he lives with him.
Now, FIL is in hospital himself and is (just a little) taking the mick.
I have a three month old baby and I am already back at work full time. Despite that, both FIL and MIL contact me constantly to do things. Me, not either my DH or his brother, because a) I actually answer my phone and b) actually do stuff.
I have no issue with doing things that actually need doing, but last night just pushed it too far.
I visited FIL on Weds, took him clean clothes, drinks blah, blah... and told him that , as normal, I was not free on a Thurs evening.
Cue 4.30pm yesterday - phone call from FIL 'Can you come to the hospital tonight...?'
I explained that no, not really, my evening consists of: finishing work, collecting baba, taking baba home, feeding her, changing her, sorting out her stuff for today, grabbing food for myself, and going out again to run the youth group I'm involved with. DH and I have to turn this around in just over an hour... or we have fifteen teenagers stood outside a hall waiting for us!
But... FIL insisted it was urgent, and that there was no-one else, so I agreed to drop in - knowing this meant I wouldn't be eating until after the youth grup at 10pm.
The urgent errand turned out to be his mobile needing a top up.... and his friend walked through the door five minutes after I got there!
I'll admit that I was a little sharp with my FIL for wasting my time... so now he's sulking. He's apparently phoned my DH at work,to complain.
The thing is, now that DH has told him to stuff off, I just know he'll be ringing me again this weekend (and he'll ring and ring and ring... until I answer) for various other stupid things.
AIBU to just switch my phone off and ignore?
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AIBU?
To just turn my phone off...
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ginnybag · 23/04/2010 14:26
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