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I'm so for you.

I hope the person who was ment to come get disaplined and realises the problems her hangover has caused, thats so unacceptable.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that something gets sorted out pronto for you all.

Oh Riven that is shite for you.

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That is disgusting.

I'm apalled
I hope she gets disciplined
I feel for you riven
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Shocking Riven! Complain and then complain a bit more!

That is terrible, Riven.

What a selfish twunt of a girl. Hope she has the hangover from hell.

hungover?? That is crap. Is it the first time it's happened, Riven? I don't think I'd be angry at the agency in this instance but I'd be bloody furious at the respite care worker!

Would it be wrong of me to wish an army of baby kangaroos with full drum kits to take up permanent residence in her head for all eternity??

actua;;y thinking baout it the agency shuld have back up

this is so so very important to you

and a hangover should not be stopping you get the help you need

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Sounds familiar! We used to run an agency and we'd get that all the bloody time! Phoning in at the last pigging minute. It's not always easy to have back up, especially on a Sunday. You can be ringing round everyone on your books and no fucker will help out.

You must be spitting feathers. If I were you, I'd tell the agency that they are not to send her to you again. Ever.

She actually told them she can't come in due to hangover and she's not being put on warning or sacked?

That really blows my mind!

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That she knows you well makes her behaviour almost worse, Riven. That she knows how vital respite is for you, how much you rely on her.

I agree about pay, Riven.

It also pisses me off how anyone over the age of 25 faces age discrimination in many fields when, hey, well, at 39, I'm pretty much over staying out on the lash all night, texting all day and using any excuse to phone in (which then means I can't pay my bills or feed my kids).

You are not being unreasonable at all- very unprofessional behaviour and I dont give a crap how poorly paid carers are surely you go into the job because you DO care, not going in because you got pissed the night before does not show that you care at all tbh.

How horrible

Not sure how I would handle it. Can't believe she would actually admit to the agency that she has a hangover and not even try to think of an excuse that makes her sound better.

If she is good with your dd and better than the other carers I would maybe give her another chance but would try to talk to her about how important it is for your dd and try to show her what a pain it is when you're let down, without actually having a go at her. Then she has no chance to get defensive but hopefully will feel guilty enough not to do it again.

You're definitely not unreasonable to be angry though.

that is shit
could you get DP and employ your own carers?
I know that is what a girl I know does.

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Where do you live- i'll come- im CRB checked!

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Id you got a DP you could still use an agency but you could choose which agency you went to rather than the ones that are commissioned by SS. Might be worth looking into.

You can get DP for carers personal budgets too.