Ok i will try to be brief.
DH has rung today to say his mum has rung him to ask if they can borrow £1500 for a new van.( fil is a handyman for a group of nursing homes needs a van and own tools for work, has one but is on last legs, but has passed MOT at christmas so should last a little longer)
I'm very uncomfortable with lending this amount of money as DH worked for his dad with his company some years ago and lent him money and never got it back (was about 500-600) after this DH found another job, his dad declared bankrupcy soon after. Was big deal at the time pil lost house was big family drama.
DH at this time promised never to lend him money again. However over christmas DH lent fil £300 to get the van fixed and through its MOT, he told me after he had done this we did get it back but not for about 6 weeks.(in this time pil went away for 2 trips away) I was very cross and DH said he would not lend him money without asking me first.
I'm not working at the moment as we have 2yr old and 6 week old. For me to be at home we have made sacrifics (not going out, reducing food bills, stopping smoking, getting rid of car) DH is working but he doesnt earn massive amounts (about 15k after tax). We are saving for a house deposit as well.
The issue is not the money as we do have it saved and could lend it, but i just feel so uncomfortable.
Its all so last minute as well as fil "needs" the money for the weekend so he can get this new van. All i can think is pil have created there money worries and should ask someone else!
They do help out with children. Am i the worse dil for saying no to lending the money?
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RoseBlossoms · 25/03/2010 14:30
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