to expect my cousin to send DS a birthday card?

[StrictlyKatty]

Ok,
Here is the back story. When my cousin had her 2nd baby 2.2 years ago I bought the baby a present and said on the phone I would drop it round when I saw her the next day. At this point I was 7 months pg and just about to move house.

My cousin replied that unless I got their older child a present I couldn't give the baby one 'as it wasn't fair'. I was told this when it was too late to get the older child a present too so I went round without any presents I do feel bad about it but I was 2 days away from moving abroad with DH and meant to get another present but didn't get round to it

Fast forward 2 years, every birthday I send both her child really nice birthday cards, think hand made pop up ones from John Lewis not just cheapo 5 for £1 jobs. I also sent them a lovely Xmas card. We didn't get a card back for Chrsitmas and it was DS'a birthday last week... nothing.

AIBU to think that as I make the effort to send 2 children cards and a Christmas card I could expect one back? Or am I, as I expect, still being punished for got getting enough presents 2.2 years ago!?

[random]

I think you should not worry about it tbh ..

[Marne]

my cousin never bothers sending cards (even though she's dd1's god mother) and it doesn't bother me.

[StrictlyKatty]

I know but I can't help it!

[Chandon]

I really dislike it if people send me card with the thought behind it being: "she´d bl##dy well better send one back to my DC!"

Life doesn´t work like that, it´s petty.

She was out of order asking for an extra present at the time.

YABU to expect her to send you a card, just because you do.

You should send a card because you imagine the recipient will like it.

Sounds like you are keeping a balance on who did what and she now OWS you cards. WTF, sorry, but WTF.

I don´t send or get any cards to and from cousins, but I like seeing them when I see them!

[StrictlyKatty]

I don't think she owes me a card at all! I just think as she sends them to everyone elses DC's it would be nice for DS to get one.

I think she idnored DS on purpose becuase she is still annoyed about the present. She is still angry my GM didn't send her an anniversary card 3 years ago...

[StrictlyKatty]

ignored because