Quite a long story but my husband recently became self employed, the main reason he left his old job was his mental health he had been suffering from depression and we decided that he was not able to continue the way he was. We had expected him to have a significant drop in his income (we didnt feel we had a choice at that point) and planned for this. However so far that hasnt been the case and I have been very proud of how well he has done and his state of mind has improved a huge amount just in the last couple of months.
However, since he has been home I have been having to organize everything in terms of all the admin and money side of things as well as basicaly writing him a to do list for each project as his depression is better but not to the point where is can take on a large task it needs to be small manageable things that he can see the end of. I have also handled alot of communication with clients as wlel as actually finding them in the first place. It means that i am sitting with him either on my computer or organizing him all day and often all evening as well we also have three children under 6 that I do the majority of the care for.
At the moment my husband is registered as self employed I am not so essentially all of this is done free. I know that in the grand scheme of things is doesnt really make a difference as the same amount of money would come in more or less whatever BUT I would like for some of that to be really mine and for me to have a proper job in this!
We are trying to afford to put my younger two in nursery a little bit because things are getting out of hand with the amount of time I have to spend doing this now.
I know that my husband would not mind either way but certain members of my family think that I am being unreasonable as they say it would make us worse off if we did this and that it is still all his work even if I help him.
Is it unreasonable to want to be recognized like this for no real reason other than feeling stuck in the middle of being a SAHM and not?
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fernie3 · 19/04/2010 13:01
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