I have been seperated from dh for six monthes now, have 3 dc 15,9,6 and livein Germany(have lived here for 22 years)I have only worked freelance p/t for over ten years and now it is difficult to find new better paid work here without training again.Maintenance has been problematic, irregular and now its decided, due to his debts, he cant pay full amount. I should also move as our appt is so expensive and unless I get a job break, cant see much perspective. Ex sees Ds and dd2 once a week, dd1 doesn#t want to see him at all and at 15 she can choose. Lately I keep thinking how would it be if I got the chance to work in UK again, dd1 would love to go and despite a part of me lovin Germany, I would love the challenge of moving back ( or being a foreigner in UK) yet would it be fair to force other 2dc to leave germany and father. A part of me argues that, given that he doesn't worry about maint or more than a few hours together with children a week, I have the right to decide to go if I find work but then...sorry its a long one!
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