to be so fed up with my DH working every weekend and late most nights

[Elizap]

I know it's not his fault and he is just working, not out having a great time, but this is now the 3rd weekend I am alone and he has been working late everynight for the past week too. I have a dd2.5 and am 25 weeks pregnant. It's not so much the work of looking after things at home but more am lonely and hate having to have weekends on my own. I live abroad so dont have any family and dont have a huge circle of friends. I hate being cross with him because he is only trying to earn money so we can have a nice life but I cant help myself. Maybe it's the hormones making me so unreasonable!

[moondog]

If he needs to work, can he not do it at home?

[Elizap]

I wish but no. He's selfemployed and so when the work comes it's full on and he needs to be in his office.

[borderslass]

have had the same here for years dh is self employed you do get used to it.

[girlsyearapart]

yanbu my DH works late most nights and at wk ends too cos he's a taxi driver. I put the kids to bed by myself most nights and am also pg 20 weeks.

It's a bummer when he is home he just hogs the remote and watches random sport all the time so with him out at least I get to watch
my own programmes. Every cloud.. g

[girlsyearapart]

that isn't true screamineagle there are plenty of jobs outside the services which aren't 9-5 mon fri

[Elizap]

girlsyearsapart you are so right about the tv! And I agree with you. There are plenty of jobs that aren't 9-5 and with the internet, blackberrys you are accessible 247. My DH works in production so right now he is out on location filming. You are flat out at the time of a job and then can go quiet. I guess I just really miss family time.

[borderslass]

My DH is a self employed taxi owner-driver the busiest times are weekends and evenings we spend time together during the day if hes not got work to do, you can't self regulate when someone wants a taxi.

[girlsyearapart]

yep what borderslass said.

dh drives a London cab people want them at commuting time/weekends/late at night.

he wouldn't do people much good sitting at home on a blackberry. .

The bottom line is if we want the money those are the hours he has to do.

Tonight we have a family party so he is off. Doing that we will only spend money but lose it so he will have to be out a lot more next week to make it up.

[thehillsarealive]

elizap- i feel for you and totally understand what your DH is doing. It is just part and parcel of that industry, you work when it is busy and relax when it is quiet.

Maybe you could invite some friends over or organise to do some things with the children when he is working. I have found that the more fun things i have to do, the less I get annoyed at DH when he isnt there.

[Elizap]

thanks thehillsarealive. I normally do make sure I have things to do and keep busy but this week have just been feeling a bit poorly and very hormonal. Anyways off to walk the dog. That normally helps!! And you are so right. You have to work this hard when the work is there as who know's when you are going to work again! I am not angry with him, just fed up. But still , in these tough times we have to be grateful they are working at all. Right! Am going to stop whinging and be thankful for what i do have and how lucky I really am. Thank you for cheering me up!