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AIBU?

to secretly think it is worth dd being naughty as her making it up to me is so sweet?

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deedee321 · 11/03/2010 21:28

dd (aged 2) has surpassed herself on naughtiness today...so I tell her off..then she does her gorgeous sorry routine including holding my face and kissing me, then handing me all her favourite toys and asking 'Mummy happy now?' I know I should not, but AIBU to think on balance the naughtiness is well worth it?

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BelleDameSansMerci · 11/03/2010 21:33

YANBU... It breaks my heart when DD says "sorry mummy". Don't know why. Even worse when I'm being unreasonably cross because I'm tired and ratty. She told the cats off for fighting earlier and said "mummy's very cross now" so I had to explain that I wasn't cross with them just didn't want them to be fighting. She sometimes asks me if I'm happy too. I just wish I was as good a mummy as I want to be

kreecherlivesupstairs · 12/03/2010 07:39

YANBU. Me and dh had a conversation along these lines yesterday. DD has had tonsillitis, we both said she is the girl we want her to be when she is sick. Aquiescent and just lovely. When she is well she can be a foul little thing. Obviously I don't wish her sick, but a little bit more gentleness would be great.

Coldhands · 12/03/2010 09:28

I know what you mean. My DS can play me up and put me in a foul mood (although most of the time he is good). Sometimes he knows he has gone too far and does the whole "sorry mummy" thing and my heart melts at his little face, usually looking very confused and worried as I am upset. Sometimes if I am a bit fed up, he picks up on it and smooths my hair and says "mummy alright?" So cute, and it does bring me out of my mood too.

fernie3 · 12/03/2010 11:48

yanbu my 3 year olds fav is when I am mid rant "but I DO love you mummy"...makes it hard to punish him when he gives the giant I love you eyes.

skihorse · 12/03/2010 11:55

YABU - your 2 year old is manipulating you and you're rewarding bad behaviour. Congratulations.

Lemonmeringue · 12/03/2010 12:08

Enjoy it by all means, but don't make it too obvious... Follow through with whatever you need to say about her behaviour.

deedee321 · 12/03/2010 14:00

I don't reward it, I hold firm, but I SECRETLY like it...just a bit

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crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 15:37

You do what you like, but when she's on the SEN register with an individual behaviour plan when she's at school, don't come back here crying then.

SouthMum · 12/03/2010 15:44

Jesus, exaggerate much??!

BelleDameSansMerci · 12/03/2010 15:57

crazycat are you having a particularly bad day?!

crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 16:03

was that directed at me? because if it was I have 2 chn in my class both of whom are on the SEN register because they have 'additional support' for their behaviour and in both cases the parents (upon being told) said it was probably their fault and proceeded to describe similar situations to the OP.

Not saying it will happen, but that it could would be enough for me.

crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 16:07

Belle well since you ask, it has been a tricky one. Spent the morning being kicked, screamed and shouted at by a young child whose mummy thinks the sweetness of her making up is worth the naughtiness .

Funnily enough, the tricks that work on mummy, don't work on me/at school she doesn't like it (or understand it because she's only 5 and it's always worked in the past...)

BrahmsThirdRacket · 12/03/2010 16:10

agree with crazycat

crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 16:16

And relax...! Don't mean to be so cranky!

I just find it really irritating when some parents seem to forget that at some point their toddler will leave their limited world and enter the one with other people in it.

Perhaps I'm being a little hard on the OP here - she did say she holds firm, but if her experience was the same as mine, she'd feel differently too.

ImSoNotTelling · 12/03/2010 16:18

So if someone thinks their chid is cute

They must be bringing up a feral monstrosity

that's a big leap

crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 16:23

I don't think I said that.

Lemonmeringue · 12/03/2010 16:56

Glass of wine anyone?

bibbitybobbityhat · 12/03/2010 17:01

Gosh - op starts a gentle even funny aibu about the cuteness of her dd (I can just picture her handing over the toys) and gets peed on from a great height for bringing up a potential monster. Yay! bring it on mumsnetters!!! You are really surpassing yourselves today.

crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 17:01

Yes please!

ImSoNotTelling · 12/03/2010 17:04

No wine for me thanks.

I woudn't say no to a couple of pringles though!

crazycat34 · 12/03/2010 17:11

You can stop at a couple?!!!

I don't even like them particularly but I still can't stop!

deedee321 · 12/03/2010 17:16

I am laughing now . Because I am a teacher too! While I can share crazycat's experience of some parenting going wrong, I don't really see this as a prime example of it...I'm just enjoying my 2 year old!

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Lemonmeringue · 12/03/2010 17:24

crazycat34 · 13/03/2010 06:13

Deedee, you go ahead and enjoy your 2 year old!

I had a really hard week at school this week week because of the 2 children in my class (or rather because of their parents) and they had a really hard week too.

And I took it out on you. Sorry!

ImSoNotTelling · 13/03/2010 12:10

I hope you have a better week this week crazycat

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