I have been lurking on mumsnet for a while, and am astonished tbh at the parents who truly believe it is their right to be supported by their DC financially.
Whilst I am able to see that there are extremely poor families, and this is through no fault of their own, is it morally right to have the attitude that our DC are a viable form of financial support, of which we cannot cope under any circumstances without?
Shouldn't it be up to the govt to intervene and ensure that families who are living in abject poverty have enough money to support themselves, either by increasing opportunities in education, providing more help financially for those who cannot work, or helping people who can work to achieve a standard of living where they do not need their DC to make choices for the benefit of the whole family financially, even if that is not what the DC want to do?
Is it right that our DC cannot afford to go to university to study their chosen subject, because their parents cannot afford for them not to go straight to full time employment and contribute a large proportion of their income?
Or if they do go to university, that this is in the hope that they will, once they have finished and qualified, continue to support their families until their families can support themselves, which in some cases could be never?
How far should DC be responsible for their families financial situation?
I know of DC who are at college, even when they would rather not be there, because they know how much their parents rely on the CTC and CB, which for poor families can amount to over £70 a week, plus a reduction in council tax.
Whilst I do empathise with these parents, how far should our DC be expected to go to support their families? Should they continue even after they have left home, and set up home with a DH/DW and had DC of their own?
Is it right that some DC feel so guilty about their parents situation that they make choices, partly based on how it will affect their parents income, ie: CTC/CB?
Or is it all relative to how poor the parents in that particular family are?
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Should we expect our DC to support us financially for as long as we need the help?
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beenlurking · 19/01/2010 11:02
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