I have posted on here about my relationship with my sister a few times, the most recent of which was about her wedding date clashing (to the day) with my due date with DD2. At the time of that thread, she had nothing booked, no firm plans, heard I was pregnant and decided that was the perfect weekend for her wedding! Eventually I managed to persuade her that it was in fact far from ideal (especially as she wanted DD1 to be a flowergirl - she actually said that if I couldn't make the wedding then DH would still be able to take DD1 <img border="0" src="/te/5.gif" alt="shock" >) and she - in fairness - <span class="strike">semi</span> graciously rearranged to the end of May.<br><br>Great. DD2 is now here - born the day before the original wedding date and all's well. But sister has managed to really piss me off again, this time about her hen weekend. She emailed me with the details a month or two ago - for a spa break, dinner and overnight if you want to stay. I said I'd love to go, thanks v much for inviting me, would be longing for a nice massage/facial by then, blah, blah, wouldn't be able to stay overnight though - let me know the details and exact date and I'd put it in my diary. I heard nothing else about it until the other day when my <strong>Mother</strong> (set up by sister) muttered something about there being no treatments left.<br><br>Basically what happened, although sister is too much of a coward to actually admit this, is that I have been left out of all the arrangements - deliberately or not I don't know - and that all her other guests are sorted but now I am expected to turn up for the dinner, as that's the 'important bit'. <br><br>So I am expected to turn up somewhere 70 odd miles away to meet a group of people who have been pampered all day and fit right in and be the life and soul? <br><br>I have actually said to her that I will go to the dinner, but I am minded to just blow her out with a text (her preferred method of communication, not mine) to say I can't make it and go out dinner with friends of mine instead (to celebrate my 40th b'day which will be a few days before).<br><br>Right, I am knackered, hormonal and full of flu (really, not just a cold, tis horrible). I have a beautiful, but very very hungry nearly 4 week old baby and an <span class="strike">hyper</span> active and gorgeous toddler, so I need you guys to tell me whether or not IABU to firstly feel pissed off by this slight and secondly whether I should just bite the bullet and go to the dinner, politely tell her before the day that I won't be going, or just blow her out on the day?