Ok so yes I probably am given it's his body his choice etc etc but here's the story...
Dp has always smoked, so wasn't a new thing I didn't know about. I am a social smoker as in if I go out for the night and have a few drinks I'll have a few ciggies too but as we don't ever go out I haven't smoked for ages!
Dp earns the money I am a SAHM. He says it's his only pleasure in life, basically he was young free and single before I met him and I have 2 dc's from previous relationship. So everything he was used to doing like going out whenever he wanted, buying nice things, going fishing for whole weekends, all pretty much went out the window when he moved in and we had 3 dc's together. When he isn't working he is here helping, for which I am very grateful
But we still never seem to have enough money, we both get fed up of him having to do a lot of overtime which results in him being away a lot and me being here with 5 LO's alone. He suggested maybe getting a second job as in a work from home so e could cut OT and be here at least in the evenings.
So we were trying to think of ways to cut back. I suggested he stop smoking as that costs about £30pw. So over £100 a month would be saved.
He said I am trying to bully him into giving up his only pleasure left that he has for himself.
So would it be ok then for me to go buy an expensive handbag each month and just ignoring the bills that need paying.
So AIBU or not???
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To think dp should stop smoking??
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EasyEggs · 26/02/2010 11:29
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