My DB and partner have a ds (my dn) the same age as mine ds ie 3.5. Dn is a happy child but has some developmental problems one of which is an inability to talk and a basic struggle to communicate even with signs/expressions/noises. In many ways he is on the same level as an 18month old child. These problems have only become more apparent in the last 12 months. He has had investigations and tests and as yet there has been no diagnosis.
From very young my DM has cared for dn once or twice a week and lately more often as dsil has returned part time to work.
Dm insists that dn problem is only that he won't talk.
The last time we were together as a family was christmas (family gatherings don't happen often as we live far apart) it was quite obvious to myself, dh and sadly to my db that dn is not developing on the same lines as his nieces and nephews. I know my db felt this and was quite down about it when I spoke to him. Db fell out with dm later in the day but said it was about something else.
Today on the phone to dm I felt I had to stick up a bit for my db and tried to suggest to dm that there is more to it than dn just not talking. She just couldn't grasp it. She is upset because db and dsil have chosen to send dn to a nursery school part time and reduce the time he spends at her house. She said "well he has been at nursery for 3 weeks and he isn't talking you know." I tried to gently suggest that him being in a more formal setting was db and dsil pushing for more formal help for him as he will be starting school next year and a clearer picture of his needs would be helpful for this.
AIBU to think she should be able to see this like the rest of the family can?
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AIBU to think my DM should be starting to accept that her DG has sn that extend further than not wanting to talk.
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whyme2 · 24/01/2010 22:03
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