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DD leaving home.

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Firway · 02/03/2010 20:17

AIBU to be absolutely dreading my DS going off to university this summer? We have brought her up to be independent, confident and capable of looking after herself but oh, how I will miss her. We are planning a special holiday away, redecorating the house and will be working hard as usual but life will not be the same. I will miss the energy she brings into the house, her friends staying over, her boyfriend being part of the family, her hugs and cuddles and our cosy chats - I know I will be a complete mess once she has gone - it is worse this time because she is my baby, although it was hard when DS went away too.

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Sn0wflake · 02/03/2010 20:27

Not being AIBU at all. Hugs.

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Lindy · 02/03/2010 20:32

Have you read 'Second Honeymoon' by Joanna Trollope - a very easy read but has some good points about 'empty nesting'.

Hopefully you and your DH can enjoy being alone again together - personally I can't wait for that day ..........

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Firway · 02/03/2010 20:33

Thanks, thought I was being a bit wet but everytime I think of her going I am in tears! Can't believe her childhood has gone SO quickly, I've loved every minute of it.

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Firway · 02/03/2010 20:40

Would love to spend time with DH but he spends most of his time working abroad- would go with him but we have our own company I have to man the office.
Thanks for the book recommendation - I'll give it a go!

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Malificence · 02/03/2010 20:46

I missed DD for about a week, she went in September and is having a great time, she keeps coming home though!
I speak to her most days on facebook and she rings me/her dad far more than we ring her.

Do you really have to stay behind to man the office? Couldn't you have a "mobile" office and go with your DH?

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Firway · 02/03/2010 20:57

Great idea but the different time zones don't suit all our clients. However, hopefully I will cope when the time comes and yes, facebook is great for keeping in touch. Ihave to keep reminding myself that this is what I want her to do and being a soppy wimp won't do either of us any good!

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Karmann · 02/03/2010 21:01

Oh no you just made me cry!! My DD went to live with her dad at 14 and it broke my heart. We always were, and still are, very close so I couldn't understand it. Maybe just a daddy's girl. Feel happy that you have had her all this time and she is doing what you taught her to do - spreading her wings and experiencing life. I know it's hard but you've done her proud.

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isoldeone · 02/03/2010 21:06

some of the best times I've had with my folks was the two years spent with them when I moved back after uni...

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deedee321 · 02/03/2010 21:40

What a lovely mum you sound. No doubt it will be really hard at first, but sounds like you've got the kind of relationship that won't suffer from living apart.

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