For the school not to phone me when

[Dillie]

my DD bumped her head at lunch time, especially when its their practice to phone parents when children have a head injury! (I received a phone call a few weeks ago when she bumped her head)

It was only minor, and a case of over enthusiastic playing

But nonetheless I was very shocked to see a big red bump on my dd's forehead!

I asked her how she did it and she said she fell over while playing. I asked if she told a teacher and she said "yes I told Mrs X who put a cold tissue on me. She is very good at fixing people"

I casually mentioned it in passing to her class teacher (dd forgot her pe kit) who was just as shocked as me, (she didnt notice )and said if it happened at lunch time there should be a note in her home/school book(there wasnt)

I did hear the other teacher mutter something as we left, but didnt catch it.

Maybe I am being over protective, but AIBU to want to know?

[Acanthus]

WEll you know now! What do you think you could have done?

[OooohWhatAFuss]

There was a thread a few weeks ago from a parent who thought it was unreasonable for the school to phone her about a bumped head because she then worried all afternoon. Schools will always lose.
That said, if it is policy to call home I would have expected a call. There may well be a note floating around the school somewhere for you which should be in her bookbag/somewhere else you would see it. No harm done.

[frogetyfrog]

YABU and overprotective. It was minor - you said yourself. If it was a massive knock and she was dizzy after etc, then you would nbu. Do you have any idea how many children bump their heads (minor bumps) in school in a day? I dont, but imagine it must be quite high judging by how often they do it at home!!

[emmymama]

there should always be an incident letter sent home for you to sign and send back and the accident should be in the accident book... just in case (god forbid) something should happen because of it.. check school policy

[Itsjustafleshwound]

I think the school should have let you know by letter or even catching up with you at pick up time to report it. So YANBU

[Fayrazzled]

My son's school phoned me once when he had a nasty fall in the playground- but they were also phoning to ask me to collect him so I could keep him under observation.

On another occasion he bumped his head on the classroom door and he can home with a big "I bumped my head today" sticker and a note for me detailing the accident.

So, for a minor bump I don't think they do need to phone you as long as they notify you at collection, but for a serious bump then yes I'd want to know so I could pick him up.

[overmydeadbody]

YABU. You said yourself that it was minor, and even if they have a policy of letting parents know tbh school staff are only human, and already bogged down with paperwork and recording everything that happens, sometimes the minor things get forgotten about because more important things come up.

Don't make an issue out of it.

[overmydeadbody]

I find playground supervision and lunchtime supervision a really stressful part of my day tbh, trying to watch 60-odd kids all running around, keep them safe, break up fights, comfort upset children, encourage play and positive behaviour, and find the time to record all the incidents that happen, is such hard work, sometimes you have to use a bit of professional judgement and priorotise what to focus on.

[SpicedGerkin]

'So, for a minor bump I don't think they do need to phone you as long as they notify you at collection,'

They didn't though, her DD did and that IMO is not good enough especially as it was seen as serious enough to treat.

Infact i'm sure schools are supposed to inform parents if their child has recieved treatment even if the treatment is only a cold cloth.

YANBU

[abbierhodes]

I'd have expected a note, but it truly is about priorities...there might have been a major emergency which meant that all non-major things were put to one side.

In our school, our lovely first aider rings parents of pretty much everyone she sees on a good day. On the day a child broke his ankle, anyone else who wasn't spurting blood limped back to lessons!!

If it was bad I'd say YANBU, but I'd be tempted to say 'no harm done' and let it go. If you trust their judgment usually, that is. I know not all schools are great at these things.

[PurpleHeffalump]

Ha Ha Ha. SOOOOOOOOOO funny. Think it was last week that someone asked - AIBU to be annoyed that the school phoned me because my child had fallen over and hit head... Why were they ringing me when they didn't want me to pick him up... etc, ect. And (most people) said - Next thing will be someone asking AIBU that they didn't ring.

and...
ta da...

Yes they should have let you know but obviously this time the message didn't get through.

[dilemma456]

Message withdrawn

[ILovePlayingDarts]

i'm not bothered by most bumps to my children in school, but I would be cross if I wasn't informed about a bump to the head.

With these, it may not look serious initially, but there could be problems later on.

After all, the actress Natasha Richardson thought she only had a minor bump, refused first aid, and was dead a few days later.

Bumps to the head should always be reported to parents.

[Dillie]

Apparently the school did phone, the message didnt get to me as I was in a meeting at the time!

My boss came to me this morning, all very apologetic, saying the school phoned, and he forgot to pass the message on!

Fair play to the school, just I think my boss needs a training course on passing on messages!!!