to think dh shouldn't dictate colour schemes

[schroeder]

My dh is not the practical type and I am; so I don't really mind that I do all the decorating DIY etc.

What I do Mind is that even though he won't even deign to look at a colour chart,let alone go to the shop or trawl the net or even pay for the paint, he still feels he can veto most colours(some for stupid football related reasons)

He even told me I shouldn't have the calendar of my choce in the kitchen as 'he sometimes looks at it' ffs.

The final straw for me today was when I suggested that we have are tea on our laps for just tonight so I could get a 2nd coat of paint done today,but no the kids'll make a mess(not that he would clean it up) argghh

I'm narked off that I bought him a nice vday pressie now

[kinnies]

Tell him to stop being a dick!

Why do you feel he has the casting vote on where you eat your dinner?

[Georgimama]

He sounds nice. What's the attraction?

[hunkermunker]

He sounds like a controlling bell-end.

He does have redeeming features, right?!

[WhereYouLeftIt]

No representation (in decisions) without participation (in clearing up, painting, paying).

Paint it how you would like it. If he complains, smile sweetly and point him in the direction of the paint shop. He can change it, if HE changes it.

[TheFallenMadonna]

Hmm. When we get a new car (and by new I mean used, but YKWIM), DH does all the research and the footwork, but I get right of veto over daft things like colour, or just not liking the shpae , because I drive it too. And I make all the style decisions in the house, but again he gets right of veto. It works for us, but I suppose if it were all one way it would be a bit off.

[schroeder]

TBH I'm in pretty much the same situation as the fallen madonna.

We do share decisions mostly. He was just getting on my nerves the other day and I came on here to 'vent' a wee bit.

It's been illuminating reading people's replies though there does seem to be an "all men are bastards" mentality prevalent on here huh?

Anyway we all have our idiosyncracies I'm very forceful in determining how the dishwasher is arranged, for example.

Thanks fellow mumsnetters for giving me an outlet for my little frustrations