OK i know I am but i really have tried.
I am a reg who has name changed.
I have 2 children the eldest is such hard work and as much as I love my eldest I just don't like him or his behaviour. This morning I have had an hour long lecture about how i am a rubbish mother because i didn't have money to give him to buy songs drinks at school, but did give him a bottle of juice to take. In turn he walked past youngest and hit him round the head.
He then went into his room to get dressed and stood throwing a football at the wall.
this is just one thing in a long line of many and tbh i am worn out. I love him with all my heart yet I cannot like him because of the way he behaves and the evil things he says to me. I dont treat him badly, I take him out for day trips where we all have fun - as long as I don't speak to him.
The other day I took them both out with dfamily and we had a brilliant day until my nephew homed in on me for a hug - which i had tried to give ds1 already - and ds1 ended up walking over and telling me he hated me.
He also pushed my younger nephew off of a small fence so he fell backwards onto the cobble stones banging his head and grazing his back.
I am so worn out with everything. I have camhs coming out soon but i am sat here once again on the edge of tears because of it all.
My mum has also noticed the way he works now iyswim? for example if i arrange a day out he will kick off so he gets left behind then moan he doesn't go anywhere,(only ever been left behind once) when i take him out he moans that its boring and shows me up so we go home and then he moans i don't take him anywhere.
I am meant to be visiting friends this weekend and he has already told me if i take him he will show me up and if i don't he will scream when i come home.....
Last week i went out with friends and their children, he threatened me all week that if i took him he would show off and ruin the day. I ended up calling my friend and saying i wouldn't be going, when i told her why she told me i had to go and not let him dictate to me.
Yesterday DS2 had a chocolate bar left over from an easter egg,DS1 had eaten all of his, and DS1 took it and hid it, it was only the fact that DS2 was crying and asking for it back that alerted me to it and I found it hidden between a stack of books. DS1 blamed DS2 who could not have possibly reached where it had been hidden.
I cannot leave money around as he takes it and even when caught with it lies about where he got it from.
he is 11 btw and this behaviour has been going on for 7 1/2 years.
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MNKeepsMeSane · 20/04/2010 07:50
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